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“Am I VERBALLY ABUSIVE To My Wife” – 5 Tips

So there are 5 tips I want to share with you to determine the answer to that question,

But before I get into that, there is a quick story that I wanna tell you.

I came across a video on YouTube by a gentleman called Kevin Samuels and apparently,

…he basically advised young ladies, single ladies, and people in general about relationships…and that’s cool.

I think we still need more people helping people like that.

We see more of negative videos with regards to relationships that people find more entertaining

Which actually ends up hurting their relationships.

I’m talking about reality TV shows and things like that.

So any time I see somebody helping people with learning how relationships work, I like it ultimately.

But I encountered the viral video from him where he was seemingly bashing this lady heavily.

He was very rude.

A lot of time people engage in the blunt language,

… talmbout’, they speak blunt.

As a matter of fact, I was on the new social media platform in the past few days, called Clubhouse,

…and I heard quite a few people who were thinking that the way to a healthy relationship is communication.

I’m not disputing that it’s communication, but what most people consider communication is just talking and being blunt,

or “setting the expectation” or “setting the intentions” and boundaries.

These are things that kill attraction if you have overdose of expressing them… extreme ideologies has a way of killing attraction.

So with that being said, Are You verbally abusive to your wife?

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There’s a good chance that you are feeling like you’ve been communicating,

…and in fact,

You’ve been killing the vibe and the relationship with your wife by being the “communicator”; basically the talkative of the relationship.

Believe me when I tell you this, I am the one that’s considered the communicator or the talkative in our relationship and marriage.

I don’t think so, but at least my wife considers to be true.

What I find is that it really doesn’t matter if I feel like I’m not the talkative.

What matters is…

Tip #1- It’s her opinion.

If she feels like you’re verbally abusive, that’s as valid as it gets.

The feelings have to be validated by paying attention to it and see how you can adjust things in a positive direction,

Because the feelings are powerful enough to determine the direction of your relationship with your wife.

So Tip#1 – It’s her opinion.

You have to listen to it, pay attention to it and see what she’s trying to say even if you disagree with it.

See what kind of action you have been taking that makes her feel like you’re talking too much or verbally abusive.

If you do that, it doesn’t mean you are agreeing that you are verbally abusive.

It just means you’re paying attention to whatever she is interpreting as “verbal abuse” and then you can fix that.

You can adjust or pivot accordingly because at the end of the day you care about the relationship.

That’s why you are asking if you are verbally abusive to you wife.

Tip #2 – You need a full tank of patience.

Towards the end of that Kevin Samuels’ viral video, he actually lost his cool and hung up on the lady.

And I know this is not his wife.

But in my opinion, if you are going to win in your relationship with your wife, you have to treat ladies in general with a certain level of respect and patience.

Much more importantly, the patience.

You can’t lose your cool, if you lose your cool,

…you can at least say

“If you don’t mind, let me take care of some business and we’ll come back to this conversation later“

You have to be polite with the way you dismiss the situation if you have to dismiss the situation.

Sometimes it’s true that you have to dismiss the conversation because you feel like it’s just not getting anywhere.

But you wanna be polite about it.

Particularly, you don’t want them to feel like you dismiss them.

This is something I’m personally still working on.

Sometimes, I just don’t want the toxic argument and I come off as dismissive.

It’s an art, it’s not an exact science.

Somethings… you have to learn with respect to the particular person you’re dealing with and their personality.

Tip #2 – You wanna make sure you engage these conversations with a full tank of patience; Infinite patience.

You can’t lose your cool.

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Tip #3 – Engage active listening.

If your lady accuses you of being verbally abusive, the first quick step to really nibbling that in the bud is to stop talking.

Stop talking so much even if your intentions is to correct.

There’s a lot of people that just have good intentions in wanting to correct something, and it comes off as verbal abuse and controlling behavior.

Remember tip #1, if it comes off as abusive, controlling and manipulative, then it is what it is…

Because it’s a relationship…

And just 50% is all you need to make that a full blown opinion that would control the dynamics and the direction of your relationship.

So instead of talking so much, don’t just shut up because that would be dismissive,

Engage active listening.

And I would say, repeat what she’s saying back to her and ask her to tell you more.

Tip #4 – Abuse is very likely unintentional.

There’s a lot of abuse going on in relationships and marriages.

And many times, they’re just unintentional…

Nobody (most people don’t) come(s) into a marriage with the intention of being abusive.

But sometimes when we lose our cool or the way we conduct ourselves in the middle of a crisis,

…we’ll come off as abusive to the other person

But keep in mind, there’s a crisis going on.

What you will find in a lot of relationships and marriages is that people are basically in the middle of normal engagement with a partner when they tend to end up with a crisis,

When everybody has lost their cool and there’s an active argument, fighting and bickering going on, then clearly nothing is intentional.

Everything is reactive and that’s not what you wanna do.

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Tip #5 – Reverse engineer corrections into her idea.

Like I said earlier, a lot of times the intention is to correct something that you feel maybe wrong.

But your intentions are overrated. In fact, your action is being received as verbally abusive.

And if it’s been received by 50% of the relationship as verbally abusive, unfortunately, I have to tell you that it is probably verbal abuse.

At least for now, it’s the feeling that counts. If your partner feels like it is verbally abusive, it is verbally abusive.

So instead of trying to correct and engaging in blunt languages to correct your partner as it comes, find ways to reverse engineer your corrections into her idea.

So how do you do that?

You need to learn how to ask quality questions.

There are questions that you will ask and you think they’re quality but they’re actually coming off as manipulative and condescending.

You want to avoid those types of questions and really master the skills of asking quality questions.

So things like…

“So are you saying that I come off a little bit abusive?”

“I’m sorry to hear that.”

“I didn’t mean to be abusive”.

“Can you tell me what that looks like when I’m abusive because there’s a good chance I’m not aware that I’m being abusive?”

See, if you talk in that calm manner repeatedly…not just one time…

She will start feeling safer around you.

And then she will also give you a lot more passes even when you’re upset because you’re still a human being.

But right now, the work is gonna be on your part in order to reverse all that “verbally abusive” negative energy.

You want to reverse that, put in some work and be consistent until she starts feeling safer with you again,

…but I’m telling you right now, there’s a good chance that you were just being blunt.

That’s why Blunt is a terrible way of communicating in a relationship.

Listening is the best route to effective communication.

Less talking can sometime be the best way to communicate, especially if you’re a man trying to communicate with your wife.

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“Can PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE Husbands CHANGE?” – 7 tips

Question: “Can PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE Husbands CHANGE?” – 7 tips

There are 7 tips that I want to give you that will help you answer that question.

Tip #1:  There is no such thing as absolute in relationships.

There’s no such thing as absolute in human behavior.

What I mean by that is the idea that

“hey, once a cheater, always a cheater”,

“once an abusive person, always an abusive person”,

“once controlling, always controlling”, there’s no such thing.

You know why?

Because people evolve, people grow up, and by the way, the opposite can be true as well.

They can get worse with time if people don’t work on themselves.

Just like people can get worse with time, people can also get better.

Anyone you’ve ever known that’s enjoying a good marriage, a good relationship,

…they’ve been through some things that maybe represent the worst of them in the past.

It may look good right now, but they’ve been to something worse.

So you don’t wanna be in that position where you say “once a cheater, always a cheater”.

However, when people are showing their behavior to you right now, you do want to believe them but that’s just right now.

You also want to keep an open mind always when it comes to relationships.

Tip #2: Change follow pain and pleasure.

So if people are gonna change, if they’re gonna change behavior or habit, there has to be a big purpose behind it.

Sometimes that purpose is represented as a form of pain or some kind of pleasure that’s bigger than whatever benefits they get from the wrong behavior.

Just think of it like this, people change based on consequences.

If there’s a consequence for their behavior, there’s a good chance that would change, especially as a function of time and patience.

But if there’s no consequences, there’s a good chance that they will keep doing the same thing because they obviously get some kind of benefit from behaving that way.

So if that benefit keeps coming and it outweighs the risk, then they will continue that same behavior.

Tip #3: Lasting change is a process; It takes time.

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If you’re upset with your husband or with your wife, and you feel like, “Hey, they’re abusive” or anything like that,

It’s going to take a process, it’s going to take time.

Even if they’ve decided.

It’s a decision, it starts with the decision, right?

Even if they’ve decided to change, you have to keep an open mind and understand that it’s gonna be a process.

And you do everything in your part to help them move in the direction of the changed behavior.

Tip #4: People do experience growth and evolve.

I think I said that earlier, as part of tip #1.

There is no such thing as absolute people.

Tip #4 People do experience growth and evolve because their outlook on life is changing.

The more experience they gain, the more they see the advantages of going in the direction of a changed behavior.

Especially with respect to a healthy relationship and a marriage.

Tip #5: Old habits do die hard.

This is basically a kind of part of tip #3, when I say it’s gotta be a function of a  process, time and patience, old habits will take time.

For average habits, even simple habits take up to 90 days of intense work of consistency before that person can say, “You know what, this new behavior is becoming a second nature to me”.

So if somebody has been behaving badly, they’re showing some behavior like, for example, 

Physical abuse.

And they are capable of abusing a person physically, that’s gonna take work for them to change.

It may take some kind of rehabilitation for them to change.

So don’t sit there and risk your life and hoping they will change.

No, excuse yourself.

Physically speaking, you have to remove yourself physically and still keep an open mind that they may change.

But you really need to watch closely and see that they’re working on themselves and, in fact, that they’re changing,

…because people don’t just become physically abused.

They’ve been abusive emotionally, verbally before it escalates, and you can see if they’re changing.

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Let’s say, for example, you have kids with them.

They’re changing.

There’s change in their demeanor, in their mannerisms, how they show up, how they carry themselves.

You can see the changes before you start building trust again, 

…but I will say absolutely for your own safety from a physical standpoint, make sure you remove yourself physically and don’t count on,

That they would change like instantly tomorrow.

It’s a bad idea.

Now there’s a reason why I’m sharing these steps with you.

There’s actually a video that went viral from a lady who shot a video.

She got slapped.

There’s a big red plant of hand on her face by her husband.

She got beat up by the husband, and it was such a sad video that you could see the babies in the background saying, “I’m sorry, mommy” and things like that.

But within a day or two, like literally less than 48 hours, the governor of the state “reconcile” both of them and then they’re back together.

That’s a terrible behavior on the governor’s part.

There is no way somebody who is capable of physically abusing another human being can change in 48 hours, 

…without making sure they plugged them in on proper rehabilitation and making sure that they take time apart in order to come back together.

If there is a chance of ever coming back together.

They need to separate first.

It’s going to be a function of time, process and patience.

And it’s not possible that he could change within 24 to 48 hours.

That’s where this lesson is actually coming from.

Tip #6: Change starts with acknowledgement.

If a person is saying,“Hey, you know, I don’t think I was abusive”,

…then they haven’t changed.

Acknowledging is a nice place to start from, but that’s not the work.

“Yes, I was wrong“.

It’s a nice place to start from, but that’s not the work.

The work has to be done.

Tip #7: Change starts with self help.

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So self help, again is a function of time.

It’s a process.

At least 90 days of consistent, intensive work on what are behind the scene things that happen mentally,

…that will make a man raise their hands and assault another human being.

How much more, we’re talking about the wife?

So it takes time, patience and process if anybody is going to change.

But is it possible to change?

Yes, absolutely.

The only absolute here is yes.

They can change, but there’s a keyword, “can change”.

There’s also the odds against that person that they may not change, because again, old habits do die hard.

That’s tip #5.

So if it’s a behavior, if it’s a habit, if they don’t do the work on themselves,

A lot of people, a significant percentage of people never do the work.

That’s why it feels like they never change.

But it is possible to change if they actually go through the work.

And that’s just life.

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5 Signs Your Wife DOESN’T RESPECT YOU

Question: “5 Signs Your Wife DOESN’T RESPECT YOU”

First of all, let me give you a bonus sign with all the wraps.

Right from the beginning the bonus sign is that,

If you’re asking this question,

…that is a sign that your wife does not respect you.

At the very minimum, you don’t feel like they respect you.

I understand some of us are over defensive, and sometimes we’re very emotional.

We are sensitive and we start looking at everything that’s disrespectful.

There are many of us who are like that.

Let me give you five signs your wife doesn’t respect you.

She doesn’t respect you.

If your wife doesn’t respect you, she can’t love you.

That’s impossible.

It’s not possible for a person who doesn’t respect you to love you.

Does that make sense?

Let’s get into the five signs really quickly:

1. She utters rude remarks.

She says rude things to you.

What do I mean by rude remarks?

She calls you “stupid” or “you’re dumb” and things like that.

If your wife uses words like that to talk to you and it’s not your thing to just do that, then that’s probably disrespectful.

Some people would argue and say,

“No, that’s just how we do. That’s how we roll.”.

If you’re so sure that is how you roll, then there’s no need to ask the question if she’s respectful or not.

I’m telling you typically, a woman who respect you will not call you dumb, stupid or names and derogatory words or anything like that.

If she utters rude remarks, it could not be name calling, it maybe simple things like “you don’t even think”.

Like if you are talking about finances and she’s very quick to go to “you don’t even think“.

Or she thinks you should be a little bit more aggressive with looking for another job and she has rude remarks with regards to,

“You’re not doing what she thinks” and things like that.

If you consider rude remarks, there’s a good chance that she doesn’t respect you.

Especially if you’ve told her that you don’t enjoy that.

2. She gives you the silent treatment.

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Whenever you’re having a conversation with your wife and then somehow she’s just quiet.

She is on the phone key keying every time you have a conversation, that is probably a good sign that she does not respect you.

Now there are moments like that, that a significant other or spouse may be caught up a little bit in some other conversation.

That’s okay.

But if you notice that it’s a consistent thing and that’s all wrapped up in every other sign that I’m gonna tell you right now,

…there’s a good chance that she doesn’t respect you.

3. She doesn’t sought after your advice and opinion.

Like she doesn’t even ask you, “what do you think?”.

You guys don’t have that conversation.

She’s never found that place where she could say, “what do you think”.

Now People don’t just fall into your world and become your wife like that.

Usually some things have happened over the years that put a woman in a place where she doesn’t care what you think.

Much less asking you what you think, but that’s a good sign right there.

And there’s a good chance that she doesn’t respect you if she never comes home from work and says, “what do you think?”.

Just think about that.

That’s just one sign and if she is just like that, then you would know.

You wouldn’t be asking the question if you respect you or not.

4. She seems to honor other people’s advice and opinion more.

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Even though you give your opinion and advice sometimes she seems to like to listen to other people.

She listens to her mother, her sister, her brothers, siblings or her friends.

She would rather listen to them and she tends to operate off of what they tell her,

…their advice and opinions more than she does whatever you say.

And you noticed it.

If this is happening so much that you’re noticing it, there’s a good chance that she does not respect you.

And if she doesn’t respect you, she can’t love you.

That’s scientifically proven.

5. She doesn’t defend you when necessary.

Yes.

Sometimes as people in relationships or in marriage you find yourself talking to your friend,

…and your friend has some rude remarks about your spouse.

Naturally, the other person, you’re supposed to defend your spouse.

Like “don’t talk to him like that” because they respect you.

They would defend you.

It may be sort of like “No, no, no. Leave my husband alone” or “No, no, no. Leave my wife alone and get out of my face”.

Things like that.

Little remarks like that show that they value you.

And if none of those things happen and it seems like they actually get on the side of the other people to attack you,

…and this is happening over and over and over again from time to time, it’s a good chance that she just doesn’t respect you.

Those are the 5 signs your wife doesn’t respect you.

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If she doesn’t respect you, she can’t love you.

What do you do if you find yourself in this predicament?

That you’ve determined, like three out of these five signs are happening in your marriage.

What do you do?

The first thing that you need to understand is that,

…her behavior is congruent with your behavior with regards to self respect.

If you don’t respect yourself, no one can respect you.

That’s probably something you need to work on if you want that to change.

You need to work on self respect.

There are things that you’re doing,

…I don’t know what those things are, but you need to pay attention and do the inventory.

There are things that you’re doing that shows that you don’t respect yourself, and she can’t respect you accordingly.

What do you do now?

Focus on those things.

Find out what you’re doing that is showcasing you as a person who would lack self respect and fix that.

I can tell you right now,

1. God.

You’re probably disconnected from yourself spiritually.

2. Personal purpose.

You’re not engaged with your personal purpose, you’re spending too much time on too much nonsense, little petty stuff.

Obviously one of them is having this kind of attention to even know that somebody does not respect you.

There’s a good chance that you’re defensive, you’re insecure and things like that will show up,

…and then a woman cannot respect you.

That’s usually a sign that you’re not engaged with your personal purpose because people that engage with their personal purpose,

…no matter how little it seems, people respect them.

They have no choice, they have to respect you.

3. Self respect.

You need to respect yourself.

Remove yourself from unnecessary conversations and let her come to you.

Allow her to come to you.

Think about how you guys started and see if you can bring the dynamics back by living some space.

You have to give yourself some space, give her some space so she can start gaining respect back.

Keep in mind that respect is earned, you can’t force people to respect you.

In this scenario, respect is not an action word,

…you cannot force people to respect you.

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5 Signs of wife LOSING INTEREST In Husband

Question: “5 Signs of wife LOSING INTEREST In Husband”

There are five signs that I want to share with you in this video however, there may be other signs.

There may be other things you’re seeing, but these are the most common five signs.

I want to share that with you.

Just understand that these signs are not necessarily gospel truth.

These things may be showing in your wife, and there may be other reasons why these things are happening,

…but it’s also a good chance that the wife is losing interest.

So here are the, 5 Signs of wife LOSING INTEREST In Husband

They avoid conversations.

Your wife is avoiding conversations with you and they’re giving you one word answers.

They are basically acting like they’re not interested in anything you have to say.

That’s a good sign that they’re losing interest.

If anything at all, you know that at least in this moment in time, they don’t have any interest.

But also, if you do that long enough, that can translate into a long term.

They’re not interested in a relationship with you and they’re falling off and you should absolutely do something about that.

They complain about PDA.

What is PDA?

It stands for Public Display of Affection.

Sometimes you don’t necessarily complain expressly in words, sometimes they say outright and say

…“Why are you touching me. Don’t touch me. Leave me alone”.

Things like that is a sign obviously, that the wife is losing interest in the husband.

Just keep in mind that these things are symptoms.

There are underlying issues and if you focus on the symptoms too much or you take it to heart too much,

…you’re probably gonna do the wrong things and you’re gonna push your wife even farther away from you,

And you help them lose even more interest.

But it’s good to have the signs but these are symptoms, but you need to find out what the underlying issues are, and you need to fix them.

They roll their eyes consistently.

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So your wife, anytime you’re talking to them, you have a conversation,

They tend to roll their eyes when you’re having serious conversations with them.

They may say things like, “Oh, there he goes again” things like that and they start rolling eyes and stuff like that when they’re talking to you.

That is a sign that your wife is losing interest in you and that is a symptom of underlying negative things that are happening in your relationship,

…that you should absolutely try to fix.

She makes it clear that she’s no longer interested.

If she says these words, you need to believe her because if you don’t believe her, you’re gonna make things worse.

You may say “maybe she’s joking around”.

This is one of the problems that men have.

A lot of times we don’t see this kind of thing coming because we kind of figure, you’re committed,

…you went to the altar and you’re in this together for the long run and you’re hoping that she’s also in it for the long run.

But again, women operate off of their feelings and their emotions,

…and if it’s not right, they will bail on you.

That’s just the way it is.

So if she’s made it clear that she’s lost interest, don’t take that for granted.

Take it seriously.

Have a conversation and say “what is going on babe? Talk to me”.

When you do say that, make sure that you’re not being defensive.

Make sure you’re not approaching that institution with defensiveness because that’s only gonna make things worse.

That’s not gonna help you.

She gives excuses every time.

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Seemingly every time.

It feels like it’s every time that she gives excuses to avoid sex.

If she’s avoiding intimacy and sexual activities with you, that’s clearly a sign that she’s losing interest.

Now, her losing interest, let me round off with this, Okay?

If she’s losing interest, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to be with you.

It just means right now.

If you don’t pay attention to it, it can become forever but it ultimately most of the time means right now.

These are the signs that something is wrong with your relationship, and you should, in fact, do something about it.

So for a quick recap,

5 Signs of wife LOSING INTEREST In Husband

  1. They avoid conversations.
  2. They complain about PDA.

Public Display of Affection, they’re not interested in any kind of make-good, look-good in public anything with you.

  1. Rolls her eyes consistently.
  2. She makes it clear she lost interest.

She’s actually said it in words, don’t take that for granted.

  1. She gives excuses.

She gives all types of excuses, she has an excuse why.

She’s tired, she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t initiate.

Maybe she’s not an initiator, but she’s not interested all the time even when you initiate,

…then you should pay attention to that.

Just keep in mind that if you don’t have enough self love, you’re not gonna attract her back to yourself.

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If you don’t have a personal purpose that is bigger than yourself and her,

…chances are she’s gonna lose interest in you because you’re probably busy chasing her around and you’re making things worse.

So you should have those things in place.

And last but not least, you should have some self love.

You should pay attention to what made you attract her in the first place and pay attention.

Put those things back in place.

It could be you lost your job.

You’ve been defensive in recent times, you don’t give her any pass, you’re very abusive with your words, Verbal.

You know, things like that will turn a woman off, and obviously she will lose interest in any kind of intimacy with you.

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“My Wife Is NOT ATTRACTED To Me Anymore”

Question: “My Wife Is NOT ATTRACTED To Me Anymore”

If you are experiencing a situation where you feel like your wife is not attracted to you anymore,

…I know that feeling and it’s usually not your fault.

For me, it wasn’t my fault so there’s a good chance it’s not your fault.

So relax and let’s study together.

What will bring your wife to a place where she’s acting like she’s not attracted to you anymore?

What does that mean exactly?

Can we spell this out?

Does that mean your wife doesn’t wanna have sex with you anymore?

She doesn’t like the idea of touching in public or even privately, she’s not affectionate right now, she’s not feeling it.

Well, there are many reasons why that could happen.

Like if your wife just had a baby, there is a good chance that there’s a lot of things going on with her body, from a hormonal standpoint.

So you wanna be aware, you want to study or you wanna learn these things,

…but let’s just assume that it’s not because she just had a baby, let’s just assume that suddenly something like that just happened.

Some people will go to the angle of, is she seeing somebody else?

Is there somebody at the job?

What could it be?

First of all, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be someone else that she’s seeing,

…it could be, but it doesn’t have to be.

But even if it’s someone else, the worst thing you wanna worry about, is that person.

In your mind, you should look at that person as a loser because if a woman does not have enough integrity to hold on to the commitment she has with you,

…just because she is filled in, then whoever attracts her, he’s probably a loser so don’t worry about that too much.

However, let’s worry about your relationship with your wife.

There is something missing and usually it’s not because you’re lacking.

It’s the relationship itself, it’s not any of the individuals.

See when we have a relationship, we start with excitement, with it’s very highs, higher highs and higher lows,

…but unfortunately in life we get complacent and everyone relaxes.

We get to know each other and then naturally we start to take each other for granted.

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Whoever gets to that turning point first, will basically reject the other person and the other person will feel that rejection,

…and that breeds obsession,

But honestly it’s not just you, it’s on both ends.

Whoever rejects first will create obsession on the other end and it’s not necessarily your fault.

It’s just something that happens to the best of us in life, especially in the longer term relationship like marriage.

So what are the things that you need to do?

First of all, it’s okay to accept it like ”yes she is not attracted right now”, because attraction is temporary in nature.

If you do some things in a long term or long enough, then it feels like that is a marriage relationship goal, it feels like you’re always attracted to each other.

Yes, because you’ve stored long enough in your love tank.

However, if you haven’t figured this out yet and you are still experiencing this situation where you feel like your wife is not attracted to you,

…then there’s one,two or three things that you should learn.

The first thing you should learn is that your wife will only be attracted to you if you are attracted to yourself.

There is a thing about confidence that attracts anyone in life.

Even men or women, when you have confidence and everyone can feel it and you’re basically beaming confidence out of your body, everyone is attracted to that.

So if you’re showing off with insecurities, if you’re defensive in your conversation, if you’re engaging in unnecessary arguments,

…toxic arguments with your wife, it’s only a matter of time before they start to lose respect for you.

And if she doesn’t respect you, she can’t love you.

If you build enough of those things over time, yes she’s not gonna be attracted to you.

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For whatever reason, she’s not attracted right now or at least you don’t feel like she’s attracted to you right now anymore.

There are clearly things that you’re seeing, maybe she doesn’t want to have sex, maybe she doesn’t want to be touched

…like I said earlier, she doesn’t want a public display of affection.

Things like that are signs that she’s not attracted, so let’s just assume she’s not.

The ball is in your court because you have history with this woman, that’s a good thing.

But you gotta give her space.

Essentially, what she’s asking for is space.

You know what they say about distance, “it makes the heart fonder” so if you’re just there trying to smother her, you don’t give her that space to miss you,

…that is the evidence or a good reason why she’s losing attraction for you.

You’re being predictable, she doesn’t have the opportunity to wonder what you’re up to.

Everything is predictable.

That my friend is called BORING and that is why she’s probably not attracted to you.

Now you gotta give her space, but giving people space is easier said than done when you’re not engaged fully 100% with your personal purpose in life,

…which must be bigger than yourself and your wife.

And all put together, it has to be bigger than that.

If you’re not connected to yourself spiritually, if you’re not self sustainable from an emotional standpoint, if you don’t have peace of mind by yourself, with or without your wife,

…she’s not going to be attracted to you because she can smell it because you lack confidence.

So it goes back to the third core pillar, which is the SELF.

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Your self sustainability, self sufficiency and self development, you need to work on that.

Those things will give you the opportunity and give you the strength to be able to pull away from her.

Without missing or skipping the beat in your heart but that will allow her to be attracted back to you because remember, you have a history with her.

So if you have the confidence that you have a history with her, then you’ll be able to allow her the time to come back to you.

In that time period, it’s okay, this is your wife.

For you to find out what she is up to?

No, not what she is up to, you don’t really care about what she’s up to but,

…what is up with her?

More like it.

Like if she has other things that she’s worried about, you can ask her provoking questions like,

…“What’s going on? Do you have anything you want to share with me, baby? I am just wondering if all is well. We haven’t spoken in a while”.

And then if she completely just turned off and doesn’t wanna have the conversation, again give her space and say “Okay, no problem. I gotta go to bed”.

Don’t act salty.

Don’t act butt hurt.

If you’re acting butt hurt around your wife, that’s another reason why she will lose interest and will be less attracted to you.

Just keep that at the back of your mind as you’re navigating these things.

Let me share with you four things that you probably should worry about it.

Connect with yourself spiritually, self development and things like that.

Connect with your personal purpose, things that you may have wanted to do, your dreams that you’ve lost sight of,

…focus and get back on that because that will soak you up because you’re passionate about those things.

And you’ll find it a lot easier to give her space because the key thing is, you’ve got to give her space so she can miss you again.

That’s something that you should focus on.

The last one is yourself.

Your self sustainability, self respect and self love.

If you don’t love yourself, if you’re not beaming out confidence, she’s not gonna be attracted to you.

That’s something you should keep in mind.

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