How To Fix A Broken Relationship ~ 19 Things You Must Know

In this article, we will discuss how to fix a broken relationship even if it’s within a marriage.

May be you feel like all hope is lost… relax…. read this first.

Why Do Relationships Break Or Fail?

There are many reasons why relationships fall apart.

  • It could be that you and your partner have grown apart over time and now have different interests, goals, and values.
  • It could be that you’re unable to resolve conflict in a healthy way, or that one or both of you tend to withdraw or shut down when things get tough.
  • It could be that you have different ideas about how to handle finances, child-rearing, or other important life decisions.

Whatever the reason is, if you find yourself in a failing or broken relationship, it’s important to be intentional with your actions or lack there of.

Otherwise, the situation is likely to only get worse.

The simple truth is that we are humans.

We’re complicated.

And relationships between complicated humans are even MORE complicated.

#1. Trust Has Left The Building

The cement of your relationship is Trust. without it, your relationship will fail.

Trust issues are very common.

Trust issues usually start in our childhood.

We learn them in our families.

And then we bring them into our relationships.

When we stop trusting ourselves, we stopped trusting others.

And when we stop trusting others, we stop trusting ourselves.

Trust is a two-way street.

Some of the bad things that happen when you lose trust are:

  1. Infidelity
  2. Jealousy
  3. Anxious behavior
  4. Smothering
  5. Insecurities

And a whole lot more.

The first thing you need to do is to figure out whether your trust issues are because your partner is not trust-able

…OR these are anxiety and insecurity issues inside of you.

Then you have to work on getting reconnected to your partner.

I’ll tell you more about how to do that in a bit.

#2. Your Communication Sucks

This is another one of those very common reasons relationships start to fall apart.

If you’re not communicating well, then you’re not going to be able to meet each other’s needs.

You’re always going to have misunderstandings and a deep breakdown of connection.

Communication is one of the most important factors in a relationship because it’s how you navigate with your partner

If your communication isn’t in sync and compatible, you will definitely have problems.

And eventually, you will turn to a therapist or counselor to help you with them.

But chances are it will be too late.

Make sure you’re always working on your communication.

Not just with your romantic partner, but with everyone in your life.

#3. You are on different maps/timetables

Sometimes it just happens that we are on different time schedules, or in different places in our life.

The timing is just wrong.

It can be hard to see this when you want a relationship to work.

But sometimes the situation is out of your control and you just need to walk away.

And sometimes you meet in the same place but you’re going at different speeds.

So you fall out of step with each other.

He might be going slower, and you might be moving faster towards your relationship goals.

You have to decide for yourself if you’re willing and patient enough to go at your partner’s speed.

Sometimes this means you have different priorities at the moment.

You may want to start a family, but he wants to start a business.

This will be something you must navigate and negotiate along the way if you want it to work.

#4. You’re just not a match

Very frequently, I see couples that get together and start a relationship.

But they didn’t ever stop to really make sure the other person was right for them.

One or both of them was just desperate to get into a relationship as fast as they could.

So they threw their needs out the window and ignored how wrong this person was for them.

They might have been seeking relief from anxiety, or from loneliness. But for whatever reason, they didn’t choose well.

If each person in a relationship is completely healthy, then they could probably start a relationship with almost anybody.

But compatibility is a huge issue if you are not in a whole and healthy place with your own self-esteem and self-worth.

One of the biggest love myths out there is that love conquers everything.

The good news is, that there are relationship advice that you can execute to repair the damage.

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#1. Talk about what’s going on

The first step is to talk about what’s wrong.

You need to express your feelings and needs in a way that is respectful and non-blaming.

If you can’t do that, I recommends seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you learn how to communicate effectively.

#2. Make time for each other

One of the biggest reasons relationships fail is because couples don’t make time for each other.

Life gets busy and before you know it, you’re living parallel lives under the same roof.

You need to make time for each other—time to talk, time to connect.

#3. Be willing to compromise

In any relationship, there are going to be times when you have to compromise.

You might not always get your way, but that’s OK.

The important thing is that you’re both willing to give a little.

#4. Learn to forgive

If you want your relationship to thrive, you need to learn to forgive.

We all make mistakes—we’re only human.

The key is to not hold onto the anger and resentment.

If you can learn to let go, it will do wonders for your relationship.

#5. Don’t take each other for granted

One of the easiest ways to kill a relationship is to take your partner for granted.

We all need to feel valued and appreciated.

If you stop doing the things that made your partner fall in love with you in the first place, don’t be surprised if they start to look elsewhere.

#6. Keep the romance alive

Another common mistake couples make is letting the romance die.

It’s important to keep the spark alive.

Do the things you used to do when you were first dating—go on dates, have fun together, show each other how much you care.

#7. Work as a team

In any relationship, it’s important to remember that you’re on the same team.

You’re in this together, so you need to work together to make it work.

That means being supportive, understanding, and helpful—even when you don’t feel like it.

#8. Don’t try to change each other

One of the biggest mistakes couples make is trying to change each other all in the name of duty and responsibility forgetting that it is a romantic relationship at the end of the day.

You need to accept each other—flaws and all.

If you can learn to love and accept each other just as you are, it will do wonders for your relationship.

#9. Communicate, communicate, communicate

If there’s one piece of advice that experts agree on, it’s that communication is key to a successful relationship… to put more accurately… EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION.

You need to be able to talk to each other—about everything.

The more you communicate, the closer you’ll become .

#10. Develop Listening Skills

It is impossible to avoid arguments in any relationship. 

And in those moments, it is equally impossible to prevent different perspectives of understanding right and wrong and ways of solving problems. 

In such circumstances, there is no limit on what is required to be said and heard by both parties, which is necessary.

Because sometimes, or most of the time, the conversation becomes so fierce that the very limit of speaking is violated.

Due to a lack of listening ability, you take some such steps in anger which directly damages the relationship. 

#11. Accepting the Circumstances and Your Partner

Circumstances can never be right and wrong in relationships.

Didn’t you see people coming together in bad times?

Haven’t you noticed people make or break in bad times? 

If you look at history, you will find hundreds of examples where people came together in worse conditions, whether WWI or WWII.

Whether it’s raising a voice against racism or sexism.

People always came together to face the storm and grow out of them. 

It is all up to our belief whether we can adapt to the circumstances or not. 

We should always learn from bad times and always make good use of good times.

That’s the key to getting along with your partner.

#12. The Initiative Is Crucial to Overcome Relationship Struggles

Whether your relationship is on the verge of breaking or you are going through many troubles, if you want to stay with your partner and feel that everything will be right after a while, then the initiative you take to repair your relationship is always proven effective. 

After a big fight, if you take the initiative and make your partner feel that they are more important than your needs, then believe that your initiative is commendable enough to strengthen your relationship.

The initiative will always be needed to keep the relationship successful and constantly fresh; a good initiative always brings closeness.

#13. Apologize To Restore the Relationship

One of the hallmarks of a bad relationship is that both sides see apologizing as their weakness, due to which they feel hesitant to apologize even if they want.

According to the study, ‘The Psychology of offering an Apology by Karina Schumann it’s proposed that the reasons why people hesitate to offer an apology or high-quality apologies are,

  1. Low concern for the victim or relationship,
  2. The perceived threat to self-image,
  3. And perceived apology ineffectiveness.

But, if you want to fix your relationship, you must rise above these barriers.

Because if you don’t, what you do is end the 1% scope of repairing a broken relationship. 

To cherish any relationship, it is as essential to apologize as to give forgiveness; it is precisely the same as washing and drying cloth.

Here, both water and sunlight make the cloth wearable.

Similarly, both apologizing and offering forgiveness make the relationship believable.

But be sure to be clear on why you are apologizing and ensure you’ve taken enough time to assess what went wrong; be intentional.

#14. Understand Your Moral, Social, and Personal Circle

Even though your relationship is going through a bad phase – facing trust issues, anxiety, separation, etc., if you are fulfilling your moral responsibility towards your partner, you are trying to take your relationship in the right direction. 

Here you have a sense of moral obligation and personal or social commitments. 

You know how to fulfill all these responsibilities well, then understand that you have almost saved your relationship from being ruined. 

Because responsibilities always give strength, courage, and the ability to understand right and wrong.

And if you have all this in you, you will not let anything go wrong.

#15. Be Sure to Give Opportunities to Build Trust to Improve the Relationship

Trust issues in a relationship can never blossom a tree of love.

Therefore, in a broken relationship, it is necessary to create such opportunities to build trust between both parties, which can instill a sense of confidence in both parties towards each other. 

And it’s not that it takes a lot of effort to build trust, it’s just small things that ensure that you have unwavering faith in your partner. 

For example, if you have life insurance and your partner is a nominee in it, or they are your partner in any of your big projects, or you take your partner’s advice for small household needs.

Now it comes to how do you determine the opportunities to build trust?

Well to build trust you need combined forces of different human fundamental aspects.

You cannot build trust all alone.

And the aspects are, 

  1. Transparency.
  2. Respect and…
  3. Loyalty.

Without these, it’s impossible to trust or build it in any given situation.

Let’s discuss each in detail. 

#16. Loyalty Is Essential to Keep Yourself Away From a Damaged Relationship

You have to be loyal to your partner to mend a deteriorating relationship because you must understand that hurting feelings will prove fatal for any relationship.

If you are lying to your partner or have a relationship with someone else, then understand that you are not paying attention to your partner’s needs

You don’t care if your infidelity can lead to your partner getting depressed and how bad the outcome will be.

If you are not loyal to your partner, then understand that you do not respect your relationship at all.

And where there is no respect, there’s no love.

And where there’s no love, there’s no relationship.

It has been destroyed.

Also, if you’re not loyal, you cannot expect your partner to be loyal.

Once you cross your line, they might probably cross as well. 

And thus, you’ve both entered the phase of a broken relationship.

#17. Controlling and Managing Your Expectations

If the ambition and expectations start exceeding the limit in any relationship, whether the relationship of friendship, husband-wife, or business, then understand that the seeds of condemnation, neglect, and hatred have been planted in that relationship. 

It is essential to regulate and control the expectations to live in harmony because the human mind always craves to get something new and thrilled.

And this craving starts to take away that person from his/her loved ones. 

The person begins to remain irritable… resentment

He starts to force his people to satisfy his craving which further gives birth to instability in the relationship. 

When his expectations don’t get fulfilled, he starts to blame his people.

Both the parties in the relationship should set their expectations according to their partner’s economic, social, and family situation.

This situation can be better controlled by mutual coordination.

#18. Do Not Take Any Wrong Decisions Under Stress or Anger

When the relationship starts deteriorating, it is natural for the person associated with that relationship to go into depression.

But can that person improve his relationship by making some wrong decisions due to depression? 

You should answer this.

What’s your mind saying?

What’s your first reaction? 

I believe it’s NO.

By taking a bad decision, you are harming yourself and the people you love.

Instead of fixing your relationship with one wrong decision, you are on the contrary worsening it even more. 

In a deteriorating relationship, the person makes some bad decisions, such as drinking or getting intoxicated, abusing the partner, harming them, trying to hurt himself, not showing respect to the people in the relationship, adopting bad habits, etc. 

Due to even more wrong decisions, a person tends to end the relationship forever.

And from there, it becomes tough to improve the relationship. 

Therefore, make every noble effort to fix your relationship with thoughtfulness so that your relationship becomes stronger… be intentional.

#19. Seek professional help

If you’ve tried everything and nothing seems to be working, it may be time to seek professional help.

A professional can help you learn how to communicate effectively, resolve conflict, and deal with other issues that may be affecting your relationship.

While it’s not always easy, repairing the damage in a relationship is possible—if you’re willing to put in the work.

With patience, understanding, and a little effort, you and your partner can get back on track and build a stronger, more intimate connection.

What makes a healthy relationship?

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Every relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons.

Part of what defines a healthy relationship is sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the relationship to be and where you want it to go.

And that’s something you’ll only know by talking deeply and honestly with your partner.

However, there are also some characteristics that most healthy relationships have in common.

Knowing these basic principles can help keep your relationship meaningful, fulfilling, and exciting whatever goals you’re working towards or challenges you’re facing together.

A. You maintain a meaningful emotional connection with each other. 

You each make the other feel loved and emotionally fulfilled.

There’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved.

When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you.

Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without the partners truly relating to each other emotionally.

While the union may seem stable on the surface, a lack of ongoing involvement and emotional connection serves only to add distance between two people.

B. You’re not afraid of (respectful) disagreement.

Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree.

The key to a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict.

You need to feel safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.

C. You keep outside relationships and interests alive.

Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all of your needs.

In fact, expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on a relationship.

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To stimulate and enrich your romantic relationship, it’s important to sustain your own identity outside of the relationship, preserve connections with family and friends, and maintain your hobbies and interests.

D. You communicate openly and honestly.

Good and effective communication is a key part of any relationship.

When both people know what they want from the relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires,

…it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between you.

In Conclusion…

Good, healthy relationships will sometimes be challenging.

But it’s all worth it.

You and your partner put yourselves through the challenge for the good things that come from a relationship.

Remember that this is always the case, even during the best phases of a relationship.

The challenge is further amplified during or after a separation.

Our faulty ideas of love, alone, won’t keep a relationship functioning.

It needs care and attention to allow both partners to grow and develop throughout its course.

A relationship can’t stay like it is during the first stages, skillful partnership will be required to make things work.

A healthy relationship will only happen if both people are prepared to work at the outcome, making sure all of the key elements work.

The most difficult challenges can be overcome with two people working together, for the mutual good.

If you have been going through difficult times, it can be hard to get a perspective on things.

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It’s possible to do this with logical, sensible thinking.

Remember that the person you love has not disappeared, no matter what the circumstances.

You must reconnect with that person, allowing them to reconnect to you, in order to build or rebuild a solid, healthy relationship.

What causes a relationship to be broken?

The main reasons why relationships fail are loss of trust, poor communication, lack of respect, a difference in priorities, and little intimacy.

What are signs your relationship is over?

A common trajectory for the end of a relationship is the slow tapering-off; a protracted period of tell-tale signs and wilful denial, as motivation to patch things up dwindles in one or both partners. A sudden, sharp break can feel more shocking, but it’s also clearer.

What is a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. On a basic level, any relationship that makes you feel worse rather than better can become toxic over time.

💔 Marriage Statistics: 9 Facts & What They Mean

In this lesson, you will discover how marriage statistics at the moment is quite crazy and puzzling, to say the least.

One marriage statistic that is not so puzzling but still interesting to look at is the average marriage rate by age in the United States.

It has been steadily increasing since 1970 and currently sits at 29 years old for women and 30 years old for men, with a breakdown by age shown below.

-Average marriage age: 29 (women) | 30 (men)

Marriage Rates Breakdown by Age:

18 – 24: 2%

25 – 34: 8%

35 – 44: 12%

45+: 36%.

You can apply the same numbers to societies around the world that are actively being influenced by American and hip-hop culture.

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1. The average age for marriage in the United States is 27 years old 

2. The same sex marriage has also risen rapidly in recent years

3. First marriage: Nearly half end in divorce within five years.

4. Marriage rates have been steadily declining since the 1970s.

5. Marriage Trends In The Direction of the Community Decline

6. Divorce rate is higher among couples with children compared to those without children.

7. Crude Divorce Rate Increased From 14% to 18% Between 2000 and 2015.

8. Divorce rates are also higher when both partners work full-time 

9. Women are more likely to seek a divorce than men

Let’s dive into the details of what some of these statistics represent.

1. The average age for marriage in the United States is 27 years old 

More unmarried couples are living together than married couples.  Marriages are more likely to end in divorce now than they were 50 years ago.

A new way of looking at marriage has emerged – that it’s not about finding the one, but rather being happy with oneself first and then finding someone else who can make you even happier

Unfortunately, marriage is no longer an institution that people feel pressure to enter into – instead, some people see it as a personal choice or even a practical decision if they want to have children

2. The same sex marriage has also risen rapidly in recent years

However, this brings about many new challenges for same-sex couples.

Same-sex divorce, for example, does not necessarily mean that the same laws apply to them as they do to other couples.

These are just some of the reasons why same-sex marriage statistics can be puzzling and challenging at times.

It may take a long time before all states recognize same-sex marriages conducted in another state.

3. First marriage: Nearly half end in divorce within five years.

I believe this might be due to the fact that first marriages take place at a time when people are still young and inexperienced.

They also tend to not have all their priorities sorted out, and they’re more vulnerable to societal pressures.

Plus, first marriages seem like an unsuccessful venture from the start because there’s such a high chance the marriage will end in divorce within five years.

First-time couples also lack emotional stability and insight about each other – which can lead to conflicts and arguments even before children come into the equation.

Couples who have been married before should be more experienced and better equipped to handle marriage. 

But you will also find out that the divorce rate increases for every marriage individuals incrementally gets into.

4. Marriage Rate Has Been Steadily Declining Since the 1970s. 

In the United States alone, there were 8.1 marriages per 1000 people in 2014.

This is a slight decrease from 2013’s statistics of 8.2 marriages per 1000 people.

Although this might seem like a small decrease, it does show that the rates are declining.

The national average for marriage rates in both 2012 and 2013 was at 7 marriages per 1000 people; national average in the US.

In 2010, the marriage rate was slightly higher at 7.3 marriages per 1000 people.

The lowest marriage rates were seen in 2007 with 6 marriages per 1000 people nationally across the US.

The CDC believed that the slowing national marriage rate can be explained by a number of factors including an increase in adults living together without marrying as well as an increased acceptance of other lifestyles such as single motherhood, living with an unmarried partner and same-sex marriage.

The average-age for people to get married has risen over the past few years which could also help explain this decrease in marriages (CDC, 2015).

As of 2014, men typically got married at 29.0 years old while women tended to get married at 27.0 years old (CDC, 2015).

The reasons for marriage in 2014 were: love and companionship (63%), followed by making a lifelong commitment (62%) and having children (53%).

In 2013 the reason to get married was different with 46% getting married because of love and 47% saying that they wanted to make a lifelong commitment (CDC, 2014).

According to the CDC statistics, there are currently more marriages ending in divorce than those that end because of death.

There were an estimated 12.0 divorces per 1000 people compared with 11.0 deaths per 1000 people in 2014 (CDC, 2015).

This statistic has remained relatively stable in recent years and in 2010, there were 11.0 divorces per 1000 people and in 2012 there were 12.0 (CDC, 2015).

In the US, the marriage rate also varies by state.

The marriage rates by state present the percentage of people who are married.

The highest percentage of people who are married can be found in Utah at 72%.

The lowest percentage of people who are married can be found in Oregon at 44%.

This is an indication of certain beliefs about marriage.

5. Marriage Trends In The Direction of the Community Decline

Humans are social creatures.

So, marriage is more than just a personal commitment – it has an impact on the marriage rate for society as a whole.

Many countries are feeling the decline of the marriage rate, but there are some bright spots too.

The marriage rate across Europe has dropped by more than two percentage points in just ten years, according to Eurostat.

The regions that have seen the sharpest declines in marriage rates include Latvia with a 10% drop and Lithuania with 12%.

Italy’s marriage rate plummeted 18% in 2000 to 11.4% now based on total population data from Istat.

These marriage rate statistics paint a bleak picture for many of Europe’s economies.

What is causing this?

Many factors are at play, but they can be linked to an increasing number of people choosing not to get married.

The marriage rate has dropped by more than 20% in the United States since 2000 while cohabitation rates have increased substantially over that same time frame.

Other developed nations like Canada and Australia also saw marriage rates decline between 2009-2010 based on data from Statistics Canada & the Australian Bureau of Statistics respectively.

But there are some exceptions where marriage isn’t on the decline – Russia had notable growth in marriages with almost 30,000 additional weddings taking place throughout 2016 alone.

Certainly, people live together without getting married or having children so who cares?

Well, children do need both parents – they need their mothers and fathers together as a family.

When marriage rates drop, so do birth rates – marriage is even more relevant in terms of fertility as 70 percent of women who have ever married are currently using contraception to prevent births within their marriage.

The decline in marriage could also be linked with the increase in teen pregnancy and single-parent households too since it can lead to financial strain on families which often results from lack of parental support.

So where does this leave our communities?

There will always be those that choose not to get married or cohabitate, but we should care about the impact these trends may have because they affect us all.

Married couples purchase homes together at much higher rates than unmarried couples according to Freddie Mac data while children living with both parents perform better in general.

6. Divorce rate is higher among couples with children compared to those without children

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The National Center for Health Statistics recently released data showing that the divorce rate is higher among couples with children compared to those without children.

The research shows that 27 percent of all recently divorced men have at least one child, and 69 percent are co-parenting their children with an ex-spouse or other parent.

The age of men who are divorced in recent times is 44.

In the past, divorce rates were higher among younger couples but now typically occur later in life when children are involved and homes have been built together.

7. Crude Divorce Rate Increased From 14% to 18% Between 2000 and 2015.

This rate is the number of divorces per year, taking into account the crude population.

If you’re not sure what crude means, it’s referring to the population that’s not adjusted for demographics like marital status and age at marriage.

To calculate the rate, simply take the number of divorces in a country divided by the crude population multiplied by 1000.

The rate has increased over time but is still much lower than in the 1970s.

In 2015 it was 18%, whereas in 2000 it was 14%. The rate varies greatly between countries – from less than 0.05 divorces per 1000 to more than 50 divorces per 1000 people every year.

These rates are not only affected by how many marriages there are, but also by marital laws and gender equality within each country.

For example, Scandinavian countries have a very high rate due to their culture being so accepting of couples choosing to get divorced when they no longer find marriage fulfilling for both partners or if one spouse wants to move on with someone else without having an affair.

At a rate of 40.43, the country with the highest rate is Malta.

The lowest rates are in Chile and Puerto Rico at 0.30 divorces per 1000 people every year, which makes sense considering their catholic cultures where marriage is very important to them because it’s seen as a sacrament rather than just a legal contract or social obligation like other countries around the world see it.

Catholicism doesn’t recognize divorce even when there has been an annulment from church officials due to many reasons such as not following proper formality for marrying – one example would be if someone got married via proxy without ever meeting each face-to-face.

In addition to stressing the importance of marriage, Catholicism also advises against having a divorce unless there’s been adultery or abandonment from one partner.

Otherwise, it is discouraged by the church and seen as being immoral because you’re going against God once married even if things become terrible in your relationship.

Even though the rate has increased over time, they are still much lower than decades ago due to many reasons including fewer people getting married before age 30 – which has caused couples to wait until that age when they know for sure whether or not this person will be their spouse forever unlike younger years where feelings can easily change with just a few months passing by.

In 2015 only 23% were under 25 compared to 50% back in 1970, and in 2000 only 12% were under 25.

This is why these rates are much lower than in the 70s because it takes longer to get married now and we’re waiting until we know for sure whether or not this person will be our spouse forever, which makes sense considering how complicated modern relationships can become with so many options available such as online dating sites where there’s always someone new to meet every day after work or during lunch breaks at work if you have a computer handy without having to go out of your way.

In addition, the rate worldwide has increased from 11 per 1000 people back in 1990 compared to 18 per 1000 people today

meaning that more divorces happen each year but fewer marriages overall since the crude population increased over time.

8. Divorce rates are also higher when both partners work full-time.

Though there are many business opportunities and promotions, it takes a toll on family life.

A lot of disagreements arise with couples who both work full-time and this has led to more divorces and separations.

Divorce rates have been higher in the past 20 years as women now tend to be financially independent of their husbands or partners

compared to before when they were almost never able to do so without support from men.

This is because nowadays working mothers can actually afford child care

which allows them to go back into employment after having children.

However, this mode of living isn’t suitable for everybody.

This is why it’s important to note that the number of divorces has generally increased in countries where both parents go out to work.

There are rights for working mothers who have children under 16,

but these vary depending on which country you look at.

For example, in Australia, there are legal obligations regarding paternity leave and time off for fathers when they become a parent too.  

However, this varies from state to state within Australia.

In New Zealand, women can take up to 18 weeks of maternity leave while receiving pay based on their average weekly earnings or statutory payments

if they’re not eligible for parental payments by Work and Income New Zealand (WINZ).   

Fathers can also get two weeks of paid leave after birth with an additional two weeks unpaid.

The United Kingdom allows mums to take up to 52 weeks of maternity leave

which can be shared between both parents if they choose so.

Additionally, mothers are allowed one day off per week for antenatal care under the National Health Service (NHS)

and this is also applicable in Wales, Scotland, and Northern Ireland too.   

This means that there’s a legal obligation on employers to allow you time off work during your pregnancy

or after giving birth as long as it doesn’t cause problems with their business operations.  

These rights have led families towards having more children since couples feel like they now have better support from companies

when they start raising kids together at home thanks to modern-day benefits offered.

This is also why divorce rates have increased in the past 20 years.

Even though it’s not useful to generalize about these issues, there isn’t any doubt that more women are choosing to become working mothers

than ever before and this has led to some challenges when trying to balance work with family life.

However, despite all of this information being available today, many couples still prefer having smaller families

since it allows them both to be able to focus on careers rather than bringing up children alone or spending time with kids while taking care of business at the same time too.  

Divorce rates are higher even among those who do not work full-time as well as those where only one partner works outside the home.

For example, in the United States, only 20% of married women with children under 18

…who work full-time are likely to get divorced compared to 35% among those with higher education levels.

Statistically, divorce rates have increased across most countries around the world including Canada and Australia

where they’re now at their highest point since the 1970s when it comes to couples having kids together.

The decrease in marriage is also evident as people prefer cohabitation over tying the knot legally nowadays

due to ease of access for modern dating platforms like Tinder or eHarmony too.

Overall, no doubt working mothers face more challenges today than ever before

which has led to an increase in divorces even if both parents don’t work outside of their home.

9. Women are more likely to seek a divorce than men.

That being said, 62 percent of divorces were initiated by women while only 38% were instigated by men.

Also, women tend to file for divorce at younger ages than men.

While the average age is 32 years old for a man who files, it’s 28 years old for a woman.

How This Affects You:

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If you’re a woman getting married, it’s important to know that statistically speaking,

your marriage is more likely to end in divorce than if you were marrying a man.

As such, make sure you take time and do as much research as possible before making the big decision.

Also, keep this information in mind when deciding at what age would be best for settling down with someone.

Everyone should engage in proper counseling, coaching, and therapy; at least counseling before engaging in marriage.

The minimum you need to learn is conflict and crisis handling.

Here are some additional 7 facts:

1. One out of every two marriages ends in divorce

2. There are over 2 million divorces a year

3. In 2012, there were 112 divorces for every 100 marriages

4. The average marriage lasts about 8 years

5. Divorce rates have increased by 50% since the 1990s and are expected to continue increasing over time.

6. The number of couples getting married has decreased, while the number of divorces has increased

7. 67% of remarriages end in divorce.

Conclusion: The Hopes for the Institution of Marriage

The institution of marriage is not as strong or popular as it once was,

but that doesn’t mean we need to abandon all hope.

There are still many benefits to getting married and most people who do get married will experience a happier life than if they had remained single.

People often think their only options for finding happiness in life are either through friends or family members.

However, there can be just as much joy found within the love and commitment of a spouse.

So don’t give up on this sacred institution without first considering how you might make your own marriage work better.

Some people are more successful in marriage than others simply because they have made a greater effort to make it work.

They understand that no relationship is perfect and that there will be ups and downs

but the power of their love helps them overcome any obstacle.

While some couples might try to avoid issues, these individuals seek out problems head-on

so they can resolve them together as partners instead of avoiding each other until the problem only gets worse.

Don’t be discouraged by the incredible and puzzling marriage statistics we’ve shared here. 

We are talking about romance here.

We are talking about the state’s approved, most fundamental, and successful human relationship.

However, we can’t deny that marriage is awesome and that most people consider it to be a great reward.

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💔 How Many Marriages End In Divorce?

In this lesson, you will discover, not just how many marriages end in divorce, but how it is different for 1st, 2nd, and 3rd marriages.

I want to blame someone for divorces.  

I will also reveal some deeper insights to these lagging indicators which is a limitation to the only numbers and percentages that we know as I reveal in this lesson.

A few days ago, I was listening to a livestream on Youtube in the men’s community called the manosphere or “red pill” as they discussed the prevalent and unfortunate gender wars.

Before stumbling into this community a few months ago, I didn’t realize that there were so many men that could come off as so hateful to women.

I’ve always known about some women’s communities even as far back as when I was a child in the late 80’s to the 90’s.  

It’s mostly women who have had a certain type of experience in marriage who end up in these communities.  

I always knew that men had their own struggles.  But little did I know that some gurus had found ways to capitalize on it and build extremely toxic communities.

In the women’s communities, the rhetoric is typically “Men are Scum.”  They go back and forth with real-life stories emphasizing this belief.

What I found with the men’s community is the “logical claim” to avoid marriage altogether because of these first 5 stats, percentages, and figures.

Let’s dive right in.

Stat #5 – 70% of Divorces are Initiated By Women.

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This data is according to a study conducted by the American Sociological Association in 2015, which by the way, the number jumps to 90% for university-educated women.

So the logic for the men in the red pill community is this.  

“If there is a 70% chance that the woman I love with my life will suddenly pull the plug for no damn reason, why should I get married?”

While that question is valid, it is also flawed in many ways. 

What if we assume that there are reasons that you as a mortal being just couldn’t see?  What if the question changes to… 

“Do I have some type of control or at least influence over my wife’s experiences and choices to stay a lifetime in our marriage or not?”

Well, it is easier for certain weak people to run for the exit at any level of exposure to potential pain and it’s harder to ask questions that true leaders continue to build empires with.

There is absolutely room for true leaders who are willing to learn what it takes to make the modern woman trust, respect and submit to the authority of marriage.

It’s really this simple.  The more empowered your wife feels the less she will tolerate certain types of disregard that women endured 50 years ago.  

As a man, you cannot afford to show up halfway in your masculine core to your marriage.  

It has nothing to do with honesty, integrity, and any obvious words people tend to throw around in these conversations.  Those are bare minimums for any human being

It has everything to do with how you are able to make your particular wife feel safe, secure, and loved consistently.  Consistency is an important ingredient.

If you are a typical woman, it’s about engaging the power of the almighty feminine energy and your awareness of how you can make it work for your marriage. 

Stat #4 – 45% Of All First Marriages End In Divorce

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I find it interesting that most people don’t dwell on this number going into their first relationship or marriage.  But it becomes a thing, again, after certain types of experiences.

Also, this number is often inflated to 50% when these toxic online communities utilize these stats as talking points and you can imagine how scary that is.

Depending on your level of expectations of marriage as a bed of roses,

hearing these stats can throw you off a healthy base.

And it’s even worse when the audience has experienced heartbreak at any level.  They will naturally have their guards up.

With my experience and expertise,

I’ve found that such guards end up falling over and killing every chance of an awesome life and love for the person who puts them up.

Stat #3 – 60% Of Second Marriages End In Divorce

There are many people who end up in these toxic online communities wasting away time they could have been spending building themselves.

Eventually, they come back to being human and falling in love prematurely without healing.  So they end up creating even worse statistics than that of first marriages.

Avoiding marriage is essentially a false sense of security.  As we now know, love, connection, and contribution to others are basic human emotional needs.

Instead of avoiding it, it’s better to lean in and learn how long-lasting marriages work and what makes them work.

Running from marriage for most people is like running away from your own shadow; you will end up coming off as crazy and potentially hurting yourself along with others.

Stat #2 – 73% Of All Third Marriages End In Divorce

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As you can see, it just gets worse.  

Contrary to “know it all’s”, people don’t enjoy jumping from marriages to marriages only to destroy it all over and create even worse statistics.

It’s a void that they are trying to fill; love, connection, companionship, contribution, and significance.  

These are accomplished through relationships and more so fruitfully through long-term relationships and marriages.

Where they get it wrong is by not healing their pain properly with time, knowledge, mentorship, coaching, counseling and/or therapy.

Again, running from a marriage without proper self-reflection is like running from your own shadows.  You will start looking crazy, hurt more people and yourself.

Stat #1 – Correlation Between Economy & Divorce Rate

The United States has the 6th highest divorce rate in the world.  

Coincidentally, or is it? The United States is also the 6th greatest nation on earth presently.  

So is there a correlation between economic empowerment or not?

There is and it’s not necessarily just economic… but all types of empowerment (especially social empowerment).

For many men, this means we should discourage women from being empowered.  That may be a “logical solution” but is that a holistic solution?

Doesn’t that sound like a quick easy exit or escapism from much-required work?

Is logic not also a function of the human emotional and innate need for growth for both man and woman?  Don’t we all want some level of more freedom in our lives?

So tell me in the comment area what your thoughts are around this topic

so that we can create more videos enlightening and empowering ourselves as people in modern society.

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5 Things That Will Make Your Wife Miss You During Separation 💔

In this lesson, you will discover 5 things that you can focus on to make your wife miss you during a separation in marriage.  

Sorry to hear that you may be going through this but I got you.  I want to tell you a story about James and his wife who are separated but living together.

So James was a guy who dropped us an email.  He has been separated from his wife for a while now due to multiple issues. 

Based on his confession, his wife finally had enough of him constantly putting her down and she asked for a separation with the goal of divorce. 

They have been married since 2010 and have two kids together. 

According to him, the kids are why they have decided to live together but separated for the time being.

James doesn’t want divorce but he understands that his wife is comfortable and will need to miss their romance in order to get back together; hence his question.

Believe it or not, separation may not have been a bad thing for your marriage.  

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There is a Nigerian Yoruba proverb that says

“Agbo ti o fi eyin rin lo, agbara ni o lo mu wa.”

Which in loose translation means:

“The ram that moves backwards has gone to bring more power.”

This can be true for your marriage also… especially if you lean in and pay attention to these 5 things that go over most people’s heads.

Let’s be honest.  Emotions are high during separation on at least one side of the relationship; usually on both sides.

So everything I say to you today will be easier said than done. Nonetheless, it will increase your chances of attracting healthy love.

If you are a wife who is trying to make your husband miss you during separation, these lessons are also applicable.

But with a slight difference according to the sexual polarity based on the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy in your relationship.

With that being said, let’s dive into the 5 things….

Thing #5 – Attraction

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When there is a breakdown in attraction, the negative things are easier to focus on than all the numerous positive things happening, evident by the fact that there is room to complain.

This behavior subsequently creates the further deterioration of attraction in the marriage and this is why most couples in separation are in a vicious cycle.

Guess what you can start doing to rebuild attraction; the direct opposite.  Whatever you focus on expands; positive or negative.  

So one extremely seductive thing you can do now is to make a different choice; focus on all the positive things and ignore the negative things unless it is safety, security or core value related.

Thing #4 – Gratitude

This is an attitude to life.  It is still true to a large extent that you attract things into your life based on your attitude about life.

In the midst of separation, most people become very weak to the point that all they can do is swing along with things and wing things along.

They also tend to point fingers at everyone and everything else but self which is another way to disengage from self-improvement.

If your wife doesn’t get pointing-fingers from you, she will miss you because she will gradually start growing respect for you.

Thing #3 – Purpose

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Without a strong personal purpose in life, there is a good chance that you will have a lot of time in your hands for nonsensical activities.

You know what they say about the idle mind; it’s the devil’s playground right?  

If you are thinking about your separation right now, there is a chance that you are not as engaged with your personal life mission and purpose.

When you are engaged with your purpose as a man, it’s only natural for you to create a space of respect and healthy distance around you without you having to ignore her.

Your wife will miss you because she can feel the change especially if you both have good memories from the past together.

Thing #2 – Self-Love

This is simpler than most people understand.  If you don’t love yourself, others, including your estranged wife, will mimic that behavior.

It has to be absolutely clear to her that you love yourself way too much to wait around and throw your life away for her to miss being in love with you.

She doesn’t get to decide if she wants to miss you or not if you get this right.

Thing #1 – Let-Go

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I understand that it is almost an oxymoron to ask you to “let go” while trying to make your wife miss you; I’m guessing… in order to rekindle romance in your marriage.

Think about it.  Your wife is running for a reason.  

From a mental standpoint, the last thing you want to do to a person who feels like running is to convince them otherwise. 

People don’t run from what they passive as pleasure or relief.  They run from pain or anything they perceive as painful at least until you change that experience for them.

So “letting go” for you may feel painful which is why you may naturally be running from the idea of letting go but that is where the work lies for you.

So tell me in the comment area which of these 5 things has proven to be the hardest for you to do and we will see about doing a video tip on making it easier for you.

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Codependency In Marriage? 5 Actionable Steps💔

In this lesson, you will discover 5 actionable steps to seducing your husband towards saving your marriage and finally building real love.

Cynthia was struggling with codependency within the context of being in a marriage to a depressed man.

Her husband claims to love her, in love with her, love being around her but the marriage just doesn’t feel the same to him any longer.

She became confused and didn’t know where to start with trying to rekindle things.  In fact, she had started to resent him because he refused counseling for 18 months.

As usual, we offered Cynthia these 5 actionable steps to help her create new experiences and attract her husband to desire life and love again.

Feel free to copy and paste this into your marriage if you are going through similar issues.

1st Step To Save Your Marriage – Believe Him

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While you may feel like your husband is being disingenuous with the excuses for not feeling the same way about your marriage, you need to believe him.

Keep in mind that believing him doesn’t translate to believing that he is telling the truth.

You are simply believing that he has chosen the best way he dimmed fit to express his experience.

The actual truth will always be a function of time and your ability to take the next 4 steps in saving your marriage.

Also by believing him, you will transfer some of that anxiety you are carrying over to him as he wonders why you are not feeling a need to push back.

This is how believing him could play out.  Just say this after expressing himself.

“Okay.  What else is on your mind?”  The idea is to create a surprise element as to why you are not overreacting.  

By doing so, you would have helped create a new experience in your marriage.  You will also be able to feed your codependency in a healthy way by practicing giving.

2nd Step – Don’t Diagnose Him

These days, most women would pick up psychological books and start labeling their spouse different psychology and mental health-related terminologies.

I am talking about terms and self-diagnosis such as:

  • Narcissist
  • Controlling
  • Depression
  • Cognitive Disorder
  • Anxiety
  • Socially Awkward
  • And ETC.

This is a great mistake because it will get the husband to naturally raise his guards.

When you label your husband as such (even if you are right), you would be effectively focusing on all the negative things and you will push him further away.

Anything you focus on will expand in your marriage; positive or negative.  So it is in your best interest to avoid self-diagnosis of any type; not even self-diagnosing yourself.

If some type of psychological disorder diagnosis is necessary, the 5th step in this lesson will be the proper way to achieve that.

So it is important to not tear down with random diagnosis, especially when you know that you may want to depend on this person later.

3rd Step – Give Him Space

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If you have codependency traits, this is going to be very hard for you but that is actually a good thing. Let me explain.

Anything or anyone that’s readily available gets taken for granted.  I will guess that the last space you want to be in your marriage is to be easily taken for granted.

This is a balancing act.  While it is nice to be able to spend as much time as possible with a person you love, keep in mind that this is “another person.”

So when you are in a marriage with a person that keeps going back and forth with divorce threats, they obviously are taking you for granted.

At this point, the reason is irrelevant because if your husband values you at this moment, he wouldn’t be interested in potentially losing you.

So the best way to reverse that is to give him the space he is suggesting to the best of your ability.  

That doesn’t necessarily have to be filing the divorce.  

I am talking about space as small as just a moment for them to process how they are feeling.  It can also be as big as a few nights in a nice hotel room.

It’s also good to help you balance out your codependency traits.  We all depend on each other but you do not want to be operating in codependency at a toxic level.

How do you know if it’s toxic?

It becomes toxic when a partner you depend on starts to take you for granted; some space for yourself (more importantly) is necessary at that point.

4th Step – Activate Self Love

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At this stage, it will be extremely helpful for you to activate self-love at its highest level possible because you just can’t attract what you cannot give to yourself.

Excessive emotional and psychological dependency on another human, especially if it’s a spouse, is a direct result of suffering.

If you were already giving yourself love, you would probably crave less for it.

In real life, it means learning your personal love language and loving yourself in that language; your environment will have no choice but to mimic after you.

This is easier said than done especially if you are codependent but this is the work and in this space lies the greatest rewards from your marriage.

5th Step To Save Your Marriage – Invite To Counseling

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Please do not attempt this step if you have not personally engaged in counseling, therapy, or coaching personally in addition to steps 1- 4.

It is almost always equivalent to manipulation and gaslighting when your first solution is to drag your husband to therapy and counseling.

Most people go there to point fingers and it usually creates more problems.  

It is key to be prepared as an individual which is how you will learn how to properly invite your husband to therapy and take full advantage of it.

Also, if there is any necessary clinical diagnosis of a psychological disorder, it will be better received since it is coming from a professional who is trained to do so.

Yes, he may seem depressed.  You may be accurate but you will create more problems for yourself if you call him depressed.  This may be the missing wisdom.

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