So what is a sexless marriage?
A sexless marriage is a marriage where sexual intimacy has dried up for 3 months or longer.
You should wait till 3 months to find this out.
Anything after a week should initiate a loving conversation and not an argument.
Let’s get into the stages and signs…
(1) She doesn’t love you anymore will lead to a sexless marriage
If your spouse is starting to tell you that he or she doesn’t love you anymore, it’s not bad…
But it’s not as bad as it feels.
You should acknowledge the feeling without overreacting to confirm that he or she is right.
That reaction alone can stop the painful direction of your marriage.
(2) If you are confused (especially as a man), in time you will increase the chances of a sexless marriage.
If you are confused about the direction of your marriage or relationships, that’s okay.
That’s just how you feel right now.
If you know anything about feelings, you know that they are temporary.
However, feeling sustained confusion is a feminine energy but men can feel it as well.
But when a man continues to express sustained confusion in words, a woman will start to feel less and less attraction for him.
That dynamic will move more in the direction of a sexless marriage as he also won’t be sure of when to make a move and seduce.
Not being sure of yourself is another feminine energy.
Anytime I say “men”, you can use that interchangeably with the dominant partner in the relationship.
(3) The fear or threat of divorce will create a sexless marriage.
In fact, you will attract what you fear the most when you either threaten your spouse with divorce or your fear it.
What you focus on will expand; either negative or positive.
Your intentional and unintentional actions have a way of aligning with what you focus emotional energy on.
(4) She doesn’t want PDA
If your spouse suddenly stops wanting public display of affection (PDA) from you,
You are probably moving in that direction of a sexless marriage if not there already.
So suddenly, she stops wanting to kiss.
Your first step is to ensure that you are clean and breath is not stinking.
Put some effort in making sure that you can physically seduce your partner.
Seduction should never end on either ends but the reality is that one partner may have more strength in that area than the other..
Naturally, we all get complacent and stop seducing each other.
Commit to catching it when he or she is retracting from the usual PDA and make sure that you improve…
Before asking… “Is everything okay?”
And then, listen carefully to what the concerns may be.
However, if your spouse has always been that way due to background, culture, personality, and etc. that’s a different issue altogether.
(5) Arguments Everywhere
Arguments are not the same as disagreements.
They are pointless repetitive clarification of points that leads to bad energy and kill attraction.
So if you do engage in enough arguments, you should not be surprised about ending up in a sexless marriage.
If you don’t feel that arguments kills sex, attraction, relationships, and marriages, there is a high chance that your partner disagrees with you.
In fact, if you bring it up, it will cause an argument… and create a vicious cycle of a sexless marriage..
What about… “wife says she loves me but not in love with me.”
Loving you is decision she made at the altar and being in love with you is a feeling that she doesn’t have right now.
The keyword phrase is “right now”. It’s temporary and it can only be permanent if you don’t work on bringing attraction back into your marriage.
But the first step is to stop panicking about that and learn how listen to her emotions without involving much of your emotions.
“My wife says she doesn’t love me anymore and wants a divorce.”
Same issue; don’t panic about this temporary feeling.
Don’t attempt to work on her. Instead work on yourself and build a self that will attract her back to you and a better relationship.
Make her earn you back.
The same attraction and self worth issues can be worded and a few different ways.
“My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me.”
“My ex said she doesn’t love me anymore.”
“Wife doesn’t love me but won t leave.”
Obviously, she REALLY doesn’t want to leave. It’s an attraction issue and it starts with you, the complainer.
“I don ‘t love my wife anymore but she loves me.”
So why are you complaining… I know why.
You are just not attracted to her right now.
But maybe you are afraid of leaving. That’s feminine energy.
Decide what you want to do and move on from the misery.
If you keep dragging her in your misery, she may eventually bring out her masculine energy, decide for you and leave.
Then you will hate yourself and want her back suddenly; may be you need to see her with another man first.
You don’t have to be with her if you don’t want to.
But for your own good, learn how to be decisive like a man in his full essence and you will attract the woman that you desire.
You need to read the book “Get My Marriage Back” 10-15 times.. it will help in taking control of your emotions.
It may be her and may be not, but she will always respect you as a man.
Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…
“I have a problem.
My wife wants to separate.
She said she doesn’t love me anymore but she also said,
I love you because you are the father of my kids and also because of the struggles we’ve been through.
We have been together for 11 years and I still love her.
What can I do? I’m just so confused.
We haven’t even talked about a divorce.
She has never brought it up and of course I don’t want a divorce.
This is just so confusing.
We still live together with our kids in the same house.
We still have sex and sometimes we kind of flirt.
But she doesn’t want to kiss me like she is afraid as if something.
It’s just so weird.
She said she doesn’t love me but she still has an affection for me so it’s very confusing.
It’s like do you love me or not.
And also, she has a big pride; she wants to be right all the time and never says she is wrong even when she is.”
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What is a sexless marriage?
A sexless marriage is a marriage where sexual intimacy has dried up for 3 months or longer.
What percentage of sexless marriages end in divorce?
About 20% of marriages are sexless and about 50% of them end up in divorce. Lack of sex is definitely a contributing factor to divorce rate.
Can a sexless marriage survive?
Lack of sex in a marriage (outside of medical and disability reasons) is a symptom. The marriage can survive if the underlying issue is uncovered with root cause analysis and fixed.
How long do sexless marriages last?
Sexless marriages can last as long as the couple wants it to last with respect actions. If you are willing to stay even if you don’t like it, it can last a lifetime.
How do you fix a sexless marriage?
Uncover the underlying issue with root cause analysis through the help of a coach and adjust accordingly. Lack of sex is a symptom of other emotional issues with the exception of disabilities and medical reasons.
What does it mean when a woman says she loves you but is not in love with you?
It means she is not feeling safe with you RIGHT NOW to be sure of loving you right now.
It’s a feeling that won’t necessarily transcend time especially if you know what you are doing.
Can a relationship last without sex?
Yes it can but very rarely especially if we are talking about marriage.
There are many people that stay in a marriage due to a lifetime of history, children and cultural reason.
But it’s not healthy unless there is lack of sex due to disability or medical reasons.
What do you do when a girl says she doesn’t love you anymore?
You have to give the girl the gift of missing you.
If a girl doesn’t love you anymore, it’s because she doesn’t respect you any more.
That’s the direct symptom of lack of self-respect; no one will give you what you can’t give yourself.
So ask yourself, “have I shown up to the relationship in ways that shows that I don’t respect myself?”
For example, engaging in heated arguments with a girl is a sign of lack of self respect; she will lose respect for you in a matter of time.
It’s also a sign that you don’t pay attention to a woman much less knowing her.
How do you tell if your GF doesn’t love you anymore?
The first sign that she (girlfriend or wife) doesn’t love you anymore is the sign that you observed to lack confidence in the relationship to the extent of asking this question.
Just keep in mind that it’s a feeling for her at this point and i won’t last if you know what you are doing in terms of attracting her back.
On the flip side, she may leave you so you should do something about bringing attraction back.
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