5 Tips to Stop Divorce after Separation📍⁉️ ❤️

I received this question about a man who wants to make his wife stop divorce after they are already separated.

“She said [I don’t want to continue]. 

We were under pressure due to being in the middle of moving to Canada but we were in our schedule and plan.

 We had good sex, happy weekend, and I love her and she always said [I love you].

After separation, we went to counseling and he said [the issues that your wife mentioned can be solved and these are no huge problems.]

A few family members that I spoke with had the same idea that these problems are not the kind of problems that make a marriage.

I did whatever she wanted during the 10 months.

We have two daughters and I cannot imagine how our marriage is falling apart.

She has not filed for divorce yet but she said she will. 

I don’t know; How should I stop her.”

Here are 5 tips to give this gentleman the best chance of stopping the divorce and calling off the separation based on his email. 

how to stop divorce after separation

1 – Confidence

You can’t stop someone from filing a divorce but you can use reverse psychology to attract her back with confidence.

2 – Self Love

Also, by first loving yourself 

If you think you can physically stop her or bribe her to stop the divorce, it won’t work and if it did, it will work against you.

Because the same reason why she wants to leave you is probably still there.

3 – Listen without Judgement.

It’s a sign that you have not been listening when you narrate a story that seems like a sudden jump from a happy marriage to an unhappy marriage.

You and I cannot solve a problem that we have not identified.

4 – Identify & Acknowledge the Expressed Problem

If she said she didn’t want to continue 10 months ago, that’s the evidence that there was problem even if you are not necessarily the cause of the problem

A lot of men especially are oblivious.

This gentleman thought everything was good and on schedule, because they were having good sex and expressed liver verbally to each other.

But maybe you have a wife that basically wants to protect your feelings and won’t really speak her mind like most women.

It’s not an uncommon problem to not have paid attention to these common issues in a marriage; there were issues and you just didn’t know.

She may love you but she probably hasn’t been in love with you for a while.

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5 – Never Involve Extended Family Members

This is one of the problems.

Washing your dirty laundry in public will magnify the symptoms of the underlying issue in your marriage.

Speaking to extended family members about your significant other is definitely an abomination that you will pay for with shame.

That will make your situation worse than it already is.

While you may have just been in the heat of a moment when reporting to your extended family member, they will get the chance to get out of the funk of that moment.

When you’ve resolved your issues with your spouse, they are stuck in it and will continue to directly or most commonly indirectly instigate more problems for your marriage.

They have a natural bias and it can be for or again either spouse; even the fact that they feel the need to suppress biases becomes a bias.

All of these make your issues get bigger and bigger. 

You want to make sure that your extended family always experiences your highlights and happiness only; it doesn’t mean you have to pretend.

Just make it a point and your responsibility to discourage washing dirty laundry in public as your extended family has now become public.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24

You will end up destroying your marriage if you do not heed to this advice; I’ve been there done that…

They will single-handedly (with your help) destroy your marriage for you; not their fault, you invited them and gave them the pass.

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Conclusion

There is no such thing as “small and petty” issues in a marriage; in fact, the smaller the issue is, the more it can slowly surely kill a marriage.

They are all real issues because these are emotional matters that can destroy a marriage 10 years before it manifests in real life.

That’s why your spouse can still love, make love and participate until the seemingly sudden shut off from the marriage.

You must learn effective communication which is dominated by effective listening in your marriage; it’s listening to emotions.

If all you are doing is listening to the words, you will end up feeling like you’ve done all that your spouse asked for and still feel inadequate.

You will manipulate more than actually attracting your spouse to love you unconditionally and finding delight in making you happy.

Listening indefinitely 

  • Without an agenda
  • Without a need to reply or respond
  • Without retaliation and attacks
  • Without being defensive

Listening in patience works 100% of the time in your favor and most likely in the favor of your marriage because your spouse will feel heard. 

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Bonus – Pattern Interruption

Whatever you have been doing is not working so it’s time to back off a little and let your spouse come back to you. 

Most likely, you are coming off as predictable which means your spouse knows everything about you and how you feel about the issues.

The attraction is low (about 6 or 7 on a scale of 1 to 10) right now.

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When your spouse wonders about you, it’s the equivalence of a rising level of attraction between the two of you.

Your spouse doesn’t have control of that; nature does.

Divorce being filed or not is irrelevant; the worst case scenario is that she may have to marry you again… focus on building yourself and allow God to work on her.

Inevitably, you will attract the love you deserve and not necessarily desire unless you do the work.

Frequently Asked Questions

How can I save my marriage and stop divorce?

There are 5 tips I can give you but the first is to make sure that you are giving self-love a prioritized attention; you can’t give what you can’t give yourself.

At what point can you stop a divorce?

At what point can you stop a divorce?
In order to stop divorce, you have to wait till the stage when the other party can receive the idea or better yet when it’s their idea.

How can I legally stop divorce?

It depends on your jurisdiction; consult with a local divorce attorney to help you navigate the legalities or divorce proceeding.

How can I stop divorce?

The best way to stop divorce is to reverse engineer attraction back into your relationship and marriage until stopping divorce comes as an idea from your spouse.

How do you rekindle a marriage during separation?

There are 5 tips I can give you to rekindle your marriage but first, make sure that you are giving self-love a prioritized attention; you can’t give what you can’t give yourself.

Does separation prevent divorce?

Separation can prevent divorce but it doesn’t always prevent divorce especially when you are just winging things and not engaging in learning how attraction works in a marriage.

How do you become patient during separation?

Take the separation time to focus on self-love, self-confidence, self-development, self-improvement and be content with the possibility that your spouse may never come back; patience is defaulted into that process because it takes time.

How do I deal with a separation I don’t want?

The best way is to focus on self-love, self-confidence, self-development, self-improvement and self-worth until you stop wanting a marriage that the other party doesn’t want.

5 Signs Your wife is NOT Attracted to You ❤️

Do you feel like your wife is no longer attracted to you?

First of all, every marriage is different.

But there are some things that are universal when it comes to signs that a woman is not attracted to you.

Some things are very peculiar to your particular relationship with your wife. 

Well, let’s  assess together and see if she’s no longer attracted to you or it’s simply just your feelings.

Sometimes, how you feel can be far away from the reality of things.

signs my wife is not attracted to me

In this video newsletter,

I will share 5 different signs you should look out for

in order to determine the level of your wife’s attraction to you.

Keep in mind that attraction in any given moment in time is temporary.

So the last thing you want to do is overreact if you feel like your wife is not attracted to you;

at this very moment.

The key phrase there is “in this very moment”.

These signs are only valid if they never existed before but now your recent suspicions.

Sign #1 – One-Word Answers

If you get a one-word answer every time you ask your wife open-ended questions,

that’s a sign that she’s probably not attracted to you at this point in time.

That’s a sign that your wife is not interested in a conversation with you.

An open-ended question is a question that requires somewhat of an elaborate insight, and opinion.

Average human being loves to share their opinions under normal circumstances.

If your wife has gotten to a place where she’s no longer interested in sharing her thoughts

and opinions when you create opportunities for her to do so,

That could be a sign of low attraction.

If that suddenly starts happening from time to time, over and over, consistently over time,

…you should look into finding out the underlying reasons.

ON THE PREVIOUS POST: How to Deal with an Unsupportive Husband

Sign #2 – She is Disrespectful

When a woman is not attracted, her behavior may start coming off as disrespectful.

What is disrespectful?

To be honest with you, it depends on how you feel and the unique Dynamics in your relationship with your wife.

So if you feel like she’s being disrespectful, you would know because you know what it feels like when she’s not being disrespectful.

A woman that does not respect you cannot love you; at least they can’t be in love with you at this moment.

So with respect to how things normally are in your marriage to your wife, if you feel like she’s being disrespectful,

Then she clearly is not interested in the intimacy that you are used to in your marriage.

 A woman who is attracted to you will not be disrespectful to you.

Sign #3 – She Suddenly Started Avoiding Argument

Arguments are extremely toxic, they create slow but sure death for intimacy and attraction in a marriage.

By the way, a man who understands women does not argue with women and it’s really that simple.

It really doesn’t matter if we are talking about your wife or your mother.

A disagreement is not the same thing as an active argument.

With that being said, if your wife used to engage in argumentative conversations with you and she suddenly stops,

That could be a sign that she’s losing respect for you.

If she has to lead in any capacity consistently, over time, she will lose respect and attraction towards you.

In a little bit of a twisted way, the sudden stop is a sign that she is no longer interested in needing you to be on her side of an argument.

It’s not the argument that she’s avoiding, it’s a conversation with you that she’s avoiding, granted that the argument may have gotten to that toxic level.

While I do advise every couple to avoid argument, being dismissive is not the way to go about it.

Avoiding it should be more of a deliberate Act of building your relationship with your significant other and never about “being dismissive.”

But she is a woman who may have had to lead in avoiding arguments in your marriage; she cannot be attracted to you right now.

If things have gotten to that toxic level where one of the parties is now being dismissive, that could be a sign of loss of respect.

As I stated earlier, loss of respect is almost if not equivalent to loss of attraction.

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Sign #4 – She Stopped PDAs

PDA stands for Public Display Of Affection.

As always, this sign is only valid if you are used to a wife who used to be very interested in public display of affection such as:.

  • Cuddling
  • Hugging
  • Kissing
  • Holding hands and so on

If she suddenly stopped showing interest in these things that could be a sign of low attraction.

But like I said, if the Dynamics of your marriage were never like that, this may not be an indication of anything with respect to attraction.

I do think it’s weird when I see married couples who don’t flirt at all because most couples that are attracted to each other tend to do these things.

Sign #5 – She Never Initiates

In most marriages, there’s always one of the spouses who initiate sex most of the time because of unmatched sexual appetite.

However every now and then, the one who doesn’t will take it upon him or herself to switch things up and that’s usually an exciting spontaneity for the couple.

But if you’re in a situation where she never initiates at all, there’s a chance that she is not attracted to you; at least not sexually.

Conclusion.

There may be other signs outside of the scope of this video newsletter, but it really doesn’t matter as the solution is the same across board.

If you’re feeling like your wife is not attracted to you in recent times, the solution I will recommend to you has everything to do with just you and you only.

Start paying attention to some self-love, self development and less attention to how your wife may be feeling.

Allow your wife to wonder about what you are up to.

If you take some time off wondering about how much attraction your wife feels towards you, that alone can make her start to feel attracted to you again.

But also, you will be literally building yourself to attract the type of love that you desire and deserve.

If you allow her room for her to wonder about what you’re up to, that’s literally almost if not the equivalence of building attraction back up in your relationship.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do you know when your wife isn’t attracted to you?

If your wife has suddenly started avoiding arguments, stopped PDA’s, started being disrespectful, giving you one word answers, and making you ask these questions, she is losing attraction to you.

Why isn’t my wife attracted to me anymore?

One sure way to get your wife to continue to lose attraction towards you is taking attention off self love and self confidence.
Ultimately, it depends on the particular story that led you down this path.

What does it mean when your wife doesn’t show affection?

It can mean a lot of things including loss of attraction but the first best way to find out is to ask her.
If you lack the confidence to ask her, that is a good reason for her to lose attraction towards you and stop showing affection.

How to Deal with an Unsupportive Husband ❤️

What is an unsupportive husband?

If you have found yourself in a situation that makes you feel lack of support from your husband,

You may be wondering if you are now amongst the thousands of women dealing with an unsupportive husband.

Unsupportive Husband

So let’s dig in some 5 of the signs you should look out for.

In addition to that, we will talk about a few ways to attract the support you want from your husband.

Before we dive into the signs, it is important that you know that there is a difference between your feelings and reality.

Our feelings in general tend to exaggerate matters on ground.

Therefore making us attack the people we love and creating a back and forth mix of defensive and offensive behaviors.

You may be feeling unsupported and there may be a blurry line between that feeling and neediness.
Neediness will kill attraction in your marriage but it is quite possible that your husband is simply unsupportive.

So let’s get to the signs.

5 Signs of Unsupportive Husband


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SIGN #1 – He Treats You With Disdain

If you’ve found yourself in a marriage with a man who goes out of his way to make you feel unworthy, that’s a classic sign.

SIGN #2 – He Doesn’t Listen

It’s one thing to feel unheard but it’s another for your husband to shut you down every chance he gets to do that.

I don’t know which is worse but that is a sign that you are in a marriage with an unsupportive husband.

SIGN #3 – He Doesn’t Help

As a woman, not only does the society expect that you make sure all house chores are done, YOU probably have put that expectation on yourself.

If your husband doesn’t seem to put any effort into making sure you are not overwhelmed with this culture, he is not a supportive husband.

There are men that would be this way even when their wives are in illness or pregnant.


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Unhappy Marriage But Can’t Leave Does he Love Me


SIGN #4 – He is Abusive

There are 3 main different types of abuse namely:

  1. Verbal Abuse
  2. Emotional Abuse
  3. Physical Abuse

All 3 can end up in the same place; worst of which is death.

So make sure you seek professional help if you feel like you are in an abusive marriage.

That’s definitely a sign of an unsupportive husband.

SIGN #5 – He is Numb to Your Feelings

As a human being, we have feelings and yes they can be an exaggeration of reality.

But that is the more reason why the man in a marriage must be aware of those feelings.

If you can’t even get him to listen and see how you are “feeling” specifically, you may be in a marriage with an unsupportive husband.

Maybe he takes everything as an attack, gets defensive and never takes responsibility for the feelings in the marriage…

These are the common signs and issues that wives deal with in a marriage to an unsupportive husband.

Complacency can cause these behaviors; we tend to take each other for granted at some point.

If it’s that simple, you still deserve what you desire in a husband.

The first step is to communicate your feelings in words.

Make sure you are not just being needy and you are in a position where you can support yourself emotionally and in other areas.

If that hasn’t worked, you need to make yourself less available in the relationship and that should increase your value in the relationship.

Remember if you do not have a strong sense of self worthiness, no one else including your husband will find you worthy.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“What if you are trying everything to make your marriage happy again?

Going to a counselor is what we need.

But the other spouse doesn’t think you need it.

What do I do in that situation?

I am alone in this and trying to get him to see how I am feeling.

My husband isn’t supportive.”

Enjoy the video.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do you deal with an unsupportive husband?

The first step is to write down moments when he has being supportive in the past and express how much love those experiences.

If there are no changes, communicate your feelings to him without coming off like an attack.

Why does my husband show no emotion?

It depends on the context. You will need to specify your experience a little more precisely.

How do I deal with an unsupportive partner during pregnancy?

During pregnancy a lot of reality can seem exaggerated; your feelings may be an exaggerated version of your reality..

However, the best thing is to look positive experiences caused by him that you can highlight, appreciate and exaggerate.

It will expand and occupy your present negative feeling and most important encourage him to create for positive experience like being supportive.

Unhappy Marriage But Can’t Leave ❤️ Does he Love Me⁉️

In this lesson, we will cover a very popular question asked by women in seemingly unhappy marriages; “does he love me?”

But first which one?

There is a difference between Love & In-Love

It’s simple.

does he love me - unhappy marriage

To love someone is a deliberate value driven act while to be in-love is a feeling that comes from attraction and often a sense of newness.

It is possible for a man to love you and not necessarily be in love with you.

That is to say, the attraction level is low and unfortunately you can feel it that he is not drawn to you as evident by this question.

So if you can’t tell in his body language, he is probably not in love with you at the moment.

But keep in mind that it is probably temporary,

Especially if you have experienced the feeling of him being in love with you in the past

…depending on how far into the past it has been.

If a man still needs you in his life, he probably loves you because again…

Loving someone is a value driven deliberate action.

But in that same space, he may net be as attracted to you as he needs to be.

To love someone is a process and an on-going thing while being in love with a person is more of a state of mind; a feeling.

If he is in love with you, you will be able to tell as he shows that he can’t have enough for you.

For a man to love at that level takes a while and a process of growth.

34 years into marriage, a man can love you and it would be synonymous to being in love with you

Because that relationship has probably been tested a few times.

So the idea of not being with you is not a thing and cannot be even remotely entertained.

But it is a value driven act because it took time, a process and probably all types of tests on his character and the dynamics of your relationship with him to be in that space.

Therefore if you just met this man recently, loving you is not exactly relevant as he probably doesn’t even know himself

…with respect to your relationship enough.

However, he may be in-love with you

But you would be able to tell from his body language and other forms of expression if he is.

As an adult, the other question is if you are in love with him.

I would go out on a limb and answer for you; YES.

Wondering about a man’s feelings for you is one of the signs of high attraction and that you are in love with the idea of that person.

If this was a high school situation, no one knows themselves enough to be able to recognize real love.

How do I get out of an unhappy marriage when he is not in love with me?

If a man is not in love with you, that’s just a temporary feeling and a sign of low attraction.

So getting out of the marriage is not a solution especially if you’ve ever experienced high attraction in the marriage in the past.

Therefore if you have, the next best thing to do is to learn how to make him want you again.

It’s a nice little known skill that you probably used unknowingly when you were also in that space of giving naturally into the marriage.

The first step is to know that there is no such thing as an “unhappy marriage”; there are only 2 unhappy people in a marriage.

And secondly,

If you know anything about happiness, it comes from the inside and never from another person, a spouse or a partner.

Sure…. You may argue that others can influence your happiness.

I agree.

But ultimately, that’s called environmental factors… kinda like the weather.

Your marriage surroundings may feel gloomy but again, that’s a feeling.

And with proper knowledge, wisdom and empowerment, you can control how you feel from the inside… and like I said…

True happiness only comes from the inside.

If you give other people and your environment the power to control how happy you feel, it will always be that much short of true joy;

A necessary ingredient for “marriage goals”.

Thirdly, you go into a relationship to give.

So leaving this marriage for any reason outside of physical abuse will not necessarily make you happy.

You have a better chance of a “happy marriage” for lack of a better term when you build yourself from the inside

So that you can have enough to give emotionally into the relationship.

Also, confidence and non-neediness is one of the most attractive features you can develop to bring into your marriage.

And you can seduce anyone you want back into a blissful relationship with you when you learn how to.

There is a good chance that you have in the beginning but we all get complacent and take things for granted in relationships;

a.k.a “I lost myself”, ever heard that before.

So your marriage is only really over if you don’t want it anymore with this weapon of attraction at your disposal.

Also, if money and finances are not right in your marriage, it will cause issues.

But again running from that problem is an oxymoron; at least 50% of that problem is your shadow and it will follow you anywhere you go.

Leaving is a last resort;

First of all, find out what value or solution you can give into this monster of a relationship that you already know; it’s your best chance at happiness.

With a will, the power of seduction and high attraction, you will survive, thrive and become relationship goals that many will envy for a long time.

Keep in mind that the grass is always greener on the other side because it is being watered somehow.

“What if I’m not in love with my husband but I can’t leave?”

Not being in love is a temporary feeling and symptom of underlying issues in your marriage.

Leaving the marriage because of the symptoms will not fix your problem; in fact, it will potentially make life more miserable for you.

But you are the one in the marriage and you probably have deeper and clearer context.

If it’s just as simple and temporary as “not being in love”,

Look inside objectively and ask yourself if you have value or can build value to bring into this relationship.

This is easier said than done but it’s your best shot at a happy and blissful marriage again.

But keep in mind that leaving your marriage or divorce is not a crime as much as it may not be the solution.

If it’s a physical abuse situation, leave physically immediately and seek professional help.

Toxic arguments is one of the top signs of communication breakdown in a marriage;

It feels like a high that you know it’s bad for you but you can’t stop it until it destroys;

Shutting down on your spouse dismissively can be just as toxic.

So if you can still have a healthy loving conversation with your spouse, that’s a great place to start and build from.

If you have kids, don’t abuse them as a manipulation tool to leave or stay in the marriage.

The best thing you can do for kids is to be an example of what a healthy relationship and marriage looks like as they learn more from behavior.

I know we make it sound simple but nothing here is easy; it is simple but not easy… it’s easier said than done.

But it’s worth every effort you apply.

However, it is absolutely okay to draw emotional strength to want to give into and work on your marriage from your kids.

In a situation of emotional abuse and just flat bad behavior like alcohol and drug abuse, a higher level of patience is required.

But fundamentally, you can use the power of seduction and reverse psychology to get your spouse to start behaving right.

There is a reason why he or she is still in the marriage.

If they are the one solely benefiting from that reason, they may never change if they don’t show what it feels like to take that benefit away.

For example. I hear other counselors all the time insinuating that sex should not be used to punish the spouse.

I believe differently.

It’s impossible for a person who wants sex to use it to punish another;

It seems that way because they are clearly no attracted to the idea of having sex with the spouse.

In this context, sex would be the benefit that you should not be giving when you know that you are not attracted due to bad and abusive behaviors.

Sex is not a duty, it’s to be enjoyed together.

But having it less than twice a week outside of medical reasons is a sign and symptom of underlying issues.

So in conclusion

You should be focused on “giving” into your marriage and use that as the first step in solving all problems and dealing with crisis.

Sure… much patience would be required as everything is a process before you eventually start receiving.

However, keep in mind that all forms of abuse will probably not stop unless there are real consequences.

It’s as simple as demanding that abusers seek help out of respect for yourself, sometimes asking for temporary space and time does help,

But ultimately using that to work on building yourself so that you can have enough to give and attract the love you deserve and desire.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“I think I am between struggle and miserable.

34 years and 6 kids.

He’s always been a drinker. It’s getting worse.

He smokes pot everyday… has no job, not being very helpful unless I get angry and nag.

I am done but I can’t see that I have allowed him to become what he is.

No job, no prospect, no reliability to support himself.

I don’t know how to get out.”

Enjoy the video.

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It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

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...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

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Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

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By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
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Frequently Asked Questions

Is divorce better than an unhappy marriage?

Divorce and leaving you marriage is not a crime but be sure to assess your feelings against reality because leaving is often not the solution to lack of happiness.

In reality, there is no such thing as an “unhappy marriage”; there are only 2 unhappy people in a marriage

Is it normal to be unhappy in marriage?

It is not normal to be in an unhappy marriage just as much as it is not normal to deliberately stay in a low quality lifestyle.

What are the signs of a unhappy marriage?

Happiness is an individual feeling that doesn’t come from the marriage but personal responsibility of the parties in the marriage.

I guess you can then call it an unhappy marriage when at least one of the parties in the marriage shows sign of happiness.

A break down in communication and consistent argument is a sign of at least one unhappy person in a marriage.

How do I get out of an unhappy marriage?

There is no such thing as an “unhappy marriage”; there are only 2 unhappy people in a marriage.

Therefore the only way is honorably and respectfully communicate your intentions with your spouse; the same action that create seemingly happy marriage.

How do you know when your marriage is really over?

You marriage is over when at least one of the parties says it is over. It takes 2 to be in a marriage.

However, they may express this in action. For example,a marriage might as well be over when there is no intimacy for 3 months straight without medical issues.

Ultimately, it depends on the full context.

How do you know when to leave a marriage?

If your spouse has left you in a marriage, then you should consider leaving the marriage out of self respect.

It takes a minimum of 2 people to be in a marriage.

If you are feeling unhappy inside the marriage, leaving your marriage will not necessarily make you happy.

Getting into a new relationship with another person will still involve at least 50% of the cause of your unhappiness.

Consider assessing the real reason or underlying issues behind your unhappiness and working on yourself before leaving.

5 Tricks to Fix Your Marriage ❤️

Want to know how to fix your marriage using 5 simple tricks that work 100% of the time?

You see people, including your spouse, are predictable.

That is to say you too can learn a few tricks to attract the love you deserve and desire.

I have to assume that you are experiencing a crisis in your marriage now and that must feel terrible to live in that kind of misery.

Your spouse has probably shut down and is using these moments to emotional abuse you and your marriage.

Use these 5 simple tricks to turn all that around and fix your marriage.

How to Fix Your Marriage Using 5 Simple Tricks

(1) Relax

Rejection breeds obsession.

So the feeling of rejection that you are experiencing at the moment will naturally give you the illusion that the world is about to end.

You and I know that it couldn’t be further from the truth.

So the first step is for you to take back the control of your emotion

And keep in mind and prepare that more triggers will show up temporarily to make you lose it.

Be determined to stay in control.

Here is good book to read as you do…

(2) Listen & Give

This is a marriage and you should always only go into relationships to give; not give and take.

The very act of complaining shows that you are in the taking mode and as you can see, it’s working against you.

Sure it’s not easy to “give” to a person who is not giving love back to you but I am not asking you to give love.

But you need to find opportunities to give.

So you have to listen effectively in order to determine what will be received when you give.

For example, if a spouse is shut down, they are asking for space and that’s an opportunity to “give” some space.

Here is another article: Marriage Separation Advice

In fact, I would argue that you also need that space to regain back your emotional control and escape potential emotional abuse.

Remember.. No one can abuse you emotionally unless you allow it.

Focusing on giving has a direct correlation with fixing your marriage successfully but it must accompany a generous level of patience.

How much you give has a lagging and not a leading indication in your marriage.

(3) Avoid Predictable Reactions

You are responsible for your actions and your reactions are your actions.

Essentially, you don’t get to say “he or she made me do it.”

You are an adult and…

Therefore you are responsible for your actions even when you are not willing to take responsibility.

But you are in a better position of control when you take responsibility without confusing it with guilt and/or self-blame.

When a spouse shuts down, it tends to create triggers for overreaction in many aspects.

So one of the tricks you can use to fix your marriage is to identify scenarios where you would normally overreact and simply do the opposite.

This trick is not a one size fits all.

If you are normally dormant in reacting, then you should gain courage and speak up using words.

But say what you want to say once and leave it there. Arguments will create an undesirable effect.

The idea of this trick is to not be predictable; being predictable kill attraction.

If you can successfully make your spouse wonder why you act the way you act, it will build attraction and with patience, you will fix the marriage.

(4) Detach from Feelings

You are probably feeling like your spouse is no longer in love with you right?

Well first of all, know that feelings are temporary in nature and tend to exaggerate the reality of what’s going on.

So start with how you feel… you are probably exaggerating naturally.

And if you are not exaggerating, your spouse has probably expressed that feeling in words. “I am not in love.”

The in-love is a feeling and it reflects hurt; that’s okay because that can be fixed.

In-love is not love… that’s just butterflies.

And you can probably figure why he or she feels that way at the moment; it’s temporary if you use trick #3… RELAX.

It is better to not get attached to how you feel and your spouses’ expression of how they feel.

Instead, focus on creating a new alternate experience and be patient because it will create a lagging indication and not a leading indication.

That means you will see moments that feel like your effort is not reflecting but that’s a feeling; focus on giving.

But don’t forget to give to yourself too.

(5) Avoid Approval Seeking Behaviors

Some are very quick to apologize but there is a problem with that.

There is blurry line between:

  • Apologies
  • Seeking Approval and
  • Manipulation

These, including apology itself, are not attractive behaviors and it is better in a marriage and relationships to focus on changed behavior.

Changed behavior is the best apology and it’s also attractive as it makes you less predictable in the eyes of your spouse.

You should only apologize once if you feel you should and only if your spouse specifically asks for it.

Think about it, if you have to apologize over and over, you are probably not going to get a different result that you desire with doing the same thing over and over.

In general, avoid approval seeking behavior as it indicates lack confidence and that’s very unattractive at subconscious levels.

BONUS TRICK: Patience

You are not meeting your spouse for the first time so fixing your marriage will be a process.

But it’s worth it because of the level of personal growth that comes with giving over and over when it seems like you won’t receive.

It’s worth the process and your marriage will last that much longer.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“I need help.

I have a wife and she doesn’t talk to me near her mom and dad.

She says she is shy but sometimes she talks to me and sometimes she doesn’t.

Only sometimes she doesn’t talk to other guys but I don’t know if she loves me.

She says she does but I don’t believe it.”

Enjoy the video.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

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I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

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It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

How can I fix my marriage by myself?

You can fix your marriage by yourself when you put the focus in fixing and working on yourself.

How do you rebuild your marriage?

You can rebuild your marriage by treating your spouse like you just met them; get to know the evolving person.

What are the signs of a failing marriage?

Toxic arguments and broken down communication gaps are probably the biggest signs of a failing marriage; especially when your spouse shuts down.

How do you fix your marriage without talking about it?

The arts and science of attraction is key to fixing your marriage; it requires minimum use of words and that’s not until you see signs of better vibes in your marriage.

How long do you try to fix your marriage?

There is no set rule outside for as long as you are attracted to your spouse; but also as long as they are still available.

Keep in mind that fixing your marriage if done right is almost synonymous to fixing yourself.