In this lesson, you will discover the real answer to this age-old question (Is my wife cheating?) and why the answer is probably not what you need before these 10 questions.
Nonetheless, I will give you the answer.
We are sorry that you have found yourself in this space with your marriage. We want to help and this article will be a great start.
Warning! Do not read anything else about cheating suspicions until you read this article in its entirety. You will break your home if you do.
With that being said, in this previous post, we shared 10 signs that your wife just slept with someone else.
We created that article but there is a problem that reading that article can potentially create and that’s turning you into an FBI agent in your own marriage.
What happens after reading these types of articles is the initiation of the vicious cycle, rabbit hole and urge to start looking for more information on how to catch your wife with another man.
It will never be enough.
There is usually a complete neglect for the psychological factors involved when you find yourself in this space of cheating and infidelity suspicions.
What If Your Wife Cheated?
This question is a bigger question that we want you to answer before you embark on the painful journey of finding out if your wife cheated.
There is a difference between those 2 questions; “Is your wife cheating?” and “What if your wife cheated?”.
But both questions are just as painful because the subject of the matter is still “cheating.”
And we can’t afford to manipulate you out of wondering if this has, in fact, happened because you have your reasons for the suspicion.
We can groom the mind in the direction that’s healthy over time but we can’t just format it like a computer disk if this is an actual concern.
So what if she cheated?
As painful as that question is to process, what would you do? That answer is more important than finding out if she’s actually cheating.
Are You Satisfied With Your Findings?
In an ideal world, you would check out all the signs that the gurus provide and your findings would indicate that your wife is not cheating.
But does that really satisfy the root cause of your concerns?
When you suggest to the husband of these modern days the possibility of being insecure, they get very defensive.
Insecurity is one issue but the tendency to get very defensive quickly is another behemoth issue all together.
By default, the root cause of the quest to know if your wife is cheating is insecurity.
The confusion comes when you think that the possibility of your insecurity is a crime that negates the possibility that your wife could also be cheating.
Two things can be true at the same time.
So if your findings say that she is not cheating, the human mind will tend to keep looking for answers that align more with the suspicion.
And if your findings indicate that she has been cheating, what would you do?
Therefore the only answer you should be looking for is these…
10 Questions Before Finding Out If She Is Cheating Or Not …
- “What if your wife is cheating?”
- If she’s cheating, what would be the next step?
- Would that hurt and to what extent?
- Would you leave the marriage?
- If you decide to stay, under what condition?
- What condition is healthy for you to stay in a marriage with a cheater?
- What about healing from the wound of that level of betrayal?
- What about healing from not being in bondage of always wondering if she’s still cheating?
- Is total redemption from the effects of a cheating wife even possible?
- How do I stop wondering if my wife is cheating?
Here Is An Example of A Good Reason For Cheating Concerns
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A reader reached out to us. He thinks his wife is cheating.
According to him, she was never a social person. But recently, she has been hanging out late on random nights after work with co-workers.
Before his suspicions, she would call or text if she was going to be late for any reason but it’s getting really bad these days.
One day, after texting and calling her, looking for her and even reaching out to her family, with no response, he was forced to trace her to the bar around her workplace.
Eventually, she ran into her car and just waited long enough for her. She eventually came out of a male co-workers’ car.
When they talked about it, she claimed that she was too drunk to come home right away so she decided to just hang out and talk with the male co-worker in his car.
Now… is there enough information to confirm what he has been suspecting? No.
Is She Right Or Wrong?
… to even be in these compromising positions of hanging out, getting drunk around male friends and co-workers who she is obviously very comfortable with?
Whatever your answer is would be correct. You have the right to be right.
Is it possible that his wife is cheating on him? Yes.
Is it possible that she is not cheating at all? Yes.
Which answer is more probable? Your outlook on life will be the lens of choice here.
None of the answers is relevant to the real issue at hand which is the fact that your wife has found a safer zone outside of your marriage.
Is it your fault? Blame, guilt, judgement and condemnations are irrelevant to a healthy way forward.
A bigger issue is also that you are now operating out of fear and not faith. This will kill every ounce of attraction left in your marriage.
If you care for her, your goal should be one of these two different goals; to attract her back or let her go to set yourself free.
It just so happens that letting her go will increase the chances of attracting her back as we all know that the streets are not safe for anyone.
But it takes certain types of experience for some people to find out.
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The worst thing you can do is to continue to go down the rabbit hole of being an FBI or CIA agent in the sanctity of your own home.
That’s never going to be fun and it will never create a positive fruit for your own life. We understand that a cheating wife won’t do that either.
However, you are better off working with the law of attraction. Focus on yourself and you will attract what’s best for you, including the best out of your wife.
If she’s just naturally a cheater (which is possible), you will also attract that information in a more healthy way that will allow you to move forward in the most healthy way.
At least, you won’t be missing out on a fun life until that happens.
Seeking individual counseling, coaching and therapy is also not a bad idea in this space because this is going to be easier said than done.
It can be very hard to just relax when you have real suspicions.
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