Ladies, few things in life feel worse than the nagging suspicion that your husband is cheating on you………other than to find out that’s actually the case.
There are a ton of little telltale signs that you may be able to spot that will start your womanly radar ticking.
Some of your man’s actions may end up being innocent enough, but at other times, where there’s smoke, there could be infidelity fire.
Cheating can be in the mind only, purely emotional, or physical, or a combination of all three.
Just like every marriage is different, so too is every case of cheating.
We won’t quote statistics, but studies show that a lot of men (and women for that matter) do contemplate cheating in some way at some point. It’s one way to explain why the nation’s divorce rate currently hovers at around 50 percent.
So, no matter what your degree of suspicion is when it comes to your husband and what’s in his mind, there are a number of things to keep an eye out for.
Don’t take them as gospel by themselves that cheating is going on, but if you see a lot of what follows in your marriage, it may be time for the “we need to talk” intervention.
Frustration in the marriage is one common trigger; the cheater may make several attempts to solve problems to no avail.
Maybe they had second thoughts about getting married or they were jealous over the attention given to a new baby and neither had the skill set to communicate these feelings.
Perhaps the straying spouse has childhood baggage — neglect, abuse, or a parent who cheated — that interferes with his or her ability to maintain a committed relationship.
Less often, the cheater doesn’t value monogamy, lacks empathy, or simply doesn’t care about the consequences.
We will take a look at a number of risk factors and causes for cheating, but it’s important to point out upfront that a partner doesn’t cause their spouse to cheat. Whether it was a cry for help, an exit strategy, or a means to get revenge after being cheated on themselves, the cheater alone is responsible for cheating.
1. He’s suddenly very interested in his appearance.
If your husband was previously indifferent to his appearance and is now spending more time than usual on his hair and clothes, it could be a sign that he’s trying to impress someone else.
He may also be working out more, or paying more attention to his grooming habits in general.
2. He’s working longer hours or taking more business trips.
If your husband’s work schedule has suddenly changed and he’s spending more time at the office or going on more business trips, it could be a sign that he’s cheating.
He may be using work as an excuse to meet someone else or to spend time away from home.
3. He’s become more distant and withdrawn.
If your husband is suddenly acting distant and withdrawn, it could be a sign that he’s cheating.
He may be less interested in talking to you or spending time with you. He may also seem preoccupied and distracted when you are together.
he’s cheating. He may be buying gifts for someone else, or he may be paying for activities that he wouldn’t normally spend money on.
4. He’s being secretive and evasive.
If your husband is being secretive and evasive, it could be a sign that he’s cheating.
He may be hiding his phone or computer from you, or deleting texts and emails without reading them.
He may also be reluctant to share information about his whereabouts or who he’s been spending time with.
5. He’s got a new group of friends.
If your husband has suddenly started hanging out with a new group of friends, it could be a sign that he’s cheating.
He may be spending more time with them than with you, or he may be secretive about who they are and what they do together.
6. He’s acting differently around you.
If your husband is acting differently around you, it could be a sign that he’s cheating.
He may be more critical of you, or he may be more distant and withdrawn.
He may also seem more interested in sex, or he may be less interested in sex.
7. He’s spending more money than usual.
If your husband is spending more money than usual, it could be a sign that he’s cheating.
He may be buying gifts for someone else, or he may be paying for activities that he wouldn’t normally spend money on.
8. What are those charges on the credit card?
If you monitor your monthly credit card statements and you start to see things pop up that you don’t recognize, they may be harmless, or they could be signs of monkey business that’s afoot.
If you can’t match up the expense with the story, that’s a problem. Also, if he’s now paying in cash for things that used to be charged, that’s a money monkey business concern as well.
9. He wants you to stop doing nice things for him.
Sometimes known as the Catholic guilt syndrome. If you’re being kind and considerate, as relationships should be, it could be revving up the conflict in him if he’s thinking about cheating or already doing so.
10. Cheat on me once, shame on you. Cheat on me twice, shame on me.
A spouse who has cheated in the past and gotten caught is more likely to think they can get away by doing a better job of cheating the second time around. If your spouse has a history of cheating, and you suspect cheating is happening again, it may be time to make that spouse a part of your history instead.
Why Do Husbands Cheat?
There are a lot of reasons that husbands cheat on their wives. Sometimes it has to do with the husband’s own insecurities or feeling like he isn’t good enough for his wife.
Sometimes cheating is a way to get revenge after an argument or disagreement. And sometimes, husbands cheat simply because they’re curious or they want to experience something new.
You are about to discover the 5 physical signs your wife is cheating.
Cheating and/infidelity is a terrible experience for a marriage and relationship.
It kills marriages, and more importantly…
It’s a betrayal and it goes very deep beyond just the moment it happens, the relationship, just one person’s life.
It’s something that causes deep-rooted damages to a person and getting through it can be very difficult.
So if you’ve experienced any kind of cheating, caught your wife cheating or you feeling like your wife is cheating, you may want to engage a professional to make sure that you go through the proper healing process necessary.
If you don’t, you will spread the damages into other aspects of your life, such as your legacy, your children, and everyone that you ever get into any kind of relationship with.
With that being said, Let’s get into 5 Physical Signs Your Wife Is Cheating:
1st physical sign that your wife is cheating – She is always too tired to have sex.
So you’ve noticed in recent times that your wife doesn’t like taking phone calls in front of you.
She would excuse herself or sometimes never even excuse herself.
She wanders away into other rooms and she tends to be very quiet while she is taking these calls.
This could be a sign that she is cheating. Clearly, she is not wanting you to hear what she is having conversations about.
Now if your birthday is approaching, she may be taking calls related to plans of a surprise birthday party for you.
But again if you have 3 or 4 of the other signs on this list in your situation, chances are it’s not about your birthday party.
It means you should pay attention, right?
Now, what is cheating?
In this case, cheating means she is doing something she wouldn’t want to do in front of you as mabe related to an inappropriate relationship with another person in a romantic way outside of your relationship or marriage.
So again, if she’s taking phone calls and…
She’s having to go into other rooms and not wanting you to hear what those phone calls are about, and she never comes back to say…
“Hey, that was Jill on the other line. I was talking to her about work stuff from earlier today.”
If she is not doing that then that is something you should pay attention to and ask questions.
“Who was that? Oh okay, you don’t want me to know?”
And make sure you keep the conversation light-headed if you are asking that question so you don’t shut her off.
Because again if you are too serious, you’re gonna take away the spark from your relationship and marriage in general.
You’re revealing yourself way too much and that’s more likely going to backfire and work completely against your purpose…
It’s going to come off as insecurity and that’s not attractive.
4th physical sign that your wife is cheating – She’s too paranoid to leave her phone.
So, if you’ve noticed that she’s always taking her phone everywhere she goes and that she is never, in recent times left the phone on the bed
….just hanging out there on the table.
She just seems like she hugs up on the phone and she holds on to it everywhere and every room she goes in the house, that could be a sign that she is hiding something.
That could also be a sign of cheating.
Now, we don’t know what she is hiding. So as I’ve said always in this lesson, we don’t know what she is hiding but again…
If you’ve noticed 3 or 4 other signs present in your relationship in recent times and you’re in fact feeling insecure about your relationship with your wife, then this is something that you should pay attention to.
“Why would I pay attention to it?”
Because again a lot of time as men, we get complacent. We don’t pay attention. We take things for granted.
And then you know, we may be losing our woman just like that without it necessarily being a matter of her being out to hurt you.
It’s just how life happens.
Again remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed.
So if you’re not giving to her and she finds herself in a situation where other people are giving to her; filling her love tank in an emotional way, you may end up losing your woman.
I would pay attention to this and find ways to attract her back to me.
Just in case you can relate to this, this is not a moment to accuse and attack her, this is your moment to figure out what is going on like…
“Yeah, there is something missing. Let me attract my woman back”.
Why would I do that? Why would I need to give to her?
Because I know enough that whatever I give to women, she multiplies which means she will reciprocate in multiple folds.
So, with that being said, if she’s too paranoid to leave her phone around, that could be a sign that she’s cheating.
Keep in mind that it’s just a sign that you need to step up your game.
Could your wife just be a psychopath cheater?
Yes it could be but for the most part, that’s not the case.
We’re mostly human beings who are just trying to live and we need emotional validation a lot of times in the journey of life.
That goes for both men and women.
And in a marriage, things can get stale very fast. We could get complacent.
5th physical sign that your wife is cheating – She’s expressed it verbally.
It couldn’t possibly be that she is simply not happy about the relationship.
The only reason in this world why she could be angry is that she is or wants to cheat on you.
23, She opened a different bank account
Why can’t you just have one joint account as a married couple?
It must be because she’s a cheater and she wants to make secret spendings.
Or everyone still needs a level of individuality?
24, She cheated before
“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
Ever heard that before?
If considered that people do grow from bad behavior, it creates a different angle for this conversation entirely… right?
25, She avoids your friends
It could be that your friends have already caught her in the midst of bad behavior and she’s avoiding them.
She could also outrightly not like your friends and can’t stand being around them.
26, Drastic change in Sexual Desires
If she suddenly gets turned off from being intimate with you, she must be channeling that to a secret boyfriend.
On the flip side, if she suddenly wants to start having sex like rabbits, she must be learning from somewhere… a secret boyfriend?
27, She removed her relationship status from social media
Of course, she did.
She wouldn’t want her secret fling to get jealous of the type of love you are showing her at home.
28, She attempts to spend important holidays without you
She is in love with a secret boyfriend so she’d rather spend valentine’s with the person she is in love with.
Don’t forget that she still loves you at least; she is just not in love with you any longer.
29, She gains sudden desire to go to the gym
Why must she look good and fit suddenly after all this time that she hasn’t cared to look good for you?
She must be up to no good.
She could also be finding and discovering her better self by investing in some fitness effort.
30, Replies your text messages in one-word
A woman who is in love with you tends to want to share everything with you even when they are not the talker in the relationship.
So if she just responds with one-word answers, you may find yourself wondering what she is up to with the rest of the time.
A secret boyfriend? Maybe?
31, She references friends you’ve never met
The real question is why won’t she just bring or invite them around for you to meet?
As a married person, do you really need to keep a separate life outside your marriage or spouse?
32, Her phone is always silent
If her phone rang out loud every time she receives those evil texts, how would she keep it a secret?
That can ruin the excitement she gets from her secret affairs.
So it makes sense that she would silence the phone so that you won’t randomly pick up and find out the obvious.
33, She claims to be too busy to talk on the phone when she is at work
This is similar to the one-word text replies.
What happened to the good ol’ days when she couldn’t wait to talk to you on the phone?
Clearly all that energy could be going somewhere inappropriate.
34, She asked you for space
What does a married woman need space for?
Married women are supposed to be virtuous women of God and never get tired or too lazy to carry the emotional weight of a marriage.
After-all, she is a supper woman.
35, She takes every opportunity to not be around you
She hates you now; she is cheating.
If you are in a state of reviewing this and actually find it as prophetic as opposed to the sarcastic piece that it is, you deserve a wife who is cheating on you.
There is a good chance that you have enabled her bad behaviors if in fact, she is cheating…
She may not be cheating at all; but she obviously is not in love with you.
You should focus on learning these terrible insecurity you have just displayed here
…and build yourself because you are about to push your wife away forever with your fear.
In life, you attract what you fear the most.
On the flip side, if you have paid attention to none or just a few of these 35 (many times just normal) behaviors, congratulations as you have a better chance of working on and getting your marriage back.
Don’t worry about blank suspicions and signs that are obviously not backed by facts. Focus on attracting her back in love with you.
A woman who is in love does not leave, and damn sure has no room for affection physically or emotionally with another person.
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Frequently Asked Question [FAQ]
How do you know when your wife cheated on you?
There are 35 signs we have identified but there is no single one that can be a good indicator. You will need at least 18 of the warning signs here to call a red flag.
What to do if you suspect your wife is cheating?
If you suspect that your wife is cheating, you need to seek counseling and find out why you would attract a cheater as a wife before doing anything else.
How do you tell if wife is lying about cheating?
It sounds like you have not caught her red-handed which means there is a good chance that you are showcasing insecurity. If you are so sure, refocus back on finding out why you would be attracting a cheater as a wife.