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“How Do You Tell If Your Wife STILL LOVES YOU After SEPARATION?”

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Question: “How Do You Tell If Your Wife STILL LOVES YOU After SEPARATION?”

There are a couple of things that I wanted to mention here.

First of all, you don’t try to tell, it’s not worth it.

Here’s why,

I know you want your wife back or your family back and wanna make things work again,

…but we’re talking about emotional and psychological factors that play a big role in this situation.

If you don’t show that anyone else wants you or if you don’t show that you have options, there’s a good chance that your wife doesn’t want you back.

At least not yet.

So, How do you tell if your wife still loves you after separation?

You wait until she tells you.

That’s number one.

When she tells you that “I still love you”, believe her.

Even at that, you don’t want to just jump at it and like “I’m excited. She still loves me.”

You don’t wanna do that because that will backfire but if she hasn’t told you there’s a good chance that she’s not in love with you.

By the way, if your wife was ever your wife and she ever told you she loves you, she probably still loves you,

…But that’s a completely different thing from, she’s still in love with you.

Does she feel like she’s in love with you right now?

There’s a good chance that she’s not.

It depends on how particular you are about that.

You don’t wanna make that a big deal, if you make it a big deal that becomes a big deal.

If she’s not in love with you right now, she’s just not in love with you right now.

It’s temporary.

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Depending on your level of patience and if you’ve been working on yourself, that is what’s going to determine if she will ever come back to you,

…or if she will ever say to you that she loves you.

See, a woman will not tell you she loves you if she doesn’t feel like she’s in love with you.

Love and Being in Love with you are two different things.

Loving a person is the action thing that you do.

There are multiple different meanings of love but for the purpose of the scope of this video,

…we’re talking about being in love with you, or she loves you.

She can tell you should love you and not be in love with you.

That really doesn’t do you any good.

The real question you’re trying to get answered is that,

…is she in a place where she can come back to you, if she can come back home or if you can go back home, because you’re in the midst of a separation.

I would say you’re worried about the wrong things.

So first of all, wait for her to tell you.

There are a lot of things that will happen before she actually gets to tell you that she loves you again.

Which means she feels like she’s in love with you.

A lot of things that have to align depending on the damages that your marriage has encountered over time.

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How far is the damage?

We don’t know, I don’t know unless I actually coach you personally and I talked to you.

So I don’t know the extent of the damages but either way, it doesn’t matter.

You’re gonna have to have what I call infinite patience.

You have to have patience.

That’s extremely difficult when you don’t have a personal purpose and mission in life that basically preoccupies your time,

… that you don’t really have time to be wondering if she still loves you or not.

So if you’re wondering if she still loves you or not, there’s a good chance that she’s not attracted to you right now.

There’s a good chance that you have too much time in your hands and you’re busy wondering if she still loves you.

You need to find a way to deliberately create attraction between you and your wife in a way that she’s the one that starts to wonder about you.

If she starts to wonder about you, that’s directly equivalent to still in love with you, wanting to get back with you, wanting to move back home or asking you to come back home.

Basically saying, “I love you. I want us to work on it now”.

Now, how patients can you possibly be in order to wait for that to happen?

If you don’t feel like you can be that patient, that’s exactly why she doesn’t love you right now.

Basically, you don’t respect yourself.

You don’t have self respect, you don’t have self love, you don’t have a healthy level of pride about self love.

To the extent where, I’m not telling you to be arrogant.

That’s not what I’m telling you.

I’m just trying to tell you that she doesn’t want you if you don’t come off as confident about yourself.

She will probably not want you, she’s not the only one that won’t want you.

Everybody else would not want you if they feel like you’re lacking confidence because there’s something that all of us are attracted to.

Even us men as far as being attracted to a woman, we love a confident woman.

You love a confident woman.

She also loves a confident man.

So how can you showcase confidence?

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How can you showcase confidence that “well, she’s gonna come back to you. She belongs with you”

See that attitude?

It’s not an attitude as negative or arrogant or nasty or narcissistic in any way.

It’s an attitude of confidence that you know that God has the best for you and any time you see her,

…I just showcase that by still being loving.

I’m not saying you love her, but being loving, friendly and giving her the freedom to decide when she wants to come back to you.

That’s how you tell if your wife still loves you.

How do you tell if your wife still loves you after separation?

Wait for her.

The real question is that, “how can I tell if you still love yourself?”

I can’t tell that you still love yourself.

You may love yourself but I can’t tell you still love yourself enough for her to love you,

…because you are still asking this question, How do you tell if your wife still loves you after separation?

How about getting the attitude of,

“she loves you anyway, I know she loves me anyway but I’m gonna wait for her to tell me, and I’m gonna move on until then. I’m gonna live my life,a blissful, happy, fruitful, purposeful, mission driven life”

…Because that’s exactly what’s gonna attract that.

That’s all I have for you on this video.

Hopefully you’ve been enlightened and educated.

Go to LolaAndOla.com and go get your hands on the book ”Get My Marriage Back”.

You need to read the book 10 to 15 times.

If you cherry pick around videos, it won’t work.

You need to learn the skills of attracting a woman even if she is separated from you,

…by the way, it’s easier if he’s separated from you but you have to learn the skill set.

That’s all I have, see you on the next one, peace.

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“How Do I Deal With An ANNOYING WIFE?”

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

Question: “How do I deal with an Annoying Wife?”

How do I respond to an annoying wife?

How do I react to an annoying wife?

That question is quite pregnant with lots of things going on in it and we need to make sure we understand that question.

Where it’s coming from before we can properly address it.

Why are you attracting an annoying wife is really the first question.

Your wife is a new person every day.

Meaning they evolve, they grow and there are things going on with them personally, it’s a complete, total, different human being.

So there are gonna be things going on that you as another human being will not necessarily understand.

Probably will not understand or will never understand.

That’s okay.

You need to be okay with that in order to be in a relationship with another person.

How much more a Wife.

So, how do I deal with an Annoying Wife?

First of all, know that that’s okay.

You’re feeling the way you’re feeling right now but the first thing you wanna do is make sure you separate a couple of things.

There are two ways to respond or react that I wanna basically highlight right now.

It’s not about right and wrong so I’m not going to spend a lot of time on the right way or the wrong way to react.

What you want to focus on is the most profitable way or the most rewarding way to react to a person that you love, coming off as annoying.

The keyword phrase there again is “coming off”.

Is she just annoying or she’s coming off as annoying?

Was that based on something that’s going on with you personally because you may be in the space also, that everything is kind of ticking you off irritating.

Especially from the person that’s closest to you, the person that you love the most or the person that gives you the most affection,

…or the person that shares the most space with you in life that’s probably your wife.

With that being said, is it annoying or is it not annoying?

Let me acknowledge that you do feel how you feel and it’s absolutely valid.

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It is coming off as annoying, and that’s the fact.

Does that mean they are annoying?

Maybe not, maybe it’s about you, but that’s something you want to assess.

That’s something you want to make sure you are paying attention to.

Let me say it like this, there are 2 ways you want to look at it.

The first way is, first of all look at it as “What’s the best case scenario in this situation?”

What’s going on with you, with the dynamics of the relationship?

That’s a dynamic between your relationship, there’s something going on there, and you want to make sure you dig in deeper to that.

But the first way is, look at the best case scenario.

The second way is that you could react purely based on your feelings, and usually that doesn’t come off right,

Because your feelings are usually exaggerated forms of reality.

It’s never accurate, it’s based on so many different signals that could be coming into the dynamics of your relationship.

You wanna make sure that you’re paying attention to your feelings.

Understand that it’s absolutely valid but your reaction and how you respond, she probably shy away from that a lot.

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What does that require?

That’s gonna take a lot of work, patience and self control on your part because how you feel is how you feel, it’s annoying and naturally you want to overreact.

Why do we say overreact?

Maybe that’s not even an overreaction, maybe that’s offensive to you when I say overreaction,

…because the behavior of your wife right now feels like it warrants you reacting the way you feel like you need to react,

But the keyword over there again is “feelings” and feelings are never accurate.

There’s too many signals that come into what makes up your feelings, it could be how you are feeling today,

…Could be what’s going on or it could be the past week,

…Could be your finances, the personal finances.

Do you feel emasculated, or do you just feel like you’re not reaching your goals right now?

Why is it that you’re missing something there on how you could respond even in the midst of the worst chaos.

Even in the midst of the worst crisis ever, how would you remain a king in that situation?

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So the best way to always react and respond when you feel (keyword:feeling),

…that your wife has been annoying, is to look at the best case scenario.

What’s the best case scenario?

She didn’t realize she’s annoying you and she really doesn’t mean to hurt you,

…She loves you, but yet maybe she’s going through something.

This is something you need to assess.

Take the time to assess why she’s feeling the way she feels or feeling like she has to be annoying to you or coming off as annoying to you.

Whatever that is, that’s the best case scenario and you need to do that work.

Figure that out, take the time to figure it out and by default patience and time is applied to whatever is going on and,

…with that kind of work put into your relationship, you will have the best relationships.

The best of relationships essentially, that most people will envy and will only dream about.

When I say a relationship,I mean marriage as well.

It’s the same thing, take the time to assess what’s going on.

How do I deal with an Annoying Wife?

Look at the best case scenario and see how you may have been attracting a wife who is coming off as annoying.

That’s where you need to put your work.

Don’t put your work into trying to change her, because again you are part of the reasons why.

You’ve created the dynamics in your relationship.

You are at least 50% of that. 

That’s where you need to put the focus on.

How could you apply some things to make things better, to attract the right type of wife?

That’s your responsibility and when I say responsibility, it has nothing to do with fault or guilt or none of that.

With that being said, go to LolaAndOla.com and you need to read that book 10 to 15 times.

Go grab it.

You could claim a free book and we’ll ship it to you, all you have to do is pay for the shipping.

I’ll see you on the next one and peace.

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