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Question: “Fidelity, Marriage & Holiness”
In particular we are talking about holiness.
So there’s this video that John Gray said:
“For those who need to hear me say this. The name of the Lord is holy. The standard is holiness. The word of God is utterly holy. He is not to be toyed with. Church is not a gain and pastors are held to the highest of standards, moral integrity, character when no one is looking, fidelity and faithfulness in marriage and for me, not submitting to process, not staying accountable and not utilizing the voices available to teach me the tools have caused me to make bad decisions.”
For a minute I got confused there, I thought he was gonna say “Touch not my anointed”.
But if you read between the lines, you will know that that’s really what he meant.
I’m just used to “touch not my anointed one” because that’s how our own Nigerian pastors…
That’s how they say “don’t judge me, how dare you” that’s what I was getting from there but in a different form.
I was expecting him to say “Touch not my anointed”, the usual one that they say.
But he did say it in a different form and then at the end of the day he is saying he didn’t take accountability,
…I mean his whole message is confusing.
Many pastors I know are really struggling with their marriages and the only common thing with them is because they are all pastors.
And these are all extremely huge pastors.
Big pastors, some of them are still very loud about how a woman should be submissive.
That’s to support the point we are making here.
It’s bigger than just your holiness Bro.
Maybe striving for holiness is better than holiness because Holiness is not attainable.
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Can we just be honest about that?
But we are not gonna say like that because people should still strive to be better people.
I believe in people striving to be better people than this holiness thing.
The reason why I kick against like that, I know to certain church people they are gonna be like “what do you mean?” I get it.
Your chest comes out when you hear “Holiness is not good enough” I get it but I didn’t mean to say that,
Just like John Gray did not mean to say “touch not my anointed” but that’s actually what he said by saying holiness.
It’s not relevant, that’s the point.
So Fidelity, Marriage & Holiness.
You’re right, you’re wrong.
It clearly doesn’t matter and I know maybe I didn’t bring enough samples but there’s more than enough samples out there,
…and as we said earlier, a lot of pastors suffer in marriage or their wife is suffering in the marriage at least,
Because their outlook on life is this holiness thing and they can’t live up to that standard unfortunately.
John Gray cannot live up to this standard.
He is still busy presenting that he can’t.
Talking about Fidelity, Marriage & Holiness, we are asking something simple, as simple as faithfulness to your wife.
We are not even asking him but he decided to come and share that, after the blogs broke that out.
And you’re talking about holiness Bro?
You’re manipulating people, you are saying holiness is the standard.
Standard of what?
Nobody is arguing about that.
That’s the point I’m making.
Nobody is arguing that holiness is the standard when talking about the bible, but we are talking about a real human being in your house,
… that you just hurt because you told them that you are gonna be faithful to them and your lifestyle and you being a pastor and she is also a pastor Mrs,
You can’t even live up to that and you are talking about Fidelity, Marriage & Holiness.
Are you confused or something?
So this is the confusion that’s going on everywhere.
You can see it everywhere.
Keep it simple, with regards to Fidelity, Marriage & Holiness,
Let’s not worry about holiness, let’s not worry about you being God.
Let’s just start with, you’re human.
We just found out that you’re human, you just found out that you are human let’s focus on that.
So remove yourself and don’t worry about the blogs.
Let them go crazy.
See, wise people, the most powerful people in the world will probably let the blogs go crazy.
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They let them knock themselves out and say “Oh what happened, you found out that I slept with your dog yesterday? Knock yourself out okay?”,
…God forbid I didn’t sleep with a dog really.
You know what I’m saying.
Knock yourself out.
Why do you feel the need to come and respond so quickly?
It tells me you are guilty and I don’t even like pointing out guilt, but because we are humans, like we just said,
We are humans so just let it go.
You have to learn how to let go.
Yes they are talking about you right now you are making the news, there was a real video, we get it.
Put out a statement through a PR.
No need to apologize because your apology is useless right now and especially to your wife, sadly.
Your apology is useless and most apologies are useless.
Let’s just put that out like that.
When it comes to the holiness situation with church folks, I don’t even get involved because I don’t consider myself a holy person.
I’m not even gonna sit down there and argue with you.
I just don’t know why I would be fighting.
People who try to present themselves as holiness or a holy person, it’s a waste of energy for the most part.
No one is perfect.
Though you can try to be a better person than you are yesterday.
You can work on that because that’s easier.
Don’t waste your energy on holiness.
It’s a waste of energy honestly and you are not gonna attain it.
Let’s just be practical, it’s never gonna happen as long as you’re human, good luck on that.
Even Jesus was knocked to the wood eventually so who are you, you are not holy.
Stop talking about holiness as the standard.
Who are you?
Holiness can be a bastard.
It becomes pride for some people you know.