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3 Signs My SEPARATED WIFE Wants to RECONCILE

Question: “3 Signs My SEPARATED WIFE Wants to RECONCILE”

Today I want to share with you the “3 Signs My separated wife wants to reconcile”.

So there are three signs that I want to share with you,

…there are probably a couple more signs than three, but these three are the most important as far as I can see.

You didn’t just get here overnight like your separation did not just happen overnight, right?

Things started to happen probably over years, for the most part it’s over a year.

Bottom line is that over a period of time, there was a breakdown in your relationship or in your marriage and it led to a separation.

It’s not a matter of right and wrong as usual, it’s not a matter if who is more right who is more wrong.

It’s about who wants the marriage back and who wants to get back together.

Whoever is the one who wants the marriage back is the one that needs to seemingly do most of the work,

I used the word seemingly very carefully because a lot of time people may be quiet.

They may seem like they shut down and they don’t want the marriage back,

…but they are in fact doing most of the emotional work involved in potentially getting the marriage back.

It’s painful for anyone to want to end a marriage, even if they’re the one initiating in ending the marriage.

It’s a painful thing to go through for both the person who shuts down and the person who got shut down on.

With that being said, let’s get into the 3 Signs:

1. She is friendly.

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So if she’s being friendly, it’s not a 100% green light but it’s somewhat a yellow light.

You know there are certain countries, just in case you don’t know,

There are certain countries in the world that the yellow light comes on first before the green light comes on.

Here in the United States, it’s not like that.

It goes from red to green and then you can take off, but there’s some certain part of the world where it goes to yellow first.

Just like saying “Get ready you’re about to take off” right?

You don’t want to look up for some kind of yellow light and that’s usually when she’s being friendly.

It’s not a guarantee that she’s ready to get back together, but at that point in time, you also can let down your guard.

See, you may think you’re the one that wants the marriage back and you’re the one doing most of the work.

Like I said earlier, that’s not necessarily true.

That would only be true if there is no emotion involved in the situation.

Some people, the way they shut down is by literally expressing to you that they want out,

…some people are by begging that they want to keep the marriage.

You can in fact be saying “I want to keep the marriage”, but in fact you have exited and that’s what caused the breakdown of the marriage (topic for another day).

Again, if she’s being friendly, that could be a sign that she’s ready to reconcile,

…that doesn’t mean you should run towards her and start going crazy.

You’ll find out why I say that in sign number 3.

2. She Spends Time Around You.

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Typically, when somebody is not open to the idea of reconciling, they don’t want to spend time with you.

As a matter of fact, you’ll notice that even if they have to drop off babies, they want to drop off the babies and just keep it moving.

If they have to end up in a situation in the room with you, with other friends, they tend to avoid that,

… because they’re going through the emotional turmoils of the breakdown of the relationship.

They feel hurt, the keyword is Feeling Hurt.

So you don’t want to dwell on the fact that they are hurt or maybe you’re the one that hurt them.

You don’t wanna be too particular about that.

If they feel hurt, validate that and it’s okay, it doesn’t mean you hurt them but they feel hurt.

So that’s typically what happens when a person is exiting a relationship or they’re not in a position to reconcile.

They don’t want to spend time with you.

But with time, if you give them time, they tend to look into the past with a rose gold color lens.

They’ll look at the good things if you stay out of their face, if you give them that time.

So if you’ve given them that time and they start to spend some time with you.

Subconsciously they start to forget the bad experiences that made them decide that they wanted to exist in the first place and they start to spend time with you…

That could be a good sign that they want to reconcile.

3. You Have Worked on Yourself.

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See, it doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re not the one at fault.

It doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re the one that’s been lifting or carrying the marriage or relationship for a long time.

Something happened and usually it’s something about yourself about how you handle yourself emotionally.

We don’t know what that is unless I talk to you personally but something happened for sure 100% that was also part of the reason why the marriage or the relationship broke down.

Whatever that thing that happened, whatever that thing is, you need to figure it out

…and you need to work on yourself first, before you try to reconcile with your wife.

If you don’t, the next breakdown is gonna be worse and it could be a lot more damaging.

One of the things here is that you need to understand that time and patients are part of the formula to reconciling and bringing your marriage back to where you want it to be.

Into bliss and to happiness right.

So don’t shut yourself, don’t shortchange yourself when it comes to the time that’s required to do that,

…work on yourself.

If you’ve made sure that you’ve worked on yourself, you will also find out that sign #1 and #2 probably already started to play out.

Meaning they are being friendly (#1) and then they start to spend time around you (#2).

They could blame it on the children for any other reasons, it’s because of friends,

…but they are okay with the idea of spending time around you.

It’s usually a sign that you’ve worked on yourself, which is sign #3.

Those are the three signs that it may be time that your separated wife wants to reconcile with you.

Just make sure those three things are in place and then you can potentially look for signs to come in and ask for a date or to have a conversation,

But if you don’t see those signs, if you haven’t worked on yourself especially #3, don’t bother.

It’s not worth it to be in a toxic relationship or marriage, it’s just never worth it.

You wanna be in a relationship where people respect each other, where people are absolutely happy.

Giving each other freedom to be in that relationship, it needs to feel like freedom, period.

That’s all I have for you right now.

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That’s 50% horrible statistics of marriages falling apart.

That’s all I for you on this episode, we’ll see on the next one.

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What is Infidelity ❤️ Does it Make Marriage a Mistake⁉️

What is infidelity? In a marriage…

When one party engages in intimate relationships with a person outside of the marriage.

Some call it cheating… some call it an affair, and others call it Infidelity.

Study shows some statistics below… How common is infidelity?

  • 20% of men reported that they cheated sexually
  • 13% of women reported that they cheated sexually
  • 16% of ALL ADULTS reported that they cheated sexually

But under age 30, the numbers are different.

  • 10% of men under 30 reported that they cheated sexually
  • 11% of women under 30 reported that they cheated sexually

General Social Survey 2010–2016 by the National Opinion Research Council – University of Chicago

via PsychologyToday.com

Keep in mind that these are just the reported; a whole lot more will take that secret to their graves.

What is Infidelity in a Marriage? DEADLY

But what I can tell you is that betrayal is human characteristic…

And you should have proper expectations of humans when you marry one.

It is important to NOT lead into marriage with

….the daily fear of cheating, affairs, or infidelity.

That won’t help you.

This is one of those aspects of a marriage where you need God or whatever helps you maintain divine peace.

In addition, an affair can either be physical or emotional; and off course it can be a hybrid of both.

Whether infidelity represents the end of or deal breaker in a marriage is not a rule anywhere.

It completely depends on the parties and the uniqueness of their relationship and the underlying friendship.

Below is a question for us to address matters of infidelity in a marriage once and for all…

“I need to stop being negative and nagging.

I need to learn to listen to him and respect him.

He’s talking about this marriage might be a mistake; I need lots of prayer.”

Just keep in mind that respect, trust and submission are earned.

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Before we dive into more details about infidelity…

Let’s answer the question as it will help with fundamentals.

In order to survive a crisis in any type of relationships

(especially a marriage), you can’t afford to undermine the power of an overall positive attitude.

Therefore if you are dealing with a negative and/or shutdown spouse, it will take a tremendous emotional energy to maintain your cool.

As I said earlier, respect is earned.

Just as trust and submission, all these actions are driven in a marriage as effects and not a cause.

Sure you can deliberately initiate them.

But it will eventually drain you emotionally if you are not aware of the underlying attraction level that initially brought you and you spouse together.

That is to say, if you are not presently attracted to your husband, it won’t last much long if you force yourself to respect him.

So in the long run, you need to address the cause of the low attraction level.

You have to also respect and love yourself enough to attract the type of love you deserve from your spouse.

It is natural for couples to go through this over time as complacency kicks in.

So I am saying that it is natural to take each other for granted over-time.

Is your marriage a mistake?

There is no relationship that is a mistake and here is why.

Every relationship you engage in your life must be regarded as an opportunity to grow.

It’s part of the interpretations you must add to your efforts of positive attitude.

Because that energy will drive a lot more other actions that will drive your spouse to do right by you.

Subsequently, it will propagate energy that will attract the types of relationship and may be another marriage that will serve you.

Can we agree that the marriage you have right now is bad especially if infidelity is involved?

Therefore it’s time to build a brand-new marriage with or without the same and present spouse.

That attitude gives you your best chance of attracting your present spouse to do right by you if that’s in fact what you want.

Effectively, if you lead with the attitude that it “MUST” be the same spouse,

Your desperate energy will push him or her away further.

Sure we all need prayer.

The scripture says….

“Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”

James 2:17 New King James Version (NKJV)

The Real Meaning of Infidelity

The truth of the matter is that infidelity is involved whenever a promise is broken in your marriage.

It doesn’t have to be sexual in nature.

Therefore, any type of promise that was made in your vows no matter how little is seems will result in infidelity.

What is the difference between infidelity and adultery?

Adultery is more specific of a way to describe sexual related betrayal in a marriage.

But it’s an effect.

In order to fix adultery as one of the many types of infidelity, we have to go deeper into causes; Root Cause Analysis.

Of course it’s easier to point the most fingers at the person who engaged sexually with another outside of the marriage.

Most of the infidelity that happens in marriages has nothing to do with sexual behaviors.

However all of the different types of infidelities create resentments and complacency over-time.

For example, if you promised to be there for richer or poorer…

But then catch attitude last week because he was broke financially, that’s a form of infidelity.

In addition, catching negative attitude in the midst of any crisis does not solve it; it expands the emotional effect of it.

So, you’d agree that marriage has probably been infected with infidelity and needs work right?

I am by no means telling you that cheating or having an affair outside of the marriage is any easier to deal with.

All I am saying is that those types tend to be the most obvious to judge people with.

It’s very important that you use that to adjust your perspective in order to attract the love and marriage that you deserve.

Judgment, guilt, and blame will harm you, your relationships and especially any children involved.

Therefore you have to rise above the obvious emotions such anger, resentments, rage that you will naturally feel…

If you are on the receiving end of an infidelity.

That’s going to take work, but it’s doable and it’s your best shot at attracting happiness again.

So should you Stay in the Marriage After Infidelity?

It depends on your particular relationship.

If it’s taking you more than 3 months to at least forgive, you probably should consider separation first.

Because it’s not helpful for any of the parties for the other to live in mystery.

Time apart may just be what you need to appreciate life, the marriage or both again.

That same time apart may help a perpetual adulterer make a decision to nurture what they value…

And have clarity of where he or she belongs (with you or someone else).

Having out in that dark spot for longer than 3 month tends to create more and more emotional damage in you, your spouse and even any children that may be involved.

But marriage is usually not easy to just throw away.

If it was easy, you probably would not have that question.

Ask yourself this question however…

Are you running from your problems obviously entangled up in infidelity right now?

As I have said, the problem is deeper than the effects

Of which some of them are cheating, affairs and infidelity.

Minimum of 50% of this (though not your fault) is your problem.

So if your quick solution is to leave the marriage, you will effectively take 50% of the problem with you.

Hence why 76% of marriages to divorces ends in about 2 years according to many studies.

It will help you ensure that you work on yourself before concluding that leaving is the solution.

How to Practically Rebuild Trust Even After Infidelity

When you first met your spouse, it was natural to trust because attractions high.

It’s easy to be in love and trust a person that you truly don’t know.

The reality is that you couldn’t possible love them though.

That trust was fake in essence.

Now that you are dealing with the after effects and emotions from infidelity, the real work is needed.

Anything that’s worthwhile in life will take work.

It was never practical to trust another human at the level that we do in a marriage.

That’s why I always say, people that say ‘I do’ don’t know what they are doing.

It doesn’t even matter how much pre-marital counseling you have before, you simply couldn’t comprehend what you were about to do.

So I get it

Trust can be hard to rebuild once it has been breached by a spouse but it’s do able.

But, I have to tell.

Holding your marriage and specially your happiness hostage because of trust issues will not help you.

Here are some scriptures that warned you about trust and its application to infidelity recovery…

It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.

Psalm 118:8 ESV

Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord.

Jeremiah 17:5 ESV

You are not even supposed to trust yourself; much less another person.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV

Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.

Proverbs 28:26 ESV

Listen…

It’s natural for you to feel hurt and wallow in the mystery of it for a while.

But it’s time for you to realize that you deserve happiness and take the bulls by the horn.

How?

Leave all your trust issues in the hands of God and start living.

That’s easier said than done but hearing it or reading it from me might as well be the first step in the right direction.

Infidelity can be emotional and even more painful.

Is an adulterer always an adulterer?

You’ve heard the saying, “once a cheater always a cheater.”

That’s absolutely an impossible lie.

It’s a lie that can hold you hostage even long after your spouse has repented due to…

A larger purpose than the seduction and excitement they may have derived from their past transgression.

Here is a quick 2 step-solution to that.

  1. Do the work that will attract him or her to re-commit back into a brand-new marriage with you.
  2. Let go and forgive yourself for attracting the old marriage.
  3. Enjoy your new marriage one day at a time.

As you can see, none of the step has anything to do with putting the focus on fixing your spouse.

The work must be done from the inside to attract what you want on the outside.

What is the main reason for infidelity?

Of course in the long term, loyalty will benefit and create joy as opposed to short-term excitement.

But People cheat mainly for a lack of a larger purpose than the pleasure and excitement of secrecy.

It’s a choice but it’s also a choice that most humans are never too holy to make.

Most people just need the right circumstances to align to find themselves choosing pleasure over loyalty in the short term.

10+ Causes of Infidelity

Circumstances can include but not limited to:

  1. Not receiving enough attention from the significant other,
  2. Inappropriate engagement with friendly acquaintances,
  3. Low self esteem
  4. Immaturity
  5. Background and childhood trauma
  6. Belief system
  7. Low attraction
  8. Unmatched libido level
  9. Retaliation for past transgression

(10) 12…Principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Ephesians 6:12, King James Version

But it’s never your fault when your significant other makes a choice to have an affair.

However you may have helped create one of the circumstances that align the opportunity for short-term human excitement.

They could have also chosen to rise above.

But judgment, blame, and guilt or self-guilt won’t help.

It’s time to understand “WHY” at a deeper level and attract an infidelity free brand new marriage.

The best chances of a lifetime joy is with a repented spouse because you are now both equipped with knowledge

Which becomes power when you both apply to a daily loving marriage for the rest of your lives.

Treat it on a daily basis…

Because obsession with the past and tomorrow will drown your relationships and especially your marriage.

Marriage counseling can help a great deal with communication skills… but check out the success statistics of marriage counseling here

If friendship with an opposite sex that you are personally friends with, an ex or a blast from the past is involved,

Respect yourself by allowing your spouse to go and sort that out before starting your brand-new marriage with them.

No one with healthily give you what you can’t give yourself.

Therefore if you can’t love and respect yourself, your spouse can’t love and respect you.

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Trying To Save Marriage Wife Said It’s Too Late? ❤️ Try this 3 “UNUSUAL” Tricks

In this lesson, you will discover the 3 SECRET tricks that I used when I was trying to save my marriage when my wife said it was too late.

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QUESTION ⁉️ “It all sounds great but this evil will not help me with my wife; when she says she’s done, it means she’s done.”

The first sign we notice in this message is the fact that a husband is throwing hands up in the air claiming there is no way for his wife to behave.

When you approach saving your marriage with that energy, you will attract more of it.

What if you accept that you are confused and it’s just time to learn something new about making your wife open for you to penetrate mentally and physically?”

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TRICK #1 – Stop Confusing Words with Action

If you are like most people, you’ve caught feeling and you are feeling rejected because your wife says she’s done.

Never mind what she says; what about her actions?

Is she still living in the same house with you?  

If she is still connected to you in one way or the other, even if it’s because of the kids, I would stop panicking.

It’s common mistake in relationships especially marriage to confuse her words with her actions.

Relax and follow her actions.

Regardless of what the action may be, relax; you are the king.

TRICK #2 – Admit that the Marriage May Be Too Late to Save

Once you relax, she will become curious again and want to initiate engagement.

Use that opportunity to show case you new relaxed man who is sure of himself and require no validation from anyone in order to be happy.

This is more of a demeanor and energy than what you say out.

It’s also okay at this stage to admit that the marriage is bad

… and that’s not equivalent to admitting that it’s all your fault.

It will only showcase you as a king who knows how to listen and communicate effectively with his queen.

This new behavior will shock your wife and will start to consider changing her mind…

If she was ever serious about saving your marriage being too late.

TRICK #3 – Give Her What She Wants; Gift of Missing You

This process will take time but you can leverage this opportunity to give yourself a gift.

When she insinuated that it’s too late to save the marriage, she’s was saying she needed space.

There is no one single event that can shut a marriage off.

Give her what she wants; the gift of missing you–space.  

You need space too as it’s an opportunity to showcase your ability of infinite patience.

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In that time period, it can be extremely difficult to just sit tight and not express yourself.

You may even feel unheard; but that’s needy behavior.

Download the book for free and read it 10-15 times so that you can teach the material unprepared.

It makes patience easier.

That time ans space will increase attraction between the two of you and…

You will equipped with material and ingredients to catalyze further growth of the attraction that you now have.

We all know that relationships have their ups and downs, and sometimes, those downs can feel pretty darn low.

So, you might be wondering…

When exactly is it too late to save a marriage? And is all that effort really worth it to mend a broken marriage?

First things first, let’s address the timing.

The truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this.

Every relationship is unique, just like the people in it. Some couples manage to find their way back even from the darkest of times, while others might reach a point where the pain and damage become irreparable.

It’s crucial to remember that it’s not just about the timeline, but also about the willingness and effort both partners are willing to put in.

Now, let’s talk about whether it’s worth fixing a broken marriage.

This is a tough one, no doubt about it. The decision to fix a broken marriage is deeply personal and can be influenced by a multitude of factors. Here are a few things to consider:

Communication:

One of the pillars of a strong relationship is open and honest communication. If both partners are willing to sit down and talk about their feelings, concerns, and what led them to this point, it’s a positive sign that there’s a chance for healing.

It might be necessary for at least one willing partner to use seduction skills to attract the other partner into that space first.

Love and Commitment:

Remember why you fell in love in the first place?

Those feelings might still be buried under the rubble of issues, but they could be worth uncovering. If there’s still love and commitment, it’s definitely worth exploring if the marriage can be saved.

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Professional Help and Support:

Seeking the guidance of a marriage counselor or therapist can work wonders.

These experts can provide fresh perspectives, communication tools, and strategies to navigate the choppy waters of a struggling marriage.

Self-Reflection:

Take a moment to look within.

Are you both willing to acknowledge your own shortcomings and work on them? Self-awareness and personal growth can play a huge role in reviving a marriage.

Children and Family:

If there are children involved, their well-being should be a priority.

Sometimes, parents choose to work on their marriage for the sake of their kids, and that can be a strong motivator.

However, it’s also important to recognize when it might be time to let go (it doesn’t have to be a permanent decision):

Toxic Dynamics:

If the relationship has become toxic, filled with emotional or even physical abuse, it’s crucial to prioritize your safety and well-being over trying to fix something that might be beyond repair.

Unresolved Issues:

If past issues keep resurfacing and there’s a lack of genuine effort to address them, it might be a sign that the foundation of the relationship is too shaky.

Loss of Trust:

Trust is like a delicate glass vase – once it’s shattered, it’s hard to piece it back together perfectly. If trust has been broken beyond repair, it might be time to reevaluate.

Personal Growth:

Sometimes, individuals grow in different directions.

If you find yourselves with different goals, values, or aspirations that can’t be reconciled, it might be healthier to part ways.

In the end, the question of whether a broken marriage is worth fixing boils down to the efforts, emotions, and circumstances of the people involved.

It’s not an easy road, but with open hearts, dedication, and perhaps some professional guidance, it’s incredible what two people can achieve together.

Just remember, whether you choose to fight for your marriage or part ways, the most important thing is your happiness and your overall well-being.

You deserve a life filled with love, respect, and joy.

So there you have it. Marriage can be a wild ride, full of twists and turns.

It’s never too late to try, but it’s also okay to walk away when the time is right.

Whatever path you choose, remember that you’re not alone – there’s a whole world of support out there cheering you on.

Stay strong, stay kind, and most importantly, stay true to yourself. Until next time!

How do you know it’s too late to save a marriage?

It might be too late to save a marriage when both partners have lost emotional connection and willingness to work on the relationship.

Is it worth fixing a broken marriage?

Whether a broken marriage is worth fixing depends on the individuals involved and their commitment to making positive changes. With the right support, all it takes is one person for a fair chance.

At what point do you stop trying to save your marriage?

You might consider stopping efforts to save a marriage when there’s consistent toxicity, lack of trust, and minimal effort from both partners to improve the situation.

Can a dying marriage be saved?

While challenging, a dying marriage can potentially be saved if at least once person is willing to engage the necessary education on seduction to get both partners into a space where they are open to seeking professional help, communication, and making necessary changes.

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5 Physical Signs Your Wife is Cheating

You are about to discover the 5 physical signs your wife is cheating.

Cheating and/infidelity is a terrible experience for a marriage and relationship.

It kills marriages, and more importantly…

Trust.

It’s a betrayal and it goes very deep beyond just the moment it happens, the relationship, just one person’s life.   

It’s something that causes deep-rooted damages to a person and getting through it can be very difficult.

So if you’ve experienced any kind of cheating, caught your wife cheating or you feeling like your wife is cheating, you may want to engage a professional to make sure that you go through the proper healing process necessary.

If you don’t, you will spread the damages into other aspects of your life, such as your legacy, your children, and everyone that you ever get into any kind of relationship with.

With that being said, Let’s get into 5 Physical Signs Your Wife Is Cheating:

1st physical sign that your wife is cheating – She is always too tired to have sex.

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This sign by itself is not sufficient enough a proof that she is cheating but this could be a sign that she is cheating.

Because remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed.

But if we are finding ourselves in a situation where you feel the need to use the word  “always” to emphasize the fact that… 

  • She doesn’t “always” want to have sex.
  • Always doesn’t want to be intimate with you.

That is something that you should pay attention to.  

And that doesn’t mean you should go ahead and start attacking and accusing her of infidelity.  It simply means you should pay attention.

Just keep in mind that your feelings may be inaccurate or completely far from reality.

It could just be your personal insecurity problems and that’s precisely why, you still need to unpack it and figure out what is going on with your relationship.

So if she comes up as always too tired to have sex, that is something you should pay attention to.

If once in a while, she is just tired after a long working day, that obviously doesn’t mean she is cheating.

It just means she is tired and that’s very normal in a lot of cases.

Even yourself… even if you are the most sex-maniac in the world, sometimes you’re just not in the mood.

2nd physical sign that your wife is cheating – Strange and/or Expensive gifts.

Either she brought to the house or it was shipped to the house…

If it is a common occurrence enough for you to notice, you should be concerned enough to ask questions.

As always, this doesn’t always mean that she is cheating. 

If…

  • You can’t really explain where these gifts are coming from.
  • She has never taken the time to tell you specifically where these gifts are coming from.
  • And if they feel strange to you.

That’s something you should pay attention to…I would.

Why?

Because you should know what’s going on anyway.  And if you are not paying attention to your family and especially your wife as a man, what else are you not doing?

That means you’ve been oblivious and anything can happen under your nose to the extent that you wife can start building attraction towards another man.

So, you should be paying attention anyway.

As always, this is not a moment for you to start attacking and accusing her.

There is often a fine and blurry line between insecurity and simply being responsible enough to pay attention.  All this means is to pay attention.

You should ask questions.

“Where is this gift from?”

If she is consistently getting strange and expensive gifts, then I would look for at least 3 or 4 other signs on this list.

3rd physical sign that your wife may be cheating – She hides to take a phone call.

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So you’ve noticed in recent times that your wife doesn’t like taking phone calls in front of you.

She would excuse herself or sometimes never even excuse herself.  

She wanders away into other rooms and she tends to be very quiet while she is taking these calls.

This could be a sign that she is cheating.  Clearly, she is not wanting you to hear what she is having conversations about.

Now if your birthday is approaching, she may be taking calls related to plans of a surprise birthday party for you.

But again if you have 3 or 4 of the other signs on this list in your situation, chances are it’s not about your birthday party.

It means you should pay attention, right?

Now, what is cheating?

In this case, cheating means she is doing something she wouldn’t want to do in front of you as mabe related to an inappropriate relationship with another person in a romantic way outside of your relationship or marriage.

So again, if she’s taking phone calls and… 

She’s having to go into other rooms and not wanting you to hear what those phone calls are about,  and she never comes back to say…

“Hey, that was Jill on the other line. I was talking to her about work stuff from earlier today.”

If she is not doing that then that is something you should pay attention to and ask questions.

“Who was that? Oh okay, you don’t want me to know?”

And make sure you keep the conversation light-headed if you are asking that question so you don’t shut her off.

Because again if you are too serious, you’re gonna take away the spark from your relationship and marriage in general.

You’re revealing yourself way too much and that’s more likely going to backfire and work completely against your purpose…

It’s going to come off as insecurity and that’s not attractive.

4th physical sign that your wife is cheating – She’s too paranoid to leave her phone.

So, if you’ve noticed that she’s always taking her phone everywhere she goes and that she is never, in recent times left the phone on the bed

….just hanging out there on the table.

She just seems like she hugs up on the phone and she holds on to it everywhere and every room she goes in the house, that could be a sign that she is hiding something.

That could also be a sign of cheating.

Now, we don’t know what she is hiding.  So as I’ve said always in this lesson, we don’t know what she is hiding but again… 

If you’ve noticed 3 or 4 other signs present in your relationship in recent times and you’re in fact feeling insecure about your relationship with your wife, then this is something that you should pay attention to.

“Why would I pay attention to it?”

Because again a lot of time as men, we get complacent.  We don’t pay attention.  We take things for granted.

And then you know, we may be losing our woman just like that without it necessarily being a matter of her being out to hurt you.

It’s just how life happens.

Again remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed.

So if you’re not giving to her and she finds herself in a situation where other people are giving to her; filling her love tank in an emotional way, you may end up losing your woman.

I would pay attention to this and find ways to attract her back to me.

Just in case you can relate to this, this is not a moment to accuse and attack her, this is your moment to figure out what is going on like…

“Yeah, there is something missing. Let me attract my woman back”.

Why would I do that?  Why would I need to give to her?

Because I know enough that whatever I give to women, she multiplies which means she will reciprocate in multiple folds.

So, with that being said, if she’s too paranoid to leave her phone around, that could be a sign that she’s cheating.

Keep in mind that it’s just a sign that you need to step up your game.

Could your wife just be a psychopath cheater?

Yes it could be but for the most part, that’s not the case.

We’re mostly human beings who are just trying to live and we need emotional validation a lot of times in the journey of life.

That goes for both men and women.

And in a marriage, things can get stale very fast.  We could get complacent.

5th physical sign that your wife is cheating – She’s expressed it verbally.

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She may have said things to you, such as, she’s no longer in love 

…or she is asking for space.

If she said things like that to you, you should take them seriously but that doesn’t necessarily mean to react to them.

Remember. 

Energy is neither created nor destroyed and if that’s the case, where is she pouring her affection?

It could be into another man

But it could also be because she’s feeling a void in her personal life or with respect to her career.

The point is that there could be so many other things outside of cheating but it could also be because she’s cheating on you.

And she may not be courageous enough to come to you and tell you… 

“I’m cheating” 

…and sometimes the way she would express that is in words… such as: 

“I’m no longer in love with you.”

“I love you but I am not in love with you anymore.”

Or she may outrightly ask you for… “I need some space”.

If you find yourself in this kind of situation, I know it can be a terrible feeling 

You should be aware that she may be cheating but ultimately you don’t want to look at it like that.

You want to look at it as your woman not feeling confident to be open enough to express herself to you.

Instead, think like this….

Maybe she has felt a void in her career or in her romantic life and she just doesn’t feel adequate.  She doesn’t like what she’s become even in your marriage.

Now, does that mean you should blame yourself?  Absolutely not!

Does that mean you should feel guilty? No!

It just means that if you care about this woman and your marriage and most importantly relationship with her, you probably should step up your game.

You should learn some skill set that will help you seduce and attract her back into your arms.

And it’s absolutely possible.

So those are the 5 physical signs that your wife may be cheating on you to look out for

Cheating in this context means she’s doing things with other people in a romantic way that she wouldn’t want you to find out about.

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Question: “My wife wants a divorce how can I change her mind?” – 5 tips

I want to share 5 tips with you on getting the best chance to change her mind.

You know, at the end of the day, it’s not a 100% chance.

It’s never gonna be a 100% chance that you would change your mind.

But if you follow these 5 tips I’m about to share with you, you would dramatically increase the chances that she would change her mind.

Before I get into the 5 tips, there’s a quick story I want to share with you.

Just some few weeks ago, I was watching a review of a podcast that Lola and I were on as a guest.

There was a review.

We happen to make the top 5 of the podcast episodes on that podcast,

…and the husband and the wife, who is also a family friend, Bola and Mac were talking about the divorce that my wife asked for some years back.

And the husband was like, “I don’t think they put that out there like”,

…then the wife was like, “No”.

We did and the truth is that yes, we have spoken about our divorce.

We have mentioned it, and we in fact talked elaborately about it in the book, you can get the book for free at GetMyMarriageBack.com.

We talked elaborately about that in our book, on many videos and I’m about to talk about it again right now.

The truth of the matter is that we have spoken about our divorce and we have to talk about the divorce because,

…what a lot of people do with marriage and divorce is that it becomes like a big demon in their lives and their relationship, and then it eats up the relationship.

And when you don’t have a relationship, essentially, you don’t have a marriage because marriage is just the institution, that’s the paper stuff.

But there’s an underlying relationship that happens before you can even have a healthy marriage.

That’s why I wanted to share these,

My wife wants a divorce, how can I change her mind? – 5 tips, with you really quickly.

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Tip #1

You can’t change her mind, but your next moves will influence her final decision.

See, at the end of the day, we’re human beings.

We’re social beings and we are relating with each other on how safe we feel around each other.

And because of that, we do influence our own decisions.

Like the people around you, you know, you’ve heard that saying before,

… the top 5 people around you influence your decisions.

They influence your life, they influence the outcome of your life and so also is your marriage and your relationship.

That’s true for your marriage and your relationships as well.

Even though you can’t particularly change her mind, your next moves,

So I’m about to share 4 more tips on, My wife wants a divorce, how can I change her mind?

Your next moves will influence her final decision.

So let’s go on to,

Tip #2

Don’t put divorce on the pedestal.

Don’t make divorce a big of a deal than it is already.

Don’t make it a big of a deal than it is

It’s just divorce.

It just means somebody decides that they don’t wanna be a part of your life.

But it’s a decision that people can change their mind all the time.

So if you stick to Tip #1 like I said earlier,

Yes, she can change your mind based on the moves you’re gonna make.

Then again, don’t make divorce a big of a deal than it is.

It’s just at least in that moment in time, she hasn’t filed divorce yet.

It is just a decision, it is just “hey, I’m gonna ask for divorce”,it’s just a decision that can be changed.

Let me even tell you how good this is.

Even if she’s already filed for the divorce.

This was something that I learned that made it super easy for me to attract my wife back.

She had actually filed divorce before we got back together and the good news is that,

…the thing is that I had stumbled into stories of people that had filed divorce five years and they’ve been divorced for five years, they got back together.

I know people that have been divorced for a whole decade but they still got back together.

So if I know that all these possibilities are in place, the last thing I wanted to do was to put divorce on a pedestal.

Divorce is not as much of a big deal that people would like to make it seem.

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You know, a lot of religious people make divorce a big deal when they go to that part of the Bible where it says “God hates divorce”.

Think about the effect of that phrase on your mind.

It’s like, “Oh, God forbid”

No, don’t do that.

Don’t put divorce on a pedestal.

God hates divorce, okay good but it’s a reality a lot of times.

Don’t make it a big deal.

The big deal here is the relationship you have with your wife.

You need to work on that.

That is faulty, and that’s the underlying reason why she’s asking for divorce.

Asking for divorce is a symptom you want to come back to the underlying reason.

What is the cause?

You’re worried about the effect, but let’s talk about the cause.

The cause is where you should be focused on.

In that same talking, I’m gonna give you

Tip #3

Don’t put marriage on a pedestal.

Marriage is cute and it’s beautiful when it’s nice but if you have a terrible relationship as the underlying structure of your marriage,

What’s the point?

So don’t put marriage on a pedestal.

I’d rather you focus on the relationship you have with your wife, than focusing on “God forbid, I don’t want the marriage to end”.

If you don’t want the marriage to end, that energy that you’re carrying around is gonna push your wife even further away.

Tip #4

Focus 100% on building yourself.

So not even the relationship, building yourself till you attract the love you desire.

And let me just add this, that you deserve.

If you focus on yourself, you will attract the appropriate type of love and it’s kind of easier if she’s already your wife.

She’s not gonna wanna let you go if you work on yourself and that’s a thought to show in your behaviors.

She’s not gonna wanna let you go.

So what you need to focus on 100% is building yourself.

There’s something about you that’s making you do the opposite of attracting your wife.

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Focus on that.

Work on that.

Don’t worry about changing her mind.

Worry about building yourself.

Tip #5

Be okay with the possibility of never attracting her again.

You see, there are forces beyond what you can see.

Especially when you’re dealing with relationships.

It’s a very spiritual thing.

So a lot of time you may think you want your wife back.

Maybe that’s not the case.

Maybe it’s just a matter of obsession that’s basically born out of the rejection.

Rejection breeds obsession.

So you may just not be able to see that clearly right now.

That’s why 100% of your focus needs to go into building yourself.

Because if she doesn’t belong in being your wife,

In that position of being your wife, she doesn’t need to be there.

But you may not be able to see that yet, because again you’re feeling obsessed.

You’re obsessed because of the rejection.

So again those are the 5 tips for, My wife wants a divorce, how can I change her mind?

if this is the right person for you, you will attract her back into a better and healthier relationship,

…which is also a better and healthier marriage if you just focus on yourself.

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