5 Tricks to Fix Your Marriage ❤️

Want to know how to fix your marriage using 5 simple tricks that work 100% of the time?

You see people, including your spouse, are predictable.

That is to say you too can learn a few tricks to attract the love you deserve and desire.

I have to assume that you are experiencing a crisis in your marriage now and that must feel terrible to live in that kind of misery.

Your spouse has probably shut down and is using these moments to emotional abuse you and your marriage.

Use these 5 simple tricks to turn all that around and fix your marriage.

How to Fix Your Marriage Using 5 Simple Tricks

(1) Relax

Rejection breeds obsession.

So the feeling of rejection that you are experiencing at the moment will naturally give you the illusion that the world is about to end.

You and I know that it couldn’t be further from the truth.

So the first step is for you to take back the control of your emotion

And keep in mind and prepare that more triggers will show up temporarily to make you lose it.

Be determined to stay in control.

Here is good book to read as you do...

(2) Listen & Give

This is a marriage and you should always only go into relationships to give; not give and take.

The very act of complaining shows that you are in the taking mode and as you can see, it’s working against you.

Sure it’s not easy to “give” to a person who is not giving love back to you but I am not asking you to give love.

But you need to find opportunities to give.

So you have to listen effectively in order to determine what will be received when you give.

For example, if a spouse is shut down, they are asking for space and that’s an opportunity to “give” some space.

Here is another article: Marriage Separation Advice

In fact, I would argue that you also need that space to regain back your emotional control and escape potential emotional abuse.

Remember.. No one can abuse you emotionally unless you allow it.

Focusing on giving has a direct correlation with fixing your marriage successfully but it must accompany a generous level of patience.

How much you give has a lagging and not a leading indication in your marriage.

(3) Avoid Predictable Reactions

You are responsible for your actions and your reactions are your actions.

Essentially, you don’t get to say “he or she made me do it.”

You are an adult and…

Therefore you are responsible for your actions even when you are not willing to take responsibility.

But you are in a better position of control when you take responsibility without confusing it with guilt and/or self-blame.

When a spouse shuts down, it tends to create triggers for overreaction in many aspects.

So one of the tricks you can use to fix your marriage is to identify scenarios where you would normally overreact and simply do the opposite.

This trick is not a one size fits all.

If you are normally dormant in reacting, then you should gain courage and speak up using words.

But say what you want to say once and leave it there. Arguments will create an undesirable effect.

The idea of this trick is to not be predictable; being predictable kill attraction.

If you can successfully make your spouse wonder why you act the way you act, it will build attraction and with patience, you will fix the marriage.

(4) Detach from Feelings

You are probably feeling like your spouse is no longer in love with you right?

Well first of all, know that feelings are temporary in nature and tend to exaggerate the reality of what’s going on.

So start with how you feel… you are probably exaggerating naturally.

And if you are not exaggerating, your spouse has probably expressed that feeling in words. “I am not in love.”

The in-love is a feeling and it reflects hurt; that’s okay because that can be fixed.

In-love is not love… that’s just butterflies.

And you can probably figure why he or she feels that way at the moment; it’s temporary if you use trick #3… RELAX.

It is better to not get attached to how you feel and your spouses’ expression of how they feel.

Instead, focus on creating a new alternate experience and be patient because it will create a lagging indication and not a leading indication.

That means you will see moments that feel like your effort is not reflecting but that’s a feeling; focus on giving.

But don’t forget to give to yourself too.

(5) Avoid Approval Seeking Behaviors

Some are very quick to apologize but there is a problem with that.

There is blurry line between:

  • Apologies
  • Seeking Approval and
  • Manipulation

These, including apology itself, are not attractive behaviors and it is better in a marriage and relationships to focus on changed behavior.

Changed behavior is the best apology and it’s also attractive as it makes you less predictable in the eyes of your spouse.

You should only apologize once if you feel you should and only if your spouse specifically asks for it.

Think about it, if you have to apologize over and over, you are probably not going to get a different result that you desire with doing the same thing over and over.

In general, avoid approval seeking behavior as it indicates lack confidence and that’s very unattractive at subconscious levels.

BONUS TRICK: Patience

You are not meeting your spouse for the first time so fixing your marriage will be a process.

But it’s worth it because of the level of personal growth that comes with giving over and over when it seems like you won’t receive.

It’s worth the process and your marriage will last that much longer.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“I need help.

I have a wife and she doesn’t talk to me near her mom and dad.

She says she is shy but sometimes she talks to me and sometimes she doesn’t.

Only sometimes she doesn’t talk to other guys but I don’t know if she loves me.

She says she does but I don’t believe it.”

Enjoy the video.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

Get My Marriage Back PDF

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

How can I fix my marriage by myself?

You can fix your marriage by yourself when you put the focus in fixing and working on yourself.

How do you rebuild your marriage?

You can rebuild your marriage by treating your spouse like you just met them; get to know the evolving person.

What are the signs of a failing marriage?

Toxic arguments and broken down communication gaps are probably the biggest signs of a failing marriage; especially when your spouse shuts down.

How do you fix your marriage without talking about it?

The arts and science of attraction is key to fixing your marriage; it requires minimum use of words and that’s not until you see signs of better vibes in your marriage.

How long do you try to fix your marriage?

There is no set rule outside for as long as you are attracted to your spouse; but also as long as they are still available.

Keep in mind that fixing your marriage if done right is almost synonymous to fixing yourself.

“My Wife DISRESPECTS Me” 9 Points Advice for you Especially in Separation… ❤️

In this lesson, I am sharing a 9-point marriage separation advice in order to give you the best chance to attract your spouse back in love with you.

At the bottom of this page, you will find the question that inspired this lesson.

Marriage Separation Advice - My wife disrespects me

(1) Give Yourself Space

It’s most likely that your spouse has asked you for space.

So if that’s the case, it’s very important that you don’t see it as a bad idea because frankly you probably need the space more.

You just can’t see that, because rejection breeds obsession.

Take advantage of the space apart to build a better “you”.

(2) Don’t Overrate Affairs

While your spouse may be distracted by an emotional or physical affair with another person, don’t highlight it.

The affair will never be worth what you have already shared with your spouse

But it is important that you showcase being unbothered by anything or anyone outside of the relationship you have with him or her.

The worst thing you can do is to spend your space apart bickering about affairs; it will only expand and you will push your spouse further away.

(3) It Takes One But…

Insisting that you stay together is not going to help save your marriage as much as attracting your spouse back.

It only takes one person to create attraction but that requires a process and insisting otherwise will interrupt that process of attraction.

Instead, let go as it only takes “you” to build attraction which is the single most important thing that is missing right now.

(4) Don’t Use/Abuse Children

The marriage separation period will come with a lot of temptations

And one of them is trying to inflict emotional abuse and blackmail on your spouse.

Another one is abusing your children as a tool to accomplish that goal.

It always backfires.

The most common one, believe it or not, is not as obvious as you may think.

It happens more in the form of manipulation under the pretense of protecting the child or children.

What you want to do is stay focused on what you want and don’t want

And leave the children out of it even if that’s painful for you emotionally.

Your emotional feelings are temporary.

The only exception to this, is physical abuse of the children; in that case, it would be non-negotiable to get the children removed from harm's way.

(5) After 3 Months, You are Free

It’s not advisable to engage in transgressions with other people during separation but we are all humans.

Technically, you are free to move on after 3 months of lack of sexual relationship when it is not medically related in my personal opinion.

But also in my personal opinion, the most profitable and worthwhile thing to work on in this period is self growth.

If you don’t, transgression and the lifestyle that comes with it can destroy everything you care about.

It can be even worse when it’s done in retaliation.

If you decide to move on, seek legal counsel to avoid exposing you and/or your children to unfavorable legal loopholes.

(6) More Actions/Less Talking

That should be pretty clear but be careful not to confuse certain inaction with emotional centered-ness.

For example, don’t abandon your children and/or your normal responsibilities in the name of less talking.

That would be irresponsible and such behavior will continue to lower your spouse's attraction towards you.

Just keep in mind that changed behavior is the best apology.

So for the most part, verbal apology will work against you because of the expectation for instant results.

Stay away from arguments, approval seeking behaviors and focus on building your self during this period.

(7) You Allow Disrespect

If there are any type of disrespect and/or disregard from your spouse during your separation, ask yourself first,

“How did I put myself in that position?”

“How did I allow that”?

You need to take the time to extract the answer to that question as it will help with clarity as you move into the new phase of your marriage.

The bottom-line and the result of this exercise should be that no one should be taking anyone for granted again.

When you take yourself for granted, your spouse will see it as a permission to take you for granted if they are weak like most people.

(8) Never Bribe for Sex

Don’t manipulate with whatever you do for your spouse, children and family at this time as a bribe for sex.

It will work against your desire.

Do it if you find it honorable to do and you don’t have to if you don’t feel like it.

The worst thing you can do is do it and then blame them for not reciprocating.

(9) Work on Yourself

That should be self explanatory.

Use the marriage separation period to build yourself and attract the love and affection that you deserve.

It’s simple but I agree…

It’s easier said than done.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“ I really enjoy your content on IG: @LOLAandOLA and I need to ask you a question.

In April 2017, my wife said she wanted space for 2 weeks because we were not in a good place and she was distracted by an affair at the time.

Initially, I objected and wanted us to get a fresh new start.

She did not return and recently found out she is in a full blown now having sexually intimate moments with her partner on the same bed as my 6 years old daughter who told me she’s uncomfortable.

As a christian, am I totally free without guilt to remarry even though we are not officially divorced.

I’m not going to crawl and beg her.

I did all I could to fight and save the marriage. But it’s clearly not working out.

She finds joy in disrespecting me and talking to me anyhow, rudely and distastefully.

Mind you, I am financially okay and earn 8-figures per annum.

I still give her monthly up-keep, 120K per month, for my daughters, excluding fees, clothing… until 2019 January when I stopped for many reasons.”

Enjoy the video.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

Get My Marriage Back PDF

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

What should you not do during separation?

The number ONE thing to not do during separation is to NOT focus on yourself and building yourself. When you focus on building yourself, you will attract the love and marriage you desire and deserve.

Is separation good for a marriage?

Yes because distance does makes the heart fonder. In other words, space creates attraction and it is encouraged if things have gotten very toxic.

How do you cope with a marriage separation?

It is important to focus on building your self worth and value in other to attract the love and marriage you desire and deserve. Write out your vision of your desired marriage and hold it close to you. Stay out of unnecessary contact with your spouse during this period.

How long should a marriage separation last?

It needs to last for as long as it takes for your spouse to stop taking you for granted or for as long as you need to find your self worth and value; whichever is longer, it is worth it.

Does a separation help a marriage?

"Distance makes the heart fonder." In other words, space creates attraction and it is encouraged if things have gotten very toxic in your marriage. So it is winning if you both could agree to a separation.

What is a marriage separation?

It is an agreement between a couple to spend some time apart in order to find happiness in the marriage again.

When is marital separation a good idea?

It is encouraged if things have gotten very toxic in your marriage.

What is Infidelity ❤️ Does it Make Marriage a Mistake⁉️

What is infidelity? In a marriage...

When one party engages in intimate relationships with a person outside of the marriage.

Some call it cheating... some call it an affair, and others call it Infidelity.

Study shows some statistics below… How common is infidelity?

  • 20% of men reported that they cheated sexually
  • 13% of women reported that they cheated sexually
  • 16% of ALL ADULTS reported that they cheated sexually

But under age 30, the numbers are different.

  • 10% of men under 30 reported that they cheated sexually
  • 11% of women under 30 reported that they cheated sexually

General Social Survey 2010–2016 by the National Opinion Research Council - University of Chicago

via PsychologyToday.com

Keep in mind that these are just the reported; a whole lot more will take that secret to their graves.

What is Infidelity in a Marriage? DEADLY

But what I can tell you is that betrayal is human characteristic…

And you should have proper expectations of humans when you marry one.

It is important to NOT lead into marriage with

....the daily fear of cheating, affairs, or infidelity.

That won’t help you.

This is one of those aspects of a marriage where you need God or whatever helps you maintain divine peace.

In addition, an affair can either be physical or emotional; and off course it can be a hybrid of both.

Whether infidelity represents the end of or deal breaker in a marriage is not a rule anywhere.

It completely depends on the parties and the uniqueness of their relationship and the underlying friendship.

Below is a question for us to address matters of infidelity in a marriage once and for all…

“I need to stop being negative and nagging.

I need to learn to listen to him and respect him.

He’s talking about this marriage might be a mistake; I need lots of prayer.”

Just keep in mind that respect, trust and submission are earned.

Enjoy the video.

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Before we dive into more details about infidelity...

Let’s answer the question as it will help with fundamentals.

In order to survive a crisis in any type of relationships

(especially a marriage), you can’t afford to undermine the power of an overall positive attitude.

Therefore if you are dealing with a negative and/or shutdown spouse, it will take a tremendous emotional energy to maintain your cool.

As I said earlier, respect is earned.

Just as trust and submission, all these actions are driven in a marriage as effects and not a cause.

Sure you can deliberately initiate them.

But it will eventually drain you emotionally if you are not aware of the underlying attraction level that initially brought you and you spouse together.

That is to say, if you are not presently attracted to your husband, it won’t last much long if you force yourself to respect him.

So in the long run, you need to address the cause of the low attraction level.

You have to also respect and love yourself enough to attract the type of love you deserve from your spouse.

It is natural for couples to go through this over time as complacency kicks in.

So I am saying that it is natural to take each other for granted over-time.

Is your marriage a mistake?

There is no relationship that is a mistake and here is why.

Every relationship you engage in your life must be regarded as an opportunity to grow.

It’s part of the interpretations you must add to your efforts of positive attitude.

Because that energy will drive a lot more other actions that will drive your spouse to do right by you.

Subsequently, it will propagate energy that will attract the types of relationship and may be another marriage that will serve you.

Can we agree that the marriage you have right now is bad especially if infidelity is involved?

Therefore it’s time to build a brand-new marriage with or without the same and present spouse.

That attitude gives you your best chance of attracting your present spouse to do right by you if that’s in fact what you want.

Effectively, if you lead with the attitude that it “MUST” be the same spouse,

Your desperate energy will push him or her away further.

Sure we all need prayer.

The scripture says….

“Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”

James 2:17 New King James Version (NKJV)

The Real Meaning of Infidelity

The truth of the matter is that infidelity is involved whenever a promise is broken in your marriage.

It doesn’t have to be sexual in nature.

Therefore, any type of promise that was made in your vows no matter how little is seems will result in infidelity.

What is the difference between infidelity and adultery?

Adultery is more specific of a way to describe sexual related betrayal in a marriage.

But it’s an effect.

In order to fix adultery as one of the many types of infidelity, we have to go deeper into causes; Root Cause Analysis.

Of course it’s easier to point the most fingers at the person who engaged sexually with another outside of the marriage.

Most of the infidelity that happens in marriages has nothing to do with sexual behaviors.

However all of the different types of infidelities create resentments and complacency over-time.

For example, if you promised to be there for richer or poorer…

But then catch attitude last week because he was broke financially, that’s a form of infidelity.

In addition, catching negative attitude in the midst of any crisis does not solve it; it expands the emotional effect of it.

So, you’d agree that marriage has probably been infected with infidelity and needs work right?

I am by no means telling you that cheating or having an affair outside of the marriage is any easier to deal with.

All I am saying is that those types tend to be the most obvious to judge people with.

It’s very important that you use that to adjust your perspective in order to attract the love and marriage that you deserve.

Judgment, guilt, and blame will harm you, your relationships and especially any children involved.

Therefore you have to rise above the obvious emotions such anger, resentments, rage that you will naturally feel…

If you are on the receiving end of an infidelity.

That’s going to take work, but it’s doable and it’s your best shot at attracting happiness again.

So should you Stay in the Marriage After Infidelity?

It depends on your particular relationship.

If it’s taking you more than 3 months to at least forgive, you probably should consider separation first.

Because it’s not helpful for any of the parties for the other to live in mystery.

Time apart may just be what you need to appreciate life, the marriage or both again.

That same time apart may help a perpetual adulterer make a decision to nurture what they value…

And have clarity of where he or she belongs (with you or someone else).

Having out in that dark spot for longer than 3 month tends to create more and more emotional damage in you, your spouse and even any children that may be involved.

But marriage is usually not easy to just throw away.

If it was easy, you probably would not have that question.

Ask yourself this question however…

Are you running from your problems obviously entangled up in infidelity right now?

As I have said, the problem is deeper than the effects

Of which some of them are cheating, affairs and infidelity.

Minimum of 50% of this (though not your fault) is your problem.

So if your quick solution is to leave the marriage, you will effectively take 50% of the problem with you.

Hence why 76% of marriages to divorces ends in about 2 years according to many studies.

It will help you ensure that you work on yourself before concluding that leaving is the solution.


How to Practically Rebuild Trust Even After Infidelity

When you first met your spouse, it was natural to trust because attractions high.

It’s easy to be in love and trust a person that you truly don’t know.

The reality is that you couldn’t possible love them though.

That trust was fake in essence.

Now that you are dealing with the after effects and emotions from infidelity, the real work is needed.

Anything that’s worthwhile in life will take work.

It was never practical to trust another human at the level that we do in a marriage.

That’s why I always say, people that say ‘I do’ don’t know what they are doing.

It doesn’t even matter how much pre-marital counseling you have before, you simply couldn’t comprehend what you were about to do.

So I get it

Trust can be hard to rebuild once it has been breached by a spouse but it’s do able.

But, I have to tell.

Holding your marriage and specially your happiness hostage because of trust issues will not help you.

Here are some scriptures that warned you about trust and its application to infidelity recovery…

It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.

Psalm 118:8 ESV

Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord.

Jeremiah 17:5 ESV

You are not even supposed to trust yourself; much less another person.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV

Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.

Proverbs 28:26 ESV

Listen…

It’s natural for you to feel hurt and wallow in the mystery of it for a while.

But it’s time for you to realize that you deserve happiness and take the bulls by the horn.

How?

Leave all your trust issues in the hands of God and start living.

That’s easier said than done but hearing it or reading it from me might as well be the first step in the right direction.

Infidelity can be emotional and even more painful.

Is an adulterer always an adulterer?

You’ve heard the saying, “once a cheater always a cheater.”

That’s absolutely an impossible lie.

It’s a lie that can hold you hostage even long after your spouse has repented due to…

A larger purpose than the seduction and excitement they may have derived from their past transgression.

Here is a quick 2 step-solution to that.

  1. Do the work that will attract him or her to re-commit back into a brand-new marriage with you.
  2. Let go and forgive yourself for attracting the old marriage.
  3. Enjoy your new marriage one day at a time.

As you can see, none of the step has anything to do with putting the focus on fixing your spouse.

The work must be done from the inside to attract what you want on the outside.

What is the main reason for infidelity?

Of course in the long term, loyalty will benefit and create joy as opposed to short-term excitement.

But People cheat mainly for a lack of a larger purpose than the pleasure and excitement of secrecy.

It’s a choice but it’s also a choice that most humans are never too holy to make.

Most people just need the right circumstances to align to find themselves choosing pleasure over loyalty in the short term.

10+ Causes of Infidelity

Circumstances can include but not limited to:

  1. Not receiving enough attention from the significant other,
  2. Inappropriate engagement with friendly acquaintances,
  3. Low self esteem
  4. Immaturity
  5. Background and childhood trauma
  6. Belief system
  7. Low attraction
  8. Unmatched libido level
  9. Retaliation for past transgression

(10) 12...Principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Ephesians 6:12, King James Version

But it’s never your fault when your significant other makes a choice to have an affair.

However you may have helped create one of the circumstances that align the opportunity for short-term human excitement.

They could have also chosen to rise above.

But judgment, blame, and guilt or self-guilt won’t help.

It’s time to understand “WHY” at a deeper level and attract an infidelity free brand new marriage.

The best chances of a lifetime joy is with a repented spouse because you are now both equipped with knowledge

Which becomes power when you both apply to a daily loving marriage for the rest of your lives.

Treat it on a daily basis…

Because obsession with the past and tomorrow will drown your relationships and especially your marriage.

Marriage counseling can help a great deal with communication skills... but check out the success statistics of marriage counseling here

If friendship with an opposite sex that you are personally friends with, an ex or a blast from the past is involved,

Respect yourself by allowing your spouse to go and sort that out before starting your brand-new marriage with them.

No one with healthily give you what you can’t give yourself.

Therefore if you can’t love and respect yourself, your spouse can’t love and respect you.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

Get My Marriage Back PDF

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

What is infidelity?

In a marriage, it is generally referred to as infidelity when one party engages in intimate relationships with a person outside of the marriage.

What is the difference between infidelity and adultery?

Adultery is more specific of a way to describe sexual related betrayal in a marriage.

What is considered infidelity?

The truth of the matter is that infidelity is involved whenever a promise is broken in your marriage.

What is the main reason for infidelity?

People cheat mainly for a lack of a larger purpose than the pleasure and excitement of secrecy.

How common is infidelity?

Here are some statistics that I found….
• 20% of men reported that they cheated sexually
• 13% of women reported that they cheated sexually
• 16% of ALL ADULTS reported that they cheated sexually
But under age 30, the numbers are different.
• 10% of men under 30 reported that they cheated sexually
• 11% of women under 30 reported that they cheated sexually

Trying To Save Marriage Wife Said It’s Too Late? ❤️ Try this 3 “UNUSUAL” Tricks

In this lesson, you will discover the 3 SECRET tricks that I used when I was trying to save my marriage when my wife said it was too late.


By the way, you can master the full methods by downloading our free book at www.GetMyMarriageBack.com or get it on Amazon


QUESTION ⁉️ “It all sounds great but this evil will not help me with my wife; when she says she's done, it means she's done.”

The first sign we notice in this message is the fact that a husband is throwing hands up in the air claiming there is no way for his wife to behave.

When you approach saving your marriage with that energy, you will attract more of it.

What if you accept that you are confused and it’s just time to learn something new about making your wife open for you to penetrate mentally and physically?”

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Trying To Save Marriage Wife Said It's Too Late

IMG - trying to save marriage, wife said it's too late

TRICK #1 - Stop Confusing Words with Action

If you are like most people, you've caught feeling and you are feeling rejected because your wife says she's done.

Never mind what she says; what about her actions?

Is she still living in the same house with you?  

If she is still connected to you in one way or the other, even if it's because of the kids, I would stop panicking.

It's common mistake in relationships especially marriage to confuse her words with her actions.

Relax and follow her actions.

Regardless of what the action may be, relax; you are the king.

TRICK #2 - Admit that the Marriage May Be Too Late to Save

Once you relax, she will become curious again and want to initiate engagement.

Use that opportunity to show case you new relaxed man who is sure of himself and require no validation from anyone in order to be happy.

This is more of a demeanor and energy than what you say out.

It's also okay at this stage to admit that the marriage is bad

... and that's not equivalent to admitting that it's all your fault.

It will only showcase you as a king who knows how to listen and communicate effectively with his queen.

This new behavior will shock your wife and will start to consider changing her mind...

If she was ever serious about saving your marriage being too late.

TRICK #3 - Give Her What She Wants; Gift of Missing You

This process will take time but you can leverage this opportunity to give yourself a gift.

When she insinuated that it's too late to save the marriage, she's was saying she needed space.

There is no one single event that can shut a marriage off.

Give her what she wants; the gift of missing you--space.  

You need space too as it's an opportunity to showcase your ability of infinite patience.

BONUS TRICK - Learn the Art of Attraction - Read the Book 10-15 times

In that time period, it can be extremely difficult to just sit tight and not express yourself.

You may even feel unheard; but that's needy behavior.

Download the book for free and read it 10-15 times so that you can teach the material unprepared.

It makes patience easier.

That time ans space will increase attraction between the two of you and...

You will equipped with material and ingredients to catalyze further growth of the attraction that you now have.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

Get My Marriage Back PDF

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

Is it too late to save marriage?

It’s never too late but it depends on how much damages lack of emotional intelligence may have created and how much work you are willing to do.

How do you save a relationship before it's too late?

You need a sweet balance between unconditional love, patience, personal purpose, selflessness and self love.

Ultimately, it depends on your particular relationship.

How do I know if my marriage is worth saving?

That’s simple. It’s based on your personal desire.

If you want to save it, it’s worth saving and if you don’t want to save, your guess is just as good as mine.

Love conquers all; the only requirement to try is to love your spouse.

What to say to save a marriage?

For the most part, it’s not about what you say but about what you do and the energy you create.

Does Marriage Counseling Work? ❤️ Help For Marriage

QUESTION ⁉️ “My wife was a military veteran for 15 years and was divorced twice. She then spent 20years unattached.

I met her and we got married after a short courtship. Several of my friends said that she and I weren't suited. I disagreed but it seemed they were right.

We argue all the time; almost daily. I tried the time-out method. She just follows me and continues chopping in my ears.

We are in counseling but don't seem to work. I am at my wit end. How do I make this relationship work?”

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Average Length Of Marriage Counseling