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5 Reasons Why Your Wife Is Not Interested In You Sexually 💔

In this lesson, we are about to dive in through the story of a 28 years old guy

who is married to a 33 years old with a brand new baby and the blue balls syndrome.

Let’s call him Felix.

He writes…

“My wife and I have been together for about 6 years, married for 2 and we have an almost 1 year old child. 

My wife has had a reasonably exciting sexual past, and one thing that really stood out to me…

when we first started dating was how in control and proud of her sexuality she was. 

She was always full of confidence, dressed to impress and was unapologetic about going after anything she wanted, whether that was sexually or just for fun.”

Before I continue into this story, let me introduce myself.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK 

…with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at:

www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

You will also see an opportunity to book a free 30 minutes coaching session with us. 

My name is OLA.

So Felix continues to write…

“Due to our work, we sometimes spend significant periods of time apart. 

But the time apart was filled with dirty messages, photos and videos, and exploring fantasies, toys, lingerie and bondage ideas. 

I would send her over sex toys to use and she would send videos back (she couldn’t buy toys where she was). 

After a while (about 3 years ago), it didn’t just drop off, it stopped completely.”

So here goes the first reason…

Reason #5 – All Good Things Comes To An End

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I know that may sound scary and discouraging when it comes to the prospect of marriage for young men.

But what are we referring to as the “thing” here?  That will be greatly dependent on how much of a man you are.

I want to assure you that it is a good thing when you are aware that good sexual explosive phases as a thing do come to end.

It’s how we are able to separate a good phase from a bad phase so that we can appreciate either of the phases better.

And do everything within our power to consistently seduce our wives.

You have a choice to decide if this particular good sexual explosive phase is coming to an end permanently or temporarily.

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“We married almost 2 years ago, and the only decent period of somewhat routine sex since then was when we were trying to have a child. 

Suddenly I was the bad guy when I wasn’t available on a particular evening because that’s when we were most likely to conceive,

completely ignoring the 12 months prior of me desperately trying to initiate some kind of intimacy. 

Priorities and our lives in general have changed a great deal since then, with our beautiful baby now the centre of our lives.

However, I’ve felt more and more like I’m just a passenger along for this ride with my wife and kid.”

Reason #4 – Playing Victim vs Engaging Power

Keep in mind as always that this is not a “right or wrong” thing.  

It is not a joke but it is a game where you have to learn that playing the victim and retaining your power cannot co-exist.

You have your lady who is also nurturing your own brand new baby, and somehow you are a victim?

It’s not sounding right… right?

Your wife can feel that energy and it will only turn her off even more without her deliberately doing that.

I want you to become self aware and clear about that while responding to this crisis. 

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“We haven’t had sex properly in over 18 months.

My wife occasionally makes snide remarks at me, when after periods of trying to initiate some kind of intimacy,

I give up and stay up later to have some ‘time to myself.’ 

She makes me feel like a creep in my own house and I just feel like shit, and my anxiety starts to tick up.”

Reason #3 – Giving Up

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By your own words, you give up while attempting to initiate sex.

You can at least agree that there is nothing sexy about giving up and more especially the vibes and energy that accompanies that right?

Instead of giving up and continuing to play the victim,

I want you to leverage this moment of your life and marriage to engage your personal life mission and purpose first.

This may be something about your ambitions, career or some charity work that makes you feel fulfilled as a person.

It will leave you little to no room to keep feeling sorry for yourself while you are simultaneously giving your relationship some breathing room.

Now I want you to keep initiating sex but by practicing 3 steps forward and 2 steps backward.  

There is nothing sexier than a man whose wife feels safe enough to say “not today babe” while still trusting that he will be confident enough to initiate at some point.

That will even leave her some sense of obligation at the back of her mind and she may initiate before the next time you initiate.

If she doesn’t, you’ve decided to make that a non-big deal (engaging and retaining your masculine core and power) and try later.

She will naturally overcompensate for your patience later in the form of hot sex when she is ready to receive you back to back.

In this next lesson, I will reveal how this works in detail…

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Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“We’ve tried to slowly reinitiate things, particularly when I’m away for work. 

We’ve tried to send a few exciting spontaneous messages here and there. 

We’ve started using an app where you essentially ‘match’ fetishes or sexual ideas with your partner

(i.e. only notified if they like the same thing as you, it’s pretty cool.) 

At one point, she even bought a new toy while I was away,

and kind of awkwardly apologized that it was a toy just for her and wouldn’t really be all that fun to use together. 

I was stoked and said she never needs to apologise for that! I thought this might’ve been the catalyst we needed. 

Fast forward the entire 2 months we were apart, and she hadn’t used it once.“

Reason #2 – “We” Don’t Seduce

There is so much “we” this and “we” that and it leaves me to wonder,

who is the seducer in this equation if what you want is more sex?

If you compete in feminine energy with your lady, it kills sexual polarity.  

What you are suffering from is partly low libido due to childbirth causing lower attraction in your marriage which is temporary.

This is not abnormal; we’ve been through the same thing.

It’s a process to get out of the limbo but it can be a faster process when you engage your seduction power which starts way before the bedroom.

Seduce more, initiate less and watch better sex come back into your marriage.

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“Occasionally we eventually have a really difficult but healthy conversation about our sex life,

and we walk away feeling great for it…but nothing really changes.

For the past 12 months or so, we go through a bit of a regular cycle. 

I try to initiate things at a pretty low level to rekindle a bit of excitement. 

It gets shot down over a period of 2-3 weeks, and my anxiety slowly escalates. 

I ruminate on the past fortnight, and the past 2 years and get frustrated. 

My mood dives, my wife asks what’s wrong, we have a bit of a chat (about all the same old things),

have a bit of intimacy (although, not sex) 

And I feel like she walks away relieved that she’s hit “reset”

and can now hopefully go another 2 or 3 weeks without needing to be intimate with me. 

Reason #1 – You Talk Her Out Of Wanting Sex

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As you’ve probably realized, the more you talk about this, the less sex you are having.

By now, you are just predictable; the mood patterns and swings are probably predictable AF.

Talking so much in the name of conversations in an attempt to increase intimacy is feminine energy.

When she’s asking you what’s wrong, she wasn’t faking it. 

It’s a way for her to protect your household when it seems like you are falling apart as the masculine core in the relationship.

While that’s very nice of her, it’s killing sexual polarity even further.

So that’s not where you want your lady. 

You want her to be able to count on you even in the midst of this crisis

and that’s part of the process of seducing her back into crazy intimate sessions.

Rejection breeds obsession so you are not abnormal but this is how to rise above the norm

as opposed to using blame, guilt, condemnation and judgment to make matters worse.

To learn even more about rebuilding sexual attraction back into your marriage, check out the featured video on the screen.

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My Wife Is Never In The Mood Anymore 💔

In this lesson, you will discover 5 things to do if your wife is just never in the mood for intimacy and sex anymore.

The other day, we got this in the email at [email protected] from Jerry.

He said…

“My wife did the ‘I’m not in the mood’ for weeks at a time.  

One day I got tired of it.  

When she asked me to empty the kitchen trash can, (one of my duties normally) I told her…

‘Ya know, I would but I’m just not in the mood.’

Then she said…

That’s silly.  You don’t have to be in the mood in order to take out the garbage.

I responded ‘Yep, and YOU don’t have to be in the mood in order to have sex.

Worked like a charm.”

So as usual, we’ve decided to turn this to a lesson moment for all of us.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at

 www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

You will also see an opportunity to book a coaching session with us.

This is OLA.

We review so many of these types of cases and we can bet $100,000 on it that Jerry is a half-truth-teller with that part of the method working like a charm.

These are the 5 things to do immediately before you lose your wife to another man out there.

Thing #5 – Mood is a Symptom

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The easiest route to go if your wife has not been in the sexiest mood for weeks in a row is to become a victim.

But there is a problem with that.

Playing the victim and retaining power simply don’t go together.

If you don’t want to be the leader in the marriage, it’s absolutely okay to play the victim and throw temper tantrums.

The hardest route is the most rewarding route that will allow you to exit the blueballism zone.

So the first thing you need to do is to realize that her mood is a symptom.

Instead of becoming a small two years old boy like Jerry, I want you to become excited about finding the underlying condition that created the “no mood” symptom

You will be shocked at how easy it is to resolve it.

Not only will you resolve it, you will now possess the key to do it over and over for the rest of your life; highly rewarding.

Thing #4 – She is Wrong But…

I want you to reject that approach because it is going to work against your marriage.

Rights and wrongs are irrelevant in romantic relationships because…

In love and war all is fair.

Think about it.

You have two adults coming together against all odds into a 99.9% chance of hurting each other; though sometimes unintentionally.

If you weren’t married, a trashcan could be sitting there for hours, after it is needed to be disposed-of because you waited for the right mood.

So she was wrong. 

But here is the “but”.  That’s irrelevant.

You are married to your wife as a choice.

So that makes you guilty of the same exact thing you are complaining about if we were to go the “who is wrong” route.

Is she being unfair? 

We can argue that but if your focus is how wrong she is, it’s only natural for you to hold resentment against her.

As you are now realizing, no good is going to come out of that approach.  

So does that make Jerry right?

Thing #3 – You Are Right But…

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But your partner is also right.

At least they have the right to claim that they are right so this is just another toxic argument.

Everything you just learned about “being wrong” as an approach to judging your partner is also applicable to “being right.”

But this is not a race to be right.

This is about your marriage and your wife not being in the mood to make love to you.

Actually, it’s more-so about your inability to get your wife in the mood.

I know it comes off as unfair to expect you to make all the effort in bed but that’s not what I am talking about and remember that all is fair.

What could make a wife come to a husband she wants to make love to and claim “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore.”

Does she really want it or not? 

Instead of worrying about your wife not being in the mood, I want you to figure out what happened behind the scenes psychologically without expecting her to be able to tell you.

In the next lesson, you will discover how to reverse “I don’t love you” or “I’m not in love with you anymore” without being a douchebag like Jerry.

For now, here is what I want you to do. 

Stop trying to compete to be “right.”

That’s precisely how to be a loser as a husband.

Don’t get defensive. These things play out very subtly and it doesn’t make you a bad person.

So now that we’ve figured out that this isn’t about “right and wrongs” or “black and white”, what else can Jerry do to get his wife in the mood?

Thing #2 – Seed Nurture Harvest

This is a concept used in agriculture that is absolutely applicable in all romantic relationships; especially in a marriage.

Within the first two years of marriage, everything is exciting and new. That’s easy.

When your wife starts to tell you she is not in the mood, you have two choices.

You can take it as an opportunity to engage in highly rewarding work or suck on your thumbs around the house like Jerry.

I want you to go with the first choice.

Find out how you can make her life easy, and turn it into seeds to nurture. The nurturing has to be consistent and you have to be patient.

Your wife’s mood is not some machine to switch on and off at will.  

You have to be patient and that patience will be tested as well.  Your consistency becomes practice and it gets easier if you are patient.

Thing #1 – Give Her Time

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Most women will multiply a sense of safety and security back into you as sex and unlimited nurturing.

If she feels heard, you can penetrate everything.

Making sure she feels heard is a whole skill set beyond just listening as a one time event.

Like we’ve said, this is very hard but highly rewarding once you get into the cruise zone.

Give her time to capture your effort and spend that time on self development and improvement.

The Main Lesson

You reap what you sow.  It doesn’t make it your fault but it does give you leverage to turn things around.

But I agree that it will take humility and a longer term outlook than you are used to.

Check out this video on the screen for more information about that.

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5 Signs Your Wife Never Really Loved You

In this lesson, we will be sharing 5 signs your wife never really loved you. 

If you are here right now, it means you are either in doubt or have reached a stumbling wall in your marriage. 

Marriages are often sweet in the beginning… in the in-love moment right?

But once the excitement and fun is over, most people start to feel like they are in a nightmare.

Ever heard of “marriage is not a bed of roses”

What that simply means is there will be highs and lows in your marriage. 

If you meet anyone in life who tells you their marriage is always rosy, they must be perfect and full of shit.

As we all know, no such human exists in this world.

With all that being said, if all you have experienced in your marriage is judgement, abuse and condemnation, here are 5 signs your wife really never loved you.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book 

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

Alright this is OLA… 

1st Sign – She Does Not Respect You

Ever heard of a quote that says… 

“When a woman doesn’t respect you, she can’t love you?”

She cannot love at least in the moment in time.

So in recent times, you’ve noticed a few things that come off as disrespectful.

You noticed that your wife puts you down in front of her friends and family and you happen to always be the butt of her jokes.

In fact, she talks about you in a way that almost seems like you disgust her. 

Also, she never lets you get out a thought before she shuts you up and down. 

She just seems like she can’t be bothered by you while she actively complains about everything you do and chastises your every move.

When in argument (which you should be actively avoiding), she is quick to attempt to or put her hands on you. 

I feel your pain; it must hurt.

If this has happened since the beginning, she probably never loved you; but that’s only if it’s been that way from the beginning.

For the most part, it’s never like that from the beginning.  

Something happened at some point and it’s in the best interest of your marriage to find out when because she probably is just not in love with you at the moment.

What’s the next sign?

2nd Sign That She Was Never in Love – Indifference

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Indifference in marriages leads to nowhere but the death of a marriage. 

Marriage requires constant care and effort physically and emotionally. 

If your wife is not interested in what you are doing and she never cares about what you are up to, that’s her being indifferent. 

She doesn’t even acknowledge your presence. 

You can be chatting with the most beautiful woman in the world and she doesn’t care what you say about her.

I know what you are thinking.

“What if she is just being confident and not the jealous type?”

Well I’m sorry to burst your bubble, you are confused because obviously you are here to find some answers right?

Most women are naturally territorial and will protect their marriages if anything feels like encroachment on that territory. 

They are not necessarily trying to own their spouses.  But it’s only natural when a wife is  committed to a marriage enough to want to protect it. 

Studies say most people are not able to come back once indifference sets in. 

If she has always been indifferent, there is a good chance she was never in love with you.

What’s the next sign?

3rd Sign – She Avoids Sex

Sex is an important part of marriage and if its lacking, it makes people cranky. 

There are so many reasons that people end up in sexless marriages such as loss of connection, lack of communication, infidelity, trust issues, low libido and health issues.

Now with all that being said, you feel your situation is different. 

Infact she doesn’t pressure you for sex except when she want to have babies. 

You are probably in deep shit.

When a woman pushes you away when you try to touch her or seems disgusted at the sight of your nakedness, I can respect your concerns.

The worst part for most people experiencing this is when she makes weird excuses like 

“I’m fasting” 

…and she seems to always be on her period.

  • Won’t let you kiss or hold her. 
  • Complains about your hygiene all the time after much effort to clean up. 
  • She visibly stays as far away as possible from you all the time. 

If she has always been this way, she probably was never in love with you.

You see… 

A woman who loves and is in love with her husband will help him in so many ways even when he is falling short. 

She will do her best sexually to let you know she cares for you because it becomes part of how she feels validated. 

Also she will share her thoughts and concerns if something seems inadequate in your intimacy.  

Even if she finds it awkward to say verbally, she will show signs like buying you colognes, body wash, mouthwash, and floss if necessary. 

Your wife who was in love, if ever, would suggest that you both go for regular visits to the gym, dentist and doctor if it comes down to it. 

She would also do all these in a loving way and if you are not oblivious, you will get it. 

My point is that she won’t avoid sex with you if she is in love with you. 

Let’s move on to the next sign…

4th Sign – She Doesn’t Want To Be Seen With You In Public

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Before you start giving excuses that she is an introvert and is too busy with work, can I pause you for a minute? 

Most women love to show off their men,It’s a thing of pride. 

If she is ashamed of being in your presence in public, it’s a red flag. 

So many marriages have broken down to the point where the wife would rather not invite the husband to any outing she goes to. 

When you ask her if you can come, she gets mad and leaves anyway,  

In fact, she is parading herself like a single woman.

What’s the next sign babe?

5th Sign – Future Plans Not Including You

One thing that is common in healthy marriages is that you keep planning on your future together. 

You plan vacations, retirement plans, financial plans and so on together… That’s the expectation of healthy marriages.

A wife who makes major decisions even about the kids without the husband is not only fantasizing about a future without him, she may have already left… spiritually.

As a young girl growing up in a third world country, I heard stories of women who would build a house and not tell their husbands about it. 

I found this to be very strange and I asked my mom why would people keep such secrets from people they claim to love. 

She told me it comes from lack of trust or betrayal from their partners. 

Even though I understood her point, I always thought it was unhealthy to keep such secrets because that is also considered cheating.

If that’s a sign you have experienced, she is not in love with you.

Conclusion & The Main Lesson

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There are probably many more signs we could share with you that would indicate that your wife was never in love with you.

But they all have this one thing in common.

The sign was always noticeable from the beginning of your relationship or your marriage and you are just getting fed up with them now.

Whatever the signs may be… 

If it wasn’t always there, your wife is just not in love at this moment and there is a chance and hope of restoration if you are willing to do the work.

If she outrightly tells you “I was never in love”, have some self respect and start believing her to open yourself up for a better chance at life of bliss and love.

Inside the book GET MY MARRIAGE BACK, we tell our story and how we were able to come back from a filed divorce.

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How to Reverse a SEXLESS MARRIAGE ❤️ 5 SECRETS That Works

In this lesson, you will discover 5 SECRETS of how to reverse a sexless marriage using seduction and ancient attraction methods.

… PLUS make it your spouses idea.

This is more relevant if you are experience low attraction as opposed to a medical related condition.

15 percent of married couples are sexless: Spouses haven’t had sex with each other in the past six months to one year

NY Times

Quick Question from a Reader to Help with this lesson ⁉️

“Hi. I have a very tricky situation here. My wife and I are considered soul mates by the time we’re dating and made many other couples jealous about intimacy.

Until the birth of our first child. Fast forward till now, 5 years of marriage. My wife has severely low libido and I get denied for over a year.

Or I can say less than one time of intimate session a year after marriage. I result to prostitute a year ago which I bailed out of; I did not have sex with the prostitute.

Because I love my wife dearly, I felt guilty anyway; but I did not let my wife know.

But the real problem is that it hunt me down recently which my wife found out through my browsing history when I searched up the location for quick relief a year ago.

Now my wife has her heart shattered but will still stay with me. As she say, I’m the only guy she will be with till the end of time but she mandates that she will no longer engage in sex with me.”

How to Reverse a Sexless Marriage - Rekindle your Marriage

(1) This is an Opportunity

Problems are opportunities in disguise.

A sexless marriage is clearly a terrible experience for anyone to be experiencing.

So there is a good chance that the attitude and energy you are creating as a by-product is perpetuating that.

Use this opportunity to build yourself and show case a brand new person who doesn’t need sexual validations from your spouse.

In essence, acting like you really need sex will decrease the chances of getting some.

Once you bring sex back into your marriage, it’s going to be that much better than many couples’ mediocre sexual exploits.

So get excited.

Even if you are trying by yourself while your spouse says it’s too late, disregard because it’s time to learn something new.

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(2) Root Cause Analysis

You need to identify when it started.

If your sexless marriage is an issue that you have experienced in your marriage from the beginning, you need to identify that.

You need to do the same if you feel that it started somewhere later.

For example, it could have started after a child birth.

Once you figure that out, the rest of the steps below becomes that much easier towards a better sexual and intimate sessions.

(3) How to Reverse a Sexless Marriage with Self Love & Self Esteem

In life and especially in marriage, no one is usually going to give you what you are able to give yourself.

In this case, we are talking about how to reverse and rekindle sex in a sexless marriage.

If your spouse feels that you can’t attract anyone else and have sex outside of him or her,

…he or she will have a hard time with feel attraction for you.

This is especially true if you are in the middle of other marriage related crisis as no one single factor can lead you to a sexless marriage.

… unless it is medical in nature.

That’s not to say you should go out and engage in uncontrollable behavior and infidelity.

But you should probably carry yourself a little differently from a confidence stand point.

(4) Forgiving Yourself is Required Step towards Reversing a Sexless Marriage

What would you do differently if you knew that you have not offended your spouse?

How would you carry yourself if you are so confident that he or she wants you sexually 3 times a day?

Compare the answers to your anxiety and reactions as related to your present concerns.

There are chances that things have happened that makes you show up with self-blame and guilt.

Write out whatever that behavior is and do the opposite.

It will transfer your anxiety to your spouse and make them wonder if he/she has been replaced.

Attraction will subsequently increase.

(5) Become a Student of the Art of Seduction & Attraction and Reverse your Sexless Marriage.

If you have been married for any amount of time, you know that many aspects of marriage is ups and downs.

You need to approach marriage deliberately and intentionally especially when you experience crisis.

It’s better on the other side of just winging it and going along with your feelings.

Marriage can be predictable when you learn a few seduction and attraction skills specially with a person you already know.

Stop feel sad (lack of self control) and take the steering once and for all.

It all comes down to attraction.

Even beyond sex…

If there is low level of attraction, your spouse will abuse you at least emotionally.

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