In this lesson, we will be sharing 5 signs your wife never really loved you.
If you are here right now, it means you are either in doubt or have reached a stumbling wall in your marriage.
Marriages are often sweet in the beginning… in the in-love moment right?
But once the excitement and fun is over, most people start to feel like they are in a nightmare.
Ever heard of “marriage is not a bed of roses”
What that simply means is there will be highs and lows in your marriage.
If you meet anyone in life who tells you their marriage is always rosy, they must be perfect and full of shit.
As we all know, no such human exists in this world.
With all that being said, if all you have experienced in your marriage is judgement, abuse and condemnation, here are 5 signs your wife really never loved you.
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1st Sign – She Does Not Respect You
Ever heard of a quote that says…
“When a woman doesn’t respect you, she can’t love you?”
She cannot love at least in the moment in time.
So in recent times, you’ve noticed a few things that come off as disrespectful.
You noticed that your wife puts you down in front of her friends and family and you happen to always be the butt of her jokes.
In fact, she talks about you in a way that almost seems like you disgust her.
Also, she never lets you get out a thought before she shuts you up and down.
She just seems like she can’t be bothered by you while she actively complains about everything you do and chastises your every move.
When in argument (which you should be actively avoiding), she is quick to attempt to or put her hands on you.
I feel your pain; it must hurt.
If this has happened since the beginning, she probably never loved you; but that’s only if it’s been that way from the beginning.
For the most part, it’s never like that from the beginning.
Something happened at some point and it’s in the best interest of your marriage to find out when because she probably is just not in love with you at the moment.
What’s the next sign?
2nd Sign That She Was Never in Love – Indifference
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Indifference in marriages leads to nowhere but the death of a marriage.
Marriage requires constant care and effort physically and emotionally.
If your wife is not interested in what you are doing and she never cares about what you are up to, that’s her being indifferent.
She doesn’t even acknowledge your presence.
You can be chatting with the most beautiful woman in the world and she doesn’t care what you say about her.
I know what you are thinking.
“What if she is just being confident and not the jealous type?”
Well I’m sorry to burst your bubble, you are confused because obviously you are here to find some answers right?
Most women are naturally territorial and will protect their marriages if anything feels like encroachment on that territory.
They are not necessarily trying to own their spouses. But it’s only natural when a wife is committed to a marriage enough to want to protect it.
Studies say most people are not able to come back once indifference sets in.
If she has always been indifferent, there is a good chance she was never in love with you.
What’s the next sign?
3rd Sign – She Avoids Sex
Sex is an important part of marriage and if its lacking, it makes people cranky.
There are so many reasons that people end up in sexless marriages such as loss of connection, lack of communication, infidelity, trust issues, low libido and health issues.
Now with all that being said, you feel your situation is different.
Infact she doesn’t pressure you for sex except when she want to have babies.
You are probably in deep shit.
When a woman pushes you away when you try to touch her or seems disgusted at the sight of your nakedness, I can respect your concerns.
The worst part for most people experiencing this is when she makes weird excuses like
…and she seems to always be on her period.
- Won’t let you kiss or hold her.
- Complains about your hygiene all the time after much effort to clean up.
- She visibly stays as far away as possible from you all the time.
If she has always been this way, she probably was never in love with you.
A woman who loves and is in love with her husband will help him in so many ways even when he is falling short.
She will do her best sexually to let you know she cares for you because it becomes part of how she feels validated.
Also she will share her thoughts and concerns if something seems inadequate in your intimacy.
Even if she finds it awkward to say verbally, she will show signs like buying you colognes, body wash, mouthwash, and floss if necessary.
Your wife who was in love, if ever, would suggest that you both go for regular visits to the gym, dentist and doctor if it comes down to it.
She would also do all these in a loving way and if you are not oblivious, you will get it.
My point is that she won’t avoid sex with you if she is in love with you.
Let’s move on to the next sign…
4th Sign – She Doesn’t Want To Be Seen With You In Public
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Before you start giving excuses that she is an introvert and is too busy with work, can I pause you for a minute?
Most women love to show off their men,It’s a thing of pride.
If she is ashamed of being in your presence in public, it’s a red flag.
So many marriages have broken down to the point where the wife would rather not invite the husband to any outing she goes to.
When you ask her if you can come, she gets mad and leaves anyway,
In fact, she is parading herself like a single woman.
What’s the next sign babe?
5th Sign – Future Plans Not Including You
One thing that is common in healthy marriages is that you keep planning on your future together.
You plan vacations, retirement plans, financial plans and so on together… That’s the expectation of healthy marriages.
A wife who makes major decisions even about the kids without the husband is not only fantasizing about a future without him, she may have already left… spiritually.
As a young girl growing up in a third world country, I heard stories of women who would build a house and not tell their husbands about it.
I found this to be very strange and I asked my mom why would people keep such secrets from people they claim to love.
She told me it comes from lack of trust or betrayal from their partners.
Even though I understood her point, I always thought it was unhealthy to keep such secrets because that is also considered cheating.
If that’s a sign you have experienced, she is not in love with you.
Conclusion & The Main Lesson
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There are probably many more signs we could share with you that would indicate that your wife was never in love with you.
But they all have this one thing in common.
The sign was always noticeable from the beginning of your relationship or your marriage and you are just getting fed up with them now.
Whatever the signs may be…
If it wasn’t always there, your wife is just not in love at this moment and there is a chance and hope of restoration if you are willing to do the work.
If she outrightly tells you “I was never in love”, have some self respect and start believing her to open yourself up for a better chance at life of bliss and love.
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