A Sexless marriage is a terrible experience for anyone to be going through; feeling unwanted, helpless, undeserving, and just hopeless.
But just like every other aspect of life, what doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger.
But with some knowledge and emotional wisdom as ammunition, you will become unstoppable…
So allow me to share some information to help you.
You can reverse that reality in your marriage especially if it's emotionally driven.
If your Sexless Marriage is due to medical issues, seek the help of a medical professional.
Sex is the one thing that makes your marriage different from other types of relationship so you shouldn't have to be stuck in the lack it.
So if you either feel that:
- Your Spouse Rejects sex with you all the time.
- Your Spouse Does not initiate sex enough with you OR….
- OR You are no longer sexually attracted to your spouse.
Essentially, nothing is broken with the 2 of you physically but the vibe is just never right for one or both of you;
It’s mental and I got you and you are not alone… but you need to act.
What percentage of sexless marriages end in divorce?
Studies show that 20% of marriage are sexless and you probably already know that 50% of all marriage unions end in divorce.
If I were you, I would be more scared of staying in an unhappy marriage than divorce itself; but anyway, you are not alone.
How long do sexless marriages last?
A sexless marriages can last forever.
That's especially true when there are kids involved but more importantly,
You should consider your marriage sexless if you have not had sex in 3 months or more.
"Lack of sex" should be addressed at the 2 weeks mark if there are no visible, clear or medical reason.
Can a sexless marriage survive?
A sexless marriage can definitely survive but that doesn’t mean it’s the best way to live a quality life.
The real question is if you can reverse a sexless marriage and the answer is yes; especially if you have a good history of intimacy.
All you need is at least "one of you" to initiate that dance and with patience, your spouse will respond.
Sure it takes 2 to tango but there is a need for just one leader who wants to take the charge and follow these 4 steps.
- Look in the mirror.
- Focus on changed behavior (even if you had not offended your spouse, switching a few predictable behaviors up will make them wonder and increase attraction.)
- Look out for rekindling signs.
- Respond when you see signs.
Become a student of seduction; Seduction is not just sexual.
If you are the one who is not sexually attracted to your spouse,
That’s a symptom of underlying issues...
That is to say you should focus on fixing that.
So maybe there are behaviors that your spouse puts on that turns you off;
In that case, you can learn how to seduce your spouse to the way you desire him or her to behave.
For example, if she doesn’t clean after herself, your knee jerk reaction is to complain about it.
Instead of being predictable, you can actually seductively request that she cleans.
And when she does clean once in a while, tell her how sexy she looked while cleaning.
Use Reverse Psychology to Reverse Your Sexless Marriage
Here is the point, use seduction to highlight when your spouse does what you like and you will naturally get more of such moments.
If you are not having enough sex, seductively highlight when you do have sex
And refrain away from complaining when there is no sex for extended period of time.
What you focus on expands; negative or positive.
What happens in a marriage without intimacy?
There is a risk of at least one person wanting more intimacy
And that increases the chances of infidelity and just a bad lifestyle that comes with multiple sexual partners.
If you are experiencing this, you should be concerned even if you are the less affectionate partner.
It’s even worse if you have kids because you will teach them these bad behaviors; maybe unintentionally.
Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…
“My Wife and I are in separation.
But we don’t sleep in the same room anymore.
Tried talking to her but she wants nothing to do with me anymore.
I messed up because I was insecure.
And I tried to talk to her and told her that I have changed.
Still no luck; does my marriage still have a chance.”
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What is a Sexless Marriage?
A sexless marriage is a marriage where sexual intimacy has dried up for 3 months or longer.
Can Sexless Marriage Survive?
Lack of sex in a marriage (outside of medical and disability reasons) is a symptom. The marriage can survive if the underlying issue is uncovered with root cause analysis and fixed.
How can a Sexless Marriage Survive?
A sexless marriage (with the exception of those cause by medical issues) can survive by applying seduction strategies that are value and long term based.
What Does The Bible Say About Sexless Marriage?
It's simply not biblical to live in a sexless marriage. Corinthians 7:2 says "2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband."
Should You Stay in a Sexless Marriage?
A sexless marriage is a symptom and that means there are underlying issues. To stay or not will depend on what the root cause of it is.
Can Sexless Marriage Work?
It depends on what the root cause is. There are many sexless marriages that last when its caused by medical issues. Also, many last but not necessarily without affairs and transgressions.
Is Sexless Marriage Reason for Divorce?
It can be a reason but it shouldn't be unless the root cause of it has been addressed and determined to be non-fixable or unbearable. Sexless-ness is a symptom of underlying issues.
Is Sexless Marriage Normal?
When you consider that "15 percent of married couples are sexless: Spouses haven't had sex with each other in the past six months to one year" according to studies, it's not normal.
I wouldn't consider it normal unless at least 50% of married couples experience it. It's not normal; it should be addressed.
Can Sexless Marriage Be Fixed?
Outside of those cause by medical issues, a sexless marriage can be fixed.
How Many Sexless Marriages End In Divorce?
About 15-20% of marriages are sexless and about 50% of them end up in divorce. Lack of sex is definitely a contributing factor to that 50% divorce rate.
What Should a Christian Do in a Sexless Marriage?
First of all, prayer and patience is going to be a key part of the process.
Also, you want to find a way to embed humility, gratitude into skillful seduction of your spouse back to desire you sexually.
How long do sexless marriages last?
It can last for as long as it would take you to gain the courage to find and fix the underlying issues. Sexless marriage (outside of medical issues) is a symptom of broken marriage.
How do you fix a sexless marriage?
By finding and fixing the underlying issues.
Sexless marriage (outside of medical issues) is a symptom of broken marriage.