“Is My Wife Cheating?” 💔 10 Additional Questions To Find Out

In this lesson, you will discover the real answer to this age-old question (Is my wife cheating?) and why the answer is probably not what you need before these 10 questions.

Nonetheless, I will give you the answer.

We are sorry that you have found yourself in this space with your marriage.  We want to help and this article will be a great start.

Warning! Do not read anything else about cheating suspicions until you read this article in its entirety.  You will break your home if you do.

With that being said, in this previous post, we shared 10 signs that your wife just slept with someone else.

We created that article but there is a problem that reading that article can potentially create and that’s turning you into an FBI agent in your own marriage.

What happens after reading these types of articles is the initiation of the vicious cycle, rabbit hole and urge to start looking for more information on how to catch your wife with another man.

It will never be enough.

There is usually a complete neglect for the psychological factors involved when you find yourself in this space of cheating and infidelity suspicions.

What If Your Wife Cheated?

This question is a bigger question that we want you to answer before you embark on the painful journey of finding out if your wife cheated.

There is a difference between those 2 questions; “Is your wife cheating?” and “What if your wife cheated?”.

But both questions are just as painful because the subject of the matter is still “cheating.”

And we can’t afford to manipulate you out of wondering if this has, in fact, happened because you have your reasons for the suspicion.

We can groom the mind in the direction that’s healthy over time but we can’t just format it like a computer disk if this is an actual concern.

So what if she cheated?  

As painful as that question is to process, what would you do?  That answer is more important than finding out if she’s actually cheating.

Are You Satisfied With Your Findings?

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In an ideal world, you would check out all the signs that the gurus provide and your findings would indicate that your wife is not cheating.

But does that really satisfy the root cause of your concerns?

When you suggest to the husband of these modern days the possibility of being insecure, they get very defensive.

Insecurity is one issue but the tendency to get very defensive quickly is another behemoth issue all together.

By default, the root cause of the quest to know if your wife is cheating is insecurity.  

The confusion comes when you think that the possibility of your insecurity is a crime that negates the possibility that your wife could also be cheating.

Two things can be true at the same time.

So if your findings say that she is not cheating, the human mind will tend to keep looking for answers that align more with the suspicion.

And if your findings indicate that she has been cheating, what would you do?

Therefore the only answer you should be looking for is these… 

10 Questions Before Finding Out If She Is Cheating Or Not … 

  1. “What if your wife is cheating?”  
  1. If she’s cheating, what would be the next step?  
  1. Would that hurt and to what extent?  
  1. Would you leave the marriage?  
  1. If you decide to stay, under what condition?
  1. What condition is healthy for you to stay in a marriage with a cheater?
  1. What about healing from the wound of that level of betrayal?
  1. What about healing from not being in bondage of always wondering if she’s still cheating?
  1. Is total redemption from the effects of a cheating wife even possible?
  2. How do I stop wondering if my wife is cheating?

Here Is An Example of A Good Reason For Cheating Concerns

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A reader reached out to us. He thinks his wife is cheating.

According to him, she was never a social person. But recently, she has been hanging out late on random nights after work with co-workers.   

Before his suspicions, she would call or text if she was going to be late for any reason but it’s getting really bad these days.

One day, after texting and calling her, looking for her and even reaching out to her family, with no response, he was forced to trace her to the bar around her workplace.

Eventually, she ran into her car and just waited long enough for her.  She eventually came out of a male co-workers’ car.

When they talked about it, she claimed that she was too drunk to come home right away so she decided to just hang out and talk with the male co-worker in his car.

Now… is there enough information to confirm what he has been suspecting?  No.  

Is She Right Or Wrong?

… to even be in these compromising positions of hanging out, getting drunk around male friends and co-workers who she is obviously very comfortable with?

Whatever your answer is would be correct.  You have the right to be right.

Is it possible that his wife is cheating on him?  Yes.

Is it possible that she is not cheating at all? Yes.

Which answer is more probable? Your outlook on life will be the lens of choice here.

None of the answers is relevant to the real issue at hand which is the fact that your wife has found a safer zone outside of your marriage.

Is it your fault?  Blame, guilt, judgement and condemnations are irrelevant to a healthy way forward.

A bigger issue is also that you are now operating out of fear and not faith.  This will kill every ounce of attraction left in your marriage.

If you care for her, your goal should be one of these two different goals; to attract her back or let her go to set yourself free.

It just so happens that letting her go will increase the chances of attracting her back as we all know that the streets are not safe for anyone.

But it takes certain types of experience for some people to find out.

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The worst thing you can do is to continue to go down the rabbit hole of being an FBI or CIA agent in the sanctity of your own home.

That’s never going to be fun and it will never create a positive fruit for your own life.  We understand that a cheating wife won’t do that either.

However, you are better off working with the law of attraction.  Focus on yourself and you will attract what’s best for you, including the best out of your wife.

If she’s just naturally a cheater (which is possible), you will also attract that information in a more healthy way that will allow you to move forward in the most healthy way.

At least, you won’t be missing out on a fun life until that happens.

Seeking individual counseling, coaching and therapy is also not a bad idea in this space because this is going to be easier said than done.  

It can be very hard to just relax when you have real suspicions.

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5 Things That Will Make Your Wife Miss You During Separation 💔

In this lesson, you will discover 5 things that you can focus on to make your wife miss you during a separation in marriage.  

Sorry to hear that you may be going through this but I got you.  I want to tell you a story about James and his wife who are separated but living together.

So James was a guy who dropped us an email.  He has been separated from his wife for a while now due to multiple issues. 

Based on his confession, his wife finally had enough of him constantly putting her down and she asked for a separation with the goal of divorce. 

They have been married since 2010 and have two kids together. 

According to him, the kids are why they have decided to live together but separated for the time being.

James doesn’t want divorce but he understands that his wife is comfortable and will need to miss their romance in order to get back together; hence his question.

Believe it or not, separation may not have been a bad thing for your marriage.  

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There is a Nigerian Yoruba proverb that says

“Agbo ti o fi eyin rin lo, agbara ni o lo mu wa.”

Which in loose translation means:

“The ram that moves backwards has gone to bring more power.”

This can be true for your marriage also… especially if you lean in and pay attention to these 5 things that go over most people’s heads.

Let’s be honest.  Emotions are high during separation on at least one side of the relationship; usually on both sides.

So everything I say to you today will be easier said than done. Nonetheless, it will increase your chances of attracting healthy love.

If you are a wife who is trying to make your husband miss you during separation, these lessons are also applicable.

But with a slight difference according to the sexual polarity based on the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy in your relationship.

With that being said, let’s dive into the 5 things….

Thing #5 – Attraction

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When there is a breakdown in attraction, the negative things are easier to focus on than all the numerous positive things happening, evident by the fact that there is room to complain.

This behavior subsequently creates the further deterioration of attraction in the marriage and this is why most couples in separation are in a vicious cycle.

Guess what you can start doing to rebuild attraction; the direct opposite.  Whatever you focus on expands; positive or negative.  

So one extremely seductive thing you can do now is to make a different choice; focus on all the positive things and ignore the negative things unless it is safety, security or core value related.

Thing #4 – Gratitude

This is an attitude to life.  It is still true to a large extent that you attract things into your life based on your attitude about life.

In the midst of separation, most people become very weak to the point that all they can do is swing along with things and wing things along.

They also tend to point fingers at everyone and everything else but self which is another way to disengage from self-improvement.

If your wife doesn’t get pointing-fingers from you, she will miss you because she will gradually start growing respect for you.

Thing #3 – Purpose

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Without a strong personal purpose in life, there is a good chance that you will have a lot of time in your hands for nonsensical activities.

You know what they say about the idle mind; it’s the devil’s playground right?  

If you are thinking about your separation right now, there is a chance that you are not as engaged with your personal life mission and purpose.

When you are engaged with your purpose as a man, it’s only natural for you to create a space of respect and healthy distance around you without you having to ignore her.

Your wife will miss you because she can feel the change especially if you both have good memories from the past together.

Thing #2 – Self-Love

This is simpler than most people understand.  If you don’t love yourself, others, including your estranged wife, will mimic that behavior.

It has to be absolutely clear to her that you love yourself way too much to wait around and throw your life away for her to miss being in love with you.

She doesn’t get to decide if she wants to miss you or not if you get this right.

Thing #1 – Let-Go

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I understand that it is almost an oxymoron to ask you to “let go” while trying to make your wife miss you; I’m guessing… in order to rekindle romance in your marriage.

Think about it.  Your wife is running for a reason.  

From a mental standpoint, the last thing you want to do to a person who feels like running is to convince them otherwise. 

People don’t run from what they passive as pleasure or relief.  They run from pain or anything they perceive as painful at least until you change that experience for them.

So “letting go” for you may feel painful which is why you may naturally be running from the idea of letting go but that is where the work lies for you.

So tell me in the comment area which of these 5 things has proven to be the hardest for you to do and we will see about doing a video tip on making it easier for you.

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Also check out the 30 minutes free coaching and discovery session that we will give you access to right after the download.

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10 Signs Your Wife Just Slept With Someone Else 💔

In this lesson, not only will you discover 10 signs that your wife just slept with someone else, you will also discover how to move in these trying and difficult times in your marriage.

The idea of wondering about your wife’s faithfulness has got to be an extremely painful process for you and I’m sorry.  But your life is about to change.

Real growth in life and as a man lies within this process. 

And it is completely up to you what you do with it after I share this information with you.

Initially, I never felt this way about my beautiful wife Lola.  

But once I started seeing some strange behavior I wasn’t used to from her, I started asking questions that led to opinions from strangers that she might be sleeping with someone else.

Of course, I did not buy into that because above all, we’ve always been best friends.

Entertaining such opinions from strangers is a dangerous place to be because you as a man would naturally take that information back to your wife in the form of vibes.

And it will only make things worse even if your wife is not sleeping with someone else.

Read our book GET MY MARRIAGE BACK for our full story.  For now, let’s dive into the 10 signs that supposedly implies that your wife has slept with someone else.

Sign #1 of 10 – She Doesn’t Want To Have Sex

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This sign, like all the other 9 signs I will be sharing with you, could mean 2  things.  And it’s completely up to you and your emotional intelligence level what you do with it.

It could mean that she doesn’t feel safe, secure and connection to you.  

When a woman doesn’t feel these 3 things, she will be dry in every sense you can imagine and she will not desire sex with you.

However if she is a cheater at heart, she may be sleeping with another person regularly and there’s only so much sex she can have right?  

Then may be, just may be, she’s already having sex with someone else.

Sign #2 – She Goes Straight For The Shower After Coming In

So not just once but repeatedly, you’ve noticed that every time your wife comes back into the house, she hits the shower right away.

Maybe you should ask her why.

Especially if she doesn’t work at the hospital during a pandemic or a soya bean oil factory; Those are some exceptions.

The worst case scenario which you should not be assuming is that she is trying to wash another man’s cologne off of her body as soon as possible.

If the worst case scenario resonates with you, ask yourself what those other issues in your marriage are.  Obviously, there are.

Sign #3 – She Lied About Her Whereabout

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You found out completely randomly recently that your wife heads somewhere else any time she claims to be going to one place.  

It wasn’t because you had been placing trackers on her phone or the car out of your own personal insecurities. 

Her just feeling the need to lie and hide her whereabouts as these secrets continue to be exposed without you looking for them reflects not just red flags… 

But also the fact that she may be a sloppy cheater who has slept with other people.

Sign #4 – Her Dress & Make Up Are Extra These Days

Many women go through early mid-life crisis where they may have felt lost in the hustle and bustles of life.  

The way they may show that is self improvement from a physical standpoint. 

You’ve made sure that you are not lacking the basic connection that a woman desires.

But then, she suddenly starts to dress and put on heavier make-up to work.  

She may be entertaining attention from a work husband who she may have been sleeping with.

Please note the “maybe’s”.

Sign #5 of 10 That Your Wife Has Slept With Someone else – She Suddenly Want To Take Girls’ Trips 

Why else would a wife need a girl’s trip especially with single girls outside of, maybe, the fact that women can get quite overwhelmed with home-making activities simultaneously with a career life?

Sign #6 – You Found Her Profile On A Dating App

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Now, this is a cut-throat sign that if she hasn’t slept with someone else, she is at least planning to do so.  

This is also inappropriate unless she works for the dating app company and it was a test profile.

Sign #7 – She Password Coded Her Phone

You have, like you normally do, try to login into your wife’s phone but the old password doesn’t work.  You didn’t think much of it.

“Honey, what’s the new password?” “Why? Can you use your own phone?”  She replied to you.

Maybe she’s hiding something on her last text message regarding her sister’s love life; ladies conversations. 

Or a conversation about her sex last night with the side dude.

Food for thought.

Sign #8 – She Was Texting All Night

So when this happens in our marriage occasionally, I am usually next to her and she’s sharing what the text is all about with me as well.  

Also, whoever she is texting, (never other men) is also my friend but more so like her best friend from high school and college.  I usually feel safe.

If this is happening and you don’t feel safe, know who it is and she says nothing about the conversation, she was probably reminiscing a sex with a side dude (or woman.)

But maybe not.

Sign #9 – She Doesn’t Want PDA

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If your wife is ashamed of PDA (public display of affection) with you suddenly after a few years in the marriage, she probably doesn’t feel safe, secure and connection to you.

That’s a more likely reason.  

On the flip side, the unlikely reason (unless you’ve noticed 7 out of the previous signs I have just shared with you) is that she has just had an awesome mind blowing sex with someone else.

Question for you.  

What are you doing to attract your wife to desire having mind blowing sex with you and only you at least once a week?

Sign #10 of 10 That Your Wife Has Slept With Someone else – You Suspect Her

Let’s be honest.  

If you think that it must be true just because you suspect and just that reason only, you probably should avoid marriage and romance altogether.

There are obviously other questions you should be asking if you are that concerned about the possibility that your wife is sleeping with someone else.

So tell me in the comment area other related marriage topics or struggles you would like us to cover in our next video.

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Get My Marriage Back at:

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5 Rules to Follow When Separation Starts to Work For Your Marriage💔

In this lesson, we will be sharing five rules to follow if you have been separated for a while but things are starting to seem great between you two again; these rules will help prevent sabotaging the attraction.

So Calvin has been separated from his wife for eight months now, hardly talking, haven’t seen each other or interacted at all.

The loss of their pet brought them back together and they are now in talking terms; they are also hanging out every now and then and enjoying it.

But he is afraid that their toxic behavior will creep back in if they go all-in and start talking about their marriage again.

How do you make sure you don’t mess things up if separation from your marriage is starting to work in favor of the marriage?

Shall we?

Yes.  My name is OLA.

This is actually good news; Calvin has clearly done a great job to get in this space.

The rest of the story now depends on Calvin’s ability to follow these simple, lightweight but crucial rules that will reduce his chances of self-sabotaging.

By the way, there are family laws that guide separation and divorces, so it never hurts to seek legal counsel in the process.

Rule #5 – Enjoy Today & The Little Moments

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One of the things that you have likely taken for granted in your relationship with your wife  are the little moments of just “being.”

What often happens after separation is that you start to value the little things, gestures and moments… I want you to set a plan in motion to keep it that way forever.

A direct cause of anxiety, torture and suffering in relationships and marriages is the obsession with the past and future.  

It makes you feel that the grass may be greener on the other side.  And then you start to fantasize and compare your partners or relationship to others.

Rule #4 – Focus On The Upsides & The Positives.

Still in the spirit of gratitude, I want you to let go and release yourself from the terrible experience that may have led to the separation from your wife in the first place.

As usual, this is easier said than done but stay tuned for rule #1. 

It will help you prepare properly for the release and re-focusing all that energy on celebrating the good times and experiences you are starting to recreate with your wife again.

For now, I want you to focus on everything about her that you fell in love with on day-1.  Add them to these same good experiences you are having right now.

Rule #3 – Don’t Put Marriage On A Pedestal.

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A terrible mistake that a lot of married couples make is to abandon the underlying relationship while stressing each other out about the “marriage” title.”

While marriage is a beautiful thing, it will stress your relationship out if you put it on a pedestal above your friendship, unity and freedom.

Marriage has become an ideology and a religion that many people would kill the actual relationship with their spouse for.

Let go of all extreme ideologies and refocus back on rebuilding friendship with your wife one moment at a time.

Rule #2 – Co-Mingling Fear & Love Is Not Sustainable

Naturally, your guards and all kinds of walls are up when you find yourself and marriage in separation; I understand but that’s fear.

Fear is an emotion that is natural to all of us when we go through traumatic experiences in life.

So it makes sense that a part of you doesn’t want to be too forward with talking about serious topics like marriage, what happened, and getting back together officially.

But I want to share a technique with you that works all the time.  

It is based on the simple fact that fear and love cannot coexist in the same space over a long period of time. One of them will prevail.

So it is okay to shoot your shot as soon as you feel safe enough to do so without rushing it but again, what does that mean?

At this stage of rekindling things, focus on dating and courting her fearlessly provided she is really the one that you want on any given day; don’t worry about tomorrow.

Wait for her to desire the idea of making things official again.  She needs to feel safe and secure and she will bring it up and send you clear signals.

Rule #1 – Engage Self-development, Seduction & Attraction Skills.

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Declare rule 2 to 5 useless without rule #1.  She and the relationship will test you over and over and again so you need emotional strength and intelligence.

She will not be testing you deliberately for the most part so you do not get to judge her; it’s the nature of a typical woman within a romantic context.

Are you going to be man enough to pass these tests while attracting respect, trust, submission and passionate sexual experience with the woman you love?

There is a massive opportunity playing out right now. Are you prepared for it?

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Can This Marriage Be Saved? (5 Tips From Law of Attraction)💔

In this lesson, we are sharing 5 tips to save a marriage especially when one person is lukewarm or checked out.

Here is what Steve wrote to us.

“I’m an alcoholic and have said mean things to my wife while drunk. 

I also disconnected emotionally and sexually for most of our two year marriage. 

My wife has borderline personality disorder and tried very hard to save our marriage. 

She then got very depressed and attempted suicide.

I found her and with cpr; after 13 days in the hospital she recovered and then left. 

It’s been 3 months.

I went to rehab and quit drinking. I have been working on me and us.

She has finally come around some. She is warm and cold. Can this marriage be saved?”

So what do we have here?

This is an interesting story and as usual, we’ve extracted 5 tips that any married couple can use to rekindle attraction in their marriage.

These tips are mostly valid if you decide that saving the marriage is the best move for you as an individual.

As usual, it is easier said than done because it is highly rewarding when done right.

Today, there are many versions of the law of attraction but with respect to marriage, it is this simple; you attract the marriage that you are involved in.

Tip #5 – Self Awareness

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Most people would like to know the potential risk ahead in any endeavor.  

That’s why the easiest advice for anyone to give when it comes to marriage is to prepare by talking about everything before getting married.

But it’s useless advice for the most part because self awareness is false in the midst of falling in love with another flawed human being.

So I want you to replace  that with self-awareness only with respect to what you can control in the present.

That’s what was demonstrated when Steve said “I’m an alcoholic and have said mean things to my wife while drunk.”

It’s a step in the right direction to attracting a healthy and blissful marriage (again).

This must be very easy… right?

Tip #4 – Self Accountability

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Honestly, it is one of the hardest things for humans to do; stand in the mirror, learn and gain intelligence from that standpoint.

Steve also said “I also disconnected emotionally and sexually for most of our two year marriage.” 

What most people do is point fingers and at best, play an all inclusive blame game when you hear things like “we were both wrong.”

When you do that, the emphasis goes on the word “wrong” from an attack standpoint and that exposes your partner to a need to become defensive.

“Wrong” as a thing then expands because in the law of attraction, what you focus on expands; positive or negative.

So does that mean one person can save the marriage?

Tip #3 – Let Go & Let God

Eventually, it takes two but it doesn’t have to start with two.  In fact, it never starts with both parties; one person is usually shut off already.

But here is a tricky one.

One of the biggest delusional behaviors we take-on when we get married is to directly or indirectly try to control our spouse.

It’s actually worse when you are doing it indirectly because you are not aware; in fact, you’d argue that your behavior is not controlling but it is… precisely from an insecure place.

We’ve all done it.

From Steve’s story, it was important that he let her go when a crisis hit his marriage.  

Natural instincts and common sense say you should fight which most people interpret as endless begging, manipulation, ambush, family meetings etc.

With respect to the law of attraction, the human mind runs farther away from perceived pain when you chase as opposed to pursue.

If you find yourself in this situation, you have a significantly higher chance of attracting your spouse back when you let go and learn how to pursue.

Here is the difference between chasing and pursuing.

Pursuit in the context of romance puts more energy towards preparing and waiting for the right opportunity from a place of abundance to woo a partner.

So you just wait?  For how long?

Tip #2 – Self Improvement

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You are not just waiting. 

I know self-improvement may sound like a cliche but it’s not as simple as it sounds.  Remember earlier when we talked about self-accountability as a difficult thing to do.

Instead of waiting just to attract your marriage, I want you to “not wait” but take advantage of this opportunity of being alone (which may never come again because you are about to become high value) to increase your market place value.

Yes.  There is a market place and your estranged partner is aware directly or indirectly of (at least) perceived higher value on the other side.

The grass always seems greener on the other side right?  But that’s because someone is watering it or the grass is fake… synthetic.

When Steve said… “I went to rehab and quit drinking. I have been working on me and us.”

Working on “me” is key to leveraging the law of attraction to rekindle his marriage.

And the “us” part can set him up for failure because it automatically embeds expectations of another human in the process.  

It creates a sense of entitlement but not necessarily intentionally.

The key is to focus on self improvement because it will build self worth, esteem, and confidence and your dating marketplace value.

That may just be what your partner needs to see before coming back around to earn you back.

But for how long again… right?

Tip #1 – Infinite Patience

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How long should you be engaged in self improvement and development?  Shouldn’t that be forever?  This process requires infinite patience.

I know you are probably in a position to be obsessed about wanting your spouse back but that’s precisely why they are probably running.

Be aware that rejection breeds obsession but also vice versa.  

Being obsessed over a human being transmits the vibe that you are readily available which means it’s okay to take you for granted.

In fact, you really shouldn’t be waiting if you want the highest chance of attracting your spouse back; you should be in the mindset-space that…

If  your spouse comes around, they have to earn you back.

You need to see that much value in yourself before others, especially someone who checked out, can see that value.

Steve said, “She has finally come around some. She is warm and cold. Can this marriage be saved?”

Yes

It can be saved but it’s best when it is the idea of the person that checked out because it means they can see the value.