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3 Things You MUST Learn from Couples Counseling

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

In this lesson, you will discover 3 things you must be determined to figure out if and when you go to a couples’ counseling.

Here are is a whole article on marriage specific counseling and how to get the most help from it… if you need it all.

Before I dive into that, here is a quick tip for you especially if you are in a marriage.

Anytime, your significant other has for you to go to a couples counseling session,

Recognize that instantly as an amazing opportunity to learn something new.

That’s not really a moment to get defensive and be asking why you all need it.

If you do that, recognize the defensive as the first reason why you need a couples’ counseling.

Now, people tend to waste money and time at a counseling session because of lack of preparation.

Therefore write these 3 things down to ask the counselor to help you figure out.

(1) The 1st thing to learn from Couples Counseling is Emotion Control

You will need this particularly with respect to the uniqueness of your relationship.

So the counselor may need to hear you and your concerns out first and then…

Specifically ask for help with emotional control. It will make your investment worthwhile.

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(2) Betrayal Recovery

If you are sure that your significant other loves you, it’s worth fighting for it if you have the urge.

But the worst you can do is stay in a relationship and unknowingly be abusing each other emotionally.

Ask for tools specifically for betrayal recovery so that you can heal properly.

It will also work for infidelity and any trust-related issues.

(3) Risk Benefit Analysis

If you’ve invested significant time in the relationship and you are not sure if your partner loves you in a healthy way,

Ask your counselor to outline the risk and benefits of staying and leaving the relationship.

That way, you can know your choices properly and make a proper decision.
YOU have to be the one to decide; no one can do that for you.

If these 3 is all you get out of the couples’ counseling session, you will come with significant growth…

Both as an individual and for the relationship which doesn’t have to be staying together by the way.

Below is a question for us to address Lessons from Counseling …

“My husband and I have been married for 16 years now.

He is my best friend and I am more than sure he still loves me.

But he betrayed me. Please help.

I don’t want to leave him but I feel I have no other choice.

Several years ago, he was unfaithful prior to our marriage.

Although he made a solid promise in the eyes of God never to fail me again.
He did.

The infidelity isn’t the only thing that’s jeopardizing our marriage…

At this point, I don’t recognize him any more and I am ready to file for divorce.

I feel like if I stay, I will break the promise that I made to myself when I forgave him the first time.

Basically, I feel like he will fail me again.

I don’t know what to do & breaking apart.

I am willing to leave a man I am completely devoted to and in love with.”

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7 ULTIMATE Guide to SAVE & FIX a Broken Marriage

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

In this guide, you will discover how to save your marriage, how to fix a broken marriage and how to keep divorce far away forever.

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1st Key (How to Save my Marriage) is God …. Not what you think…

I promised that if you stick to the end of this guide, it’s gonna make sense.

This is not some gimmicky thing that you see in most religions setting where we say it’s just “God.”

But trust that when we say number 1 is God, there is a practical reason behind it.

When you’re going through hard and tough times,

  • Losing yourself
  • Losing your spouse,
how to save my marriage

Who do you fall back on?

  • It’s not gonna be family.
  • It’s not gonna be friends.

Nobody’s gonna be there for you, even though they’re gonna try and be there for you.

They are going to think that they are there for you in their own way.

But they will be selfish.

It’s only God has that will become your source of unconditional love.

The alternative is to start telling the world that love is not enough.

So that was the only thing we could depend on for the much needed unconditional love.

This is why God comes first.

When your spouse checks out of you, you will feel like you have a broken marriage.

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If you are asking “how to save my marriage?” …your marriage is clearly not 100% of what you thought God ordained it to be.

The only thing that can fix it is unconditional love, a higher version of yourself or God.

Real love.

Not the “in-love” experience.

That’s different from real love.

You had the “in-love” experience with your spouse when you just met.

But you didn’t even know yourselves; the butterflies and all those things….

Both of you didn’t know yourselves.

So naturally, you had the “in-love” experience.

But you got to a point and got tested.

The only thing that can withstand that test is unconditional love.

The only source of unconditional love is God.

In fact, God is love.

So making God, the higher version of yourself than the physical, the center core, the spinal cord and foundation of your marriage is key.

When things go really bad, it’s the number one place you want to run to.

Essentially, you need to make sure that your spiritually health is very strong.

You got tested and you are being tested and more tests will come.

You’re probably going to a very horrible situation already.

If you have a strong spiritual connection, you’ll be able to attach the right meanings to whatever you’re going through.

We all go through stuff in life, don’t we?

What separates the losers from the winners are the meanings they attach to the things they go through.

That’s what’s gonna determine how you’re gonna come out on the other side because there’s another side.

Either you do it right or wrong, there is another side.

But what the other side looks like is gonna be dependent on your spiritual connection with your God so you can create what we call unconditional love.

Your spouse checked out on you.

That’s why you’re going to what you’re going through.

Maybe you’re the one that say you don’t want any parts of the marriage any more.

They still checked out on you.

That’s why you say you don’t want any more, right?

But even if it’s the other way around, it is the same thing.

Basically, it’s a 50-50 contribution to come to that place where you are.

The only thing that can help you at this point in time is to give them what they want.

If you feel like your spouse is hurting you, how could you possibly love someone that’s hurting you?

You’re not in love, naturally. But you can have unconditional love for them.

You can take the time to see what may seem like wickedness as a weakness, right?

You can let God do all the work because…

A lot of time, you’re probably in the way of God trying to help you fix that.

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