5 Tricks to Fix Your Marriage ❤️

Want to know how to fix your marriage using 5 simple tricks that work 100% of the time?

You see people, including your spouse, are predictable.

That is to say you too can learn a few tricks to attract the love you deserve and desire.

I have to assume that you are experiencing a crisis in your marriage now and that must feel terrible to live in that kind of misery.

Your spouse has probably shut down and is using these moments to emotional abuse you and your marriage.

Use these 5 simple tricks to turn all that around and fix your marriage.

How to Fix Your Marriage Using 5 Simple Tricks

(1) Relax

Rejection breeds obsession.

So the feeling of rejection that you are experiencing at the moment will naturally give you the illusion that the world is about to end.

You and I know that it couldn’t be further from the truth.

So the first step is for you to take back the control of your emotion

And keep in mind and prepare that more triggers will show up temporarily to make you lose it.

Be determined to stay in control.

Here is good book to read as you do...

(2) Listen & Give

This is a marriage and you should always only go into relationships to give; not give and take.

The very act of complaining shows that you are in the taking mode and as you can see, it’s working against you.

Sure it’s not easy to “give” to a person who is not giving love back to you but I am not asking you to give love.

But you need to find opportunities to give.

So you have to listen effectively in order to determine what will be received when you give.

For example, if a spouse is shut down, they are asking for space and that’s an opportunity to “give” some space.

Here is another article: Marriage Separation Advice

In fact, I would argue that you also need that space to regain back your emotional control and escape potential emotional abuse.

Remember.. No one can abuse you emotionally unless you allow it.

Focusing on giving has a direct correlation with fixing your marriage successfully but it must accompany a generous level of patience.

How much you give has a lagging and not a leading indication in your marriage.

(3) Avoid Predictable Reactions

You are responsible for your actions and your reactions are your actions.

Essentially, you don’t get to say “he or she made me do it.”

You are an adult and…

Therefore you are responsible for your actions even when you are not willing to take responsibility.

But you are in a better position of control when you take responsibility without confusing it with guilt and/or self-blame.

When a spouse shuts down, it tends to create triggers for overreaction in many aspects.

So one of the tricks you can use to fix your marriage is to identify scenarios where you would normally overreact and simply do the opposite.

This trick is not a one size fits all.

If you are normally dormant in reacting, then you should gain courage and speak up using words.

But say what you want to say once and leave it there. Arguments will create an undesirable effect.

The idea of this trick is to not be predictable; being predictable kill attraction.

If you can successfully make your spouse wonder why you act the way you act, it will build attraction and with patience, you will fix the marriage.

(4) Detach from Feelings

You are probably feeling like your spouse is no longer in love with you right?

Well first of all, know that feelings are temporary in nature and tend to exaggerate the reality of what’s going on.

So start with how you feel… you are probably exaggerating naturally.

And if you are not exaggerating, your spouse has probably expressed that feeling in words. “I am not in love.”

The in-love is a feeling and it reflects hurt; that’s okay because that can be fixed.

In-love is not love… that’s just butterflies.

And you can probably figure why he or she feels that way at the moment; it’s temporary if you use trick #3… RELAX.

It is better to not get attached to how you feel and your spouses’ expression of how they feel.

Instead, focus on creating a new alternate experience and be patient because it will create a lagging indication and not a leading indication.

That means you will see moments that feel like your effort is not reflecting but that’s a feeling; focus on giving.

But don’t forget to give to yourself too.

(5) Avoid Approval Seeking Behaviors

Some are very quick to apologize but there is a problem with that.

There is blurry line between:

  • Apologies
  • Seeking Approval and
  • Manipulation

These, including apology itself, are not attractive behaviors and it is better in a marriage and relationships to focus on changed behavior.

Changed behavior is the best apology and it’s also attractive as it makes you less predictable in the eyes of your spouse.

You should only apologize once if you feel you should and only if your spouse specifically asks for it.

Think about it, if you have to apologize over and over, you are probably not going to get a different result that you desire with doing the same thing over and over.

In general, avoid approval seeking behavior as it indicates lack confidence and that’s very unattractive at subconscious levels.

BONUS TRICK: Patience

You are not meeting your spouse for the first time so fixing your marriage will be a process.

But it’s worth it because of the level of personal growth that comes with giving over and over when it seems like you won’t receive.

It’s worth the process and your marriage will last that much longer.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“I need help.

I have a wife and she doesn’t talk to me near her mom and dad.

She says she is shy but sometimes she talks to me and sometimes she doesn’t.

Only sometimes she doesn’t talk to other guys but I don’t know if she loves me.

She says she does but I don’t believe it.”

Enjoy the video.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

Get My Marriage Back PDF

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

How can I fix my marriage by myself?

You can fix your marriage by yourself when you put the focus in fixing and working on yourself.

How do you rebuild your marriage?

You can rebuild your marriage by treating your spouse like you just met them; get to know the evolving person.

What are the signs of a failing marriage?

Toxic arguments and broken down communication gaps are probably the biggest signs of a failing marriage; especially when your spouse shuts down.

How do you fix your marriage without talking about it?

The arts and science of attraction is key to fixing your marriage; it requires minimum use of words and that’s not until you see signs of better vibes in your marriage.

How long do you try to fix your marriage?

There is no set rule outside for as long as you are attracted to your spouse; but also as long as they are still available.

Keep in mind that fixing your marriage if done right is almost synonymous to fixing yourself.

“My Wife DISRESPECTS Me” 9 Points Advice for you Especially in Separation… ❤️

In this lesson, I am sharing a 9-point marriage separation advice in order to give you the best chance to attract your spouse back in love with you.

At the bottom of this page, you will find the question that inspired this lesson.

Marriage Separation Advice - My wife disrespects me

(1) Give Yourself Space

It’s most likely that your spouse has asked you for space.

So if that’s the case, it’s very important that you don’t see it as a bad idea because frankly you probably need the space more.

You just can’t see that, because rejection breeds obsession.

Take advantage of the space apart to build a better “you”.

(2) Don’t Overrate Affairs

While your spouse may be distracted by an emotional or physical affair with another person, don’t highlight it.

The affair will never be worth what you have already shared with your spouse

But it is important that you showcase being unbothered by anything or anyone outside of the relationship you have with him or her.

The worst thing you can do is to spend your space apart bickering about affairs; it will only expand and you will push your spouse further away.

(3) It Takes One But…

Insisting that you stay together is not going to help save your marriage as much as attracting your spouse back.

It only takes one person to create attraction but that requires a process and insisting otherwise will interrupt that process of attraction.

Instead, let go as it only takes “you” to build attraction which is the single most important thing that is missing right now.

(4) Don’t Use/Abuse Children

The marriage separation period will come with a lot of temptations

And one of them is trying to inflict emotional abuse and blackmail on your spouse.

Another one is abusing your children as a tool to accomplish that goal.

It always backfires.

The most common one, believe it or not, is not as obvious as you may think.

It happens more in the form of manipulation under the pretense of protecting the child or children.

What you want to do is stay focused on what you want and don’t want

And leave the children out of it even if that’s painful for you emotionally.

Your emotional feelings are temporary.

The only exception to this, is physical abuse of the children; in that case, it would be non-negotiable to get the children removed from harm's way.

(5) After 3 Months, You are Free

It’s not advisable to engage in transgressions with other people during separation but we are all humans.

Technically, you are free to move on after 3 months of lack of sexual relationship when it is not medically related in my personal opinion.

But also in my personal opinion, the most profitable and worthwhile thing to work on in this period is self growth.

If you don’t, transgression and the lifestyle that comes with it can destroy everything you care about.

It can be even worse when it’s done in retaliation.

If you decide to move on, seek legal counsel to avoid exposing you and/or your children to unfavorable legal loopholes.

(6) More Actions/Less Talking

That should be pretty clear but be careful not to confuse certain inaction with emotional centered-ness.

For example, don’t abandon your children and/or your normal responsibilities in the name of less talking.

That would be irresponsible and such behavior will continue to lower your spouse's attraction towards you.

Just keep in mind that changed behavior is the best apology.

So for the most part, verbal apology will work against you because of the expectation for instant results.

Stay away from arguments, approval seeking behaviors and focus on building your self during this period.

(7) You Allow Disrespect

If there are any type of disrespect and/or disregard from your spouse during your separation, ask yourself first,

“How did I put myself in that position?”

“How did I allow that”?

You need to take the time to extract the answer to that question as it will help with clarity as you move into the new phase of your marriage.

The bottom-line and the result of this exercise should be that no one should be taking anyone for granted again.

When you take yourself for granted, your spouse will see it as a permission to take you for granted if they are weak like most people.

(8) Never Bribe for Sex

Don’t manipulate with whatever you do for your spouse, children and family at this time as a bribe for sex.

It will work against your desire.

Do it if you find it honorable to do and you don’t have to if you don’t feel like it.

The worst thing you can do is do it and then blame them for not reciprocating.

(9) Work on Yourself

That should be self explanatory.

Use the marriage separation period to build yourself and attract the love and affection that you deserve.

It’s simple but I agree…

It’s easier said than done.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“ I really enjoy your content on IG: @LOLAandOLA and I need to ask you a question.

In April 2017, my wife said she wanted space for 2 weeks because we were not in a good place and she was distracted by an affair at the time.

Initially, I objected and wanted us to get a fresh new start.

She did not return and recently found out she is in a full blown now having sexually intimate moments with her partner on the same bed as my 6 years old daughter who told me she’s uncomfortable.

As a christian, am I totally free without guilt to remarry even though we are not officially divorced.

I’m not going to crawl and beg her.

I did all I could to fight and save the marriage. But it’s clearly not working out.

She finds joy in disrespecting me and talking to me anyhow, rudely and distastefully.

Mind you, I am financially okay and earn 8-figures per annum.

I still give her monthly up-keep, 120K per month, for my daughters, excluding fees, clothing… until 2019 January when I stopped for many reasons.”

Enjoy the video.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

Get My Marriage Back PDF

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
Get My Marriage Back PDF

What should you not do during separation?

The number ONE thing to not do during separation is to NOT focus on yourself and building yourself. When you focus on building yourself, you will attract the love and marriage you desire and deserve.

Is separation good for a marriage?

Yes because distance does makes the heart fonder. In other words, space creates attraction and it is encouraged if things have gotten very toxic.

How do you cope with a marriage separation?

It is important to focus on building your self worth and value in other to attract the love and marriage you desire and deserve. Write out your vision of your desired marriage and hold it close to you. Stay out of unnecessary contact with your spouse during this period.

How long should a marriage separation last?

It needs to last for as long as it takes for your spouse to stop taking you for granted or for as long as you need to find your self worth and value; whichever is longer, it is worth it.

Does a separation help a marriage?

"Distance makes the heart fonder." In other words, space creates attraction and it is encouraged if things have gotten very toxic in your marriage. So it is winning if you both could agree to a separation.

What is a marriage separation?

It is an agreement between a couple to spend some time apart in order to find happiness in the marriage again.

When is marital separation a good idea?

It is encouraged if things have gotten very toxic in your marriage.

MY MARRIAGE IS IN SHAMBLES ❤️ How To Fix A Broken Marriage

QUESTION ⁉️ “My marriage is in shambles after my wife emotionally connected to another person while I was deployed.

She has left the state and is trying to rush an uncontested divorce.

It will likely be finalized in the next week or less. And then, there will be a brief reconciliation period.

Is there anyway to save my marriage?”

ENJOY THE VIDEO.

How Can I Fix My Marriage By Myself

“3 WAYS TO SAVE MY MARRIAGE FROM FINANCE PROBLEMS” ❤️ Get My Marriage Back 9

QUESTION ⁉️ “How can financial problems affect a marriage?

I’m not married but my boyfriend wants combine finances. He says we can get married after we are debt free.

I am very hesitant. Any advice? ”

This question is such a great question and we have taken our time to answer and break it down for you.

If money stops coming in, it can kill attraction.

If the discussion of money takes away fun, it will kill attraction. How? Isn’t that irresponsible?

If you are experiencing financial issues in your marriage, that stress can kill attraction.

So learning how to create money and income as a couple is one of the keys to avoiding problems and stress in a marriage.

There are also many financial benefits that comes with a marriage.

But you can’t benefit from them if you are not on the same page much less planning and building together.

Is your spouse a good digger or a dead beat or the breadwinner who can’t stop reminding you?

You may have found that counseling is not helping to remove your stress.

Many couples tend to shy away from calling it is as it is; financial stress.

Many women don’t want to be called a gold digger by their breadwinner husband but then; deep resentments against their husband.

Finance issues in a marriage can lead to social issues as well as you may not be able to afford certain lifestyle that friends may be showcasing on social media.

Couples would find themselves in these finance related but camouflaged problems but can’t solve them when they are not on the same page.

It’s connected to every facet.

Money affects every part of our daily lives and it has to be counted and accounted for in our actions and reactions.

So how should you manage your household finances when you are in a marriage with another adult?

Is it about money and finance or it’s about the emotions around these issues as usual?

In this video, we share some creative ways for couples to manage their emotions around finances intelligently.

One theme you probably should pay attention to is the team work and anxiety control.

Finance In Marriage

7 ULTIMATE Guide to SAVE & FIX a Broken Marriage

In this guide, you will discover how to save your marriage, how to fix a broken marriage and how to keep divorce far away forever.

1st Key (How to Save my Marriage) is God .... Not what you think...

I promised that if you stick to the end of this guide, it’s gonna make sense.

This is not some gimmicky thing that you see in most religions setting where we say it's just “God.”

But trust that when we say number 1 is God, there is a practical reason behind it.

When you're going through hard and tough times,

  • Losing yourself
  • Losing your spouse,
how to save my marriage

Who do you fall back on?

  • It's not gonna be family.
  • It's not gonna be friends.

Nobody's gonna be there for you, even though they're gonna try and be there for you.

They are going to think that they are there for you in their own way.

But they will be selfish.

It’s only God has that will become your source of unconditional love.

The alternative is to start telling the world that love is not enough.

So that was the only thing we could depend on for the much needed unconditional love.

This is why God comes first.

When your spouse checks out of you, you will feel like you have a broken marriage.

Click Here | How to my your marriage when one wants out...

If you are asking "how to save my marriage?" ...your marriage is clearly not 100% of what you thought God ordained it to be.

The only thing that can fix it is unconditional love, a higher version of yourself or God.

Real love.

Not the “in-love” experience.

That’s different from real love.

You had the “in-love” experience with your spouse when you just met.

But you didn’t even know yourselves; the butterflies and all those things….

Both of you didn’t know yourselves.

So naturally, you had the “in-love” experience.

But you got to a point and got tested.

The only thing that can withstand that test is unconditional love.

The only source of unconditional love is God.

In fact, God is love.

So making God, the higher version of yourself than the physical, the center core, the spinal cord and foundation of your marriage is key.

When things go really bad, it's the number one place you want to run to.

Essentially, you need to make sure that your spiritually health is very strong.

You got tested and you are being tested and more tests will come.

You're probably going to a very horrible situation already.

If you have a strong spiritual connection, you'll be able to attach the right meanings to whatever you're going through.

We all go through stuff in life, don't we?

What separates the losers from the winners are the meanings they attach to the things they go through.

That's what's gonna determine how you're gonna come out on the other side because there's another side.

Either you do it right or wrong, there is another side.

But what the other side looks like is gonna be dependent on your spiritual connection with your God so you can create what we call unconditional love.

Your spouse checked out on you.

That's why you're going to what you're going through.

Maybe you're the one that say you don't want any parts of the marriage any more.

They still checked out on you.

That's why you say you don't want any more, right?

But even if it's the other way around, it is the same thing.

Basically, it's a 50-50 contribution to come to that place where you are.

The only thing that can help you at this point in time is to give them what they want.

If you feel like your spouse is hurting you, how could you possibly love someone that’s hurting you?

You're not in love, naturally. But you can have unconditional love for them.

You can take the time to see what may seem like wickedness as a weakness, right?

You can let God do all the work because…

A lot of time, you're probably in the way of God trying to help you fix that.

Have you read the book "Get My Marriage Back"?

The 2nd of the 7 keys guide to save my marriage... can be found at this post....

Frequently asked Question on How to Save a Failing Marriage...

How can I save my marriage by myself?

In reality, all you need to save your marriage is yourself. It can’t hurt if you have the support of your spouse but you may be in the best position if your spouse has shut down. Read Get My Marriage Back 10-15 times.

How do you know if your marriage is worth saving?

It’s as simple as if you want to save the marriage. You deserve whatever you want because it means you are that much willing to put in the work that will save the marriage in yourself.

How do you save my marriage when she doesn't want to?

You make her. I am just kidding. All you need to have the best chance to save your marriage is yourself. It can’t hurt if you have the support of your wife but you may actually be in the best position if your spouse has shut down. Read Get My Marriage Back 10-15 times.

Does separation work to save a marriage?

It depends on the situation. Separation is a double edge sword for saving your marriage. Distance can make the heart fonder but it depends on if the hearts have a strong enough bond or not.

What are signs your marriage is over?

When you ask this question, it’s a classic sign that your marriage is probably over but it doesn’t mean you can’t build a newer and better marriage with the same person.

What are the signs of a failing marriage?

Asking this question is a classic sign that your marriage may be over but it doesn’t mean you can’t build a newer and better marriage with the same person. There are other signs of disconnection however.

Get My Marriage Back by Lola & OLAAre you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page? Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial. I get it.

You wonder... "Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?" You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.



There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone. You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

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It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.

HOW?

Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

Lola & OLAWe know the EXACT feeling of the pain, hurt and heart ache that you are going through.

We are the ultimate on-going success story.

I know you want your marriage back... But what use is a toxic marriage if you are not happy.

The real BIG DEAL about these secret techniques is that they lead with ensuring your happiness which is EXACTLY how you will attract your spouse back.

  • If the marriage is over, the 1st section of the book is basically the emergency room; you will discover how to stop the bleeding and create stability all by yourself INSTANTLY.
  • If you are arguing always, going to bed angry with resentments, you will discover EXACTLY why and how to eliminate that type of vibe forever.
  • If you are in love right now in a brand new marriage, you will discover the subtle and "seemingly non-harmful behaviors" that can destroy what you have; no one taught you these things.

Get My Marriage Back by LOLA & OLA... and much more to discover in this full 12 chapters.

No one who know us enough will ever believe that we ever attempted divorce; but it happened.

But we got our marriage back and you too can do the same... BRAND NEW.

Remember when both of you were in love...

You can get back to an even a better place because of the massive wisdom you will discover in this book combined with the pain you have now.

You can download the digital PDF copy absolutely FOR FREE right here. But I can't promise you that this offer will stay that way for life.
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