How To Save Your Marriage By Yourself – 2nd of 7 Keys

For the 1st 6 months, I searched everywhere to find out how to save my marriage by myself...

how to save my marriage by myself

Because she was complete shut down before I realized the marriage was over....

Then I discover what I am about to share with you...This secret.. The 2nd key.... saved the marriage when all hope was lost.

Question from an example of a husband who shut down leaving the wife to have to save the marriage by herself...

QUESTION ⁉️ “What if your spouse is always using the excuse of ‘not now’ for weeks when you are trying to have a conversation?

Doesn’t talk to you or check on you to see how you are doing but has time to chat...

...and some might call him ‘baby’ when you never hear him call you that in a long time.

And the only way he approaches you is by trying to intimate you and even that, he goes back to the mood fast.”

Key #2 of 7 - Purpose: How to Save My Marriage By Myself

Be sure to check out #1 - How to Save My Marriage at this Link.

Well, you have to have a purpose in life.

I know that you are asking what this has to do with saving your marriage if your spouse has shut down on you.

Stay with me.

If you're depending on somebody else's purpose, chances are, you are already lost?

So you have to build on your own personal purpose.

If you don't know what your own purpose is, then you have to search for it.

You have to keep trying stuff.

There's a reason why God brought you to this earth.

It's not just to be married or have Children; God has a purpose for everyone.

And if you don't know and connect to that purpose, you're gonna lose your way; especially in a marriage.

So one of the secrets to attracting your spouse back when they've checked out on you is to go radio silence on them.

Some all it the NO CONTACT RULE… check it out with this link.

You have to basically give them what they ask for, which is “some space.

They may have asked for it in weird ways that you clearly didn’t understand until not; but you have to give them exactly that.

The number 1 key will enable you to do it; Remember Unconditional love.

If you love your spouse enough, you will let them go if that's what they're asking for.

It doesn't mean that you guys are not gonna get back together.

It doesn't mean you guys are not gonna fix the issues that you have at the moment.

So the 2nd key to guide and make that even easier is your purpose and our personal mission in life.

It will keep you busy enough to have the required patience to attract your spouse back.

Without a personal purpose, you will be lost and too weak to allow the necessary time and space to miss you.

You will become one of those people that do not feel a sense of existence and try to commit suicide because of a break up.

It's a lack off sense of purpose.

I know you've heard about celebrities who did that before.

Being a celebrity and making millions of dollars doesn't mean you are in your purpose.

It doesn't mean you're fully 100% in your purpose.

Many regular people do it as well; they just don’t have the media coverage that a celebrity would have.

You need to be connected to a personal purpose that may be only you understand, that you enjoy doing, that…

Even if you're not getting paid, you do not mind to keep doing it.

To attract your spouse back and even beyond getting back together, your personal purpose must come before your spouse.

If whatever you call purpose right now doesn't come before your spouse, it's not strong enough.

If you put your spouse before your personal purpose, you will choke the marriage up.

You will smother him or her.

It’s only a matter of time; you will come off as needy.

You're gonna be clingy.

You're gonna be in their face all the time; the worst thing you want to do if you are trying to save your marriage by yourself.

You're gonna basically be overwhelming your relationship.

You have to keep this in context; it’s about balance.

Putting your personal purpose and mission before your spouse does not have to become shortage of affection.

Remember that the idea is to help you attract him or her back and effectively grow an undying affection.

It’s just the wise thing to know when to back up.

By spending a healthy amount of time, energy and attention on your personal purpose, they will have enough room to come to realization.

"Listen, I'm about to miss lose my spouse to anger.”

On the next key guide to saving your marriage by yourself, check out “how to stop my divorce and save my marriage.

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How can I fix my marriage by myself?

The truth is that you can save your marriage by yourself.

It can’t hurt if you have the support of your spouse but you may be in the best position if your spouse has already shut down.

However it required a certain set of skills.

Read Get My Marriage Back 10-15 times.

Can 1 person save a marriage?

Actually, it’s easier for 1 person to lead the dance of you marriage in a different different.

But it requires lots of humility, patience and some skill-set.

How do you know if your marriage is worth saving?

It’s as simple as if you want to save the marriage.

You deserve whatever you want because it means you are that much willing to put in the work that will save the marriage in yourself.

How do you save a marriage when he wants out?

If he wants out, the way to save the marriage is to let him go.

Giving him exactly what he wants with thrown him off, pass anxiety to him and it will create your best chances of attracting him back.

But without certain skill sets, it is very hard to wait… also a there is a point you get to where letting go will be enough.

Skills is required to identify that as well but you have toilet go first.

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I know... The harsh reality is that your marriage is over... IT'S BROKEN... "Can it be saved?"

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There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

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Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more but the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud; your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc. They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared. If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain. Lola and I know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

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May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

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It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point. Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here. But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets Lola and I share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

It doesn't matter if divorce has been filed and completed even years ago.

There is still hope for a happy and exotic love affair with the person you love again when you learn these secret techniques.

i checked out... Affairs, infidelity, 3rd party and extended family influences, vendetta, bitterness, resentments.... Eventually she said it all...

"I need space."

"I need time."

"I need to find myself."

"I don't love you anymore."

As you can imagine or probably experienced already, that's not a fun thing to here from your spouse or a person you love.

Because of the unusual bond and friendship we've always had, it was even more confusing for the both us to be in that space.

In her words....

"I was lost and cried on the wrong shoulders."

Once I was ready to put my home together, I engaged in 3 simple secret techniques that attracted her back on a journey in joint forces with me.


Like I said, it was impossible for Lola and I to get back together... our marriage hit rock bottom. It was too late. The damage was irreversible and all that.

In the book, you will learn why that's the best thing that actually happened to us in the 9th year of our marriage.

By the 10th year of marriage, she filed for the divorce.

Just the 2 of us have taken the full the responsibility for how we got into that space. Other people were involved and it made things even worse but we intentionally and unintentionally invited them in...

Lola and I are 100% responsible for the invitation.

Guess who's responsible for our brand new and stronger marriage. Besides God, we both take full credit for that as well.

YES... It took 2 to tango using the techniques in this book. But I, Ola, started the dance first and it worked. You only need "YOU" to put this secret techniques to work immediately either as the husband or wife who wants to fight for the marriage.

It's a quick read but you will enjoy it because we opened up and shared tons of our stories with you. You will be able to relate to one or all of these stories .

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We are the ultimate on-going success story.

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QUESTION ⁉️ “How can financial problems affect a marriage?

I’m not married but my boyfriend wants combine finances. He says we can get married after we are debt free.

I am very hesitant. Any advice? ”

This question is such a great question and we have taken our time to answer and break it down for you.

If money stops coming in, it can kill attraction.

If the discussion of money takes away fun, it will kill attraction. How? Isn’t that irresponsible?

If you are experiencing financial issues in your marriage, that stress can kill attraction.

So learning how to create money and income as a couple is one of the keys to avoiding problems and stress in a marriage.

There are also many financial benefits that comes with a marriage.

But you can’t benefit from them if you are not on the same page much less planning and building together.

Is your spouse a good digger or a dead beat or the breadwinner who can’t stop reminding you?

You may have found that counseling is not helping to remove your stress.

Many couples tend to shy away from calling it is as it is; financial stress.

Many women don’t want to be called a gold digger by their breadwinner husband but then; deep resentments against their husband.

Finance issues in a marriage can lead to social issues as well as you may not be able to afford certain lifestyle that friends may be showcasing on social media.

Couples would find themselves in these finance related but camouflaged problems but can’t solve them when they are not on the same page.

It’s connected to every facet.

Money affects every part of our daily lives and it has to be counted and accounted for in our actions and reactions.

So how should you manage your household finances when you are in a marriage with another adult?

Is it about money and finance or it’s about the emotions around these issues as usual?

In this video, we share some creative ways for couples to manage their emotions around finances intelligently.

One theme you probably should pay attention to is the team work and anxiety control.

Finance In Marriage


QUESTION ⁉️ “I really need your help in saving my marriage. My husband who I’ve been married but recently says he needs divorce.

We’ve been together for 6 years total. This last year has been so tough. He wants s3x a lot and I hardly ever need it.

He thinks I don’t trust or desire him anymore; and he wants to end it.

I know I have been a terrible wife to him. He says he needs to see major changes in me.”

Husband wants Divorce

There are many women who experience a situation where the husband wants divorce in an already abusive situation; not all but many.

This can be very confusing to a woman as it clouds their judgement.

Under normal circumstances, the woman would be asking for the divorce but once the husband asks first, it gets very confusing.

“Rejection breeds obsession.” The one who experiences or receives the rejection first will start obsession over the other even if she’s the abused one.

Your husband asked for the divorce and now you feel as though you need to win him back. Not so fast. Take the time to assess the situation.

Naturally, we are attracted to a person who rejects us. That’s what makes one spouse feel like they still love the other even though they’ve both lost attraction for a while.

Once a woman is aware of this part of the science of attraction, it’s easier to take control by rejecting the anxiety of rejection and make him change his mind.

Watch this video to learn how to flip it or change it for him. You can still regain control and his attraction all with his consent.

Husband Wants Divorce