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5 Reasons Why Your Wife Is Not Interested In You Sexually 💔

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

In this lesson, we are about to dive in through the story of a 28 years old guy

who is married to a 33 years old with a brand new baby and the blue balls syndrome.

Let’s call him Felix.

He writes…

“My wife and I have been together for about 6 years, married for 2 and we have an almost 1 year old child. 

My wife has had a reasonably exciting sexual past, and one thing that really stood out to me…

when we first started dating was how in control and proud of her sexuality she was. 

She was always full of confidence, dressed to impress and was unapologetic about going after anything she wanted, whether that was sexually or just for fun.”

Before I continue into this story, let me introduce myself.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK 

…with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at:

www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

You will also see an opportunity to book a free 30 minutes coaching session with us. 

My name is OLA.

So Felix continues to write…

“Due to our work, we sometimes spend significant periods of time apart. 

But the time apart was filled with dirty messages, photos and videos, and exploring fantasies, toys, lingerie and bondage ideas. 

I would send her over sex toys to use and she would send videos back (she couldn’t buy toys where she was). 

After a while (about 3 years ago), it didn’t just drop off, it stopped completely.”

So here goes the first reason…

Reason #5 – All Good Things Comes To An End

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I know that may sound scary and discouraging when it comes to the prospect of marriage for young men.

But what are we referring to as the “thing” here?  That will be greatly dependent on how much of a man you are.

I want to assure you that it is a good thing when you are aware that good sexual explosive phases as a thing do come to end.

It’s how we are able to separate a good phase from a bad phase so that we can appreciate either of the phases better.

And do everything within our power to consistently seduce our wives.

You have a choice to decide if this particular good sexual explosive phase is coming to an end permanently or temporarily.

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“We married almost 2 years ago, and the only decent period of somewhat routine sex since then was when we were trying to have a child. 

Suddenly I was the bad guy when I wasn’t available on a particular evening because that’s when we were most likely to conceive,

completely ignoring the 12 months prior of me desperately trying to initiate some kind of intimacy. 

Priorities and our lives in general have changed a great deal since then, with our beautiful baby now the centre of our lives.

However, I’ve felt more and more like I’m just a passenger along for this ride with my wife and kid.”

Reason #4 – Playing Victim vs Engaging Power

Keep in mind as always that this is not a “right or wrong” thing.  

It is not a joke but it is a game where you have to learn that playing the victim and retaining your power cannot co-exist.

You have your lady who is also nurturing your own brand new baby, and somehow you are a victim?

It’s not sounding right… right?

Your wife can feel that energy and it will only turn her off even more without her deliberately doing that.

I want you to become self aware and clear about that while responding to this crisis. 

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“We haven’t had sex properly in over 18 months.

My wife occasionally makes snide remarks at me, when after periods of trying to initiate some kind of intimacy,

I give up and stay up later to have some ‘time to myself.’ 

She makes me feel like a creep in my own house and I just feel like shit, and my anxiety starts to tick up.”

Reason #3 – Giving Up

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By your own words, you give up while attempting to initiate sex.

You can at least agree that there is nothing sexy about giving up and more especially the vibes and energy that accompanies that right?

Instead of giving up and continuing to play the victim,

I want you to leverage this moment of your life and marriage to engage your personal life mission and purpose first.

This may be something about your ambitions, career or some charity work that makes you feel fulfilled as a person.

It will leave you little to no room to keep feeling sorry for yourself while you are simultaneously giving your relationship some breathing room.

Now I want you to keep initiating sex but by practicing 3 steps forward and 2 steps backward.  

There is nothing sexier than a man whose wife feels safe enough to say “not today babe” while still trusting that he will be confident enough to initiate at some point.

That will even leave her some sense of obligation at the back of her mind and she may initiate before the next time you initiate.

If she doesn’t, you’ve decided to make that a non-big deal (engaging and retaining your masculine core and power) and try later.

She will naturally overcompensate for your patience later in the form of hot sex when she is ready to receive you back to back.

In this next lesson, I will reveal how this works in detail…

So be sure to like and subscribe for your best chances of getting notified when that video goes live.

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“We’ve tried to slowly reinitiate things, particularly when I’m away for work. 

We’ve tried to send a few exciting spontaneous messages here and there. 

We’ve started using an app where you essentially ‘match’ fetishes or sexual ideas with your partner

(i.e. only notified if they like the same thing as you, it’s pretty cool.) 

At one point, she even bought a new toy while I was away,

and kind of awkwardly apologized that it was a toy just for her and wouldn’t really be all that fun to use together. 

I was stoked and said she never needs to apologise for that! I thought this might’ve been the catalyst we needed. 

Fast forward the entire 2 months we were apart, and she hadn’t used it once.“

Reason #2 – “We” Don’t Seduce

There is so much “we” this and “we” that and it leaves me to wonder,

who is the seducer in this equation if what you want is more sex?

If you compete in feminine energy with your lady, it kills sexual polarity.  

What you are suffering from is partly low libido due to childbirth causing lower attraction in your marriage which is temporary.

This is not abnormal; we’ve been through the same thing.

It’s a process to get out of the limbo but it can be a faster process when you engage your seduction power which starts way before the bedroom.

Seduce more, initiate less and watch better sex come back into your marriage.

Let’s continue to read…

He continues…

“Occasionally we eventually have a really difficult but healthy conversation about our sex life,

and we walk away feeling great for it…but nothing really changes.

For the past 12 months or so, we go through a bit of a regular cycle. 

I try to initiate things at a pretty low level to rekindle a bit of excitement. 

It gets shot down over a period of 2-3 weeks, and my anxiety slowly escalates. 

I ruminate on the past fortnight, and the past 2 years and get frustrated. 

My mood dives, my wife asks what’s wrong, we have a bit of a chat (about all the same old things),

have a bit of intimacy (although, not sex) 

And I feel like she walks away relieved that she’s hit “reset”

and can now hopefully go another 2 or 3 weeks without needing to be intimate with me. 

Reason #1 – You Talk Her Out Of Wanting Sex

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As you’ve probably realized, the more you talk about this, the less sex you are having.

By now, you are just predictable; the mood patterns and swings are probably predictable AF.

Talking so much in the name of conversations in an attempt to increase intimacy is feminine energy.

When she’s asking you what’s wrong, she wasn’t faking it. 

It’s a way for her to protect your household when it seems like you are falling apart as the masculine core in the relationship.

While that’s very nice of her, it’s killing sexual polarity even further.

So that’s not where you want your lady. 

You want her to be able to count on you even in the midst of this crisis

and that’s part of the process of seducing her back into crazy intimate sessions.

Rejection breeds obsession so you are not abnormal but this is how to rise above the norm

as opposed to using blame, guilt, condemnation and judgment to make matters worse.

To learn even more about rebuilding sexual attraction back into your marriage, check out the featured video on the screen.

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5 Physical Attraction Signs A Happy Partner Will Show 💔

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

To be clear, we are not talking about physical features like brown or blue eyes, big bum and so on and so forth.

We are talking about behavioral signals a partner will show or do physically when they are attracted to you sexually.

When my husband and I started dating back in 2004, we clicked in so many ways but one obvious way was the sexual attraction.

He held my hands at every chance he got starting from the first date.

But as soon as we got married, things changed and it was confusing.

I was still sexually attracted to him and he continued to show signs that he was.

But I started to question the authenticity of the attraction signals because it was conflicting with how I felt I was being treated.

So what we are going to share with you are just physical signs of sexual attraction… but not necessarily the health of the underlying relationship of your marriage.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

You will also see an opportunity to book a free 30 minutes coaching session with us.

Let’s go, husband.

This is OLA.

Let’s dive right into it.

Sign #5 – Patience & Time

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The greatest gift anyone can give to you is time. 

But it’s even greater when they are willing to be patient with you but here is the mistake that most people in a marriage make.

They move as if their partner owes them something but reality tells us otherwise when betrayal happens.

So one of the greatest signs that your partner is probably physically attracted to you is an obvious willingness to share their time with you.

Sometimes, that’s in the form of patience.

Sign #4 – Can’t Stop Smiling

When attraction increases, the chemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine rises in level.

Physically, this can be reflected in how your partner smiles at every chance they get around you.

I know what you are thinking.

Your spouse could be smiling for many other reasons right?

While that may be true, smiling is a form of vulnerability and it goes a long way when your partner feels free to smile in your presence on a consistent basis.

Believe it or not, this is a sign of physical attraction because sex in general starts way before the bedroom.

Sign #3 – Consistent Gifts of Value

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I know. Everyone’s love language is not necessarily “giving gifts”. 

But as usual, we are taking the 5 love languages out of context.

The point we are making here is the simple fact that gifts can also come in intangible forms.

When a person is consistently willing to give (even if it’s just emotionally) into a relationship with you, that becomes a clear physical sign of attraction.

Consistency never happens without a larger than life purpose behind it.

But it’s in layers as well.

However the first layer is the fact that consistent gifts is a physical sign of high sexual and polar attraction between two consenting adults.

In the next lesson, we are going to talk about the secret to consistent high attraction in your marriage.

So be sure to like, subscribe and comment for the highest chance of getting notified when we release that lesson.

Sign #2 – Long Conversations About Nothing

Ok. Not necessarily about nothing. But the fact that your conversations with the person you love don’t feel like conversations about nothing is the point.

The real test is the opinions of others about these conversations.  

If you are self aware enough, you could also imagine observing another couple who can sit down and talk for no reason without it being a toxic argument camouflaged as a debate.

Another litmus test is to consider how many other people do you have these long conversations with?

The bottom line is that you have to feel a certain level of security and vulnerability to be having long conversations consistently with the same person.

It is a sign of physical attraction especially when combined with two of the other signs.

Sign #1 – The PDA

PDA stands for public display of affection such as hand holding, cuddling, flirting, pecks and kisses even in public among the gathering of others.

When people are committed in a marriage, they can still show affection even long beyond feeling sexy as a respect to the sanctity of marriage.

But they are very quick to discard the PDA.  So if there is still PDA, that is a sign of physical attraction.

The Main Lesson

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This is not an exhaustive competitive list of signs..

But they are the bare minimum one should expect from a couple who are still physically and sexually attracted to each other.

Sometimes, one person may generally not be the affectionate type. But that’s essentially what was bargained for by the other.

Use these 5 signs as a yardstick with respect to what you already know about your spouse.

Blushing, cuddling, flirting, looking into each others’ eyes, hand holding, spanking her bum in the kitchen while she’s cooking and many more are all part of it.

But these are only good when they are mutual, earned and appreciated.

Anything short of that will become manipulation and will smother the other party and push them further away.

If you are unsure about the level of physical attraction of your spouse towards you…

… (likely to be the reason why you are receiving this lesson), you need to learn how to seduce your partner first if you don’t want to come off as awkward.

Check out the video on the screen to learn more about the other nuances of seduction and attraction in a marriage.

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💔 5 Reasons Your Wife is NOT Affectionate Anymore

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

Affection? 

Is that food?

Why is this even relevant in real life when you’ve committed to a lifetime in a marriage?

This is the question many men ask when their wives have seemingly lost interest in being affectionate.

When Tim contacted us and complained about the sudden lack of affection in his marriage, I asked him if his wife has always been that way. 

He said she was always the romantic one and was very much into PDA (Public Display of Affection).

But suddenly, she’s shut down.

Believe it or not, this is a common issue in modern marriages.

The good news is that we have identified 5 common reasons why a wife is no longer affectionate.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK 

…with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at:

www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

You will also see an opportunity to book a coaching session with us.

This is OLA…

Reason #5 – Infidelity

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If there has been transgressions and betrayal on your part against your wife, it will mess with her ability to be affectionate with you.

Being affectionate is a symptom of a woman who feels safe and secure with you.

Here is the part where most men miss.

You consider yourself a protector and provider, so it becomes extremely hard for you to relate with the idea that she doesn’t feel safe and secure.

Well, the keyword as usual is ‘feel’.

What that means is this. 

All that matters is her experience and not what most men will consider “reality.”

Most men’s version of reality is retarded because they actively try to discount emotions; the one variable that controls 80% of romantic interactions.

Tim’s issue wasn’t infidelity. 

So it was actually harder for him; he feels entitled because no infidelity was involved.

So why wasn’t his wife affectionate?

Reason #4 – Emotional Disconnection

What we know in 100% of the case is that all lack of affection starts with emotional disconnection.

And what does that look like?

For a typical man, that makes no sense and in the very least; unfair.

They wonder.  How do you commit to a marriage and wake up randomly to claim you don’t feel affection?

I want to present to you the real reality.

This problem will only get worse the more you get defensive and take it personally.

I told Tim how easy it is to assume that men are just logical until they experience this rejection.

Little did he know that the experience of rejection is not just an emotion; it will also incite other types of negative emotions for a man.

But yes Tim’s wife was not only disconnected emotionally, it was extremely hard to get him to understand why his actions enabled it.

Here is what you should know.

If she doesn’t feel safe and secure, affection will disappear because she will disconnect emotionally as a form of protection for herself.

Is it always the man’s fault?

Reason #3 – Loss of Purpose

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Right, wrong and faults are usually irrelevant to these types of romantic issues when 2 adults have consented.

So it’s definitely not a matter of fault.

But in addition to that, a lot of times, loss of affection has nothing to do with the husband.

When a woman is not feeling fulfilled or significant in one shape or form in her personal life, it can be hard to share affection.

You can’t give love to others when you are having a hard time giving love to yourself.

And as usual, it gets worse when a typical man reacts negatively to the rejection.

Rejection breeds obsession.

Speaking of obsession, I want you to obsess over the subscribe, like and share button of this video.

Because in the next video, we will dive into crazy and negative obsessions in marriage to avoid.

What else can cause lack of affection and intimacy in a marriage?

Reason #2 – New Baby Can Cause Low Libido

Here is another reason outside of faults, right and wrong that can tamper with affection in your marriage in a negative way.

The easiest thing when a crisis happens in a marriage is to think of infidelity, disrespect, insecurity, abuse etc.

These things do happen of course.

But we crave to point fingers at our spouse or worse, at ourselves.  

Then we effectively drag ourselves through blame, guilt, condemnation and judgement.

There are events in life such as the event of a new baby, as beautiful as that is, that can affect hormones and therefore reduce affection.

Beyond hormones, taking care of a brand new baby can milk a woman or the caretaker of the time and energy required to be affectionate.

So it takes a very mature man to calm down and be patient when these things are happening as opposed to overreacting and perpetuating the situation.

Your patience is precisely an ingredient needed in attracting her back into the space of affection again.

With that being said, what is the top reason within the scope of this lesson?

Reason #1 – Keeping Scores

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Affection in a marriage is a result of two individuals giving to each other without expectations or at least with well managed expectations.

This is precisely what drives romantic emotions so high in the beginning.

It feels new and exciting just because…

And you just like that person enough to just give,  starting with giving your time and many other parts of your life.

But at some point, the spirit of complacency and entitlement kicked in.

If common sense was useful in marriages, the couple can simply go back to giving with no expectations like they did in the beginning…

Just because…

I want you to start by giving enough to yourself to avoid pouring from an empty cup but that’s usually not what happens.

Many resort to calling each other out and out of each other’s names from frustration and for not making each other happy.  

Then the competition to be right (a.k.a keeping scores) goes on and on and on and the couple hurt each other.

We told Tim that he can’t afford to keep scores with his lady especially as the man who claims the leadership role.

That’s precisely how to be a loser in a typical romantic relationship as a man.

The Main Lesson

Romantic affection cannot dwell where there is active competition to be right.  That works against unity and freedom.

But here is the good news for you.

When there is division of any type (regardless of what the cause is), the complainer has the luxury of leverage to lead the marriage out of the funk.

Check out the next video on the screen to learn more about that.

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💔 5 Steps to Reverse “I Don’t Love You Anymore”

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

“I don’t love you anymore.” The point of no return right?

Chris did not see this one coming…

But with the amount of cases and marriage issues that we review from time to time, these issues do not just fall out of the skies.

So I asked Chris,

“Are you telling me that your wife has never complained before telling you she doesn’t love you anymore?”

Then he goes…

“I mean… she’s complained about a few minor things that were no big deals. Why are women inconsiderate with reality though?”

I asked him if he asked the question exactly like that to his wife. 

He went on and on about how she nagged constantly about quality time.

“So what do you want Chris?” I asked,

He said, “I need her to stop nagging because frankly, I’ve got bills to worry about.”

So I asked… “You don’t care about seducing her into falling in love with you again?”

“Seduction? What are we? Teenagers?”

And then I answered with another question…

“Do you want an answer to that or do you want to reverse this terrible experience with your marriage?”

Like many people in modern marriages, Chris is confused and we want to share the 5 steps we shared with him to reverse 

“I don’t love you anymore.”

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK 

…with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at:

www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

You will also see an opportunity to book a coaching session with us.

This is OLA…

Step 1 – Accept It

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The usual confusion here is when people feel like accepting reality equals agreement to being wrong or to the experience they are trying to avoid.

If you feel this way, you are essentially focused on the wrong thing.

You would be actively defending yourself but not your relationship.

The reason why you should accept reality is because it is reality; it simply is.

It will also conclude this phase of the present funk a lot quicker than being stubborn about nothing.

I know like most people, you probably have a corrupted version of reality.

Can you at least accept the reality of the fact that your partner just expressed that they are no longer in love with you?

When your spouse comes to you and tells you he or she is no longer in love with you, the easiest route to take for most humans is to get defensive.

So it’s key in this key moment to rise above the norm and by doing so, your spouse will wonder and that’s the equivalent to building attraction back.

That is a scientific fact.

Accept it because frankly, you cannot claim that your spouse had not been complaining if your case is like the typical cases that we review daily.

Simply respond with…

“I understand. Let me know if and when you are ready to talk and work on it.”

This is easier said than done but it works like magic.

Step 2 – Listen

Most people have talked their spouse to death of attraction all in the name of communication.

The purpose of listening is not just to hear your spouse out.  It’s a lot more spiritual and deeper than hearing.

In fact, the purpose is to make him or especially her feel heard and safe again.

So for step 2, I want you to listen with an intention to seduce and make him or her feel heard.

I want you to mimic what your spouse is saying back to him or her like this.

“So I am hearing you say, you feel I haven’t been as considerate as I used to be?

Tell me more… Really… wow”

You are effectively investing interest into your partner that they will inevitably return back to you in folds in time.

If your spouse is especially used to you often feeling attacked and defensive, this will create a new and exciting dynamic to make them wonder what is happening.

That’s equivalent to seduction and building attraction back up.

Effective seduction and communication is 80% active listening, 10% ensuring understanding with your words and 10% sharing how you feel.

If your spouse doesn’t feel heard, they are simply not capable of truly hearing how you feel anyway.

I know what you are thinking.

“So my feelings don’t matter?”

Step 3 – Identify Why

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The worst thing you want to do is get stuck in your feelings and apply too much energy into reacting to your feeling (the symptom) and abandoning the underlying disease right?

We also know that you are in love or obsession because rejection breeds obsession.  This is a scientific fact again.

When a person says to you that they are no longer in love with you, it’s easy to interpret that as the absence of love because it feels like a smack to the face.

This experience can also give you an illusion that you are in love. 

The in-Love experience is more of a “feeling” of affection… even if your spouse is telling you straight up that they hate you.

That is still an expression of passion and evidence of caring… at least about something that involves the both of you.  

What you don’t want is for your spouse to be indifferent.

That will be the true point of no return.

So it is actually natural that a person that may have been with you over a period of time will occasionally fall in and out of love.

How much more if he or she has been complaining of bad experience at any level over a period of time?

If your spouse is a human being like the rest of us, falling out of love is actually very natural especially if they’ve not been feeling heard or significant in your relationship.

It may even have nothing to do with you.

Falling out of love is just how he or she feels “at this moment”. 

Avoid making it a bigger deal than it is.

Instead, assess the data you collected during your listening exercise and focus on identifying the “why” and the role you played in deteriorating the attraction level in your marriage.

Remember, it’s not a matter of FAULT… This is seduction.

I have to share the 2 most important steps with you. 

But note that in the next lesson, I will share more about seduction, effective listening, collecting data and turning them to useful information (a.k.a THE WHY).

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So what else?

Step 4 – Adjust

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You go to a relationship to give; not give and take.  I know you are probably hearing that for the first time but trust me.

Adjusting doesn’t mean that you are succumbing to a lesser role.  It actually means you are “leading” and seducing your spouse back in love with you.

The idea is not to become another person. 

It’s more so about engaging the existing power that you already have in that relationship in a way that benefits the relationship.

What needs to be adjusted is how you show up so that you can attract better love experience and expression.

Step 5 – Patience

It took time to get here. It will take time to get him or her to fall back in love with you.

How long?

It depends on a few factors but what you should focus on is becoming a better self that will attract a better in-love and real love experience.

You can’t afford to pour from an empty cup; you will get burnt out and your partner will unintentionally test you a few times before feeling safe and secure again.

Watch the in-love experience creep back into your relationship slowly but surely.

The Main Lesson

The more engaged in your personal purpose and life mission you are, the easier this process will be.

As we’ve said, this process will be tested.

So spiritual strength, personal purpose and self development are necessary ingredients for smooth recovery from “I don’t love you anymore.”

Watch the next video on the screen for more about that.

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💔 5 Steps To Dealing With a Disrespectful Wife

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

In this lesson, you will discover how to deal with a disrespectful wife without losing any further respect in your marriage.

A few months ago, David reached out to us complaining bitterly about his marital life,

…and how it has probably been the worst decision he made to marry her.

When we asked him what his number one struggle was, he shared with us that his wife just doesn’t know how to respect a man.

He went on to share with us how he felt that she learned the behavior from her mother.  

According to him, he had tried to teach her to see how she can make him feel more like a man in how she talks and utters consistent rude remarks.

I said to him, “No Wonder”.

He asked me “What do you mean?”

Then I said, to him, “In listening to you, I have 5 steps you’ve taken that made your wife lose respect for you” 

And I went on to share the opposite of the following 5 steps we want to share with you with him.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK with my husband OLA

…which you can download for free at www.GetMyMarriageBack.com

This is OLA…

Step #1 – Stop Asking for Respect

If you have to ask for respect, there is a good chance that you do not deserve respect.  

And if you did deserve respect, that doesn’t guarantee that you will receive respect from you wife… and let me guess….

That makes life unfair…  right?

Welcome to the real world where everyone will be tested especially people or entities that occupy any position of leadership in any capacity.

If you didn’t know this already, that’s evidence that you probably haven’t earned the respect you are looking for.

Respect is earned.

Respect is not a right because you are a husband and respect is not an obligation on the part of your wife;

at the minimum, that’s not the reality.

You may have learned that it’s a wife’s duty from some type of religious belief system,

but that’s precisely the cause of many suffering in marriage; unrealistic expectations.

So stop asking for respect and learn how to attract respect.

Inside the book GET MY MARRIAGE BACK,

we tell our story and how we were able to come back from a filed divorce stronger even after all respect was lost.

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You will also see an opportunity to book a coaching session with us.

Step #2 – Engage Infinite Patience

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In a marriage, your wife will test you consistently and not necessarily deliberately.  

People like David will quite often ask us how long they should be patient for before they start complaining and nagging about lack of respect.

The only answer to that is forever.  And again, I know that seems unfair to the typical person because it doesn’t make common sense.

If that doesn’t make any common sense,

it would also mean that you are not making any common sense making a choice to stay married to your wife.

So to realistically prepare for the inevitable and consistent test of your temperament,

you will have to give and invest infinite patience into the marriage.

I acknowledge that this is extremely hard when you also don’t engage your power of choice that was made to be with your wife.

When you feel like a victim, marriage dynamics will continue to come off as unfair.

In love and war, all is fair.

Step #3 – Focus on Giving

How often have you heard “marriage is all about give and take?”

This is a terrible philosophy that only works in business transaction type of relationships and that’s why marriages are failing left and right.

The best way to leverage a relationship is to go there and focus on giving and nothing else; isn’t it the best way to harvest big time when harvest season comes?

Even in business, you learn to invest lots of time in networking with no clear sight on profits always within reach.

In fact, David is one of those guys who is practising worse than give and take; he is more so thinking of respect as a duty on his wife’s part and his right.

As you can probably see now, that’s a problematic way of approaching a romantic relationship especially if some events have made her lose the respect for you.

By focusing on giving, you are honoring the fact that respect is earned and it will come back in due time because you reap what you sow especially with a typical wife.

On the next video, you will discover how give and take is the worst belief system you can adopt into your marriage ever.  

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Step #4 – Avoid Keeping Scores With Your Wife

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David’s complaint also included the fact that they argued almost every other day in a very toxic way; in fact, every conversation leads to argument.

A man who understands women does not argue with women.

I know what you are thinking.

“What’s wrong with a harmless and healthy debate?”

We know from studies that no one wins an argument and an argument is an active competition to be right… right?

There is a 50% chance that you will win and be right but you will also have a little resentment built against you because your wife now feels a little less than.

You are probably also thinking…

“How is it possible to not ever argue?”

Well… we recommend to avoid argument because it is only natural to end up in argument sometimes.

But you are better positioned to recognize toxic vibes and energy with this knowledge you just acquired.

So avoid arguments without coming off as dismissive or a snob with your wife.  Instead, lean in and listen actively to understand her view points.

Even if it doesn’t make sense in the moment, assume that it is probably a blind spot for you in the moment at least until she realizes she was wrong.

That can also be “never” and you have to give the freedom for that to be okay to enjoy a romantic relationship especially in a marriage.

Step #5 – Engage Self Development

Without consistent and perpetual self-development, all of steps 1-4 will be extremely hard because you would be pouring from an empty cup.

But if you are well equipped, you don’t need validation or to feel like you are right even when you are so sure that you are right.

It will lead to a strong sense of security, healthy self-esteem, strong mental state and in due time you will attract the healthy love and life that you deserve and desire.

Conclusion & Main Lesson

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Respect is earned.

That also means, when you don’t know each other enough and when you haven’t been tested in some form of crisis, it can seem like your wife is respecting you.

Eventually at some point, you will need to earn real respect and that will happen as a function of time, a level of pain and crisis.

Then it can last and become real love.

See this video on the screen to learn all about that.

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