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And the good thing with that is, now you have time to back it over with your behavior.
Right?
Especially if your behavior has actually reflected that.
Though we don’t support you asking for forgiveness over and over again.
You have to do it one time.
Maybe once or twice and it’s done.
The rest has to be your changed behavior.
That’s what really matters.
But some people are just asking for forgiveness like “I’m sorry. I’m sorry.” every small thing they’d say I’m sorry.
No…
You are making things worse and you are being annoying.
You need to know when you are being annoying.
So you have to give them time to process things.
Some people may have a hard time to forgive because it’s very hard for an average human being to forgive.
Once you hurt a person, it’s a trust issue.
It will be hard for him to open up again because you’ve built a wall in the future.
So for them to open up again you need time.
If you had a good time with this person in the past or anything like that, they will remember.
They will start reflecting if you stay out of their face.
But if you keep pushing to fix everything now… that will work against you.
Asking over and over again… let’s put into logic a little bit, if you do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result, that’s called insanity.
The same thing, like don’t think your apology is all suddenly going to fix things.
Forgiveness will require a lot of follow ups… even cheating, because even the follow ups are not apologizing.
It’s really following up with your changed behavior.
Using your words is manipulative because you are trying to use the word to fix that person or to get them to forgive you right now.
And if it was that easy we can just pull forgiveness out of everyone.
So it takes time because we are spiritual.
There is a soul that has been tampered with and those kinds of things have to be healed.
It had to be repaired.
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