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There is a good chance that you have been reacting out of attachment. That will only push your spouse further away and reduce attraction.
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He yells at you? If this is you, I’m sorry to hear that you’re experiencing difficulties with your husband.
I can only imagine how confusing this period is for your marriage.
Yelling can be distressing and detrimental to a relationship for either side but I need to highlight some differences in its effects when it comes to which side; husband or wife.
In this blog post, we will explore 5 effective tips to address and resolve this issue permanently, creating a healthier and more harmonious relationship.
Here Are Some of the Highlights
You first need to Stay Safe
I want to show you that’s it’s probably not your fault
You cannot resolve this without engaging your power
Communication 2.0 is key to optimal solution here
And All of This is Not Sustainable
Let’s dive in!
Tip #5: Stay Safe
When faced with a situation where your husband yells at you, it is important to prioritize your safety above all else.
While yelling itself can be emotionally harmful, if it escalates to physical threats or violence, it becomes even more critical to take immediate action.
Your well-being is of utmost importance, and you deserve to be in a safe and secure environment.
If you ever feel physically threatened or unsafe, it is crucial to seek help right away.
One way to do this is by reaching out to domestic abuse hotlines in your area.
These hotlines are staffed by trained professionals who can provide you with support, guidance, and resources.
They can help you develop a safety plan and connect you with local services that can assist you in navigating the situation.
It is important to have the information for domestic abuse hotlines readily available, even if you don’t currently feel an immediate need for it.
Abusive situations can often escalate gradually but seemingly fast, and having the contact information on hand ensures that you can access help quickly if the need arises.
Remember, prevention is key.
By being proactive and seeking support before the situation worsens, you are taking an important step towards safeguarding yourself.
If you are unsure of the hotline numbers in your area, a simple online search using keywords like “domestic abuse hotline” along with your location can provide you with the necessary information.
Please remember that my purpose is to provide information and support, but I am not a substitute for professional help.
If you find yourself in an emergency or immediate danger, please reach out to your local authorities or call emergency services right away. Your safety is of paramount importance.
Tip #4: It’s Not Your Fault
Human relationships, especially those involving romantic partnerships, are intricate and multifaceted.
Conflicts are an inevitable part of any relationship, and it’s important to remember that when your husband yells at you, it is not automatically your fault.
Blaming yourself for his behavior is not productive for your emotional well-being.
It’s essential to recognize that conflicts arise due to a multitude of factors.
Communication breakdowns, differing perspectives, past experiences, and personal triggers can all contribute to conflicts within a relationship.
It is rarely a simple matter of assigning blame to one person.
By acknowledging that conflicts are a natural part of human interactions, you can begin to release the burden of self-blame.
This shift in perspective allows you to approach the issue with a more balanced and compassionate mindset.
Instead of internalizing the blame, focus on addressing the conflict in a healthy and respectful manner.
When conflicts arise, it is crucial to engage in open and honest communication with your husband once you feel safe.
Express your feelings and concerns without resorting to blaming or accusing language.
Use “I” statements to convey how his yelling affects you personally. For example, “I don’t feel safe when you yell like that.”
By sharing your emotions and experiences, you create an opportunity for understanding and more importantly for him to solve a problem from a prospective of feeling needed.
It’s also important to recognize that conflicts often require no more than one person’s effort towards the direction of resolution.
Sure! While it may not be entirely your husband’s fault, he also bears responsibility for his behavior and its impact on the relationship. But that is not it.
This is an opportunity to involve a little seduction skills which will give you an opportunity to earn a higher level of romantic interest and attraction here.
It will also encourage open dialogue where both of you can express your perspectives, actively listen to each other, and work together to find constructive and more sustainable solutions.
Seeking the support of a coach or counselor can be immensely beneficial in navigating conflicts and improving communication within your relationship.
A trained professional can help you as an individual gain insight into the underlying issues and provide guidance on healthier ways to address conflicts and express emotions even if you have to start alone.
Remember, conflicts are a normal part of relationships, but it’s crucial to approach them with understanding, empathy, and a commitment to finding resolutions that honor your well-being first and subsequently his.
By letting go of self-blame and embracing a collaborative approach, you can work towards a healthier and more harmonious relationship.
Tip #3: Engage Your Power
When faced with a situation where your husband yells at you, it is natural these days to think about setting boundaries.
While boundaries are essential for maintaining a healthy relationship, it is equally important to tap into your personal power and influence.
Instead of trying to control your husband’s behavior, focus on understanding and harnessing your own strengths.
Take a moment to reflect on the qualities that attracted and seduced him to marry you in the first place.
What aspects of yourself and your relationship made him choose you as his wife?
Recognize that you have the ability to influence him in a positive way, and with the right support, you can re-engage your power to make a significant impact on your relationship dynamics.
When setting boundaries, it’s important to approach them with respect and understanding.
Avoid imposing boundaries as a parent would on a child, as this can create a power dynamic that may not be conducive to a healthy romantic partnership.
Instead, focus on establishing boundaries that prioritize your well-being and promote mutual respect; it’s for you and your self-preservation.
As soon as it feels safe, communicate your needs and expectations to your husband in a calm and assertive manner, making it clear that your boundaries are not meant to control him, but to create an environment where both of you feel respected and heard.
While boundaries are important, it’s equally crucial to recognize that change cannot be forced upon someone.
Your husband may not be fully aware of the impact his yelling has on you, or he may struggle with his own emotions and communication skills.
Rather than trying to change him directly, focus on modeling the behavior you wish to see in the relationship.
Lead by example by embodying effective communication, active listening, and respect.
When conflicts arise, strive to respond calmly and assertively.
Show empathy and understanding towards his perspective while expressing your own feelings and needs; granted, it’s tricky. You might wonder if you are enabling bad behavior.
Not really. By approaching conflicts with compassion and understanding, you create an opportunity for growth and positive change within your relationship.
Engaging your power does not mean controlling your husband, but rather harnessing your own strengths and abilities to positively influence your relationship.
With patience, understanding, and support, you can work towards creating a partnership built on mutual respect, effective communication, and shared growth.
Tip #2: Communication 2.0
When it comes to addressing conflicts in your relationship, effective communication plays a crucial role.
However, it’s important to recognize that communication goes beyond just being calm and honest.
It’s about ensuring that your husband feels respected, valued, and truly heard.
Communication 2.0 is a concept that involves active listening as a fundamental aspect of effective communication.
It goes beyond simply talking and encompasses creating a space where both partners can express themselves openly and honestly; so it might have to start with your active listening capabilities.
This approach allows for a healthier and more constructive dialogue, fostering understanding and connection.
To practice communication 2.0, it’s essential to actively listen to your husband’s concerns, perspectives, and emotions; it might take a tremendous amount of patience.
This means giving him your full attention without interrupting or dismissing his thoughts; you might even feel like it’s unfair.
Show genuine interest in understanding his point of view, even if it differs from your own.
Reflecting on what he is saying, verbally and especially non-verbally, it demonstrates that you value his input and are willing to engage in meaningful conversation.
Active listening involves more than just hearing the words being spoken.
Pay attention to his body language, tone of voice, and the emotions underlying his message.
Seek clarification if needed, and ask open-ended questions to encourage him to elaborate and share his thoughts more deeply.
This level of engagement demonstrates your commitment to understanding his perspective and fosters a deeper level of connection and empathy.
If you can picture this, you can probably imagine how yelling at you is virtually impossible.
It’s important to note that communication 2.0 is a two-way street.
While it is crucial for you to actively listen to your husband, it is equally important for him to practice the same approach.
But it’s a dance and sometimes it takes the potential complainer (i.e you) leading the tango in the direction that you desire and then you can take credit for it.
By embracing communication 2.0, you create an environment where both partners feel valued and respected eventually; not necessarily instantly.
It lays the foundation for effective problem-solving, increased empathy, and a stronger emotional bond within the relationship.
In addition to practicing communication 2.0, consider seeking further guidance and insights on effective communication strategies.
As mentioned earlier, Lola and I have a whole chapter dedicated to communication 2.0 in our book.
Exploring these resources can provide you with additional tools and techniques to enhance your communication skills and promote a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.
Remember, effective communication is a key component of any successful relationship.
Tip #1: This is Not Sustainable
While the tips provided thus far offer valuable guidance for improving your relationship, it is crucial to recognize that the current dynamic of your marriage is not sustainable in the long run.
It’s important to acknowledge the social construct that many relationships operate within, where the husband is often expected to be the head of the household and the leader of the marriage.
The previous tips focus on empowering yourself and improving your personal communication skills.
These strategies can certainly lead your marriage in a better direction and promote healthier dynamics.
However, if you find yourself constantly shouldering the responsibility of leading and making important decisions, it might eventually kill attraction.
So it may be necessary for your husband to engage in coaching or seek personal growth opportunities once you are able to seduce him into that receptive space.
Taking the lead in a relationship can be draining and burdensome over time as you have your own lane and responsibilities as a lady.
It’s essential for the husband in most marriages to take the responsibility of leading and setting the tone for the emotional well-being of the marriage.
This allows for a more balanced and sustainable partnership where both individuals feel valued and involved.
When the time comes, you can encourage your husband to join you to explore personal growth opportunities, such as coaching or counseling.
This can provide him with the tools and insights needed to develop leadership skills, improve communication, and foster a greater sense of self-awareness; earning a version of respect that is much more sustainable and attractive overtime.
It will not only benefit him but also benefits the relationship as a whole. It’s important to approach this suggestion with sensitivity and understanding.
Avoid framing it as a criticism or a personal flaw, but rather as an opportunity for growth and development together as a couple and a family.
Communicate your desire for a more balanced partnership where both of you can actively contribute, making decision-making and leadership easier for him.
There is no need to compete with him with regards to leadership. Partnership and leadership are not mutually exclusive and in reality, there is no one without the other.
You can even lead by encouraging him to lead if leadership is what you crave so badly. Leadership is not about running our mouths; it’s demonstrated in action.
By encouraging your husband’s personal growth journey, you create a space for him to explore his own potential and take on a more active role in the relationship without feeling like you are a subordinate.
This shift can bring about a healthier and more sustainable dynamic where both partners feel empowered and fulfilled.
Conclusion
Dealing with a husband who yells at you can be incredibly challenging, but it’s not an insurmountable issue.
By prioritizing your safety, understanding that conflicts are not solely your fault, engaging your personal power, implementing effective communication strategies, and recognizing the need for sustainable change, you can work towards a healthier and more harmonious relationship.
Remember, it’s essential to seek support from professionals or trusted individuals who can provide personalized advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
LOLA and I have been through this in one shape or form and resolved it permanently. Download our book for our full story and discover the strategies we used to overcome this challenge.
Visit www.LoveAndPrestige.com to access the book and gain valuable insights for your own journey towards a happier and healthier relationship.
Frequently AskedFrequently Asked Questions:
What to do when your husband shouts at you?
Stay calm, assertively communicate your feelings if it feels safe enough to do so, and seek support.
What are the psychological effects of being yelled at by your husband?
Psychological effects may include emotional distress, low self-esteem, anxiety, and strained relationships.
How do I deal with a difficult husband?
Focus on self-reflection, set healthy boundaries for what you can tolerate from both a self-less and self-love standpoint, and seek support and wise counsel.
Is it normal for couples to yell?
While disagreements can occur, yelling should not be considered a healthy or normal form of communication in a relationship.
Today, we’re reviewing a concept that’s been gaining attention over the years—“red pill”; The “red pill” ideology.
You might have heard this term before, maybe even from the iconic movie “The Matrix.”
But what does it mean, and why do men turn to it after going through difficult breakups or divorces?
And why do some women turn to it in a bid to understand and sympathize with such men’s plight. Stick around, because we’re about to explore it all!
The “Red Pill” in the Movie “The Matrix”
Alright, let’s start by tracing the origins of the “red pill” concept.
Remember that mind-bending scene in “The Matrix” where Neo is offered a choice between the red pill and the blue pill?
Well, that red pill became a powerful metaphor for awakening from societal illusions.
It inspired countless discussions, and its influence soon spilled over into popular culture.
Understanding the “Red Pill” Ideology
Beyond the movie reference, it has come to represent a set of beliefs regarding gender dynamics, particularly in relationships.
Some individuals question traditional gender roles, shed light on men’s issues, and criticize certain aspects of feminism. Not all; but certain aspects.
Many wonder why some people turn to the “red pill” ideology after going through painful breakups and divorces.
Well, it often stems from a sense of disillusionment, loss of identity, or a feeling of unfairness in the legal system.
It’s crucial to address these emotions and find healthier ways to heal and grow.
Let’s Talk About 5 Categories of Red Pill Followers.
It’s important to note that these categories offer a glimpse into the diverse perspectives found within the red pill movement.
Let’s dive in!
Category 1: Men Seeking Self-Improvement
Our first category includes men who are seeking personal growth and self-development.
These individuals are drawn to the red pill community to enhance their confidence, develop their dating or relationship skills, and explore discussions on masculinity.
They see it as a path toward becoming the best version of themselves.
Category 2: Men Advocating for Men’s Rights
The second category within the red pill community consists of individuals who focus on advocating for men’s rights.
They highlight issues such as father’s rights, disparities in divorce settlements, or what they perceive as imbalances in gender dynamics.
These followers aim to challenge biases they believe exist against men in society; particularly in the western society.
Category 3: Men Reacting to Personal Experiences
The third category are individuals who turn to the red pill ideology as a result of challenging personal experiences.
These followers have often gone through difficult breakups, divorces, or other negative relationship situations.
They seek solace, understanding, and validation within the red pill community, connecting with others who have faced similar circumstances.
Category 4: Critics of Feminism
Here goes the fourth category. Within the red pill community, there are those who critique certain aspects of feminism.
These individuals may voice concerns about perceived negative effects on gender dynamics and societal norms.
They question traditional gender roles, highlight potential biases, and express disagreements with specific feminist ideologies.
Some of the confusion you might have noticed is that some of the follower would attempt to complain about the trend of traditional gender roles becoming more and more unpopular.
Category 5: Misogynistic or Extreme Elements
Last but definitely not the least category, it’s crucial to acknowledge that within any community, there may be extreme or misogynistic elements.
Although not representative of the broader red pill community, these individuals promote hostility or negativity towards women.
It’s important to distinguish this fringe element from the core ideas and values of the red pill movement.
But to be honest, each person in this category is one-too-many… still the minority but again enough and one single reason why I do not want to be personally associated with the movement even though, to a large extent, I understand the plight.
In my personal opinion, it is net negative at this time of recording this.
Too many young men who tend to be the loudest are stuck in the “red pill” rage and it’s going viral; thanks to social media.
This is what you might have encountered and considered them to be “lost souls”. I understand.
Is the FBI Investigating The Red Pill?
In fact, there have been claims that the FBI is monitoring those who consume red pill content due to concerns about angry men.
It’s crucial to approach such rumors with caution and critically evaluate the available information.
As of the time of this recording, there is no concrete evidence to support the claim that the FBI is specifically targeting red pill content consumers.
It’s important to separate fact from speculation or conspiracy theories.
Law Enforcement and Red Pill Content
It’s worth noting that law enforcement agencies, including the FBI, focus on maintaining national security, counter-terrorism, and criminal investigations.
While they monitor online activities for potential threats, it’s essential not to jump to conclusions about their specific targeting of red pill ideology followers.
Instead of getting caught up in rumors, let’s encourage healthy dialogue and critical thinking.
Understand that individuals’ experiences and beliefs are diverse, and it’s important to engage in respectful conversations to foster mutual understanding.
So, the rumors of the FBI monitoring red pill content consumers due to correlations with angry men remain unverified.
Attraction to the “Red Pill” After Breakups or Divorce
Many “semantic obsessed” red pill apologist might want me to mention the MGTOW (men going their own way), black manosphere, and others to separate themselves from the pack.
You are a grown man. If it’s that deep, let’s address your personal issues or at least specific examples. Obsession with generalized gender-based biases are just lame.
And there you have it—categories of followers within the red pill ideology.
Forgive Me; The Red Pill is Over-Simplified
Remember, these categories offer a simplified overview, and individuals can have complex motivations and beliefs.
By understanding the different perspectives, we can engage in more nuanced discussions and foster empathy while critically examining the underlying issues.
Criticisms & Controversies
I want to acknowledge that the “red pill” ideology has its fair share of criticisms and controversies.
Some argue that it generalizes gender stereotypes or even fosters hostility or misogyny.
While I have personally interpreted the most loudest red-pillers as such, it’s important to approach these ideas with empathy, understanding, and critical thinking.
Finding Healing & Lasting Relationship Solution
So, how can we find wholesome healing and break down the underlying relationship issues that built this movement over the past years?
It starts with recognizing that each situation is unique and needs to be approached on an individual, case-by-case level.
We should encourage open dialogue, empathy, and a willingness to understand one another.
Is Red Pill The Secret To The Lost Femininity?
Ladies! If you are looking for your femininity, you won’t find it in conversations for or against the red pill.
But, it’s crucial not to dismiss red pill rhetoric outright.
Instead, pay attention to men who may be obsessed with keeping things unchanged, even when change is the only constant.
Engage in thoughtful conversations, challenge prevailing narratives, and seek common ground for healthier relationships; not necessarily romantic relationships anyway.
Remember, while it’s essential to be aware of different perspectives, it’s equally important to approach them with caution.
Can You Handle Red Pill Conversations Without Getting Lost in Shaming & Insult Language?
If your mental health cannot handle narratives around harsh reality, I would avoid red-pill communities and conversations all together.
Conclusion
Gentlemen! Break down your relationship issues, understand your experiences, and strive for genuine healing and growth.
Generalizations will hurt you and your chances of creating the actual results that you want.
Thanks for joining me today.
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Until next time, take care and keep seeking the path to authentic connections!
When to walk away from a sexless marriage is probably one of the toughest decisions or questions to find an answer to. For crying out loud, you probably have a whole life set up with with person.
There can be a lot of confusion about this seemingly abusive place. Our goal is to make the navigation of this crisis a bit more easier.
For some people, the decision might be easy-if they’re not getting what they need from their spouse, they’ll end the marriage.
But for others, it might not be so simple.
Maybe they’ve been married for a long time and have kids, or maybe they’re afraid of being alone.
Whatever the reason, it’s important to know when enough is enough.
But before we get into all that, it’s more important to know if you can savage the situation; many and probably most couples have overcome dry spells.
In this article, we will cover the following lessons…
1. What is a sexless marriage?
2. Causes of a sexless marriage
3. Effects of a sexless marriage
4. How to deal with a sexless marriage
5. How to create a healthy sex life when in a sexless marriage
6. Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy?
7. Does a sexless relationship lead to a sexless marriage?
Let’s dive right in…
What is a sexless marriage?
A sexless marriage is a marriage where the couple does not have sex.
This can be for a variety of reasons; the most common being that one or both spouses are not interested in sex.
When it comes to low sexual interest in marriage, there can be a lot of reasons why this might happen.
For one, it could be that one or both spouses have lost interest in sex altogether.
This could be due to boredom, fatigue, or simply not feeling attracted to their partner anymore.
Another possibility is that there may be an underlying physical issue causing the low interest in sex, such as hormonal imbalances or chronic illnesses.
Whatever the reason may be, if you’re experiencing low interest in sexual activity within your marriage, it’s important to talk to your spouse about it.
It’s possible that they’re unaware of the issue and may have no idea that you’re not interested in sex.
Causes of a Sexless Marriage
Before we talk about when to walk away from a sexless marriage, won’t you agree that you should learn the many causes of a sexless marriage?
One of the most common reasons is when one or both partners have lost interest in sex.
Yes… interest, desire and attraction are key elements in this.
While desire cannot be negotiated, it can definitely be influenced with some seduction skills if the cause is medical in nature.
Low level of interest can be due to a number of factors, such as stress, fatigue, boredom, or a lack of connection with their partner.
Another common cause of a sexless marriage is when one partner has a low sex drive.
This can be due to hormonal changes, medical issues, or stress.
If one partner consistently rejects sexual advances, this can also lead to a sexless marriage.
If you are in a sexless marriage, it is important to assess the situation and determine if it is something that you can work on or if it is time to walk away.
There is a big difference between sexual interest and sex drive.
Interest is what makes you want to have sex, while sex drive is what motivates you to act on that desire.
Interest can be sparked by things like sexy lingerie, kissing, or cuddling and long term effects of being in a good place and feeling safe with your spouse.
However, sex drive is more about the physical urges in moments and the need to release that tension.
It’s possible to have a high interest but a low sex drive, or vice versa.
Erectile Dysfunction Can Also Lead to a No Sex Marriage
If you’re dealing with erectile dysfunction, there are a few remedies you can try before calling it quits on your marriage.
First, you could talk to your doctor about medication or therapy that could help get your libido back up and running.
If that doesn’t work, you might want to consider couples counseling to help reignite the intimacy in your relationship.
Effects of a Sexless Marriage
You may be the spouse who hasn’t realized that when to walk away from a sexless marriage may be closer than you think.
May be you feel a low sexual interest towards your spouse and you are not seeing it as a matter of emergency.
A sexless marriage can have negative consequences on both spouses.
Effects of a Sexless Marriage on a Man
A lack of physical intimacy can lead to a decreased sense of self-worth and masculinity.
They may feel like they are not good enough for their wife and that they are not fulfilling their role as a husband.
And yes, it’s important that we all start to realize that feelings is one of the most important elements of life; even for a man.
This can cause a husband to withdraw from the relationship emotionally and even physically.
Effects of a Sexless Marriage on a Woman
A lack of physical intimacy can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
She may feel like her husband no longer finds her attractive and desirable.
This can cause her to lose interest in the underlying relationship (in many respects, more important than the marriage) and become more withdrawn.
It is often not best to just walk away from the marriage because there is more to learn from the crisis just because one partner doesn’t desire sex.
The Importance of Physical Intimacy in Marriage
One of the most important aspects of a healthy and happy marriage is physical intimacy.
When this is lacking, couples can quickly find themselves drifting apart.
Like we already mentioned, this may be due to a lack of desire, mismatched libidos, or other physical issues, but the end result is the same—a rift in the relationship.
Physical intimacy is not just about sex; it’s also about physical closeness, touch, and affection.
Couples who are physically intimate are more likely to feel connected to each other, and they are also more likely to have a stronger emotional bond.
And to stay on topic here, it significantly reduces the chances of ending up in a sexless marriage which is about 15-20% of marriages.
In fact, physical intimacy is often seen as a litmus test for the health of a relationship.
The Link Between Intimacy And A Coupe’s Sex Life
If you want a better sex life within marriage, focusing on physical sex may just work completely against that.
A Couple’s sex life is a function of many things including sex drives, the level of interest between you and your spouse presently and long term vibes.
A terrible couple’s sex life is usually the effect of complacency, resentments and nature.
As mentioned earlier, it can also be the effect of medical issues but that’s beyond the scope of this article.
The frequency of sexual intimacy between couples determines what most people use in gauging a healthy and active sex life.
An ideal sex life from our stand point requires a minimum of once a week and preferably 2-3 times per week.
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule but be sure that the exception agreeable to both parties.
It’s not enough to argue what makes an ideal and optimal sex life as an individual.
Ultimately, you need your spouse to feel satisfied in their own personal sex life as qualified in human being in a marriage.
Ideally, when to walk away from a sexless marriage is the moment either spouse feels like the other is so disconnected and selfish from their own emotional needs of love and connection.
How to Deal With a Sexless Marriage
If you are in a sexless marriage, it can be difficult to know what to do.
We have a few tips in addition to the fact that there are professionals such as sex therapist, coach and counselors that help make navigating things easier.
Sexual desire cannot be negotiated but it can be influenced with these short and few tips:
1. Talk to your partner about your concerns.
If you’re feeling unhappy in a sexless marriage, it might be time to talk to your spouse about it.
However, it’s important to approach the conversation in a constructive way. Here are a few tips:
– Don’t start by expressing how you feel.
Being honest and open about why you’re unhappy, and explaining that you want things to change may seem smart but it is anti-seductive.
instead, it’s better that you approach this from a stand point of searching for opportunities to add value.
Here is an example of how the conversation might go…
“Babe, you know how much I love an intimate time with you.
Is there anyway I can help to ease up your days and create more opportunities?”
Talk about the things that you can do to improve sexual desire.
Maybe there are certain activities or fantasies that you would be interested in trying.
– Make it clear that you’re not blaming your spouse for the problem.
Sexual desire is a complex issue, and it takes two people to create a healthy sexual relationship.
But the good news is that it take one to start the necessary dance.
That’s why we suggest approaching this from a stand point of seduction and not sex as a duty in a marriage.
– Be willing to compromise.
This works best if you’ve noticed being shut down in recent time; if the sexlessness has lasted much longer, consulting a sex therapist to help is not a bad idea.
2. Try to spice things up in the bedroom.
When it comes to marriage, there are a lot of things that need to be perfect in order for it to work.
One of the most important aspects of marriage is intimacy.
Intimacy is key to a healthy and happy marriage.
When intimacy starts to fade, it can be a sign that the marriage is in trouble.
If you’re in a sexless marriage, here are a few tips to help spice things up:
– Talk to your spouse about your needs and desires.
Communication is key in any relationship.
I take that back. There are too many people throwing the word “communication” around when it comes to relationships and marriages.
The Actual Key is Effective Communication.
And I am talking about effectiveness with respect to the context; the context here being the need to help a sexless marriage survive.
Most people think of communication as the act of talking; with respect to improving sexual desire and intimacy, listening must be involved in at least what you may consider as communication.
If you haven’t listened long and deep enough to understand why your spouse has been non-verbally communicating low interest in sex, attempting to express your own unhappiness may makes things worse.
– Experiment with new positions, fantasies, and activities.
This is useful if you are still about to make your way together to the bedroom occasionally.
It can help replace boredom and spice things up.
– Try reconnecting with your spouse on a more intimate level outside of the bedroom.
This will actually work a lot better than many of the other measures your natural instincts suggest.
As I earlier, your sex life is a function of so many activities and moments long before the bedroom.
If all else fails, consider seeking professional help such as sex therapist, counselor or marriage coach.
3. If things don’t improve, consider consulting with a sex therapist.
A sex therapist can help sexless marriages in a number of ways.
They can help to identify the root of the problem, and work with the couple to find a solution.
If one partner is not interested in sex, the therapist can help to explore the reasons for this and find ways to overcome any obstacles.
The therapist can also provide guidance on how to improve communication and intimacy in the relationship.
4. Don’t give up on your marriage.
When it comes to sexless marriages, there can be a lot of debate over whether or not to stay in the relationship.
Some people may say that you should always fight for your marriage, while others may say that if sex is not happening, then there is likely bigger problems in the relationship that need to be addressed.
From experience, we know it’s most likely the latter.
The truth is, there is no easy answer when it comes to deciding whether or not to stay in a sexless marriage.
However, it is important to remember that a sexless marriage does not have to mean a doomed marriage.
In fact, according to recent studies, sexless marriages are becoming more and more common due to the growth in alternative lifestyles; we don’t really cover that here.
But according to one study, nearly 20% of married couples are considered sexless.
So you are not alone.
In addition to that, it is important to know that common problems tend to have more than enough solutions.
Don’t give up on your marriage especially if that’s not what you want to do; avoid non-professional advices on the marriage matters.
Avoid advices from people who have worst case scenario experiences and people who tend to speak from published statistics when it comes to a marriage.
They tend to only help in projecting these experiences into your future personal life even when suggested issues may not even exist.
How to create a healthy sex life when in a sexless marriage
A lack of sex in a marriage can be very frustrating for both partners.
It’s important to figure out why the sex has stopped, and then work on fixing it.
If the lack of sex is due to an issue like mismatched libidos, there are things that you can do to increase the amount of sex that you have.
If the lack of sex is due to an unresolved conflict, then you’ll need to work on resolving the conflict before you can start having sex again.
Lack of effective communication, especially the part where a spouse feels heard can lead to lack of sex.
Not mastering the art of intimacy at a deeper level in your underlying relationship can also lead to lack of sex.
As I mentioned earlier, desire cannot be negotiated.
Nonetheless lack of sexual desire will eventually lead to lack of sex.
Desire however be created with influence and seduction which is a skill set within long term relationships and marriage.
Health and medical issues can also lead to lack of sex even in ways that are not necessarily obvious to either party.
Last but not least, lack of sex can be a result of stress and fatigue, so it is important to not forget about creating a lifestyle of fun.
If lack of sex is causing problems in your marriage, it’s important to address the issue head-on and not allow it to linger on.
Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy?
A sexless marriage can be a difficult situation to deal with, but it is possible for the marriage to survive if the parties are on the same page.
It is highly unlikely in the hyper sexual society that we live in today; everywhere you look in the media, there are sexual content and motivation.
It is important to seek sex therapy to address the issue and find a way to regain sexual intimacy in the marriage.
One of the main things you can find in sex therapy is sex education.
Believe it or not, many people survived childhood without any form of sexual, attraction and seduction education ahead of marriage.
Sex therapy can help you learn about different sexual techniques, positions, and products that can help increase sexual interests in a romantic relationship.
Don’t let this issue linger to avoid your spouse from developing sexual interests outside of your marriage.
It’s also important to mention at this point that panic and anxiety will only make things worse.
FINALLY… The 17 Signs Of Walk Away From A Sexless Marriage?
Being in a marriage has its highs and lows and sometimes you can hit a stumbling block such as a sexless marriage.
A few moments of dryspell can happen and that is not unusual.
What can make it unusual is when that dry spell becomes permanent.
When intimacy is gone in a marriage, it can gradually lead to the death of a marriage.
So when do you know you are in a sexless marriage?
One survey says a sexless marriage is when a couple have sex once in a month.
But I believe this varies from people to people.
One Survey says that 1 in 5 couples are having a sexless marriage.
Did you know that the average married couple has sex 68.5 times a year which adds up to about once a week?
This is okay if both parties are on the same page.
But problem only occurs if one person desires sex and the other doesn’t.
So before you decide to walk away, you have to do a root cause analysis that addresses all the variables and scenarios that led you there.
5 potential causes of a sexless marriage to consider before walking away?
Consideration #1 – Stress from Work
When a partner gets too busy with work, he or she can become too tired to think about sex.
They don’t even have a moment to eat dinner together, much less talking about their day which is one of the ways that healthy couples connect.
This can cause the couple to be distant and cause a dry spell in the relationship.
Consideration #2 – Childbirth
After Childbirth, a woman’s body changes and needs time to balance again.
Doctors often advise not to have sex until after 6 weeks because of common issues such as vaginal dryness, bleeding, pain, fatigue, tear, low libido, pregnancy and more.
Breastfeeding lowers estrogen levels.
So if a woman is breastfeeding, it may take time for her libido to return to normal.
A man who doesn’t know all these may end up acting out of character because he feels neglected.
And this might lead to even more dry spells; a vicious cycle of sexless weeks, months and potentially years because it all starts from a woman feeling safe with a man .
Consideration #3 – Lack of Connection
Sex without emotional connection is a turn off.
An emotional connection is a bundle of subjective feelings that come together to create a bond between two people.
Most women want to be wined and dined,
They want to be heard, have intelligent and most importantly vulnerable conversations from the heart. They want to be noticed outside the bedroom.
If she is only being used for sex, she will eventually loathe it.
Likewise a typical man wants to feel like the hero in his marriage.
If he is feeling belittled, he may disconnect and his sexual attraction towards his woman can be tampered with effectively.
If you are sitting with your spouse and he is not engaging or responding to your conversations, you may start subconsciously learning how to disconnect.
It may seem like your spouse is just self-absorbed in whatever he is doing without ever asking how your day went; your spouse seems uninterested in you.
You all can become distant and start feeling neglected. This has led many to start fantasizing about life without each other.
You may even have found yourself sharing and enjoying conversations with others outside your marriage in an intimate way.
Obviously, one or both of you can effectively get comfortable with the reality of a sexless marriage and it all started with at least one person feeling lonely.
Consideration #5 – Toxic Relationship Issues
If you are not treating each other with kindness, every conversation is filled with sarcastic and rude remarks.
Likewise if at least one person is exercising controlling behaviours on the other, skyscrapers of resentments will be built.
And it is also not uncommon to accompany all of that with some disrespect to an extent where your sight repulses your partner or vice versa.
This type of negative behavior kills sex.
Who wants to have sex with someone who makes their skin crawl?
So Here are the 17 Signs of When to walk away from sexless marriage…
If your spouse is not interested in a way forward and doesn’t care that your needs are not being met, staying in that marriage may turn you into a bitter person.
All you both do now is argue.
You feel like your lack of sex is not even at the very least being compensated with a caring attitude. Instead, it’s filled with disrespect and insults. Some have even pushed themselves to the point of domestic violence.
So because you can’t imagine a happy life without sex, you may have even started indulging in inappropraite behaviours outside your marriage.
Sex has become a punishment tool for at least one of you.
And every time you do something wrong, your partner shuts down.
Your spouse has in fact told you severally that you are not wanted anymore and divorce is now being thrown in your face.
You have become depressed and uninterested in your purpose.
You can’t even get out of bed to do things you normally do and you feel drained.
You feel exhausted and burnt out.
You have become a raging jealous out-of-control monitoring spirit.
You find yourself tracking his or her every move.
You have his phone monitored.you follow him around.
You have lost your self respect. It’s time to move on and find yourself again.
Your spouse cheated on you and you resent him for it.
You dont to have sex with him but you want him to suffer. By the way, you are not making him suffer alone; you are killing yourself more.
If you are not open to counseling to help heal yourself, it’s time to let go and move on from this toxicity.
Most sexless marriages suffer because one or both parties have shut down and have refused to have real conversations about why they have reached this point.
They indulge in blaming and finger pointing.
Blame, guilt, judgement and condemnation, felt at any level will not make your spouse more interested in sex.
There are things you can do to get your marriage from a sexless stage to one filled with love and content.
How are you communicating these concerns with your spouse?
Are you talking to him or at him? Are you talking to her or at her? Try working on your communication skills.
Have you done a root cause analysis of why your marriage is sexless? There are usually some underlying issues.
You need to be clear of what happened in order to fix it or you will be totally lost in confusion.
If you are open, a good counselor can help figure that out.
The best thing you can do for yourself is figure out what the underlying cause of your problems are and work with your spouse on finding solutions together.
If this sounds like too much work, there may not be any hope for your marriage at all.
Here’s how to know when it might finally be time to walk away from a sexless marriage:
->You’ve tried everything – counseling, different types of sexual activity that used to turn both of you on but now only one person enjoys or participates in them often
->The two of you talk about having more enjoyable sexual encounters with each other, but after an initial spurt where things were great again they stop once more.
-> You both feel like your sex lives is going down the drains after engaging all the suggested helps in this article, yet passionate sex seems to be long gone.
If at least one person still desires the other enough to initiate sex even if it’s occasionally, there is hope.
We believe that after 3 months of no sexual activity between a couple outside of each other’s consent, the marriage is technically non-existence.
Have you ever heard a sexless marriages end because of more frequent sex? Maybe sex addition which is considered a sexual dysfunction.
You can also work on improving how you approach sex in general; too many people’s approach is anti-seductive.
I know what you are thinking.
What about vaginal dryness right? While that could be a result of medical reasons, it’s often the results of no arousal.
Lack of arousal can also be a function of many things such as low self esteem issues, watching porn too much, body image, lack of self confidence and more.
If you care about this marriage, be sure to address everything before walking away from it like most tend to do.
The grass always seems greener on the other side; but that’s because someone is watering the grass of that love life.
Frequently Asked Questions [FAQ]
Should I leave or walk away a sexless marriage?
It depends on how much effort you have put into assessing this situation from a root cause analysis standpoint. At some point, you can’t keep giving what you don’t have. But it’s worth the effort to try an sort through sexless phases with your partner.
How do you know when it’s time to leave a sexless marriage?
If at least one partner is not willing to work on better and fulfilling intimacy, it’s time to consider that you have your whole life ahead of you and consider your options.
How long is too long to stay in a sexless marriage?
On average, sexless phase more than 2 weeks outside of medical reasons will start to make at least of the partners resent at least quietly.
What happens to a man in a sexless marriage?
Sexless marriage tampers with a man’s ability to be faithful and his self esteem.
It can be difficult if it seems like your wife loves you but doesn’t desire you, but there are a few things you can do.
We’ve had a few people send these questions in and maybe you can relate in one shape, form or the other. Here we go before I share 5 tips to help you through a difficult time in your marriage.
“Wife Has No Romantic Feelings For Me”
My wife and I have been married for several years, but I have come to realize that she has no romantic feelings for me. We still have a good relationship, but it is more of a friendship than a romantic partnership. I feel lonely and rejected, but I am trying to accept the situation and move forward.
“My Wife Hasn’t Slept With Me In Months”
My marriage has been going through a difficult time lately. My wife and I have been growing apart and it has been months since we have shared a bed. This has been an incredibly hard time for both of us, and I am trying my best to make things better.
“My Wife Sees Me As A Friend Not A Lover”
My wife and I have a strong friendship, but it is not a romantic one. She sees me as a companion and confidant, but not as a lover. We have a mutual respect and admiration for one another, but it is not the same kind of connection that is usually associated with a romantic relationship. We are content with our relationship as it is, and we both appreciate the bond we share.
“My Wife Says She Loves Me But Doesn’t Show It”
My wife often tells me that she loves me, but I can’t help but feel like she doesn’t show it. She is often busy with work and other commitments, so it’s hard for her to find the time to express her love. I try to understand, but it’s still difficult for me to feel truly appreciated.
“I Don’t Feel Desired By My Wife”
I feel like my wife doesn’t desire me anymore. I feel like she has lost interest in me and our relationship. I feel neglected and unimportant to her. It’s heartbreaking to feel like I’m not wanted or desired by the person I love the most.
“My Wife Doesn’t Want Me Sexually”
My wife and I have been having a difficult time in our relationship lately. She has expressed that she no longer feels the same way about me sexually, and that she does not want to be intimate with me. This has been a difficult situation for both of us, but I am trying to be understanding and supportive of her feelings. We are working together to try to find a way to reconnect and build a stronger relationship.
Here are the 5 tips…
Tip 1 – Honest & Open Conversation
Start by having an honest and open conversation with your wife and try to understand her perspective.
The best way to start having a meaningful conversation with your wife is to be honest and open within the confinement of emotional intelligence.
Listen to her perspective and try to understand where she is coming from. Ask her questions and be willing to compromise.
Show her that you care about her feelings and that you are willing to work together to find a resolution. Be patient and understanding, and don’t be afraid to express your own feelings.
Show her that you are willing to put in the effort to make things work. This will help to create an environment of trust and respect, which is essential for any healthy relationship.
Tip 2 – Active Listening
Make sure to actively listen to her and let her express her thoughts and feelings without judgment.
It is important to make sure that you actively listen to her and let her express her thoughts and feelings without judgment.
This means that you should be actively engaged in the conversation, focusing on what she is saying and not interrupting her.
You should also be open to hearing her thoughts and feelings without passing any kind of judgment.
This is important because it will allow her to feel comfortable expressing herself and will create a safe space for her to do so.
It is also important to be patient and understanding, as this will help create a positive environment for her to share her thoughts and feelings.
Tip 3 – Self Care
You can also take time to focus on yourself. This has nothing to do with the selfless ingredient necessary for a marriage’s sustainability.
Taking time to focus on yourself is a great way to make sure that you are taking care of your mental and physical health.
Self-care can include activities such as reading a book, going for a walk, or taking a nap.
It can also mean taking time to reflect on your thoughts and emotions, or doing something that brings you joy.
Taking time to focus on yourself can help you to reduce stress, improve your mood, and increase your overall well being.
It can also help you to gain clarity and perspective on your life and the decisions you make.
Taking time for yourself is an important part of self-care and should be an integral part of your life.
Make sure you’re taking care of yourself and your own needs by engaging in activities that bring you joy and make you feel good.
Self-care is an important part of maintaining a healthy and balanced lifestyle.
Taking care of yourself and your own needs is essential for your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.
Engaging in activities that bring you joy and make you feel good is a great way to practice self-care.
This can include anything from exercising, reading a book, spending time with friends, or simply taking a few moments to relax.
Taking the time to do something that you enjoy can help to reduce stress and improve your overall mood.
Practicing self-care is a great way to ensure that you are taking care of yourself and your own needs.
Tip 4 – Affection
Lastly, don’t forget to be affectionate with your wife.
It is important to remember to be affectionate with your wife.
Showing your wife affection is a great way to show her that you care and appreciate her.
This can be done through small gestures such as holding hands, giving hugs, or even just saying “I love you”.
It is also important to make time for your wife, whether it is going on a date night or just spending quality time together.
Showing your wife affection is a great way to strengthen your relationship and make her feel special.
Tip 5 – Love & Kindness
Show her love and kindness, and let her know that you appreciate her and are here for her.
Being in a relationship is hard work because it is highly rewarding, but it can also be immensely rewarding.
4 Signs Your Wife Is Not Sexually Attracted To You
There are a few signs that may indicate your wife is not sexually attracted to you.
She may avoid physical contact, such as cuddling or holding hands.
She may also not want to engage in any kind of sexual activity or intimacy.
She may be less interested in spending time with you or may be distant in conversations.
She may also not be as affectionate or show signs of physical attraction, such as compliments or flirting.
If these signs are present, it may be a sign that your wife is not sexually attracted to you.
In this rest of the article, you will discover what to do if all signals indicate that the wife you married doesn’t desire you anymore even though she claims she loves you.
It’s perfectly normal for a wife to love her husband, but sometimes not feel sexually attracted to him.
While desire cannot be negotiated, it can absolutely be influenced with some tips we will share in this article.
There could be any number of reasons for this, such as a lack of emotional connection, mismatched libido levels or unresolved anger or resentment.
If you’re in this situation, it’s important to talk to your spouse and figure out what’s causing the disconnect.
You may need to see a therapist to help address the underlying issues; you can start with a family therapist.
Here are some very important lessons that we will cover to give you a full understanding and tactful things you can do to rekindle things:
The Meaning of “Desire” In A Marriage
What is the Difference Between Love and Sexual Desire?
“What Does it Mean When My Wife Loves Me But Doesn’t Desire Me?”
How does this affect a marriage and relationship?
Tips for creating sexual desire in your spouse again
The Role of a Sex Therapist
… and more.
My Wife Never Touches Me Anymore
“She used to be so affectionate, but now she seems distant and removed. I don’t know what I did wrong, but I fear that she may be cheating on me or is no longer interested in me. I don’t know how much longer I can take this.”
This kind of problem always start with a wife losing interest.
Let’s dive right in…
3 Signs That Your Wife Is Losing Interest
It can be difficult to tell if your wife is losing interest in you.
However, there are 4 of many other signs you can look out for.
Sign #3 – One common sign is if your wife starts to avoid sexual intimacy.
Sign #2 – If she stops taking care of herself physically or stops dressing up for you, this can also be a sign that she’s losing interest.
Sign #1 – Another sign is if she becomes critical or negative towards you.
If your wife shows any of these signs, it might be time to talk to her about your concerns and see if there’s anything wrong.
The Meaning of “Desire” In A Marriage
When we think of the word “desire,” we often think of our sex life in a marriage and sexual desire.
However, desire is much more than that.
Desire is a yearning or craving for something, someone or the presence of someone.
It can be a strong feeling or emotion that motivates us to take further desired action of course.
In a marriage, it is important for both spouses to feel desired by the other.
This can be accomplished in many ways, such as through words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch.
When both spouses feel desired, it builds intimacy and strengthens the bond between them.
Sexual desire is an important part of a marriage, but it is not the only type of desire that matters.
Spouses should strive to meet each other’s non-sexual desires as well, in order to create a fulfilling and lasting relationship.
That alone can help in boosting and/or sustaining sexual desires in the marriage.
What is the Difference Between Love and Sexual Desire?
When we think of love, we often think of feelings of warmth, happiness and affection.
Love is a deep, emotional connection that spouses have with each other.
It is a feeling of being drawn to someone, of wanting to be close to them and wanting to make them happy.
In marriage, however, love is not just a feeling of lust or passion.
It is much more than that because a long term relationship between 2 different human beings is involved.
Love is Action, Patient, Kind and Fifty Million Others Things.
Sexual desire, on the other hand, is a physical attraction that spouses feel for each other.
It is the desire to be intimate with someone, to touch them and to be touched by them.
Sexual desire can often be confused with love, but they are two separate things.
Sexual desire was traditionally not necessary in a marriage, but love was as a function of duty and responsibility.
However, things have changed and it will hurt your marriage if you dare attempt to discount the importance of feelings in modern day marriage.
There Is A Strong Relationship Between A Couple’s Sex Life, Love And Sexual Desire.
A couple’s sex life is often seen as the foundation of a healthy relationship, and is usually one of the first things to disappear when a relationship starts to deteriorate.
Love is often thought of as the emotional connection that couples share, and is what keeps them together over time.
Sexual desire, on the other hand, is what motivates people to have sex and is often seen as a physical manifestation of love.
“What Does it Mean When My Wife Loves Me But Doesn’t Desire Me?”
When a wife loves her husband but does not desire him, it can be a sign that there is something wrong in the underlying relationship.
It may be that the wife is no longer attracted to her husband, or that she is unhappy with the way things are going in the relationship.
If this is the case, then it is important for the husband to talk to his wife and find out what is wrong.
He should express his love for her and try to find a way to fix whatever is causing the problem.
By the way, she might not be able to explain this in words.
How Does Your Intimacy Affect a Marriage Relationship?
Your sex life is an important part of intimacy in your marriage and the underlying relationship.
It helps to keep the spark alive and allows couples to feel close to each other.
When there is not healthy level of intimacy (which is deeper than sex), everything else starts to feel wrong.
Your Sex Life Can Take Many Different Forms, Such As Talking And Touching.
If one partner feels that they are not being desired by the other, it can be a blow to their self-esteem.
It can make them feel like they are not good enough and that they are not wanted.
This can lead to a lot of emotional pain and conflict and even emotional and full blown infidelity.
There are many ways to improve your sex life in a marriage relationship.
Couples can talk about their needs and desires, spend time together, touch each other more often, and be open and honest with each other.
But that’s usually not enough because it would most likely take one person to lead the dance.
If you are struggling with this issue, please seek help from a therapist, coach or counselor.
They can assist you in working through these feelings and improving your relationship.
6 Tips for Creating A Fulfilling Sex Life With Your Spouse Again
There are many ways to rekindle your sex life in your relationship with your spouse.
Here are a few tips:
1. Talk openly and honestly about your feelings and desires but with respect to your partner’s feelings.
2. Make time for each other and carve out special moments just for the two of you.
3. Be affectionate and touch each other often.
4. Experiment and be playful in the bedroom.
5. Communicate during sex and let your partner know what you enjoy.
6. Connect emotionally as well as physically.
The Role of a Sex Therapist
A sex therapist’s role is to help couples or individuals overcome issues that are preventing them from enjoying a healthy and fulfilling sex life.
They can help with a range of issues, such as low libido, performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, and more.
Sex therapists typically use a mix of therapies, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), couples therapy, and psycho-education.
How A Sex Therapist Uses CBT
A sex therapist uses cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) which can be a great help for couples in this situation.
He or she can help the couple understand why the wife loves her husband but does not desire him.
They can also work to help the couple rebuild their intimacy and connection.
Every other advice would probably unintentionally position you to start feeling like your wife is weaponizing sex.
How can she weaponize sex if she doesn’t hate sex with you?
That’s The Easy Route Of Thought; Try Harder.
A sex therapist would help you do the hard work by digging deeper into the reasons behind the scenes and behind the obvious.
You can even take it further.
You will learn seduction skills from a sex therapist that will help you influence high level of desire, interest and attraction.
Check out American Association of Sexuality Educators, counselors and therapists to see if you can find an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.
An AASECT Certified Sex Therapist is trained to provide in-depth psychotherapy and they are specialized in treating clients with sexual issues and concerns.
What To Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Be Intimate
When your partner doesn’t want to be intimate, it can be a difficult and confusing experience.
You may feel like you’re not good enough or that you’re not attractive in your relationship anymore.
Here Are 5 Things You Can Do To Improve Intimacy:
1. Talk to your partner about why they don’t want to be intimate and try to understand their point of view.
2. Don’t take it personally (this is easier said than done) – remember that this has nothing to do with how much they love you.
3. Don’t pressure your partner into being intimate if they’re not comfortable doing so because desire cannot be negotiated; it can however be influenced if you have the skills.
4. Seek out support from friends or family members who can offer words of encouragement to you if need it; don’t count on them being able to correct your spouse into order.
5. Seek professional help if the situation is causing you significant distress.
Remember that you’re not alone and there are ways to deal with this situation.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for help if you need it.
“Can I Divorce My Wife For Not Sleeping With Me?”
Of course you can divorce your spouse these days for the dumbest reasons.
All you have to do is to claim “irreconcilable differences.”
But of course, I don’t just advice you to just run for the hills at the slightest sight of a slow down in intimacy.
While it may be frustrating if your wife doesn’t want to have sex with you, it’s important to remember that there are many reasons why someone may not be interested in sex.
It Could Be Due To Stress, Fatigue, or Health Issues.
If your wife is unwilling to discuss the issue, then you may want to consult with a therapist to help you understand why she is not interested in sex and work on ways to improve intimacy.
There are many bitter people on the internet that will advice you to just go ahead and kick her to the curb.
You and I know that if it was that easy, you would have done it already.
Don’t compare yourself to people who are so weak to the extent that they never had enough vested interest in a marriage they created in the first place.
Identify if you really want that marriage from a personal standpoint and then move intentionally and accordingly; with the help of good counsel and not random people on the internet.
How Health Issues Can Result in Lack of Physical Intimacy
Many couples struggle with physical intimacy at some point in their relationship.
This can be due to a variety of factors, such as fatigue, stress, or health issues.
When one partner is dealing with health issues leading to a lack of physical intimacy, it might not be as obvious.
Physical intimacy is an important part of a marriage, and when it’s lacking, it can be difficult for both partners.
There are issues that may be hormonal or psychological remnants of health crisis.
Start with a conversation as usual and a healthy does of empathy and that alone can instigate her wanting sex.
“I Just Want My Wife To Want Me But I’ve Heard Many Wives Like Her Hate Sex Eventually.”
Sexual pleasure is an important part of any relationship, and it’s no different for couples in which the wife loves her husband but doesn’t desire him.
This is a temporary issue normally and you next move can make it permanent or temporary; tread carefully.
Even though they’re not physically attracted to each other, these couples can still enjoy a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship if they’re willing to put in the effort.
For men in this situation, it’s important to understand that sexual pleasure isn’t all about the physical act of sex.
Sexual pleasure actually starts long before the act of sex.
There is a lot more going on even though you may feel as though she hates sex; it’s highly unlikely.
One of the key things when you are going through this is to make sure you are prepared for the opportunity to be intimate when it presents itself again.
When that time comes…
Here Are Additional 5 Tips To Be More Sexually Intimate With Your Wife
Tip #5 – First, try to be more present when you’re together.
Tip #4 – Pay attention to her body and her reactions when you’re touching her.
Tip #3 – Second, experiment with different types of touch. Try mixing up your routine to keep things fresh; don’t be predictable.
Tip #2 – Third, communicate with your wife about what she enjoys.
Let her know what turns you on, and ask her about her fantasies.
Tip #1 – Lastly, make time for sex.
Dedicate time specifically for intimacy, and make sure that both of you are available for it.
Here is a quick question for you to ponder.
How do you feel about entertaining sex toys in your sex life?
Your answer can make or break your sex life and intimacy; Hint: No answer is right and wrong.
Why Does My Wife Hate Initiating Sex?
There could be many reasons why your wife hates initiating sex.
It could be that she’s not attracted to you, she’s not in the mood, or she’s not feeling well.
If your wife doesn’t initiate sex very often, it might be because she’s not comfortable doing so.
Heck: It can be completely a traditional or cultural issue
Talk to her about how you feel and see if she has any concerns or suggestions.
This is one of those situations where you may want to identify the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship and both of you as individuals.
What I want you to do is to shed more energy and light on the strengths and avoid trying to force the weaknesses with respect to the result that you want.
I would hope that your desired result is simply more sex; more passionate sex.
“My Wife Makes Excuses To Refuse Sex.”
“My wife loves me and always tells me how much she cares for me, but she doesn’t desire me sexually. She makes excuses not to sleep with me, and it’s really starting to take a toll on our relationship. I’m not sure what to do, as I still want to be intimate with her.”
Most Women In Marriage React To Unhappiness In One Or More Ways:
Outside of health issues, she might not feel satisfied with her marriage due to the amount of time spent away from her spouse.
The most recent findings suggest that up to 50 percent of couples who have been married 10 years are dissatisfied with their marriage because they report feeling frustrated and unfulfilled.
This is a rather strong reason why most women in marriage do not want sex – it’s as if they’re trying to protect themselves from being hurt again by refusing sex.
To a large extent, this can be subconscious.
Most women refuse sex because they are afraid of getting too close, only for them to continue to feel unhappy in the marriage down the road anyway.
It’s like “why bother?”
The First Step Is Always To Talk To Your Spouse About The Issue.
If that doesn’t work, you may want to engage your seduction power as a woman; that starts with self-assessment.
What turned him on to you in the first place?
What turns him on to you right now?
What turns you on?
Once you find out the answer to all 3 of these questions, then you will find everything else useful in rekindling things.
How To Deal With A Sexless Marriage As A Woman
Dealing with a sexless marriage as a woman can be difficult, but there are ways to cope.
First, it’s important to understand that there is no shame in having a sexless marriage.
It’s not your fault, and you’re not alone.
There are many couples who experience this problem and therefore there are many solutions and options.
In Conclusion
It’s normal for most women to lose interest in their husbands after some time and over time.
This doesn’t mean that the love is gone, just the desire may be absent.
There are many things you can do to help boost your wife’s desire and attraction towards you again.
By leveraging some of the simple tips we’ve covered, you can rekindle the flame and have a more fulfilling marriage.
Here is a last bonus tip for you.
If you are always engaged in arguments that you may have considered a harmless debate, that can sure create lower interest and desire from your spouse; It can get weird from time to time.
What a confusion right?
Are women crazy?
How do you love a husband you don’t desire?
I was on the receiving end of those resentments she mentioned earlier and it was not fun as you can probably imagine.
We got married and I flipped my legs on the table and just relaxed like most new husbands.
After all, we are now committed to each other for life.
A certain type of love required for all marriages is a choice.
However, desire, affection, and attraction are symptoms of a certain consistent way of showing up in your marriage as a man.
A typical wife has a lot on her plate and simply doesn’t get to decide if they want to desire you or not.
Think about it.
In the beginning of your love affair, your wife desired you without knowing enough about you.
Though it wasn’t controlled, it was an attraction.
So we can agree that desire in a marriage is not some logical decision.
At least, that’s not reality.
But it can absolutely be reverse-engineered especially with the history of desire that used to exist between the two of you.
We know it can happen again but it’s easier said than done.
With proper support it’s absolutely possible because we are a testimony.
But you will have to engage your power and it’s impossible when you are playing the victim.
“Is My Wife Attracted To Me” Quiz
Taking a ‘is my wife attracted to me’ quiz can be a great way to gauge the level of attraction between you and your wife.
It can help you to identify areas of your relationship that could use some work, or it can help you to recognize the positive aspects of your relationship.
The quiz typically consists of questions about your relationship, such as how often you and your wife spend time together, how often you show affection, and how often you communicate.
Additionally, it may also include questions about how you and your wife interact with each other in public, how often you have disagreements, and how often you share intimate moments.
Answering these questions honestly can help you to gain a better understanding of your relationship and whether or not your wife is still attracted to you.
We will be creating a quiz soon. Look out for it.
Frequently Asked Question
Why does my wife have no desire for me?
There are a variety of potential reasons why a wife may have no desire for her husband. It could be due to a lack of communication, a lack of emotional connection, or a lack of physical intimacy. It could also be due to a change in circumstances, such as a job loss, a move, or a health issue. It could also be due to unresolved issues from the past, such as unresolved arguments, hurt feelings, or unresolved trauma. It is important to take the time to talk to your wife and try to understand the root cause of her lack of desire in order to find a solution that works for both of you.
What to do when my wife doesn’t want me sexually?
When your wife doesn’t want you sexually, it can be difficult to handle and can create a lot of tension in the relationship. It is important to talk to your wife about her feelings and try to understand why she is not interested in being intimate. It is also important to remember that there could be many factors at play, such as stress, fatigue, or even medical issues. It is important to be understanding and patient with your wife, and to try to work together to find a solution that works for both of you. If the issue persists, it may be beneficial to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor to help you both work through the issue.
Why do I feel like my wife doesn’t want me sexually?
I feel like my wife doesn’t want me sexually for a variety of reasons. We may not be communicating our needs and desires effectively, or we may have drifted apart over time. It could also be that she is feeling overwhelmed with other aspects of life, such as work, family, or other commitments. It could be that she is dealing with her own issues that she hasn’t been able to share with me. Whatever the reason, it is important to talk to my wife and try to understand what is going on and how we can work together to improve our relationship.
Can a marriage survive without desire?
A marriage without desire can be a difficult situation to navigate. While it is possible for a marriage to survive without desire, it is often an uphill battle. Without the passion that comes with desire, couples may find that they are unable to connect on an emotional level, leading to a lack of communication and understanding. This can cause resentment and distance between the two partners, making it difficult to sustain the marriage. In order to make a marriage work without desire, couples must be willing to put in the effort to build a strong foundation of trust, respect, and communication. This can be difficult, but it is possible for a marriage to survive without desire if both partners are willing to put in the work.
Unwanted Separation? Use THESE 5 Tips! So we received a comment on one of the best videos we’ve ever done called “Ignoring Your Spouse During Separation” from one of our 1,125 extremely valuable subscribers on YouTube; Queen.
Make sure you search and check out that video once you finish watching this video.
She says… And I quote
“Going thru separation. I love and miss my husband. He asked to be alone for a year. What do I do while we are living apart?”
Queen. I’m sorry you are going through this. Separation is not easy on anyone. As devastating as it sounds, it sometimes can yield positive outcomes.
In fact, we are going to share 5 tips with you on how to dramatically increase the chance of making this season productive for you especially in spite of what it may feel like right now.
Tip Number 5
Identify Why
The marriage institution is exactly that; an institution. And all disrespect of the institution will lead to a terrible outcome which is a legal or spiritual evaporation of the marriage.
One of such disrespects happens when people get into marriages that lack explicitly identified purpose. It’s also synonymous with a marriage with no clear vision from the leader.
So if there is no leader, even if it’s temporarily, there is no vision and things fall apart.
At this point, Queen… you have to be realistic and identify your own life mission and purpose.
It’s going to be instrumental in attracting your husband back to you if he belongs there in the first place.
Major focus has to be directed to building yourself up because it’s about being worthy of attracting what you desire; even if that’s your marriage and/or your husband.
Whatever you engage henceforth should either be your passion or some type of stepping stone towards your passion.
Tip Number 4
Forgive Yourself
There is a tricky fine line between holding yourself accountable and not forgiving yourself. Everything in life is a double edged sword that can cut both ways.
Holding yourself accountable when your marriage seems to be failing is no different. You want to make sure that you’ve forgiven yourself for at least being what you may be perceiving as failure.
After all, failure is the stepping stone towards all forms of success.
Guilt, blame, condemnation and judgement will work against you because they will consume 10 times the energy you could use to improve yourself in order to attract love and your desires again.
Tip Number 3
Let Him Go
He wants time off, let him go. The truth is that negotiating desire is always a terrible strategy because it leads back into this vicious cycle of resenting yourself.
If your husband has asked to be alone for a year, the reality is that he doesn’t want to be alone because he is human; a social being like the rest of us. He just doesn’t want to be with you again.
At least subconsciously, you also know this to be true so you naturally fight to hold on to your husband evidently by begging, calling obsessively, manipulation and other strategies that only repel and not attract love.
So the fear becomes, “what if I let go and then he gets with someone else”?
Okay. What if he does? I ask you. Can you survive that reality? If you can’t survive that reality, where is the sexy self-confidence and self-esteem that attracted him in the first place?
It’s little to no wonder why he doesn’t want to be with you.
Here is another reality. That’s just how he felt the moment it was said. It’s not necessarily how he is going to feel once he smells that you don’t need him ever again.
To want him and to need him are two different things. No one wants to be with a needy person.
So the first step is to let him go in order to let your magic… maybe God…. do its thing.
There is more.
Tip Number 2
Build Self Love
We’ve seen a lot of people running around social media and different types of conversations talking about “self love”.
Let’s be honest. Some people are too selfish and should not be talking about self love if they don’t want to self-sabotage when it comes to attracting authentic love over time.
But in your case Queen, rejection breeds obsession. So you are probably pouring from an empty cup and not taking care of yourself enough. That’s not attractive nor is it sustainable.
In this season for you, the work is in taking care of and loving up on yourself.
I understand it’s hard when you experience rejection especially when it involves a potential break up of your family.
But remember that everything goes back to attraction and desire which you should never negotiate. People, including your husband, really have no choice but to mimic the level of self love that you have for yourself.
At the minimum, people will mimic your level of self-respect. Focus on doing things you love and for yourself during this period and don’t have ultimatums on doing that.
Make it a lifestyle.
I have a question for you. Are you naturally a selfish person?
Use the comment area below to share your answer with us.
There is a chance that you are already not a selfish person. So it’s time to pivot and it’s your best chance of attracting love with or without your husband.
I know you are probably so obsessed that you don’t want to hear about love outside of your husband. But think about this deeply. Love is love and it really wouldn’t matter when you are in-love.
It also doesn’t matter because loving yourself will make you more attractive and therefore increase your chances of attracting anyone to desire you; hopefully your husband.
And last but not least.
Tip Number 1
Look Out For Clarity
Okay. I don’t want you to set yourself up because honestly that marriage is gone. Because even if your husband comes back to you, you will have to build a new foundation.
When we say look out for clarity, we need you to do that from a space of selfishness and what is good for your own life and the rest of your life.
I don’t want you to sit around and start expecting your husband to suddenly decide to come back to his senses. Nothing in life is guaranteed.
If he comes back, good for him… and for you I hope.
With these tips, you will definitely influence him if he is human like the rest of us because he will wonder and become unsure of where you stand.
That will effectively drive his attraction towards you in an upwards direction.
But you can’t control what other people do. You can only control how you respond to life and consequently control what you attract.
Things will start to align when you let go and genuinely become capable of enjoying every moment of your life without needing him.
We are speaking from experience. We share our own story inside the book “GET MY MARRIAGE BACK” which you can download for free at www.GetMyMarriageBack.com
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