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5 Signs That Separation May Be Good For Your Marriage 💔

In this lesson, you will discover 5 signs that separation may be good or at least necessary to bring life back into your marriage.

My name is LOLA and I am the co-author of the book

GET MY MARRIAGE BACK with my husband OLA

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Alexis is a 30 years old lady who is married to a 29 years old “boy” with 2 toddlers.

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She depends on her husband for everything else but they are struggling in the marriage.

Now she is considering separation.

Contrary to popular belief by the punk ass modern man in this time and age, it is not the easiest decision for her.

They are very quick to point out the fact that 75% of divorces are initiated by women.

You will discover in these 5 signs how separation and divorce are initiated long before the space where Alexis is right now.

Let’s get into it.

My name is OLA.

Sign #5 – Fear of Being Alone

If your marriage is in a space of love, being alone will be the last thing on your mind.

When you now add fear into that equation, things are really bad and may need to get worse in order to be better.

In the case of Alexis, her husband is the breadwinner and she has 2 toddlers’ welfare to also worry about.

So the idea of having to move on is terrifying.

Still, this is a sign of a healthy cycle in a marriage; space may be necessary to have clarity.

Love and fear cannot dwell within the same space.

Some dummies would like to believe and fantasize about the idea of a marriage without the necessity of love but that’s not reality. Is it?

Sign #4 – Emotionally Drained

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When partners have not been able to see eye-to-eye for 6 months where at least one person feels drained, space may not be a bad thing.

This is a sign that at least one person is taking the other for granted.  This behavior may not change if that person does not smell the idea of losing each other.

Humans respond to consequences more than they respond to rules camouflaged as values.

Sign #3 – Help Refusal

You’ve asked for help by way of therapy or counseling  but your spouse continues to reject it.

Alexis’ husband thinks they can work on the issues by themselves but never initiate the work and refuses therapy.

When one partner is crying out for help and the other is oblivious and ignoring it, that’s a roadblock that only consequences can open up.

If the refusing partner does not taste what it may feel like to lose each other, change is unlikely.

So this may be a sign of a need for separation.

However, individual therapy may be sufficient to learn how to seduce your partner back into a loving space for the marriage again.

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Sign #2 – Empty Cycle of Promises

Long stretch of broken cycle of empty promises creates resentments.  It can also create low self-esteem and worth for the crying partner.

It makes them question if they are not enough to be valued by someone who claims to love them.

It’s only a matter of time; something has to give.

The marriage may have to give at least a trial separation in order for partners to value each other and not take each other for granted again.

As humans, we sometimes have a hard time valuing anything or anyone that’s readily available.

Sign #1 – Loss of Affection

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When you combine this with 2 or 3 other signs, it is really bad and things will likely not change for the better unless it gets worse first.

A partner who is crying for long enough will naturally have a hard time maintaining feelings of affection for a person who they feel has been taking them for granted.

This is especially true when a woman doesn’t feel heard; you cannot penetrate anything.

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“My Wife DISRESPECTS Me” 9 Points Advice for you Especially in Separation… ❤️

In this lesson, I am sharing a 9-point marriage separation advice in order to give you the best chance to attract your spouse back in love with you.

At the bottom of this page, you will find the question that inspired this lesson.

Marriage Separation Advice - My wife disrespects me

(1) Give Yourself Space

It’s most likely that your spouse has asked you for space.

So if that’s the case, it’s very important that you don’t see it as a bad idea because frankly you probably need the space more.

You just can’t see that, because rejection breeds obsession.

Take advantage of the space apart to build a better “you”.

(2) Don’t Overrate Affairs

While your spouse may be distracted by an emotional or physical affair with another person, don’t highlight it.

The affair will never be worth what you have already shared with your spouse

But it is important that you showcase being unbothered by anything or anyone outside of the relationship you have with him or her.

The worst thing you can do is to spend your space apart bickering about affairs; it will only expand and you will push your spouse further away.

(3) It Takes One But…

Insisting that you stay together is not going to help save your marriage as much as attracting your spouse back.

It only takes one person to create attraction but that requires a process and insisting otherwise will interrupt that process of attraction.

Instead, let go as it only takes “you” to build attraction which is the single most important thing that is missing right now.

(4) Don’t Use/Abuse Children

The marriage separation period will come with a lot of temptations

And one of them is trying to inflict emotional abuse and blackmail on your spouse.

Another one is abusing your children as a tool to accomplish that goal.

It always backfires.

The most common one, believe it or not, is not as obvious as you may think.

It happens more in the form of manipulation under the pretense of protecting the child or children.

What you want to do is stay focused on what you want and don’t want

And leave the children out of it even if that’s painful for you emotionally.

Your emotional feelings are temporary.

The only exception to this, is physical abuse of the children; in that case, it would be non-negotiable to get the children removed from harm’s way.

(5) After 3 Months, You are Free

It’s not advisable to engage in transgressions with other people during separation but we are all humans.

Technically, you are free to move on after 3 months of lack of sexual relationship when it is not medically related in my personal opinion.

But also in my personal opinion, the most profitable and worthwhile thing to work on in this period is self growth.

If you don’t, transgression and the lifestyle that comes with it can destroy everything you care about.

It can be even worse when it’s done in retaliation.

If you decide to move on, seek legal counsel to avoid exposing you and/or your children to unfavorable legal loopholes.

(6) More Actions/Less Talking

That should be pretty clear but be careful not to confuse certain inaction with emotional centered-ness.

For example, don’t abandon your children and/or your normal responsibilities in the name of less talking.

That would be irresponsible and such behavior will continue to lower your spouse’s attraction towards you.

Just keep in mind that changed behavior is the best apology.

So for the most part, verbal apology will work against you because of the expectation for instant results.

Stay away from arguments, approval seeking behaviors and focus on building your self during this period.

(7) You Allow Disrespect

If there are any type of disrespect and/or disregard from your spouse during your separation, ask yourself first,

“How did I put myself in that position?”

“How did I allow that”?

You need to take the time to extract the answer to that question as it will help with clarity as you move into the new phase of your marriage.

The bottom-line and the result of this exercise should be that no one should be taking anyone for granted again.

When you take yourself for granted, your spouse will see it as a permission to take you for granted if they are weak like most people.

(8) Never Bribe for Sex

Don’t manipulate with whatever you do for your spouse, children and family at this time as a bribe for sex.

It will work against your desire.

Do it if you find it honorable to do and you don’t have to if you don’t feel like it.

The worst thing you can do is do it and then blame them for not reciprocating.

(9) Work on Yourself

That should be self explanatory.

Use the marriage separation period to build yourself and attract the love and affection that you deserve.

It’s simple but I agree…

It’s easier said than done.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“ I really enjoy your content on IG: @LOLAandOLA and I need to ask you a question.

In April 2017, my wife said she wanted space for 2 weeks because we were not in a good place and she was distracted by an affair at the time.

Initially, I objected and wanted us to get a fresh new start.

She did not return and recently found out she is in a full blown now having sexually intimate moments with her partner on the same bed as my 6 years old daughter who told me she’s uncomfortable.

As a christian, am I totally free without guilt to remarry even though we are not officially divorced.

I’m not going to crawl and beg her.

I did all I could to fight and save the marriage. But it’s clearly not working out.

She finds joy in disrespecting me and talking to me anyhow, rudely and distastefully.

Mind you, I am financially okay and earn 8-figures per annum.

I still give her monthly up-keep, 120K per month, for my daughters, excluding fees, clothing… until 2019 January when I stopped for many reasons.”

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