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Relationship Problems? Got GAME? 4 Ways To LEVEL UP NOW 🎮✨

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

Do you have relationship problems?  It’s probably your partner’s fault and super-easy to just blame them.  But you probably also “lack game”.  Let’s find out.

Back when Kayode and Sharon were newlyweds, life was a whirlwind of love and excitement. They moved into a cozy apartment in Houston, full of dreams and plans for their future together. Every weekend, they would explore the city, discovering new restaurants, attending music festivals, and enjoying their shared love for adventure.

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But as time went on, the honeymoon phase began to fade.

Kayode got a promotion at work, which meant longer hours and more stress. Sharon, who had always been a social butterfly, started feeling lonely and neglected. Kayode started feeling unappreciated for his hard work. Their once-vibrant relationship turned into a series of routine arguments and silent dinners. The spark that brought them together seemed to be dimming.

Kayode felt overwhelmed and frustrated, often bringing his work stress home. Sharon, on the other hand, felt isolated. She missed the days when Kayode would surprise her with little notes or take her out on spontaneous dates. The emotional distance grew, and their arguments became more frequent and intense. Sharon felt like she was living with a stranger, and Kayode felt like he couldn’t do anything right.

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According to Sharon, Kayode used to be a loving, attentive husband, but the pressures of work and life made him distant and irritable.

Sharon was trying to escape loneliness and disconnection. They were both running from the reality that their relationship was in trouble. The more they tried to avoid the issues, the more they drifted apart.

One evening, after a particularly heated argument, Sharon confided in her best friend, who suggested enrolling in the Prestige Marriage Academy. Sharon scoffed at the idea, feeling like she had tried everything and was ready to file for divorce.

Sharon’s friend managed to share a Man of Prestige happy hour livestream with her. In that livestream, she heard me using the word GAME and was taken aback. She thought, “this is my real life and not a game.”

Today, we’re diving into something a little playful but incredibly profound – it’s called G.A.M.E. Now, before you start thinking we’re talking about playing games in your relationship, let me clarify.

I understand that you might view G.A.M.E. as not the most empowering way to approach a romantic relationship.

It may seem manipulative rather than fostering a genuine connection. I get it. But love is playful and not always serious. Lighten up!

Environments that are too serious can stifle and smother romance, especially in marriage. G.A.M.E. is a term used by young people to describe the ability to naturally attract and nurture romantic attraction. It means having the finesse to bag who they want. We are showing you that these influence and seduction skills can be learned. I encourage you to focus on the context here. This context involves giving value to your partner in a way that they can reciprocate your desires.

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The context is about whether “you’ve got game” or not, not about “playing games or tricks” as some dictionary meanings might suggest. It’s about being the best version of yourself and bringing that into your relationship. It’s about your ability to create a positive, loving environment where your partner can thrive, especially in crisis or conflict.

G.A.M.E. is about cultivating essential skills for a strong, enduring romantic relationship. It’s all about G for Gratitude, A for Ability, M for Mindfulness, and E for Empathy. So, grab a seat, maybe a cup of tea, and let’s chat about how you can level up your game!

G for Gratitude: The Power of Appreciation

First up, we have Gratitude. It’s the art of appreciating what you have, paying more attention to and recognizing the positive aspects of your life, especially your relationship. When you focus on the good, it enhances your happiness and strengthens your bond with your partner. What you focus on expands; it’s part of the secrets of attraction.

Why is Gratitude Important?

Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s lacking to what you already have. This simple shift can make a world of difference in your relationship. When you appreciate your partner and the things they do, it creates a positive feedback loop. They feel valued and are more likely to continue those behaviors that make you happy. If you are familiar with the parable of talents in the scriptures, it’s the same concept. It steals your focus away from being a victim to engaging your influence and seductive powers. Gratitude is also the first core pillar in our proprietary 3 core pillars, G.P.S. namely, God/Gratitude, purpose, and self. Obviously, we are not talking about extreme cases of abuse. Talk to your coach and they should be able to tell you if you are in an extreme case or not.

Here are 3 Ways to Practice Gratitude:

  1. Daily Reflection: Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what you appreciate in your life and relationship. Be intentional with this more so than your intentionality around setting boundaries and detecting narcissistic behaviors. Most people are busy playing the game of defense only. There is no game you can win by simply playing defense, particularly against your partner who should actually be on your team. Think about your partner’s qualities, shared experiences, and even the small gestures that made you smile. That’s how to play offense against the forces that are attacking relationships these days; not your partners as most people do, seemingly rightfully, since they are the ones that seem to offend you the most.
  2. Gratitude Journal: Write these reflections down. Keeping a gratitude journal helps you remember and cherish these moments.
  3. Express Appreciation: Don’t just keep it to yourself. Tell your partner what you appreciate about them. A simple “Thank you for making dinner, it was delicious” can go a long way. A simple “Thank you for being my rock, I appreciate you” goes a long way.

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A for Ability: Embrace Personal Growth

Next, we have Ability. This is all about continuous personal growth. Striving to become the best version of yourself without pressuring your partner to change in the name of “it takes two to tango”.  Tango is a dance right?  It’s okay if you start dancing and invite your partner into a dance too. Your growth not only enhances your self-confidence but also makes you a more attractive and fulfilling partner.

Why is Ability Important?

When you focus on your personal development, you bring more to the table in your relationship. You become more confident, more interesting, and more engaged. Confidence is sexy to all genders. This, in turn, attracts a more compatible partner and strengthens the connection you already have.

Here Are 3 Ways to Enhance Your Ability:

  1. Identify Areas for Improvement: Take a good look at yourself; the mirror. What skills, habits, or aspects of personal well-being could use some work?
  2. Set Goals: Once you’ve identified areas for improvement, set realistic and achievable goals. It could be anything from learning a new hobby to improving communication skills.
  3. Learn from Your Partner: Your partner is a great source of inspiration and knowledge. Be open to learning from their experiences and perspectives. That doesn’t mean agreement.

This is easier said than done. If you are in the middle of a crisis or conflict, it will be difficult for you to level up your game. Talk to your coach. Running away from a relationship is often not helpful as your problem follows you everywhere like the shadow that it is.

If you don’t have a coach, click here to contact us right after downloading our books for free. The books are “Get My Marriage Back” and “#1 Red Flag.”

M for Mindfulness: Be Present and Playful

Moving on to Mindfulness. This is about being fully present in the moment, fostering a deep connection with your partner. It’s about appreciating shared experiences and deepening intimacy.

Why is Mindfulness Important?

Mindfulness helps you to truly connect with your partner. It allows you to appreciate the little moments that make up your relationship. So it’s very much congruent with Gratitude. Being mindful means you’re more likely to respond rather than react, especially during conflicts. Think about it. When it comes to engaging your power, you have to be mindful and intentional. When it comes to being a victim, sure others can victimize you, but you just need to feel like a victim to be one. Which would you rather be when you have an option?

Here Are 3 Ways to Practice Mindfulness:

  1. Mindfulness Exercises: Engage in practices like meditation, deep breathing, and even prayer. I am not talking about typical Nigerian “kill the witches” ways of prayer. That’s being a perpetual victim. I pray you won’t have to yield to that. I am talking about staying grounded and present.
  2. Active Listening: When your partner is talking, really listen to understand. When you can, put away distractions like phones and focus on what they’re saying.
  3. Be Present: During your time together, be fully present. Enjoy your partner’s company by showing interest in their expressions without the constant interruptions of daily life.

E for Empathy: Understand and Share Feelings

Last but certainly not least, we have Empathy. This is the ability to understand and share your partner’s feelings. It’s about building trust and creating a safe space for authentic expression from your partner.

Why is Empathy Important? Empathy builds a strong emotional bond between partners. It fosters trust and makes your partner feel understood and valued. This is crucial for any healthy relationship.

Here Are 3 Ways to Cultivate Empathy:

  1. Active Listening Again: Should you be reading minds? No. Just pay attention to your partner’s words and beyond; their emotions. Try to understand their perspective.
  2. Validate Emotions: Acknowledge your partner’s feelings without judgment. Let them know their emotions are valid.
  3. Nonverbal Cues: Pay attention to body language and other nonverbal signals. These can provide deeper insight into your partner’s feelings.

So, there you have it – G.A.M.E. in a nutshell. By focusing on Gratitude, Ability, Mindfulness, and Empathy, you can establish a strong foundation for a lasting romantic relationship. Remember, a strong relationship requires effort from your partner as well, but leveling up on your own G.A.M.E. can positively influence the dynamic and inspire your partner to reciprocate in ways that you desire.

So, take these principles to heart and start cultivating your G.A.M.E. today. Your relationship will thank you for it! And remember, I’m always here to help you along the way. If you need more tips or personalized advice, don’t hesitate to reach out by clicking here

Over there, you can also download our two books for free: “Get My Marriage Back” and “#1 Red Flag.”

Keep playing the game of love with gratitude, ability, mindfulness, and empathy. You’ve got this!

Frequently Asked Question

How can I strengthen my marriage?

Strengthen your marriage by practicing gratitude, continuous personal growth, mindfulness, and empathy through the principles of G.A.M.E.

How can I improve the quality of my marriage?

Improve your marriage by focusing on appreciation, personal development, being present, and understanding your partner’s emotions.

How do you rebuild a failing marriage?

Rebuild a failing marriage by embracing gratitude, enhancing personal abilities, practicing mindfulness, and cultivating empathy, as outlined in G.A.M.E.

What are the tips to solve relationship problems?

Practice gratitude, focus on personal growth, be mindful and present, and cultivate empathy.

What is the hardest time in a relationship?

The hardest time in a relationship is often when the honeymoon phase fades, and partners feel overwhelmed and neglected.

How to deal with relationship issues?

Address relationship issues by focusing on your own growth, practicing mindfulness, and showing empathy toward your partner.

How to fix a failing relationship?

Fix a failing relationship by enrolling in resources like the Prestige Marriage Academy to learn and apply the principles of G.A.M.E. (Gratitude, Ability, Mindfulness, and Empathy).

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SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE 🚨 5 Steps INSTANT Cure to Silent Treatment, Malice-Keeping & Stonewalling

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

Before we dive into today’s topic, I want to share a powerful testimonial from one of our viewers, Toun82, who perfectly captures the essence of what we’ll be discussing today:

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Toun82 says,

“The pursuit of fairness is the beginning of failure in a relationship’ – so profound! This is very true. Someone I was previously in a relationship with was the typical ‘nice guy’. There is a saying about nice guys seeing women as slot machines. They put in some goodness and automatically expect a positive outcome all the time. When we had arguments he would always say how it wasn’t fair and ‘after all I’ve done for you’. He would proceed to list all the things he did for me. He was seriously keeping tabs!! He also did the silent treatment and admittedly, I did too, because I realized he was always coming in with a combative attitude when it came to resolving issues. He wanted to be right above actually listening and trying to find a resolution. So, I would shut down as well. But whenever I did the silent treatment in return, he would bring it up and the actual reason we got into the issue would be lost and the focus would be on me not talking to him (deflection). It was such a vicious cycle 😅”

Thank you, Toun82, for sharing your experience. It highlights the destructive nature of keeping score in a relationship and how it leads to a cycle of silence and conflict. Now, let’s dive into our topic for today: the silent treatment, also known as stonewalling or keeping malice.

First, let’s clarify: we’re not talking about temporary shutdowns or withdrawals that happen within 24 hours to de-escalate arguments. In this video coaching session, we’re focusing on stonewalling that extends beyond 24 hours and occurs repeatedly.

Trigger warning for the victim-shaming detectives: If you are a victim of silent treatment for 24 hours or longer multiple times over the course of your relationship, you have either participated in and/or enabled the behavior. You might have felt like you had no other choice because you are dealing with a coconut head (egotistical maniac). Not so easy; that’s your partner.

The victim or perpetrator of these manipulative behaviors are just as affected; they both suffer. If children are involved, they, unfortunately, suffer too. So, this is not really the time to engage in blaming and shaming your partner. That’s what most people do, and it will directly affect and condemn you just as much. It doesn’t help.

We’ll break down five steps to save your marriage from the harmful effects of silence and malice, and along the way, we’ll share some real-life stories to illustrate these points. So, let’s get started!

Step 1: Assess The Part and the Role You Played

When Sarah and Tom were first married, they communicated well. But over the years, things changed. Sarah noticed that whenever there was a disagreement, Tom would shut down and give her the silent treatment. She felt like she was walking on eggshells, trying to avoid triggering his silence.

Then Sarah stumbled upon a simple concept that emphasized understanding each other’s communication styles. It was difficult to set her own feelings aside, but she learned to assess her role in their conflicts. Sarah realized that her approach often made Tom feel attacked, causing him to shut down. She managed to get him involved, and they worked on healthier communication strategies, temporarily saving their marriage from the brink of divorce.

However, Tom’s habit of using the silent treatment had a much greater impact than the isolated issues they discussed. Eventually, it consumed their relationship and led to the end of their marriage.

While Sarah made significant strides by assessing her role and trying to change her approach, there were deeper issues that needed to be addressed. To truly save their marriage, Sarah also needed to understand the underlying reasons for Tom’s tendency to shut down and give the silent treatment. This could involve exploring past traumas, communication styles, and emotional triggers with the help of a professional. But now, we are almost asking Sarah to become Tom’s therapist. It’s not sustainable. But this is, after all, only the first step.

They would both need to establish a safe space where they could express their feelings without fear of retribution. Sarah needed to ensure that Tom felt heard and understood. This is easier said than done as she has been on the receiving end of emotional abuse. Also, Tom needed to work on articulating his emotions rather than resorting to silence.

By not addressing these deeper issues and not seeking professional help sooner to get through all the steps, they missed the opportunity to build a stronger foundation for their marriage.

It’s easy to point fingers when things go wrong in a relationship. But the first step to resolving conflict is self-reflection. Ask yourself, “What role did I play in this situation?” This isn’t about blaming yourself but understanding how your actions might have contributed to the problem.

Step 2: Do Not Create Excuses for Your Partner

Back in college, Lisa dated someone who always justified his silence by saying he needed time to think. Whenever there was an issue, he would disappear for days, leaving Lisa anxious and confused. After listening to random advice, she would make excuses for him, thinking he just needed space.

One day, Lisa discovered one of our videos discussing emotional manipulation and realized that his silent treatment was a form of control. Instead of making excuses, Lisa confronted the issue head-on in her next relationship. A relationship was clearly destroyed due to the lack of effective communication, and we will never know whose loss it was.

It’s normal to want to protect your partner if you love them, but making excuses for their behavior can prevent both of you from addressing the root cause of the problem. Excusing silent treatment can perpetuate the cycle of miscommunication and unresolved conflict.

When Sophie and her partner, Alex, moved in together, Alex would often retreat into silence after arguments. Sophie, wanting to keep the peace, would excuse his behavior, thinking he just needed space. This went on until Sophie realized that by making excuses, she was enabling Alex’s avoidance.

As a second step, it’s important for a victim of the silent treatment to acknowledge their feelings and not make excuses for their partner’s behavior. That doesn’t make the partner automatically guilty.

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Step 3: Let the Silent Treatment and Malice-Keeping Cycle Run

When James was a kid, he witnessed his parents’ toxic cycle of silent treatments that would last for weeks. As an adult, James found himself repeating this pattern in his own marriage. Whenever he was upset, he would shut down, hoping his wife would realize she was wrong and apologize.

During a rough patch, another three-week silent treatment cycle began. James’ wife suggested they see a marriage coach, which he rejected for the fifth time. Sometimes his rejections were outright, while other times they both got lost in the midst of his stonewalling. She chose to engage the help of a coach personally. The coach advised her to let the silent treatment cycle run its course while working on herself. It was difficult, but it was worth it.

By not forcing an immediate resolution and focusing on self-improvement, James’ wife started a process that eventually broke the cycle. They learned to address conflicts more constructively, rebuilding their relationship from the ground up. Don’t let anyone convince you with “once a narcissist, always a narcissist.” We all have a little narcissism in us.

Completing the cycle means allowing the stonewaller to calm down and become open to easing back into small talks. Often, allowing the silent treatment to complete a cycle is a first step. The other person, usually uncomfortable with malice-keeping, might have “pre-ejaculated” an insincere apology, which continues to enable the behavior. Letting the cycle complete injects a level of newness into the relationship. However, this is difficult without Step 4. Without Step 4, it becomes manipulation and creates more frustration in the relationship.

Sometimes, trying to force a resolution can backfire. It’s important to allow the cycle of silence to run its course. This doesn’t mean accepting the silent treatment because that will never work. It’s not sustainable to try to live with it.

If you don’t have a coach yet to help and support you through these 5 crucial steps, visit www.PrestigeMarriageAcademy.com where you can also download two free books: “Get My Marriage Back” and “#1 Red Flag.”

After an intense argument, Lisa and John would go days without speaking because Lisa would shut down. Usually, John would crawl back and apologize, feeling trapped in a never-ending cycle. A coach suggested letting the cycle run its course. Initially, John wondered, “For how long?” It created additional anxiety for him. But that’s where Step 4 comes in.

Step 4: Simultaneously Engage in Self-Improvement

Emma had always been the peacemaker in her family, avoiding conflicts at all costs. When her husband started giving her the silent treatment, Emma felt lost and didn’t know how to handle the situation without causing more tension.

Emma began reading self-help books and attending workshops on personal growth and communication. As she grew more confident and self-aware, she started addressing issues directly but calmly. Her husband noticed the change and began to open up more. Their marriage improved significantly as they both worked on themselves and their communication.

While it’s tempting to focus solely on fixing the relationship or your partner, working on yourself can have a profound impact. Self-improvement can help you manage your emotions better when triggered, communicate more effectively, and set a positive example for your partner.

Michael always felt helpless during his wife’s silent treatment episodes. It seemed like no matter what he did, nothing improved their communication. After watching one of our videos on seduction, Michael decided to change his approach. Instead of reacting to his wife’s silence with frustration, he started showing appreciation for the little things she did. Slowly, she began to respond positively, and they rebuilt their relationship on a stronger foundation.

When you work on yourself, you join the top 5% who are actively making things happen. Most people are passive, feeling like victims of circumstance. By engaging your power to seduce and influence, you can inspire the change you desire.

Step 5: Seduce Your Partner into Building a Better Foundation

After a rough patch, Emma decided to surprise her husband, Dave, with a weekend getaway. She also started leaving little notes of appreciation around the house. These small gestures made Dave feel valued and loved, encouraging him to reciprocate. They began to rebuild their foundation, focusing on the positive aspects of their relationship.

Rekindling the romance and building a better foundation takes effort and creativity. Show your partner that you’re committed to improving yourself and creating opportunities for connection.

Remember, dealing with silent treatment and malice-keeping isn’t about winning or losing; it’s about understanding, growing, and finding healthier ways to communicate.

Frequently Asked Questions

What does silent treatment do to a woman?

The silent treatment can make a woman feel ignored, undervalued, and emotionally distressed, damaging the relationship over time.

How do you respond to silent treatment?

Respond by calmly addressing the issue, self-reflecting on your role in the conflict, and focusing on personal growth and effective communication.

What type of person uses the silent treatment?

Individuals who use the silent treatment often struggle with emotional regulation and may use it as a control mechanism or a way to avoid conflict.

How to break the silence in a marriage?

Break the silence by assessing your role, not making excuses for your partner, allowing the cycle to run, engaging in self-improvement, and seducing your partner into rebuilding the relationship.

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5 Things to Know Before Marriage & Why It’s Never Too Late to Learn.

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

Are you curious about what to know before marriage? Well, good news is also that you can engage and master this information at any point during the marriage as well. Often times, you won’t be able to comprehend some of these stuff until you experience the related issue. And that’s okay.

So today, we’re diving into something super important: “5 Things to Know Before Marriage & Why It’s Never Too Late to Learn.” Whether you’re single, engaged, or already married, these insights can help you build or rebuild a strong foundation for your relationship. Let’s jump right in!

Thing #5 – Conflict is Inevitable

Let’s kick things off with a big one: conflict is inevitable. Now, when I first married Lola, I thought our disagreements were pretty mild. But, as it turned out, Lola saw things very differently. She resented any moment of conflict, which made it hard for us to resolve our issues. We ended up pushing our problems under the rug, which only made things worse.

Before we got married, we seemed to agree on everything. I was raised to see a disagreement as just that – a disagreement. But for Lola, arguments triggered a lot of fear and anxiety. It felt like we were speaking different languages.

Our premarital counseling didn’t really prepare us for this. It’s not that our counselor didn’t cover conflict resolution, but we just couldn’t grasp it without the real-life experience of conflict. What I’ve learned, and what I want to share with you, is that conflict resolution skills are crucial. You need to know how to handle disagreements constructively.

Thing #4 – Friendship is Non-negotiable

Next up is friendship. In recent times, I’ve seen a lot of people, especially women, dismissing the idea of being friends with their spouses. This often comes from past disappointments. Imagine falling in love with someone you considered your best friend, only to be betrayed by them. It’s natural to associate that betrayal with the idea of friendship.

Early in our marriage, Lola and I questioned everything that made us fall in love, including our friendship. I wondered if she was ever truly my friend, and I felt disrespected because we were so close. This confusion lasted for years until we realized we were sabotaging one of the best parts of our relationship.

Friendship in marriage is an opportunity, not a threat. If you feel like you’ve never had a natural friendship with your partner, it can be built. Leverage the positive attributes you have in common as romantic partners. Genuine liking – even if it’s not sexual – is a great foundation.

Since we started seeing our friendship as an opportunity, conflict resolution has become almost effortless. It’s been blissful.

Thing #3 – It’s Not How Long, It’s How Well

When we first discovered our prestige marriage system, people would often ask, “So you think you have all the answers?” I saw this as fear stemming from their own personal trauma. After about 9-10 years of marriage and discovering the secrets of the prestige marriage system, we learned to release our obsession with the past and our anxiety about the future.

The secret is simple: wake up every day determined to make it the best day ever in your marriage. Address issues openly and honestly as they arise, with respect to emotional intelligence. Focus on the quality of your marriage on a moment-to-moment basis. This approach not only builds a quality marriage but also increases the chances of having a long-term, happy relationship.

Thing #2 – In Marriage, You Need Game

There’s a common saying that goes, “There’s nothing worse than marrying the wrong person.” While it’s natural for people in terrible relationships to feel this way, it often comes down to a lack of knowledge and skills. This speaks to a level of arrogance and disrespect towards marriage as an institution.

Think about it – we don’t treat any other institution this way. We don’t jump into a job or a degree program without preparation and then blame fate when it doesn’t work out. Yet, many people do this with marriage. They wing it, and when it fails, they say things like “I married the wrong person.”

In reality, it’s often a lack of “game” – or skills – that’s the problem. There are principles that apply across the board in marriage, and it’s crucial to learn and apply them. Your “game” should focus on self-awareness, power dynamics, social skills, attraction, and emotional intelligence. Effective communication isn’t just about talking assertively; it’s about understanding and being understood.

When you approach marriage with intentionality and a willingness to acquire skills, you set yourself up for success. Throwing your hands up and leaving things to luck is a losing strategy.

Thing #1 – Sex is a Necessity

Lastly, let’s talk about sex. Growing up, neither my parents nor Lola’s parents gave us any kind of sex education. We had to figure out what’s healthy and what’s not on our own. On top of that, sex was heavily demonized in our religious communities.

While these teachings were meant to promote self-control, they backfired. Sex is a part of reality and human needs; avoiding it is counterproductive. It’s necessary to educate yourself about sex in marriage. Healthy sex life feeds your marriage just as much as a healthy relationship feeds your sex life.

A healthy sex life also impacts other areas of life. It fosters a strong connection at home, which in turn fuels an exciting life outside the marriage. You can almost always tell when someone is sexually fulfilled at home by how they carry themselves professionally.

As part of mastering the “game” inside marriage, one crucial aspect to understand is that you should never lead with sex, even when the primary issue at hand is sexlessness. This might sound counterintuitive, but let’s break it down.

Sex is an intimate and sensitive topic, and when it becomes a point of contention, approaching it directly and aggressively can create additional tension and discomfort. Leading with demands or complaints about sex can make your partner feel pressured, judged, or inadequate. This often leads to defensiveness and further withdrawal, exacerbating the problem instead of solving it.

Instead, focus on building a strong emotional connection and fostering open, non-judgmental communication. Start by addressing the underlying issues that might be affecting your intimacy. Are there unresolved conflicts, stressors, or emotional barriers? Often, a lack of sexual intimacy is a symptom of deeper issues within the relationship.

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Start with something as simple as: “What’s wrong babe? You know you can trust me right?”

Prioritize creating a safe and loving environment where your partner feels valued and understood. Show appreciation for them and engage in activities that strengthen your bond outside the bedroom. This could be anything from spending quality time together, engaging in shared hobbies, or simply being more affectionate in everyday interactions.

As you work on strengthening your emotional connection, with attraction sex should be feel almost effortless at that point.  Express your desires without placing blame or making demands. For example, you might say, “I miss the closeness we used to have, and I would love for us to find a way to reconnect in that way,” rather than “We never have sex anymore, and it’s a problem.”

This approach helps to build trust and openness, making it easier for your partner to engage in conversations about improving your sex life. When they feel safe and appreciated, they are more likely to be receptive to finding solutions together.

Remember, sex is an important part of marriage, but it thrives on a foundation of emotional intimacy, respect, and understanding. By leading with empathy and focusing on strengthening your overall relationship, you’ll create an environment where a fulfilling and mutually satisfying sex life can naturally flourish.

RECAP…

So there you have it – 5 essential things to know before marriage and why it’s never too late to learn. Conflict is inevitable, but with the right skills, you can handle it. Friendship is non-negotiable, and it’s an opportunity, not a threat. Focus on the quality of your marriage rather than the length. In marriage, you need game – the skills to navigate challenges effectively. And lastly, sex is a necessity for a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

If you are already in a marriage and you are going through any of this issues, it’s not too late.  I suggest that you avoid being confrontational and consider using the help of a coach to help you navigate and facilitate your desired outcome.  It’s worth it.

If you don’t already have a coach, go to www.prestigemarriageacademy.com to secure one immediately. 

Frequently Asked Questions

What a woman should know before marriage?

A woman should know that conflict is inevitable and developing strong conflict resolution skills is essential for a healthy marriage.

What is the first step before getting married?

The first step before getting married is to build a solid foundation of friendship and emotional connection with your partner.

What should you avoid before marriage?

Before marriage, avoid making assumptions about your compatibility and instead focus on open communication and understanding each other’s needs and expectations.

What are the questions needed to ask before marriage?

Before marriage, ask questions about each other’s values, goals, communication styles, conflict resolution approaches, and expectations for intimacy and partnership.

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5 Physical Signs Your Girlfriend Just Slept With Someone Else

📌 Author's Note from Lola & Ola:
If you are reading this right now, we know the heartbreak of watching the desire, intimacy, and warmth fade out of your relationship. We survived our own marriage completely dying at the 9-year mark and rebuilt a 20+ year roadmap from it. Before you dive into the details below, grab our complete book Get My Marriage Back for FREE right now so you have an immediate, step-by-step action plan to turn things around.

Physical signs that your girlfriend just slept with someone else can be difficult to detect.

However, if you notice any changes in her behavior or physical appearance, it may be an indication that something is amiss. 

For example, if she suddenly starts wearing more revealing clothing, or if she seems distant or uninterested in spending time with you, it could be a sign that she has been with someone else.

Additionally, if she has a sudden change in her hygiene habits, such as showering more often or using a new perfume, this could be a sign that she has been with someone else. 

Finally, If you notice any of these physical signs, it is important to talk to your girlfriend to determine what is going on.

Before we dive into these signs, I think it’s more interesting that your trust in this relationship is questionable. should probably be the focus of this conversation.

I don’t have 10 signs your girlfriend just slept with someone else but this 5 might help you re-calibrate. Let’s countdown.

Sign Number 5 – Revealing Clothing and Outfits

When a girlfriend starts wearing more revealing clothing and outfits, it can be a sign that she is sleeping with someone else. 

This can be a difficult situation to navigate, as it can be a sign that she is no longer interested in the relationship in addition to seeking validation externally. 

It can be a sign that she is looking for attention, or that she has found someone else who she is more interested in. 

In either case, it’s important to acquire wisdom from wise counsel before attempting to talk to her about it.  

Be careful with the idea of addressing the issue head-on. 

It’s also important to understand that it may not be a sign of infidelity, but simply a change in her style. 

Either way, it’s important to figure out what is going on after making sure this is not your personal insecurities playing a trick on you.

Sign Number 4 – Distant and Uninterested In Quality Time

When your girlfriend seems distant and uninterested in quality time with you, it can be a sign of something more serious than just a lack of interest in you. 

It could be a sign that she is spending time with someone else. 

This can be especially concerning as she is obviously investing her time and energy into, maybe not someone else, but definitely something else. 

If you are experiencing this, it is important to have an honest but emotionally-intelligent-driven conversation with her to find out what is going on and to make sure that both parties are on the same page.

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Sign Number 3 – Change in Her Hygiene Habits

Again, if after checking yourself for insecurity you’ve noticed your girlfriend changing her hygiene habits, including anything from showering more often, wearing different types of clothing, or using different perfumes, aligning with a sense of emotional disconnection, you need to pay attention. 

It can also include changes in her grooming habits, such as wearing her hair differently, wearing more makeup, or changing her nail polish. 

These changes can be subtle, but if you notice them, it may be a sign that your girlfriend is seeing someone else. 

It is important to acquire necessary emotional intelligence and then talk to your girlfriend about any changes you have noticed.  More importantly, it could be an indication that something is going on in her life that she is not sharing with you.

Sign Number 2 – Physical Signs Your Girlfriend Just Slept with Someone Else – Obvious Lies

When a girlfriend tells lies, it can be a sign of many things, including sleeping with someone else. 

It is important to take note of any changes in behavior that may indicate a partner is not being honest. 

This could include lying about their whereabouts, avoiding questions, or being secretive about their activities. 

If a partner is not being truthful, it is important to acquire the necessary emotional intelligence and then talk to them about it in a respectful and non-judgmental way to find out what is really going on. 

When a partner is not willing to be open and honest, it may be a sign that they are not being faithful.  Again, it can also be your insecurities.  

physical signs your girlfriend just slept with someone else

Sign Number 1 – Over-Protection of Phone and Laptop

Relationships are drowning daily in the new technology.  When a girlfriend is overly protective of her phone and laptop, it can be a sign of something more serious. 

It could be a sign that she is sleeping with someone else, as she may be trying to hide her activities from her partner. 

She may be deleting messages, refusing to share her passwords, or even keeping her phone and laptop out of reach. 

If you’ve especially noticed this behavior is out of the ordinary, it may be a sign that something is going on. 

And it is important to talk to your partner from a place of emotional understanding and try to understand why they are being so secretive. 

If they are not willing to talk, it may be a sign of serious damage to your relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you know if your girlfriend slept with another guy?

If you suspect that your girlfriend has been unfaithful, it can be difficult to know for sure.

Some signs that she may have slept with another guy include changes in her behavior, such as suddenly becoming distant or avoiding spending time with you.

She may also start to dress differently or change her appearance, or she may start to talk more about a new person in her life.

If you notice any of these signs, it is important to talk to your girlfriend about your concerns and ask her directly if she has been unfaithful.

If she is honest and open with you, it can help to build trust and strengthen your relationship.

Can you physically tell if your girlfriend is cheating?

It can be difficult to tell if your girlfriend is cheating on you.

While there may be physical signs that could indicate that something is off, such as your partner being more distant or spending more time away from home, it is not always easy to tell if this is due to cheating.

It is important to remember that physical signs can be misleading, and it is best to talk to your partner directly if you suspect something is wrong.

If your partner is not willing to talk about it, then it may be time to consider other options, such as seeking counseling or talking to a trusted friend.

Ultimately, it is important to trust your instincts and take action if something does not feel right.

How do you tell if your girlfriend is into someone else?

If you suspect that your girlfriend is into someone else, there are a few signs to look out for. Firstly, pay attention to her body language when she talks to you.

If she is avoiding eye contact, or her body language is closed off, it could be a sign that she is not as invested in the relationship as she once was.

Secondly, notice if she is spending more time away from you. If she is suddenly going out more often, or is more distant, it could be a sign that she is interested in someone else.

Additionally, pay attention to how she talks about other people.

If she is mentioning someone in particular more often than usual, or if she is more enthusiastic when talking about them, it could be a sign that she is interested in them.

Finally, if you feel like something has changed in your relationship, it is important to talk to your girlfriend about it. Ask her if something is wrong, and be prepared to listen to her answer.

How can you tell if a girl has slept around?

It can be difficult to tell if a girl has slept around, as there is no clear-cut answer to this question.

However, there are a few signs that may indicate that a girl has had multiple sexual partners.

For example, if she is open about her sexual history, or if she talks about her experiences with multiple partners, it could be a sign that she has been sexually active with multiple people.

Additionally, if she is comfortable discussing sexual topics or if she has a reputation for being promiscuous, it may be an indication that she has been intimate with more than one person.

Ultimately, it is important to remember that there is no definitive way to tell if a girl has slept around, and it is best to approach the situation with respect and caution.

Can a man tell if you slept with someone else?

It can be difficult for a man to tell if a woman has slept with someone else.

While there may be physical signs that can indicate whether or not a woman has been intimate with someone else, such as changes in her body or the scent of another man on her body, these signs are not always reliable.

Additionally, even if a man suspects that his partner has been intimate with someone else, it can be difficult to prove without direct evidence.

Ultimately, the only way a man can definitively know if a woman has slept with someone else is if she tells him.

How do you tell if your girlfriend is lying about cheating on you?

Figuring out if your girlfriend is lying about cheating on you can be a difficult and emotionally draining process.

It is important to take the time to observe her behavior and look for any inconsistencies in her stories.

Pay attention to any changes in her attitude or behavior, as well as changes in her communication habits.

If she suddenly starts to become distant or secretive, or if she stops talking to you about her day-to-day activities, these could be signs that she is lying.

Additionally, if she starts to become defensive or evasive when you ask her about her whereabouts, this could be a sign that she is hiding something.

If you are still unsure, it may be helpful to talk to her about your concerns and ask her to explain her behavior.

Ultimately, it is important to trust your instincts and to take the time to investigate further if something does not seem right.

How do you know if your girlfriend is sneaky?

It can be difficult to tell if your girlfriend is being sneaky.

Some signs that may indicate she is being sneaky include avoiding eye contact when asked direct questions, being evasive when asked about her whereabouts, or suddenly changing the subject when asked about something she may not want to talk about.

Additionally, if your girlfriend is suddenly secretive about her phone or computer activities, or if she has been lying or withholding information from you, these could also be signs that she is being sneaky.

If you are concerned about your girlfriend’s behavior, it is important to talk to her about it and to trust your instincts.

How do you tell if she’s seeing another guy?

Figuring out if a girl is seeing another guy can be tricky.

If you are close to her, you may be able to tell if she is acting differently or seems distant.

Pay attention to how she talks to you and how often she is available to spend time with you.

If she is suddenly busy or unavailable more often than usual, it could be a sign that she is seeing someone else.

You could also ask her directly, but be prepared for an honest answer. If you feel like something is off, trust your gut and talk to her about it.

How can you tell if two people are sleeping together?

Figuring out if two people are sleeping together can be tricky, as it is not always easy to tell from outward appearances.

However, there are some signs that can indicate that two people are sleeping together.

One of the most obvious signs is if the two people are often seen together in public, or if they are seen engaging in physical contact such as holding hands or kissing.

Another sign is if the two people are seen leaving a location together late at night, or if they are seen spending a lot of time in each other’s homes.

If the two people are seen in bed together, then it is a sure sign that they are sleeping together.

However, it is important to remember that even if two people are seen engaging in these activities, it does not necessarily mean that they are sleeping together.

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Rekindling Love: 17 Essential Tips When Feeling Like Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore

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Are you feeling sad because you think your husband doesn’t love you anymore?

It can be really tough when the love in a relationship seems to fade away. In this guide, we’ll start with 17 tips on how to make your relationship feel strong and loving again, even if it seems like the love has gone away. Let’s explore how you can take steps to bring back the love and understanding in your marriage.

It’s not uncommon to feel like the love in your relationship is fading, or maybe it’s even going away completely. But don’t worry, because we’re here to discuss how to bring back that feeling of love when your husband seems to be having a hard time.

Tip #1 – Figuring Out Your Feelings

First, let’s figure out if your husband is really falling out of love or if things are just a little rough right now. It’s like trying to tell if it’s just a rainy day or a big storm – they’re different, and you deal with them in different ways. So pop quiz! Let’s answer some questions to see what’s going on. Understanding this is the first step to finding a solution.

Tip #2 – Feelings Come and Go

Feelings are like clouds that move across the sky – they come and go. Sometimes, they can make us feel confused and upset, especially when it comes to love. If your husband seems unsure about his feelings, think about recent things that might have made him feel this way. Remember, feelings can change, but a strong foundation can survive any tough times. Sometimes, love just needs a little time to come back.

Tip # 3 – Pain Doesn’t Last Forever

Pain is like a rainstorm – it comes down hard, but eventually, it stops, and things get better. Your hurt and pain, just like the rain, won’t last forever. It’s okay to feel these things, but they won’t define you. Remember, they’ll go away, and you can use that knowledge to focus on finding what made your husband fall in love with you in the first place.

Tip #4 – Handling Emotional Abandonment

Feeling emotionally left out can feel like being in rough waters. It’s important to know that emotions can sometimes be different from what’s really happening. Feeling abandoned might feel true, but it’s important to learn about your emotions. Learning about your feelings can help you navigate these tough times better.

Tip #5 – Feeling Lost, but There’s Hope

Feeling lost and unsure is like being stuck in a maze without a map. When your husband seems to be distant in the relationship, it’s time to think about things. Think about whether he’s still a good husband. If he is, that’s a sign that there’s something worth holding on to. Find what he values in your relationship and build on that. Even when things are confusing, that strong foundation can help you.

Tip #6 – Talk in a Special Way

When things are tough, try to have open and loving conversations. Your idea of communication might have been failing you and making you come off as nagging. Reassess your seduction skills. Share your concerns with your husband in a loving way without blaming him. Create a safe space where both of you can eventually talk about your thoughts and desires. This can help uncover hidden worries and help you find solutions together.

Tip #7 – Remember Fun Times Together

Sometimes, in our busy lives, we forget the things we used to enjoy doing together. Remember the things you both liked doing, whether it’s a hobby, a sport, or anything else. Doing things you both enjoy can bring back good memories and make you feel close again.  Here is the caveat.  Initiate.

Tip #8 – Take Care of Yourself

Taking care of yourself is very important. Make time for things that make you happy and help you grow as a person. Take care of your emotions, body, and mind. When you feel good about yourself, it can help your relationship too.  You can’t afford to be pouring from an empty cup.

Tip #9 – Small Acts of Love

Doing little nice things for him can make a big difference. Leave a sweet note, plan a surprise, or do something thoughtful for your husband. These actions show your love and remind your husband of the good times you’ve shared.  This, however, will not work if it remotely comes off as manipulative.  If there is too much damage from the crisis you are going through, don’t use this tip.

Tip #10 – Ask for Help

Sometimes, it’s okay to ask for help from someone outside of your relationship; particularly professionals like counselors, coaches or a therapist. If things aren’t getting better, consider talking to a professional. They can give you advice and tools to help your relationship get back on track.

Tip #11 – Practice Patience and Understanding

Be patient with the process of rebuilding love and understanding in your relationship. Understand that healing and rekindling love takes time and sustained effort. Rushing or pressuring your husband might not yield the desired results, so give it the time it needs to evolve positively.

Tip #12 – Show Appreciation and Gratitude

Expressing appreciation and gratitude for the positive aspects of your husband and your relationship can go a long way. Acknowledge him for the things he does well and the qualities you love about him in a way that feels natural for your context. Gratitude fosters a positive atmosphere and strengthens the connection between you both.

Tip #13 – Stay Open to Change and Growth

Be open to changing and adapting within your relationship. People evolve, and so do relationships. Embrace growth and change, start as an individual and watch it foster into your reality as a couple. Sometimes, allowing for shifts and adjustments can rekindle the love and excitement you once had.

Tip #14 – Focus on Solutions

When facing challenges, focus on finding solutions rather than placing blame and fault. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, initiate collaboration with your husband to identify constructive ways to improve your relationship. Working together towards resolutions can bring you closer and rebuild trust but initiating it is a sign that you value the fact that this is romance and that you are able to seduce him again. It’s empowering.

Tip #15 – Reignite the Spark: Seduce and Connect

Rekindle the flame of passion by focusing on seduction and connection. Explore new ways to connect intimately with your husband, both emotionally and physically. Communicate your desires openly and create a seductive atmosphere to reignite the passion and closeness you once had.

Tip #16 – Cultivate Positive Energy

Surround yourselves with positivity and create a happy environment. Avoid unnecessary negativity and seek out activities, people, and experiences that bring joy and happiness to your lives. A positive atmosphere can significantly impact your relationship and uplift both of you.  Consider the kind of content you are consuming online as part of the atmosphere.

Tip #17 – Invest in Mutual Interests and Goals

Identify common interests and goals that you both share and work towards achieving them again. Whether it’s a shared hobby, a joint project, or a common dream, investing time and effort into something you both care about can reignite the spark and reinforce your bond.

Are you still feeling that emotional turmoil?  Are you still worried that your husband may no longer harbor the same love for you? Relationship struggles can be overwhelming, especially when you sense a fading connection. Remember, love is an evolving journey, and with patience, communication, and dedication, you can navigate this phase and rediscover the love that once bloomed between you and your husband.

Frequently Asked Questions

What to do when my husband doesn’t love me anymore?

Taking the lead in rekindling love means initiating open communication, understanding his perspective, and putting in the effort to rebuild the connection.

What are signs your husband doesn’t love you anymore?

Signs may include emotional distance, lack of affection, decreased communication, and disinterest in spending time together. Take the lead in addressing these issues openly.

What is emotional abandonment in marriage?

Emotional abandonment refers to feeling deserted or emotionally disconnected from your partner, even when physically present. It’s a perception of being left alone emotionally within the relationship.

Can a marriage survive if there is no love?

Marriages can survive challenging times, including periods where love might not feel as prominent. Taking the initiative to rekindle the flame and seeking professional guidance can reignite the love that once bonded you.

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