Partners can fall in and out of love during the lifetime of their love affair;
It’s just the reality of life.
There is a big difference between loving a person and being in love with the same person.
Loving a person is a choice born out of a commitment
…while being in-love is a feeling that’s born out of feeling safe and secure enough to be vulnerable.
In essence, your wife can love you and still fall in and out of love with you momentarily throughout the course of your love affair or marriage.
However, the 2 phenomenons, loving and in-love, are often used interchangeably and almost synonymously; there is overlap.
The context of this lesson and the 15 signs that your wife doesn’t love you are more within the context of the in-love experience.
1, She is Distracted Easily Especially with the Phone
Remember those moments when you used to have long conversations for no reasons.
Now, all you’ve got is half or less of that attention because she’s distracted by all the environmental factors around.
She is distracted enough for you to notice
…and the number one factor is basically her phone or smart devices competing with you for attention.
Find out how you have been rewarding the behavior and all you have to do is stop rewarding it.
It could be something as simple as sitting there waiting for her until she notices while you whine and bitch about it.
Remove yourself and find something fun and faithful to do for yourself until she notices it. It’s a form of giving to her. You are giving space for her to miss you.
2, She is UnExcited to See/Hang Out With You
In the beginning, she couldn’t wait to ride out in the city with you but somethings have changed;
That’s boring now.
That doesn’t mean she has fallen out of love with you yet; it means she’s lost interest in that activity.
But I lied.
Falling out of love is a process just as much as falling in love is after you’ve lost the initial passion.
Losing the initial passion is in fact inevitable simply because we are humans and we value the feeling of newness and its accompanying excitement.
As I have just said, it’s really the feeling and not necessarily newness all in itself.
When you understand that, it makes it significantly easy to attract your wife to fall back in love with you.
If your wife no longer appreciates being around you, you are probably rewarding that behavior with making her feel that the opportunity to hangout is readily available.
Your time together is predictable and boring; switch things up in a positive way to create attraction.
3, She Claims That She’s Lost Herself
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When a woman gets into this space, being in love with you is the last thing on her mind.
In fact, there is a good chance she is associating the idea of loving you with a part of herself she has just discovered and doesn’t like.
4, She Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings
There is a lot more to this particular sign being a sign.
Honestly, I would want to know why you’ve got so much time to detect this sign.
But that’s probably a topic for another day.
If she’s coming off as your feelings don’t matter, she is not in love with you at this moment.
You can mitigate against this by leaning in towards her and attempting to listen to her feelings as your personal control mechanism for your relationship with and love for her.
… more like an influence mechanism.
If you do that long enough, she will center back to the girl who used to care about your feelings
…but it requires generosity of patience on your part as a seed.
5, No More Expressions of any Type from Her
One of the last behaviors you ever want from your wife is for her to stop expressing herself.
The level at which a woman expresses herself varies greatly depending on her personality, temperament and other factors.
If she ever gets into a space where she doesn’t feel safe to express her feelings at all, that’s almost equivalent to falling completely out of love with you.
Feeling safe and secure with you is almost equivalent to a woman being in love with you.. She has to be able to express herself freely.
6, She Seems UnHappy Quite Often
You know your wife more than I do.
She may not be able to come out and tell you straight to your face that she’s unhappy.
Neither should you wait for her to do so because it might be too late.
If she is not as excited about life and your relationship anymore, she is very likely falling out of love just as much.
But that’s not necessarily your fault.
In fact, that’s not your job and you have probably been rewarding her for coming off as unhappy.
All you have to do is date her and create another… just another opportunity for sex to happen (again.)
7, She Rolls Her Eyes When it’s Time to Talk
That’s a classic sign, not just of falling out of love with you, but also that she has lost hope that she can ever revive love for you again.
Once a woman rolls eye at every glance of a conversation about your relationship, it means you have a massive up-hill battle in order to attract her back into loving you again.
You still need to communicate but this time around, you need to learn and practice effective communication.
It will involve lots of patience because she is obviously shut down.
8, She Disregards Your Opinion & Advice
When you were dating this lady, your words were the gospel. She trusted every advice you gave her.
In fact, she thought there would never be a guy as smart as you were.
But recently, some events have made her, not only say she doesn’t care for your opinions, but showcase exactly that in her actions.
She dismisses them right in your face without thinking about it at all and it hurts because you can tell that she doesn’t love you anymore.
9, She is Reluctant about Sex & Intimacy
It would be easy to tell you that she is no longer in love with you if she had completely shut down access to sex.
But that’s usually not the case.
The way it works is that your wife is probably engaged in an internal battle between the commitments she made and how she feels.
That means sometimes (not all the time) she would give excuses to avoid sex, intimacy and affection with you.
She may not even realize that she is doing this.
10, She Comes off as a Roommate
Your worst nightmare right?
If she was in love with you, she would be all over you leaking you from head to toe.
But she has been spending a lot of time in alternative rooms of your house instead of with you.
So in actuality, it can be worse than being a roommate. Don’t focus too much energy on this because it’s a symptom.
You need a root cause analysis and the focus on fixing the cause. She is not a roommate; she is only acting like one.
11, Every Expression Feels Like Nagging
You can feel it and you know it
…and recognize the negative vibes in that in the past few weeks whenever she is expressing her emotions to you.
It almost feels like she’s always blaming you for everything but you can’t put your hands on what the issue is.
She has fallen out of love.
12, She’s Highly Sarcastic & Condescending
“So you won’t take the garbage out tonight again right?”
The tone of that question reveals it as a direct attack against your character; maybe that’s a stretch but…
Compare that to…
“Babe, do you mind getting that garbage out tonight?”
Which of these 2 scenarios showcases a woman who is in love with you?
13, Indifferent and/or Not Jealous
If your woman is still jealous, she is still somewhat in love with you at least. But you don’t want her to be numb to your behaviors.
“I don’t care.”
Yes she does but it’s a cry out for you to see that she does care; you have not been paying attention.
What you really don’t want is her getting into a head space where she doesn’t care and also doesn’t care enough to share that she doesn’t care.
If that happens, she’s lost respect and effectively, love for you… at least now.
14, She Glows More When Around Strangers
Not only does she seem unhappy; she shows you by glowing extra ordinarily when around complete strangers… not necessarily intentionally.
If that happens one time… no big deal but when it happens consistently, she has fallen out of love but there is hope.
15, No Gists After Getting Off the Phone
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She finishes speaking to a friend on the phone right in front of you, hung up and didn’t say a word about who it was.
Naturally, we share…
“That was Amy; she says hello.”
If she stops sharing, she’s essentially saying you can go to hell.
It is very important to keep in mind that it works against your desires to take these 15 signs too seriously and make them a bigger deal than they actually are.
Whatever is going on is temporary and these are symptoms.
And all you have to do is focus on finding out the underlying causing reasons and adjusting accordingly to attract your wife back.
If you pay the symptoms more attention than necessary, you will more likely push your wife further away and potentially in the arms of another man.
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Frequently Asked Questions [F.A.Q]
How do you know if your wife doesn’t love you anymore?
The 1st way to know that your wife doesn’t love anymore is the fact that you are unsure about where she stands but I have 15 more signs you should know.
What are the signs that your wife doesn’t love you anymore?
The 1st sign of 15 more signs that your wife doesn’t love anymore is your uncertainty about where she stands when it come to your marriage.