QUESTION ⁉️ “How can financial problems affect a marriage?
I’m not married but my boyfriend wants combine finances. He says we can get married after we are debt free.
I am very hesitant. Any advice? ”
This question is such a great question and we have taken our time to answer and break it down for you.
If money stops coming in, it can kill attraction.
If the discussion of money takes away fun, it will kill attraction. How? Isn’t that irresponsible?
If you are experiencing financial issues in your marriage, that stress can kill attraction.
So learning how to create money and income as a couple is one of the keys to avoiding problems and stress in a marriage.
There are also many financial benefits that comes with a marriage.
But you can’t benefit from them if you are not on the same page much less planning and building together.
Is your spouse a good digger or a dead beat or the breadwinner who can’t stop reminding you?
You may have found that counseling is not helping to remove your stress.
Many couples tend to shy away from calling it is as it is; financial stress.
Many women don’t want to be called a gold digger by their breadwinner husband but then; deep resentments against their husband.
Finance issues in a marriage can lead to social issues as well as you may not be able to afford certain lifestyle that friends may be showcasing on social media.
Couples would find themselves in these finance related but camouflaged problems but can’t solve them when they are not on the same page.
It’s connected to every facet.
Money affects every part of our daily lives and it has to be counted and accounted for in our actions and reactions.
So how should you manage your household finances when you are in a marriage with another adult?
Is it about money and finance or it’s about the emotions around these issues as usual?
In this video, we share some creative ways for couples to manage their emotions around finances intelligently.
One theme you probably should pay attention to is the team work and anxiety control.
QUESTION ⁉️ “I really need your help in saving my marriage. My husband who I’ve been married but recently says he needs divorce.
We’ve been together for 6 years total. This last year has been so tough. He wants s3x a lot and I hardly ever need it.
He thinks I don’t trust or desire him anymore; and he wants to end it.
I know I have been a terrible wife to him. He says he needs to see major changes in me.”
Husband wants Divorce
There are many women who experience a situation where the husband wants divorce in an already abusive situation; not all but many.
This can be very confusing to a woman as it clouds their judgement.
Under normal circumstances, the woman would be asking for the divorce but once the husband asks first, it gets very confusing.
“Rejection breeds obsession.” The one who experiences or receives the rejection first will start obsession over the other even if she’s the abused one.
Your husband asked for the divorce and now you feel as though you need to win him back. Not so fast. Take the time to assess the situation.
Naturally, we are attracted to a person who rejects us. That’s what makes one spouse feel like they still love the other even though they’ve both lost attraction for a while.
Once a woman is aware of this part of the science of attraction, it’s easier to take control by rejecting the anxiety of rejection and make him change his mind.
Watch this video to learn how to flip it or change it for him. You can still regain control and his attraction all with his consent.
QUESTION ⁉️ “My marriage has been a long journey of ups and downs. And for some reasons my wife keep texting other guys behind my back.
Anytime I catch her, she says sorry and promises to stop. What can I do to make sure she won’t do it again?
I have been there by her side supporting anything she wanted to do. Married for 10 years since she was not even 21.
She has a child from a previous relationship and kept that from me. I’m the one that don’t want to leave her because she is my whole world.
She makes me feel I am the reason why she is doing it.”
In this edition of how to fix a broken marriage, you will discover how to handle a situation where a married woman is texting other men outside the marriage.
Is it appropriate? Is it allowed? Is this another sign of a broken marriage. In this video, we answer that question with precisely why a woman feels it’s okay and exactly how dangerous it is if dangerous at all.
QUESTION – “Can I save my marriage to a narcissistic husband? I’ve been married to a narcissist for 10 years. I want my best friend back.”
First of all, any side of a marriage (husband or wife) can show narcissistic traits and it’s important to note that. In fact, the accuser may very well be the narcissistic one.
Many accusers point the fingers as a reflection of what they can relate to, especially when they can have their way. That’s also not always true.
How To Deal With A Narcissistic Husband
If your husband is showing signs that he doesn’t care about your feelings, there is a good chance that you are indirectly enabling it. People only treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
The first thing you need to do is to calm down and then start observing parts of your behavior that’s creating that dynamics.
By first staying calm, that will naturally throw him off because he is probably used to one way that you react. You can essentially and effectively pass the anxiety that you are feeling over to him.
7 Effects Of Being Married To A Narcissist
1) You can lose yourself
2) You can lose your freedom
3) You can lose your freedom of expression
4) You can lose attraction for your spouse
5) Your spouse can lose respect for you
6) Your spouse can’t love you without having respect for you.
7) You will resent each other.
Fighting With/Arguing With/How To Argue With A Narcissistic Husband
Arguments are 100% destructive in relationships, especially marriage. It may initially (or in the middle of it) feel ok but it will slowly destroy attraction of one or both sides.
There are distinct differences between healthy conversations, disagreements and arguments. Therefore arguing with a “narcissistic” husband is not a solution.
In fact, stopping the habit of arguments may abruptly change your husband’s narcissistic behavior as he will start wondering about the reason for your sudden change in behavior.
Avoid arguing with your husband. To replace that, start learning communication 2.0. It’s a whole chapter in the book “Get My Marriage Back”. It’s FREE.
Am I Married To A Narcissist? Quiz
Do you feel that:
1) He doesn’t listen?
2) He doesn’t care?
3) He doesn’t your dream?
4) He shuts you down?
5) He thinks little of you?
6) He acts like your father?
7) He thinks your opinions are invalid?
If you are feeling at least 4 of the 7 things are above, you should probably start learning how to bring your broken marriage back to life.
Feeling that way is evidence that something is not right and if your leave it unaddressed, you will build more resentments.
How To Talk To A Narcissistic Husband
Let them talk and wait till he asks for your response. In addition to that, repeat everything he said back to him as a way to prove to yourself that you were listening.
Take the time to process what he said and reassess if you still feel he is narcissistic.
If you do this, I guarantee his attraction towards you will grow and he will show very likely before you are processing what he was saying.
How Do Narcissists Stay Married?
The only way this is possible is when the spouse has given up on the idea of a blissful marriage. Sometimes, women would do that to maintain a family unity for their children.
In fact, it’s possible to not deal with a disrespectful spouse and still maintain a home for the children. I suggest learning the fundamentals inside the book “Get My Marriage Back” to figure that out. It’s FREE.
Narcissism, Marriage And Divorce on many occasions go together unfortunately. But it’s important it’s a very unhealthy way of living life.
Saving A Marriage With A Narcissist
The first step is to stop the bleeding by changing your usual way of responding the you interactions, arguments and fighting with your husband.
If he had approached you with this behavior during your initial dating, how would you respond? I’m guessing you would respond like someone who has self respect right?
This is not to blame you for another adult’s bad behavior.
In fact, I am trying to expose the amount of control that you still and will always have by learning how to build attraction with reverse psychology. Switch it completely on him and watch him come running begging.
Take the time away from your usual response to building yourself, your self respect and self development.
You will be needing it more to facilitate a healthy marriage. If you were ever in love together, you can single handedly save your marriage. May be he is not as narcissistic as you feel now.
QUESTION – “What can I say to my wife to stop a divorce?”
In addition to what to say to her to stop the divorce, you also need to learn how to say what to say.
Believe it or not, there is not much to say other than “I UNDERSTAND”. You can’t afford to start begging or apologizing once a woman get to this stage.
It doesn’t have to be her idea to stop the divorce but it needs to feel like it’s her idea to her. If she feels smothered into stopping the divorce, that will become a confirmation that continuing the divorce is the right decision.
When a woman asks for divorce, she has lost respect for you and no longer values the marriage. Any manipulative move will further decline the value of the marriage from her perspective.
Watch the video for more insights on how to talk and relate with a wife who has asked for divorce.
