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17 Signs of When to Walk Away From A Sexless Marriage

When to walk away from a sexless marriage is probably one of the toughest decisions or questions to find an answer to. For crying out loud, you probably have a whole life set up with with person.

There can be a lot of confusion about this seemingly abusive place. Our goal is to make the navigation of this crisis a bit more easier.

For some people, the decision might be easy-if they’re not getting what they need from their spouse, they’ll end the marriage.

But for others, it might not be so simple.

Maybe they’ve been married for a long time and have kids, or maybe they’re afraid of being alone.

Whatever the reason, it’s important to know when enough is enough.

But before we get into all that, it’s more important to know if you can savage the situation; many and probably most couples have overcome dry spells.

In this article, we will cover the following lessons…

1. What is a sexless marriage?

2. Causes of a sexless marriage

3. Effects of a sexless marriage

4. How to deal with a sexless marriage

5. How to create a healthy sex life when in a sexless marriage

6. Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy?

7. Does a sexless relationship lead to a sexless marriage?

Let’s dive right in…

What is a sexless marriage?

What is a sexless marriage?

A sexless marriage is a marriage where the couple does not have sex.

This can be for a variety of reasons; the most common being that one or both spouses are not interested in sex.

When it comes to low sexual interest in marriage, there can be a lot of reasons why this might happen.

For one, it could be that one or both spouses have lost interest in sex altogether.

This could be due to boredom, fatigue, or simply not feeling attracted to their partner anymore.

Another possibility is that there may be an underlying physical issue causing the low interest in sex, such as hormonal imbalances or chronic illnesses.

Whatever the reason may be, if you’re experiencing low interest in sexual activity within your marriage, it’s important to talk to your spouse about it.

It’s possible that they’re unaware of the issue and may have no idea that you’re not interested in sex.

Causes of a Sexless Marriage

Causes of a Sexless Marriage

Before we talk about when to walk away from a sexless marriage, won’t you agree that you should learn the many causes of a sexless marriage?

One of the most common reasons is when one or both partners have lost interest in sex.

Yes… interest, desire and attraction are key elements in this.

While desire cannot be negotiated, it can definitely be influenced with some seduction skills if the cause is medical in nature.

Low level of interest can be due to a number of factors, such as stress, fatigue, boredom, or a lack of connection with their partner.

Another common cause of a sexless marriage is when one partner has a low sex drive.

This can be due to hormonal changes, medical issues, or stress.

If one partner consistently rejects sexual advances, this can also lead to a sexless marriage.

If you are in a sexless marriage, it is important to assess the situation and determine if it is something that you can work on or if it is time to walk away.

There is a big difference between sexual interest and sex drive.

Interest is what makes you want to have sex, while sex drive is what motivates you to act on that desire.

Interest can be sparked by things like sexy lingerie, kissing, or cuddling and long term effects of being in a good place and feeling safe with your spouse.

However, sex drive is more about the physical urges in moments and the need to release that tension.

It’s possible to have a high interest but a low sex drive, or vice versa.

Erectile Dysfunction Can Also Lead to a No Sex Marriage

If you’re dealing with erectile dysfunction, there are a few remedies you can try before calling it quits on your marriage.

First, you could talk to your doctor about medication or therapy that could help get your libido back up and running.

If that doesn’t work, you might want to consider couples counseling to help reignite the intimacy in your relationship.

Effects of a Sexless Marriage

Effects of a Sexless Marriage

You may be the spouse who hasn’t realized that when to walk away from a sexless marriage may be closer than you think.

May be you feel a low sexual interest towards your spouse and you are not seeing it as a matter of emergency.

A sexless marriage can have negative consequences on both spouses.

Effects of a Sexless Marriage on a Man

A lack of physical intimacy can lead to a decreased sense of self-worth and masculinity.

They may feel like they are not good enough for their wife and that they are not fulfilling their role as a husband.

And yes, it’s important that we all start to realize that feelings is one of the most important elements of life; even for a man.

This can cause a husband to withdraw from the relationship emotionally and even physically.

Effects of a Sexless Marriage on a Woman

A lack of physical intimacy can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation.

She may feel like her husband no longer finds her attractive and desirable.

This can cause her to lose interest in the underlying relationship (in many respects, more important than the marriage) and become more withdrawn.

It is often not best to just walk away from the marriage because there is more to learn from the crisis just because one partner doesn’t desire sex.

The Importance of Physical Intimacy in Marriage

One of the most important aspects of a healthy and happy marriage is physical intimacy.

When this is lacking, couples can quickly find themselves drifting apart.

Like we already mentioned, this may be due to a lack of desire, mismatched libidos, or other physical issues, but the end result is the same—a rift in the relationship.

Physical intimacy is not just about sex; it’s also about physical closeness, touch, and affection.

Couples who are physically intimate are more likely to feel connected to each other, and they are also more likely to have a stronger emotional bond.

And to stay on topic here, it significantly reduces the chances of ending up in a sexless marriage which is about 15-20% of marriages.

In fact, physical intimacy is often seen as a litmus test for the health of a relationship.

The Link Between Intimacy And A Coupe’s Sex Life

If you want a better sex life within marriage, focusing on physical sex may just work completely against that.

A Couple’s sex life is a function of many things including sex drives, the level of interest between you and your spouse presently and long term vibes.

A terrible couple’s sex life is usually the effect of complacency, resentments and nature.

As mentioned earlier, it can also be the effect of medical issues but that’s beyond the scope of this article.

The frequency of sexual intimacy between couples determines what most people use in gauging a healthy and active sex life.

An ideal sex life from our stand point requires a minimum of once a week and preferably 2-3 times per week.

Of course, there are exceptions to every rule but be sure that the exception agreeable to both parties.

It’s not enough to argue what makes an ideal and optimal sex life as an individual.

Ultimately, you need your spouse to feel satisfied in their own personal sex life as qualified in human being in a marriage.

Ideally, when to walk away from a sexless marriage is the moment either spouse feels like the other is so disconnected and selfish from their own emotional needs of love and connection.

How to Deal With a Sexless Marriage

How to Deal With a Sexless Marriage

If you are in a sexless marriage, it can be difficult to know what to do.

We have a few tips in addition to the fact that there are professionals such as sex therapist, coach and counselors that help make navigating things easier.

Sexual desire cannot be negotiated but it can be influenced with these short and few tips:

1. Talk to your partner about your concerns.

If you’re feeling unhappy in a sexless marriage, it might be time to talk to your spouse about it.

However, it’s important to approach the conversation in a constructive way. Here are a few tips:

– Don’t start by expressing how you feel.

Being honest and open about why you’re unhappy, and explaining that you want things to change may seem smart but it is anti-seductive.

instead, it’s better that you approach this from a stand point of searching for opportunities to add value.

Here is an example of how the conversation might go…

“Babe, you know how much I love an intimate time with you.

Is there anyway I can help to ease up your days and create more opportunities?”

Talk about the things that you can do to improve sexual desire.

Maybe there are certain activities or fantasies that you would be interested in trying.

– Make it clear that you’re not blaming your spouse for the problem.

Sexual desire is a complex issue, and it takes two people to create a healthy sexual relationship.

But the good news is that it take one to start the necessary dance.

That’s why we suggest approaching this from a stand point of seduction and not sex as a duty in a marriage.

– Be willing to compromise.

This works best if you’ve noticed being shut down in recent time; if the sexlessness has lasted much longer, consulting a sex therapist to help is not a bad idea.

2. Try to spice things up in the bedroom.

When it comes to marriage, there are a lot of things that need to be perfect in order for it to work.

One of the most important aspects of marriage is intimacy.

Intimacy is key to a healthy and happy marriage.

When intimacy starts to fade, it can be a sign that the marriage is in trouble.

If you’re in a sexless marriage, here are a few tips to help spice things up:

– Talk to your spouse about your needs and desires.

Communication is key in any relationship.

I take that back. There are too many people throwing the word “communication” around when it comes to relationships and marriages.

The Actual Key is Effective Communication.

And I am talking about effectiveness with respect to the context; the context here being the need to help a sexless marriage survive.

Most people think of communication as the act of talking; with respect to improving sexual desire and intimacy, listening must be involved in at least what you may consider as communication.

If you haven’t listened long and deep enough to understand why your spouse has been non-verbally communicating low interest in sex, attempting to express your own unhappiness may makes things worse.

– Experiment with new positions, fantasies, and activities.

This is useful if you are still about to make your way together to the bedroom occasionally.

It can help replace boredom and spice things up.

– Try reconnecting with your spouse on a more intimate level outside of the bedroom.

This will actually work a lot better than many of the other measures your natural instincts suggest.

As I earlier, your sex life is a function of so many activities and moments long before the bedroom.

If all else fails, consider seeking professional help such as sex therapist, counselor or marriage coach.

3. If things don’t improve, consider consulting with a sex therapist.

A sex therapist can help sexless marriages in a number of ways.

They can help to identify the root of the problem, and work with the couple to find a solution.

If one partner is not interested in sex, the therapist can help to explore the reasons for this and find ways to overcome any obstacles.

The therapist can also provide guidance on how to improve communication and intimacy in the relationship.

4. Don’t give up on your marriage.

When it comes to sexless marriages, there can be a lot of debate over whether or not to stay in the relationship.

Some people may say that you should always fight for your marriage, while others may say that if sex is not happening, then there is likely bigger problems in the relationship that need to be addressed.

From experience, we know it’s most likely the latter.

The truth is, there is no easy answer when it comes to deciding whether or not to stay in a sexless marriage.

However, it is important to remember that a sexless marriage does not have to mean a doomed marriage.

In fact, according to recent studies, sexless marriages are becoming more and more common due to the growth in alternative lifestyles; we don’t really cover that here.

But according to one study, nearly 20% of married couples are considered sexless.

So you are not alone.

In addition to that, it is important to know that common problems tend to have more than enough solutions.

Don’t give up on your marriage especially if that’s not what you want to do; avoid non-professional advices on the marriage matters.

Avoid advices from people who have worst case scenario experiences and people who tend to speak from published statistics when it comes to a marriage.

They tend to only help in projecting these experiences into your future personal life even when suggested issues may not even exist.

How to create a healthy sex life when in a sexless marriage

How to create a healthy sex life when in a sexless marriage

A lack of sex in a marriage can be very frustrating for both partners.

It’s important to figure out why the sex has stopped, and then work on fixing it.

If the lack of sex is due to an issue like mismatched libidos, there are things that you can do to increase the amount of sex that you have.

If the lack of sex is due to an unresolved conflict, then you’ll need to work on resolving the conflict before you can start having sex again.

Lack of effective communication, especially the part where a spouse feels heard can lead to lack of sex.

Not mastering the art of intimacy at a deeper level in your underlying relationship can also lead to lack of sex.

As I mentioned earlier, desire cannot be negotiated.

Nonetheless lack of sexual desire will eventually lead to lack of sex.

Desire however be created with influence and seduction which is a skill set within long term relationships and marriage.

Health and medical issues can also lead to lack of sex even in ways that are not necessarily obvious to either party.

Last but not least, lack of sex can be a result of stress and fatigue, so it is important to not forget about creating a lifestyle of fun.

If lack of sex is causing problems in your marriage, it’s important to address the issue head-on and not allow it to linger on.

Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy?

Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy?

A sexless marriage can be a difficult situation to deal with, but it is possible for the marriage to survive if the parties are on the same page.

It is highly unlikely in the hyper sexual society that we live in today; everywhere you look in the media, there are sexual content and motivation.

It is important to seek sex therapy to address the issue and find a way to regain sexual intimacy in the marriage.

One of the main things you can find in sex therapy is sex education.

Believe it or not, many people survived childhood without any form of sexual, attraction and seduction education ahead of marriage.

Sex therapy can help you learn about different sexual techniques, positions, and products that can help increase sexual interests in a romantic relationship.

Don’t let this issue linger to avoid your spouse from developing sexual interests outside of your marriage.

It’s also important to mention at this point that panic and anxiety will only make things worse.


FINALLY… The 17 Signs Of Walk Away From A Sexless Marriage?

Being in a marriage has its highs and lows and sometimes you can hit a stumbling block such as a sexless marriage. 

A few moments of dryspell can happen and that is not unusual.

What can make it unusual is when that dry spell becomes permanent. 

When intimacy is gone in a marriage, it can gradually lead to the death of a marriage. 

So when do you know you are in a sexless marriage?

One survey says a sexless marriage is when a couple have sex once in a month.

But I believe this varies from people to people.

One Survey  says that 1 in 5 couples are having a sexless marriage. 

Did you know that the average married couple has sex 68.5 times a year which adds up to about once a week?

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This is okay if both parties are on the same page.

But problem only occurs if one person desires sex and the other doesn’t. 

So before you decide to walk away, you have to do a root cause analysis that addresses all the variables and scenarios that led you there. 

5 potential causes of a sexless marriage to consider before walking away? 

Consideration #1 – Stress from Work

When a partner gets too busy with work, he or she can become too tired to think about sex.

They don’t even have a moment to eat dinner together, much less talking about their day which is one of the ways that healthy couples connect.

This can cause the couple to be distant and cause a dry spell in the relationship.

Consideration #2 – Childbirth

After Childbirth, a woman’s body changes and needs time to balance again. 

Doctors often advise not to have sex until after 6 weeks because of  common issues such as vaginal dryness, bleeding, pain, fatigue, tear, low libido, pregnancy and more. 

Breastfeeding lowers estrogen levels. 

So if a woman is breastfeeding, it may take time for her libido to return to normal. 

A man who doesn’t know all these may end up acting out of character because he feels neglected. 

And this might lead to even more dry spells; a vicious cycle of sexless weeks, months and potentially years because it all starts from a woman feeling safe with a man .

Consideration #3 – Lack of Connection

Sex without emotional connection is a turn off.  

An emotional connection is a bundle of subjective feelings that come together to create a bond between two people. 

Most women want to be wined and dined, 

They want to be heard, have intelligent and most importantly vulnerable conversations from the heart. They want to be noticed outside the bedroom. 

If she is only being used for sex, she will eventually loathe it. 

Likewise a typical man wants to feel like the hero in his marriage.  

If he is feeling belittled, he may disconnect and his sexual attraction towards his woman can be tampered with effectively.

Consideration #4 – Loneliness

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If you are sitting with your spouse and he is not engaging or responding to your conversations, you may start subconsciously learning how to disconnect. 

It may seem like your spouse is just self-absorbed in whatever he is doing without ever asking how your day went; your spouse seems uninterested in you.

You all can become distant and start feeling neglected.  This has led many to start fantasizing about life without each other. 

You may even have found yourself sharing and enjoying conversations with others outside your marriage in an intimate way.

Obviously, one or both of you can effectively get comfortable with the reality of a sexless marriage and it all started with at least one person feeling lonely.

Consideration #5 – Toxic Relationship Issues

If you are not treating each other with kindness, every conversation is filled with sarcastic and rude remarks. 

Likewise if at least one person is exercising controlling behaviours on the other, skyscrapers of resentments will be built. 

And it is also not uncommon to accompany all of that with some disrespect to an extent where your sight repulses your partner or vice versa.

This type of negative behavior kills sex. 

Who wants to have sex with someone who makes their skin crawl?

So Here are the 17 Signs of When to walk away from sexless marriage…

  1. If your spouse is not interested in a way forward and doesn’t care that your needs are not being met, staying in that marriage may turn you into a bitter person.
  1. All you both do now is argue. 
  1. You feel like your lack of sex is not even at the very least being compensated with a caring attitude. Instead, it’s filled with disrespect and insults. Some have even pushed themselves to the point of domestic violence.
  1. So because you can’t imagine a happy life without sex, you may have even started indulging in inappropraite behaviours outside your marriage.
  1. Sex has become a punishment tool for at least one of you. 
  1. And every time you do something wrong, your partner shuts down.
  1. Your spouse has in fact told you severally that you are not wanted anymore and divorce is now being thrown in your face. 
  1. You have become depressed and uninterested in your purpose. 
  1. You can’t even get out of bed to do things you normally do and you feel drained. 
  1. You feel exhausted and burnt out.
  1. You have become a raging jealous out-of-control monitoring spirit. 
  1. You find yourself tracking his or her every move.
  1. You have his phone monitored.you follow him around. 
  1. You have lost your self respect. It’s time to move on and find yourself again.
  1. Your spouse cheated on you and you resent him for it. 
  1. You dont to have sex with him but you want him to suffer. By the way, you are not making him suffer alone; you are killing yourself more. 
  2. If you are not open to counseling to help heal yourself, it’s time to let go and move on from this toxicity.

In Conclusion… 

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Most sexless marriages suffer because one or both parties have shut down and have refused to have real conversations about why they have reached this point. 

They indulge in blaming and finger pointing. 

Blame, guilt, judgement and condemnation, felt at any level will not make your spouse more interested in sex. 

There are things you can do to get your marriage from a sexless stage to one filled with love and content.  

How are you communicating these concerns with your spouse? 

Are you talking to him or at him? Are you talking to her or at her? Try working on your communication skills.

Have you done a root cause analysis of why your marriage is sexless? There are usually some underlying issues. 

You need to be clear of what happened in order to fix it or you will be totally lost in confusion. 

If you are open, a good counselor can help figure that out.

The best thing you can do for yourself is figure out what the underlying cause of your problems are and work with your spouse on finding solutions together.

If this sounds like too much work, there may not be any hope for your marriage at all.

Here’s how to know when it might finally be time to walk away from a sexless marriage:

->You’ve tried everything – counseling, different types of sexual activity that used to turn both of you on but now only one person enjoys or participates in them often

->The two of you talk about having more enjoyable sexual encounters with each other, but after an initial spurt where things were great again they stop once more.

-> You both feel like your sex lives is going down the drains after engaging all the suggested helps in this article, yet passionate sex seems to be long gone.

If at least one person still desires the other enough to initiate sex even if it’s occasionally, there is hope.

We believe that after 3 months of no sexual activity between a couple outside of each other’s consent, the marriage is technically non-existence.

Have you ever heard a sexless marriages end because of more frequent sex? Maybe sex addition which is considered a sexual dysfunction.

You can also work on improving how you approach sex in general; too many people’s approach is anti-seductive.

I know what you are thinking.

What about vaginal dryness right? While that could be a result of medical reasons, it’s often the results of no arousal.

Lack of arousal can also be a function of many things such as low self esteem issues, watching porn too much, body image, lack of self confidence and more.

If you care about this marriage, be sure to address everything before walking away from it like most tend to do.

The grass always seems greener on the other side; but that’s because someone is watering the grass of that love life.

Frequently Asked Questions [FAQ]

Should I leave or walk away a sexless marriage?

It depends on how much effort you have put into assessing this situation from a root cause analysis standpoint. At some point, you can’t keep giving what you don’t have. But it’s worth the effort to try an sort through sexless phases with your partner.

How do you know when it’s time to leave a sexless marriage?

If at least one partner is not willing to work on better and fulfilling intimacy, it’s time to consider that you have your whole life ahead of you and consider your options.

How long is too long to stay in a sexless marriage?

On average, sexless phase more than 2 weeks outside of medical reasons will start to make at least of the partners resent at least quietly.

What happens to a man in a sexless marriage?

Sexless marriage tampers with a man’s ability to be faithful and his self esteem.

Sexless Marriage Quiz

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Are you in a Sexless Marriage? [QUIZ]

I do not initiate sex with my partner.
I do not initiate sex at least 50% of the time with my partner.
I would not like to initiate sex more times with my partners.
My partner does not initiate sex with me.
My partner does not initiate sex at least 50% of the time with me.
I would like my partner to initiate sex more times with me.
My partner and I have not had sex at least once in the last 3 months.
My partner and I have not had sex at least twice in the last 1 week.
There is a medical condition that hurts our intimacy level.
I am sexually frustrated in this relationship.
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Pick the answer that is most suitable to your situation… Agree/Disagree and Click continue to next question.

In 2 minutes or less, you can use this quiz as a tool, not only to detect if you are in a sexless marriage….

But also to get a quick recommendation to live a blissful, intimate and sexually fulfilled married life.

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Here is a full article on The chances of survival in a sexless marriage

And Here is a free audio book on how we used attraction secrets to break the chains of sexless-ness in our marriage.

Some studies have revealed that about 15-20% of married couples live in the sexually frustrated marriage.

This reality can create a hostile environment where one or both will find themselves living a dangerous life.

It could manifest mentally or….

One or both could start seeking satisfaction from multiple partners which can create exposure to diseases and many other things.

So it is very important to scroll to the top…

And use the 2 minutes sexless marriage quiz too find out if your present arrangement is considered a sexless marriage.

If you let it linger, it can last forever and that’s just how low of a quality lifestyle you will have to endure.

The truth is that there is science, and of course an art, to why you may be going to the drought in your marriage.

That is to say there is a solution even if the underlying issues are medical related.

But you don’t know what you don’t know and can’t fix it until to know.

There is nothing better than finding yourself in a marriage where you feel sexually satisfied…

And are also authentically happy to stay faithful.

Even if there is a slow down, you know exactly what to do to spice things up either as a man or a woman.

That is an empowered marriage.


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