3 Things You MUST Learn from Couples Counseling

In this lesson, you will discover 3 things you must be determined to figure out if and when you go to a couples’ counseling.

Here are is a whole article on marriage specific counseling and how to get the most help from it… if you need it all.

Before I dive into that, here is a quick tip for you especially if you are in a marriage.

Anytime, your significant other has for you to go to a couples counseling session,

Recognize that instantly as an amazing opportunity to learn something new.

That’s not really a moment to get defensive and be asking why you all need it.

If you do that, recognize the defensive as the first reason why you need a couples’ counseling.

Now, people tend to waste money and time at a counseling session because of lack of preparation.

Therefore write these 3 things down to ask the counselor to help you figure out.

(1) The 1st thing to learn from Couples Counseling is Emotion Control

You will need this particularly with respect to the uniqueness of your relationship.

So the counselor may need to hear you and your concerns out first and then…

Specifically ask for help with emotional control. It will make your investment worthwhile.

Couples counseling - Success Rate?

(2) Betrayal Recovery

If you are sure that your significant other loves you, it’s worth fighting for it if you have the urge.

But the worst you can do is stay in a relationship and unknowingly be abusing each other emotionally.

Ask for tools specifically for betrayal recovery so that you can heal properly.

It will also work for infidelity and any trust-related issues.

(3) Risk Benefit Analysis

If you’ve invested significant time in the relationship and you are not sure if your partner loves you in a healthy way,

Ask your counselor to outline the risk and benefits of staying and leaving the relationship.

That way, you can know your choices properly and make a proper decision.
YOU have to be the one to decide; no one can do that for you.

If these 3 is all you get out of the couples’ counseling session, you will come with significant growth…

Both as an individual and for the relationship which doesn’t have to be staying together by the way.

Below is a question for us to address Lessons from Counseling …

“My husband and I have been married for 16 years now.

He is my best friend and I am more than sure he still loves me.

But he betrayed me. Please help.

I don’t want to leave him but I feel I have no other choice.

Several years ago, he was unfaithful prior to our marriage.

Although he made a solid promise in the eyes of God never to fail me again.
He did.

The infidelity isn’t the only thing that’s jeopardizing our marriage…

At this point, I don’t recognize him any more and I am ready to file for divorce.

I feel like if I stay, I will break the promise that I made to myself when I forgave him the first time.

Basically, I feel like he will fail me again.

I don’t know what to do & breaking apart.

I am willing to leave a man I am completely devoted to and in love with.”

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Are you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page?

Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know...

The harsh reality is that the happiness in your marriage may be over...

IT'S BROKEN...

"Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse as roommates, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial.

I get it.

You wonder...

"Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?"

You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.

There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone.

You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more

But the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud;

Your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc.

They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared.

If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain.

We know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point.

Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here.

But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets we share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

What is the success rate of couples counseling?

When the counseling is emotionally focus therapy, the success rate dramatically go up from 50% to roughly 75% according to studies.

How much does couples Counselling cost?

The cost of couples counseling varies from $75 – $200 per hours depending on the location and the profile of the counselor that you choose.

There are also apps these days where you can get help; all you have to do is search your app store.

What to expect in couples counseling?

You can expect couples counseling to help you and your partner with effective communication.

Don’t expect or ask for decision making; you will however get the skills you need to be able to decide for yourself.

Should we go to couples counseling?

If you are asking that question, you should go anyway. It won’t hurt your relationship; you will only be enlightened more about the dynamics of your relationship so that you can make the most from it.

You may like this article… “Wife is texting another guy and hiding it”

Marriage Counseling ❤️ 2 CRUCIAL Lessons You Must Take Away from The Session

Many married couples waste 1,000’s of dollars on marriage counseling because they go into it UNPREPARED.

Studies show a 40% divorce rate after marriage counseling.

Clearly, something is wrong with that horrible statistics.

Preparing for marriage counseling

2 things you have to pay attention to when next you agree to go to a marriage counseling are:

  1. Arguments and
  2. Masculine/feminine dynamics of your relationship.

(1) Arguments

There are many counselors and advisers teaching couples how to argue these days.

While I understand that the “high” of arguments makes some men feel closer to their wife in a weird way…

It’s best to avoid arguments all together.

There is a confusion between communication and arguments.

Arguments creates bad vibes that makes a typical woman loses respect for their husband.

An argument is simply the act of invalidating your spouses point of view; it’s an attack.

We all get defensive when we feel attacked.

But the main issue there is the fact that it’s all “feeling” driven.

That is to say we are not always able to put our fingers on what the issues are.

Instead of learning “how to argue” from a counseling session, ask him or her to teach you how to avoid arguments.

This is necessary at  least for the time being… arguments are to be avoided during a marriage crisis.

(2) Masculine/feminine dynamics

The modern marriage is struggling with gender roles and admitting that there is a difference between a man and woman.

The existence of the argument is the proof that you need to know that it absolutely affects the dynamics of happiness in your marriage.

Ask your marriage counselor to help you identify the particular gender, masculine, and feminine dynamics of your marriage.

It’s different from relationships to relationships.

Don’t avoid the conversation

Because what you don’t know or aware of can destroy your marriage.

Below is a question for us to address with this lesson…

“What happens if your partner always has to be right?

After 12 years, he still will never ever concede an argument.

Am I supposed to always back down?

I don’t always want to back down but my husband will never stop until he wins.”

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“Up to 38 percent of couples who receive marriage therapy get divorced 

within four years of completion.”

More interesting stats here

What is the success rate of marriage counseling?

Studies show a 40% divorce rate after marriage counseling.

So I guess we can safely say that 60% survived and saved the marriage.

If they were able to build a happy and healthy relationship beyond that is another question entirely.

Many couples live as room mates before and after a marriage counseling.

What happens at marriage counseling?

What should happen and what actually happens in a marriage counseling session are 2 different things.

The counselor’s job is to help by listening to both parties

…and help mediate on the issues.

So the mediation is a form of interpreting emotions and feelings to each other as that is usually the root of most disagreements.

Can marriage counseling really help?

Marriage counseling can definitely help but with doing the work beyond the session.

Good feelings at the end of a counseling session is not enough.

The couple to remain committed to the work.

Lots of “emotional control” is needed to sustain the marriage long after the session has ended.

But of course…

It’s easier said than done.

When should you seek marriage counseling?

The best time to seek marriage counseling is at the beginning of a misunderstanding or dispute…

But not before any of the parties shuts down emotionally.

If one person shuts down, marriage counseling as a solution tends to be too late and a waste of time…

…Just another opportunity to argue.

It is better for the spouse who wants to save the marriage to leverage self development.

And possibly….

A personal coach

I would continue that until a brand new energy and relationship dynamics is created.

In order to get the other party to open up.


Are you STRUGGLING in your... MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

Are you having a difficult time getting your spouse or the person you love on the same page?

Is your dream to build a happily ever after life heading down the drains?

I know...

The harsh reality is that the happiness in your marriage may be over...

IT'S BROKEN...

"Can it be saved?"

...And maybe you still even live in the house with your spouse as roommates, barely any sex or intimacy and probably in denial.

I get it.

You wonder...

"Is that the inevitable supposed and purposed end for marriages?"

You know you didn't bargain for such a painful experience.

In this FREE Book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK", you will discover the UNCOMMON secrets of...

HOW TO SAVE & FIX YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE ALL BY YOURSELF EVEN WHEN THERE IS INFIDELITY OR YOU FEEL IT IS COMPLETELY OVER.

There’s nothing worse than being in a marriage you thought was ordained by God and feeling like you are in eternal bondage and it seems there will never be an end.

It feels very dark in your matrimonial home and you can’t even share your ordeal with anyone.

You try so many moves to save your marriage but your spouse just doesn’t care anymore;

...you feel as though he/she is no more the person you married.

Finally, you thought may be you should communicate more

But the very act of communication digs deeper and deeper holes of arguments, fights, emotional aches and more.

Exhausted, you share your experience with your family and now the whole family is in feud;

Your parents, siblings, on both sides of the family etc.

They have all caught feelings.

You wonder if your kids will have a home with both parents 6 months from now... it feels like no one cares or ever cared.

If you feel a connection to this reality at any level, I feel your pain.

We know what that feels like.

Inside this book, you will discover our full story from being madly in love to a completely destroyed marriage; DIVORCE and back together stronger.

Whatever "destroyed marriage" means in your imagination, we've been through it and it was basically impossible to fix our marriage.

We didn't fix it.

Get My Marriage BackWe created a brand new, better and stronger marriage empire on 3 pillars that you will discover in...

"GET MY MARRIAGE BACK."

May be your situation is not bad at all, every marriage will go through crisis as a test to take you to greatness.

This book will prepare you for it when it comes.

If you feel like your home is heading in a very bad direction, you can't stop arguing, you can't speak your mind etc... you need all 3 sections of this book.

  1. Emergency
  2. New Foundation
  3. Real Love Techniques

It's time for you to build that real love experience (that you bargained for when you got married to your spouse)

...from a very intentional and deliberate stand point.

Marriage is not a partnership and it's takes more than common sense.

I'm sure you are a smart person because you found your way here.

But clearly, your smartness and common sense hasn't worked out well in your marriage.

The secrets we share with you in this book work both in the ancient and even better in the civilized age.

What is the success rate of marriage counseling?

Some studies show that the success rate of marriage counseling is 60%.

What happens at marriage counseling?

The counselor help listen to both sides and help mediate and interpret emotions and feelings to each other.

Can marriage counseling really help?

Marriage counseling can definitely help but with doing the work beyond the session.

When should you seek marriage counseling?

The best time to seek marriage counseling is at the beginning of a misunderstanding or dispute and before any of the parties shut down emotionally.