Do you have relationship problems? It’s probably your partner’s fault and super-easy to just blame them. But you probably also “lack game”. Let’s find out.
Back when Kayode and Sharon were newlyweds, life was a whirlwind of love and excitement. They moved into a cozy apartment in Houston, full of dreams and plans for their future together. Every weekend, they would explore the city, discovering new restaurants, attending music festivals, and enjoying their shared love for adventure.
But as time went on, the honeymoon phase began to fade.
Kayode got a promotion at work, which meant longer hours and more stress. Sharon, who had always been a social butterfly, started feeling lonely and neglected. Kayode started feeling unappreciated for his hard work. Their once-vibrant relationship turned into a series of routine arguments and silent dinners. The spark that brought them together seemed to be dimming.
Kayode felt overwhelmed and frustrated, often bringing his work stress home. Sharon, on the other hand, felt isolated. She missed the days when Kayode would surprise her with little notes or take her out on spontaneous dates. The emotional distance grew, and their arguments became more frequent and intense. Sharon felt like she was living with a stranger, and Kayode felt like he couldn’t do anything right.
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According to Sharon, Kayode used to be a loving, attentive husband, but the pressures of work and life made him distant and irritable.
Sharon was trying to escape loneliness and disconnection. They were both running from the reality that their relationship was in trouble. The more they tried to avoid the issues, the more they drifted apart.
One evening, after a particularly heated argument, Sharon confided in her best friend, who suggested enrolling in the Prestige Marriage Academy. Sharon scoffed at the idea, feeling like she had tried everything and was ready to file for divorce.
Sharon’s friend managed to share a Man of Prestige happy hour livestream with her. In that livestream, she heard me using the word GAME and was taken aback. She thought, “this is my real life and not a game.”
Today, we’re diving into something a little playful but incredibly profound – it’s called G.A.M.E. Now, before you start thinking we’re talking about playing games in your relationship, let me clarify.
I understand that you might view G.A.M.E. as not the most empowering way to approach a romantic relationship.
It may seem manipulative rather than fostering a genuine connection. I get it. But love is playful and not always serious. Lighten up!
Environments that are too serious can stifle and smother romance, especially in marriage. G.A.M.E. is a term used by young people to describe the ability to naturally attract and nurture romantic attraction. It means having the finesse to bag who they want. We are showing you that these influence and seduction skills can be learned. I encourage you to focus on the context here. This context involves giving value to your partner in a way that they can reciprocate your desires.
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The context is about whether “you’ve got game” or not, not about “playing games or tricks” as some dictionary meanings might suggest. It’s about being the best version of yourself and bringing that into your relationship. It’s about your ability to create a positive, loving environment where your partner can thrive, especially in crisis or conflict.
G.A.M.E. is about cultivating essential skills for a strong, enduring romantic relationship. It’s all about G for Gratitude, A for Ability, M for Mindfulness, and E for Empathy. So, grab a seat, maybe a cup of tea, and let’s chat about how you can level up your game!
G for Gratitude: The Power of Appreciation
First up, we have Gratitude. It’s the art of appreciating what you have, paying more attention to and recognizing the positive aspects of your life, especially your relationship. When you focus on the good, it enhances your happiness and strengthens your bond with your partner. What you focus on expands; it’s part of the secrets of attraction.
Why is Gratitude Important?
Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s lacking to what you already have. This simple shift can make a world of difference in your relationship. When you appreciate your partner and the things they do, it creates a positive feedback loop. They feel valued and are more likely to continue those behaviors that make you happy. If you are familiar with the parable of talents in the scriptures, it’s the same concept. It steals your focus away from being a victim to engaging your influence and seductive powers. Gratitude is also the first core pillar in our proprietary 3 core pillars, G.P.S. namely, God/Gratitude, purpose, and self. Obviously, we are not talking about extreme cases of abuse. Talk to your coach and they should be able to tell you if you are in an extreme case or not.
Here are 3 Ways to Practice Gratitude:
- Daily Reflection: Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what you appreciate in your life and relationship. Be intentional with this more so than your intentionality around setting boundaries and detecting narcissistic behaviors. Most people are busy playing the game of defense only. There is no game you can win by simply playing defense, particularly against your partner who should actually be on your team. Think about your partner’s qualities, shared experiences, and even the small gestures that made you smile. That’s how to play offense against the forces that are attacking relationships these days; not your partners as most people do, seemingly rightfully, since they are the ones that seem to offend you the most.
- Gratitude Journal: Write these reflections down. Keeping a gratitude journal helps you remember and cherish these moments.
- Express Appreciation: Don’t just keep it to yourself. Tell your partner what you appreciate about them. A simple “Thank you for making dinner, it was delicious” can go a long way. A simple “Thank you for being my rock, I appreciate you” goes a long way.
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A for Ability: Embrace Personal Growth
Next, we have Ability. This is all about continuous personal growth. Striving to become the best version of yourself without pressuring your partner to change in the name of “it takes two to tango”. Tango is a dance right? It’s okay if you start dancing and invite your partner into a dance too. Your growth not only enhances your self-confidence but also makes you a more attractive and fulfilling partner.
Why is Ability Important?
When you focus on your personal development, you bring more to the table in your relationship. You become more confident, more interesting, and more engaged. Confidence is sexy to all genders. This, in turn, attracts a more compatible partner and strengthens the connection you already have.
Here Are 3 Ways to Enhance Your Ability:
- Identify Areas for Improvement: Take a good look at yourself; the mirror. What skills, habits, or aspects of personal well-being could use some work?
- Set Goals: Once you’ve identified areas for improvement, set realistic and achievable goals. It could be anything from learning a new hobby to improving communication skills.
- Learn from Your Partner: Your partner is a great source of inspiration and knowledge. Be open to learning from their experiences and perspectives. That doesn’t mean agreement.
This is easier said than done. If you are in the middle of a crisis or conflict, it will be difficult for you to level up your game. Talk to your coach. Running away from a relationship is often not helpful as your problem follows you everywhere like the shadow that it is.
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M for Mindfulness: Be Present and Playful
Moving on to Mindfulness. This is about being fully present in the moment, fostering a deep connection with your partner. It’s about appreciating shared experiences and deepening intimacy.
Why is Mindfulness Important?
Mindfulness helps you to truly connect with your partner. It allows you to appreciate the little moments that make up your relationship. So it’s very much congruent with Gratitude. Being mindful means you’re more likely to respond rather than react, especially during conflicts. Think about it. When it comes to engaging your power, you have to be mindful and intentional. When it comes to being a victim, sure others can victimize you, but you just need to feel like a victim to be one. Which would you rather be when you have an option?
Here Are 3 Ways to Practice Mindfulness:
- Mindfulness Exercises: Engage in practices like meditation, deep breathing, and even prayer. I am not talking about typical Nigerian “kill the witches” ways of prayer. That’s being a perpetual victim. I pray you won’t have to yield to that. I am talking about staying grounded and present.
- Active Listening: When your partner is talking, really listen to understand. When you can, put away distractions like phones and focus on what they’re saying.
- Be Present: During your time together, be fully present. Enjoy your partner’s company by showing interest in their expressions without the constant interruptions of daily life.
E for Empathy: Understand and Share Feelings
Last but certainly not least, we have Empathy. This is the ability to understand and share your partner’s feelings. It’s about building trust and creating a safe space for authentic expression from your partner.
Why is Empathy Important? Empathy builds a strong emotional bond between partners. It fosters trust and makes your partner feel understood and valued. This is crucial for any healthy relationship.
Here Are 3 Ways to Cultivate Empathy:
- Active Listening Again: Should you be reading minds? No. Just pay attention to your partner’s words and beyond; their emotions. Try to understand their perspective.
- Validate Emotions: Acknowledge your partner’s feelings without judgment. Let them know their emotions are valid.
- Nonverbal Cues: Pay attention to body language and other nonverbal signals. These can provide deeper insight into your partner’s feelings.
So, there you have it – G.A.M.E. in a nutshell. By focusing on Gratitude, Ability, Mindfulness, and Empathy, you can establish a strong foundation for a lasting romantic relationship. Remember, a strong relationship requires effort from your partner as well, but leveling up on your own G.A.M.E. can positively influence the dynamic and inspire your partner to reciprocate in ways that you desire.
So, take these principles to heart and start cultivating your G.A.M.E. today. Your relationship will thank you for it! And remember, I’m always here to help you along the way. If you need more tips or personalized advice, don’t hesitate to reach out by clicking here
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Keep playing the game of love with gratitude, ability, mindfulness, and empathy. You’ve got this!
Frequently Asked Question
Strengthen your marriage by practicing gratitude, continuous personal growth, mindfulness, and empathy through the principles of G.A.M.E.
Improve your marriage by focusing on appreciation, personal development, being present, and understanding your partner’s emotions.
Rebuild a failing marriage by embracing gratitude, enhancing personal abilities, practicing mindfulness, and cultivating empathy, as outlined in G.A.M.E.
Practice gratitude, focus on personal growth, be mindful and present, and cultivate empathy.
The hardest time in a relationship is often when the honeymoon phase fades, and partners feel overwhelmed and neglected.
Address relationship issues by focusing on your own growth, practicing mindfulness, and showing empathy toward your partner.
Fix a failing relationship by enrolling in resources like the Prestige Marriage Academy to learn and apply the principles of G.A.M.E. (Gratitude, Ability, Mindfulness, and Empathy).